What type of things prove to men that a women is classy?

So sometimes I feel like I may come off very unladylike like or whoreish. I’m not but I put out that persona without realizing I am sometimes if that makes sense? What kind of actions prove to you that she’s a nice girl? Like what are the kind of things a girl can do that makes you think “this is the kinda girl I want to take home to my family.” What are things about women that REALLY stand out to you? As far as a way a woman dresses/looks to personality. I want all the details. Is there anything I can say to a guy up front to let him know I’m serious about a relationship and not a sleazy hoe? Are there actions that should be avoided on dates? I have been on a decent amount of dates and had my fair share in relationships but most the time it ends up we don’t have chemistry, the guy just wants a hookup or the guy is interested in other girls. I had deleted all of my dating apps a while ago but I’ve been pretty lonely so I got bumble again and I’ve been talking to this guy who seems nice and if you don’t know what bumble is, it’s the same concept as tinder except the girl has to message the guy. I like the concept, I don’t think guys should always have to message girls first as long as they chase you a little, ya know? It’s not known to be a hookup app like tinder, I’ve known people who have had good relationships off bumble! I always hear good things about it, I think it’s more of a serious dating app and I think no matter the dating App is, of course, there will be people just wanting sex but also there are people with the same intentions as you so I think if you let them know up front it can save a lot of your time. I’m not in college until January and I mean I think most the time in real life guys are afraid to approach me because I’m tall (I’m 5’10) And so it’s hard for me to meet guys and I don’t have the confidence to just go up to some guy and talk to him unless of course, I was drunk or something lol. So help!!!

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  • It's a lot about the way you dress. Don't show too much skin. Cleavage out is often massively unclassy. It's about dressing to look pretty and elegant rather than dressing to make them want to fuck you. Also keep make up understated. Massive thick eyeliner works for immature girls or people wanting to make a statement, but a girl that I want to introduce to my family wants to know how to use make up without looking like she is wearing any. Then personality wise just be yourself. Although lady is the streets and freak in the sheets come to mind. Keep contact elegant in public. Holding hands and little pecks but don't eat face in public. No one wants to see that. Then show that you can be civilised and hold conversation about 'boring topics with people. You may be horny 24/7 But the skill is letting him know that without letting anyone else know

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    • I love this!!! Thank you. I always have heard guys don’t like girls who wear a lot of makeup too and I like that because I usually don’t, I mean sure I wear a little so I don’t have bags under my eyes and all and if I’m going out for the night I’ll wear a little more but nothing crazy! These are all very true though! And HAHA lady in the streets but freak in the sheets I love that

    • You're welcome. Your stunning too so just be yourself and I'm pretty sure you'll get anyone you want

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  • To be honest you really should be focusing on school and less more about these guys because either way depending on what your views are regarding sex if you believe in premarital sex and they do they're going to be at the you for sex anyway. So at that point you got to think about how you want to be viewed and valued as a person. As long as you carry yourself in a manner that is respectful you're bound to find somebody who is equally desires the same thing. But instead of messing with dating apps as you have no idea who you getting yourself involved with, your better off finding somebody you can gauge the persons personality in person. But stick to being friends first for a long time before you try dating. But do make your intentions clear.

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    • Hahah jeez thanks mom! I am going to focus on school, that’s always my #1 priority but since I’m not in school right now I don’t see why not mess around with dating? Ya know? And I am a virgin I don’t believe in premarital sex but I do want to wait for someone special and I will. Thank you for the advice though, I will keep that in mind. I’ve been using dating apps for a while and yes none of them have worked for me so far but I have met friends from them and although I may not find the love of my life I think at the end of the day I’m okay with having someone who’s just a friend because I am interested in making more friends. But thank you.

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    • Waiting a few months with a guy I’m dating is long enough and making a guy think I’m classy. How long would you wait? Everyone is different and if I let the guy know I want something serious he’s either going to stay or leave. It’s that simple. You’re 25 and you’re single? Lol explains a lot why you are. I don’t need your advice but thanks

    • I'm single because I have no desire to be involved with modern dating. I would not be waiting for anything until marriage and that's it. Again, you have to make your intentions clear. But you can do however you like. I'm not dating because I don't agree with how people date today. But since you do, you fit right in.

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  • 1. Don't dress provocatively. Sexual allure should be exuded in the bedroom, not the restaurant.

    2. Be flexible and accommodating when changes are necessary.

    3. Don't get in a snit or have a hissy fit over insignificant details.

    4. Show interest in a guy's direction in life. Be concerned about his educational and vocational plans.

    5. Don't be afraid to talk about your long term goals at the appropriate time. If you would like to eventually be married and have three children, saying that to a serious minded guy will not chase him away.

    6. Don't drink to excess on dates. Girls who get drunk on first or second dates are usually not good candidates for LTRs. Who wants a drunk to be the mother of their children?

