Is it Okay to have sexual fantasies about someone else while in a relationship? (Page 2)
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I knew this was a pink question before I even clicked on it... Its not ok if you keep indulging in the fantasy soon you will find a way to justify actually sucking this guy and you'll be on here asking us if its ok because its not about right versus wrong its about what makes you still seem ok in the eyes of your peers.
How do you feel about 3 somes? I am surprised by all these answers from guys saying it isn't okay but then dont understand why their girlfriend will get upset and hurt when the guy asks for a mff 3some. Because THAT is actually acting on it, even if you're both there.
@SanHoloz Exactly
Besides, don't men fantasize about other women all the time? Isn't this kind of a double standard?
I don't feel it's OK. But I have those fantasies sometimes.
If you're fantasizing someone else, its because you like him more than ur current boyfriend. Its alright for the moment you're having sex, but afterwards you need to be straight with ur boyfriend and tell him the truth
Don't men do this all the time? Isn't this kind of a double standard?
Technically, not all men do that leaving perverts out of the question.
But it's also ok to fantasize other people when you're having solo sex.
This is a very tricky question. One the one hand, fantasies are just in your head, but on the other, it's not something any partner ever wants to hear, that they're not their partner's focus.
Until the thought police becomes real, fantasize away. If it’s a persistent thing, you may want to look deeper into what may be lacking in your real life relationship.
I think it's normal.
We are all human and it is human nature to masturbate and fantasize. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't check out or fantasize people you find attractive...
As long as it's not always the same acqaintance it's not a problem. And even if, just keep that person in mind. Fantasy and dreams are ok. Don't try make them happen in reality.
I fantasize about past experiences all the time. Most of them are about my current boyfriend, but not all.
I think it is natural to be attracted to another, but I also think it could indicate an issue within the relationship.
Omg yes totally.
Emotional cheating get outta here.. lol
How is it okay in any way? I swear, people these days come up with loopholes to excuse everything...
Don't guys do this all the time, though?
And would that make it okay? No, it doesn't.
My ex told me guys do this all the time, it's normal, and not something that men can control. So I'm just surprised that you're saying opposite.
But also impressed. :)
If you "can't control it", then you may have to rethink partners. I never had trouble sticking with the girl I'm into. I'm not desperate.
oh didn't read the last part
Now I sound like a dick.
I don't know if it's considered all right, but I do it
As long as it stays a fantasy, it is fine but that is also an indicator that you are not getting your needs met with your partner and communication is good
If you are thinking about having sex with someone else while in a relationship, its a form of emotional cheating but if you only think he/she sexy or smart , well that is ok.
Its a fantasy. We all have private fantasies. Just do not act on it.
This is normal... for both men and woman. nothing wrong with it
no problem to have fantasies about other people while in a relationship
Completly normal , nothing wrong with letting your imagination fly
Not really. Fantasizing about someone else indicates that you're not in love/satisfied with the person you're with or that your needs are not being met.
No, it's not OK. People should try to avoid such thoughts. It can be difficult though.