    7. Don't be too eager to jump into bed with a guy. Get to know him and trust him before you are willing to have sex. If he won't wait a few months, he is not a serious candidate for you.

    8. Invite him to meet your family when you feel comfortable with that. That sends a signal that you are proud of him and you view him as a candidate for a LTR.

    9. When you feel that you are ready to bring sex into the relationship, don't turn the first night into a sexual marathon. Don't prove to him that you know 86 different positions and don't ask for or engage in anything that might be seem as "kinky." Having anal sex, 69, asking him to spank you, choke you, etc. . . . none of those should happen on a first date. Simple foreplay and missionary position are satisfying for most men. If you have kinks, let the sexual relationship develop before you start trying to introduce something wild and adventurous.

    10. When you meet his family, address his father as Mr. Smith. If his father says, please call me Jim, then address hum as Mr. Jim. This is an old Southern custom that dispenses with some formality but still shows respect. Respect is not what hoes and sleazes are known for.

    I'm sure there are others but you should be getting the idea. Respect yourself, know that you are a prize and hold out for someone who treats you well, and practice the Golden Rule.

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  • A lot of people have said great things, and I want add a small point that I hope will help put everyone's ideas into perspective for you! The main point is this: there is a big difference between a "girl" and a "woman". A "woman" is classy and has the respect of men. I would say that most guys around are age refer to people of the opposite sex they are interested in as "girls". For example, a guy will always casually say "Oh man, I met this really hot girl!" It is VERY rare for men to refer to these people as women. A girl is simply that, a girl. There is no real class or sophistication to her, she's just an attractive female who you would be very interested in pursuing.
    From what it seems, you want the "woman" vibe. Women are classy, mature, and sexy while doing it. Not sexy in the typical provocative way, but sexy in a sophisticated way. To achieve this, you have to believe 100% in yourself. Know you are attractive, worth something, and not afraid to be yourself. This boils down to confidence, of course. To outwardly show this, pay attention to the "gentlemanly" comment and "clothing" comment posted. If you follow those, you will achieve the vibe I'm talking about!
    Keep in mind a woman is a woman 100% of the time. So at least try to be dedicated to your image :P
    Good Luck :)

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    • Love this!!! Thank you!

  • Dang you're tall, the first thing in my mind when I see you would be "Is she model?" lol. I can't really judge a woman who could be classy or not. Dress accordingly I guess? Show less skin? Smile/laugh? Less touching when having a conversation? Sorry I am simple man. 😂

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    • Haha def not a model. But okay thanks for the advice!

    • Yeah no prob.
      But PS though: this is my opinion, my opinion only.
      I find women "unsavoury" depends on the sound of their voice. And how fast or slow they talk.

  • For me, class is mostly in how you treat others. Are you polite to servers in restaurants and bars? To staff in stores? Random people you encounter?

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    • True! I think the same for guys. Don’t like when they are rude to waitresses or any employees just doing their job. Entitlement and stuff like that is a big turn off so when I guy can respect people around him I always think that’s nice. I’d say I do the same.

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  • I would say conduct yourself in a classy way, confident, dress so that guys don't know what color your underwears are, and be firm when someone tries to interact with you in a non classy way... say hey not cool. but from what you say your not a hoe so pretty much being yourself will convey that message

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  • Be yourself! Don't try to change if it's not your style. There are guys that will like you for you, they are the ones you want anyway, not if you have to pretend to be someone you're not. This is also probably in your head, meaning it's just your feelings. Guys probably are seeing you as "unladylike or whorish".

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  • I always think that knowledge is very classy as is the ability to talk in a confident manor and to hold yourself to a higher standard then the usual people.

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    • This is very true.

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    • I completely agree all I want is a decent conversation about a decent topic, but most of the time it's not something that I can get. Definitely a major turnoff for me as well.

  • I think the most important thing a woman can do to come off as classy is respect herself. Wear presentable clothing, Withdraw sex until things get serious to weed out the people who aren't serious, be upfront and truthful. I think an important thing you can do is just take things slow with guys. I'm kind of curious what you act like to be honest. There's not a lot of girls I immediately make me think, "Damn, that girl is a hoe."

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  • Why do you think you come off whorish for?
    I wouldn't mind 5'10" , bet you have some amazingly BEAUTIFUL long legs 💋💋💋
    What do you need help with baby girl , just say it out loud i won't bite

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    • Haha you’re so sweet. And I don’t know really maybe when I joke and stuff I have that kinda sense of humor when I turn things sexual and I’m not sure it’s hard to explain, you’d have to really know me but I’ve figured I just need to hold that back until I really know the guy. Thank you though, I appreciate it. My legs are pretty long. And I don’t know I just need to know like what would give you the idea a girl is nice and not a hoe? Like what are some actions and things? How do you spot a “nice girl”?

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    • Ha ur funny

    • Thanks 😆😆😆
      Wasn't really trying to be , but that is about all i really know about you at the moment
      May be about all i will ever know about you
      Girls here don't really seem to want to get to know a guy here they get bored quick and stop talking

  • Learn how to be chased properly, and learn the difference between flirty clothes, and sexy clothes.

    Being chased properly: the trick is to give him everything except what he really wants, and be playful about it. Always keep yourself within reach. Too many women think that hard to get and not gonna happen are played the same way.

    The difference between flirty and sexy: the key to anything flirty is the confidence to wear something sexy but in an innocent sort of way. You know those thick rimmed, rectangular, hipster glasses? Those are so sexy because they make women look smart but also approachable. They could even give a supermodel a girl-nextdoor look.

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    • How do I let him chase me properly?

    • You have to let the guy win sometimes! Playing hard to get isn't doing stuff like blowing off his texts sometimes. Playing hard to get is having a heavy makeout session, rubbing your whole body all over him, naybe even giving him oral; but not letting him have sex with you! Drive him crazy. Then, only after he's helpless puddy in your hands, let him have everything

  • When I hear classy I think Southern Gentleman, which is how my mother raised me. Or in your case a female equivalent, which I guess would be a princess
    There's respect, etiquette, and kindness. Get those down and you pretty much have it.
    The number one rule of gentlemanliness is respect. There is something respectable about everyone, If you respect everybody you meet and interact with, you're more likely to be treated with respect.
    Next is etiquette. Know the proper ways to do everyday things, like walking with proper posture, proper eating procedures, dressing properly not to tempt the fellow by showing too much skin, etc.
    Finally be kind and polite. Basically, just go watch Princess Diaries and do that. If you want to be treated classy and/or like a princess, you have to act appropriately.

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    • This was the perfect answer! You’re getting the best answer. Thank you!!!

    • Why thank you! I'm just glad that there's still ladies out there striving for such.

  • It's all about how you present yourself and how you react to situations really

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  • So basically what are you asking is varies from man to man but I'll try to tell you from my point of view or generally which suits a girl.
    As far as dressing is conserned it should good means which covers you if not fully than most of it. Don't take it as feminist. I am telling you this because mostboys makes a picture of girls personality by just looking at her clothes. Don't be too desperate on dates like you go on date end up at bed because then boy may take you as whore. Meanwhile boys respects a girl which they think is a hard Target and they take those girls as innocent one too.

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  • Be respectful, well educated, smart, culture, can talk about subjects like politics for example. Clothing play also a big part.

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  • Way of behaving, movement, facial expression, softness in the whole thing

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  • 1. Little to no tattoos
    2. Only drink on occasion.
    3. Have some drama, but too much is worse than having none. Basically have a low amount. (He might not like drama, so he could be different)
    4. Dress up for special occasions. Not too fancy, but many guys can't tell the difference between a $90 dress and a $2000 dress or anything in between. DO NOT WEAR HIGH HEELS UNLESS YOU ARE NEEDED TO.
    5. Don't ask for sex right away
    6. Be physically active
    7. Do not go overboard with makeup or nail polish. You can use it, but keep it low because the more you use, the closer you get to looking like a drag queen.

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    • This is good thank you! And I have one tattoo lol but it’s small and hidden. I agree w the drama thing tho I don’t have much I only have a few close friends lol. And what’s wrong with heels? I’m confused haha. And yeah I think not asking for sex is pretty obvious. And lmao the last one is pretty true. I wear light makeup and I paint my nails sometimes but I don’t do fake nails and all that extra stuff.

    • The thing with heels is that women forget how to walk when wearing them, and then the next time they see their feet they see they have blisters. It seems like you already know the rest of the details

  • Ok wow in my opinion i think you shouldn't change dont change for some guy yiu haven't even met yet your tall thats hot and you say you met i nice guy and want a serious resltionship then just tell theme that up front thats the advice i get a lot when it comes to topics like that you seem pretty chill so just do what feels right to you if that makes sense there are so many guys out on the face of the planet that its impossiable to find no one classy is what you make of it in my opinion so just like everyone always says just be yourself and good luck ummm sam☺

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    • I’m not wanting to change, I just wanted tips on maybe a better way to present myself or maybe there’s something I’m not doing. Thank you though! I will.

    • Well confindence is really the key to better presenting yourself and just believeing in yourself if you said before you werent that prettyyou just take good oictures well i beg to differ your pretty and your confidence and personality really do play a role in presenting yourself and uf your not happy with maybe your looks then go to youtube and look stuff about beauty. female fashion there are a tone of male youtubers that give tips on fashion and looks and how to better present areselfs im sure there are female youubers that could also give you some awsome tips hope this helps

  • Them not using snapchat filters, classy women aren't 15, and keeping your tongue in your mouth

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    • I shouldn't say not using snapchat filters... more not using 99% of the filters and not using the 1% too liberally

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    • Your picture now looks classy by comparison 😜

    • I guess I’ll have to thank you for that one

  • Based on your picture you should have no problems

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  • Being nice and certious to others.

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