I think you took too much time and any initial attraction he had for you died down, because for three weeks you chatted on and off without moving to some other form of chat or without asking each other out, that basically tells the guy you're not that interested, if they don't ask you out then you take the initiative, don't just wait for them.
They prob found someone willing to give it up the same day they met. You did nothing wrong. Tindr just isn't the place for you. If you still have your college email, try Friendsy if it still exists. Its more fun
You and me both sister. It seems to be a cardinal sin to try and have a normal conversation to get to know someone on there. I've used it once or twice and then I quickly get reminded why I don't use it anymore.
People on Tinder are super flaky, i dunno why but they just are... I gave up on it. Guess its the type it attracts. Plus so many bots. Some just get on for ego to see how many like them too. Same with all those apps like Hot or Not, etc.
It's the same thing that happens to guys, I'd chat with a few girls for a few days, and I usually unmatch them or the conversation just dies, God knows why they do that, I find it strange how every single girl does the same
They lost interest or got overwhelmed with other conversations. Either way, the only way to keep text conversations from going stale is to meet up irl.
What is the end goal of these conversations? Is it possible that these guys are looking for a hookup or date, and they don't feel the interactions going that way? Also, as some earlier responses have suggested, point out how you don't want it to become a weird flat line conversation.
From what I can gather you need to try new meet them in real life (probably for the best if you move on from these two) because tinder has a large volume of people if you don't meet them within the initial three days then probably won't work out
In my country, America, Tinder is known as a hook up app. It mightβve been they didnβt think you were willing to have sex with them, so they moved on to a girl who would.
Texting sucks ! Texts are not meant for conversations. They are for short messages. They probably got bored or frustrated with the amount of time they were spending pecking on the key board. Try talking on the phone.
I guess I'm just not likely to buy into that generalization since I don't have too many bad experiences with men. It's easy to blame the whole gender when someone's done you wrong.
Mhm most people get conditioned to generalize when it happens to them more than 5 times. I know friends that get soooo many pms on instagram or facebook
You may have been ghosted because these guys have found better matches to date, or they have found someone whom they could hook up with with less effort.
Personally I would reply to someone within a day. Everyone carries their phones with them all the time. They saw your messages the moment you sent them. They chose to respond after a few days. They weren't that into you in the first place.
a lot of girls on these sites seem to be really bad conversationalists lol they expect the guy to do all the work it seems... healthy guys don't check tinder everyday by the way so it's a good sign if they arne't on every day
They're probably there to meet in person and hook up, not to gab. After a while they'll get bored and spend the effort on another girl who might yield results.
Dear Indian (I assume ) ... sad.. but truthful... I've been on Tinder .. gave few attempts but my bad... everything boils down to sex... maybe you are an exceptionπ
Great to know you are exceptional like me... cheers to that... but u see I talk out of experience... and you can't change it... let me have few gud experiences then I'm sure I'll change my opinion...
Cuz people tend to judge others pretty quickly these days and all I wanted was to share my opinion so that I can have a better understanding of others.
When I tried Tinder, I would find someone interesting who claimed to also be looking for more... we have what seems like a great exchange of 2 long messages & then they vanish. Itβs not like irl at all.
It's probably guys that aren't happy at home with their wives and they are thinking they should find a girl to have fun with on the side and then it hits them that they can't do it
From my experience if you haven't met each other in the first 48 Hours it ain't going to happen and it's time to move on after the first two days it becomes boring
Tinder isn't meant for long term relationships. It waa evident you are looking for one and the guys you message aren't and are looking for a quick hook up. Do it the old fashioned way and meet someone in person.
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I think you took too much time and any initial attraction he had for you died down, because for three weeks you chatted on and off without moving to some other form of chat or without asking each other out, that basically tells the guy you're not that interested, if they don't ask you out then you take the initiative, don't just wait for them.
They prob found someone willing to give it up the same day they met. You did nothing wrong. Tindr just isn't the place for you. If you still have your college email, try Friendsy if it still exists. Its more fun
You and me both sister. It seems to be a cardinal sin to try and have a normal conversation to get to know someone on there. I've used it once or twice and then I quickly get reminded why I don't use it anymore.
People on Tinder are super flaky, i dunno why but they just are... I gave up on it. Guess its the type it attracts. Plus so many bots. Some just get on for ego to see how many like them too. Same with all those apps like Hot or Not, etc.
It's easy it doesn't go any further than a convo, so they switch to someone more available.
Don't worry, if u wanna chat, ask your questions and chat here. people are willing to help and trolls are extremely rare.
It's the same thing that happens to guys, I'd chat with a few girls for a few days, and I usually unmatch them or the conversation just dies, God knows why they do that, I find it strange how every single girl does the same
They lost interest or got overwhelmed with other conversations. Either way, the only way to keep text conversations from going stale is to meet up irl.
What is the end goal of these conversations? Is it possible that these guys are looking for a hookup or date, and they don't feel the interactions going that way? Also, as some earlier responses have suggested, point out how you don't want it to become a weird flat line conversation.
From what I can gather you need to try new meet them in real life (probably for the best if you move on from these two) because tinder has a large volume of people if you don't meet them within the initial three days then probably won't work out
In my country, America, Tinder is known as a hook up app. It mightβve been they didnβt think you were willing to have sex with them, so they moved on to a girl who would.
In my country, America, almost every single profile says "no hookups."
It's almost as if America is way the fuck too big to generalize like that.
@tlgannon have you ever used tinder
Or even googled βTinder storiesβ
Valiant. Hmu if you can inbox me.
@bobbyp why?
Texting sucks ! Texts are not meant for conversations. They are for short messages. They probably got bored or frustrated with the amount of time they were spending pecking on the key board.
Try talking on the phone.
I wouldn't read to much into it, just keep doing you. I get the same thing as a guy but most likely due to the stigma of all men being pigs 😔
I can't believe people actually think like that. That's just incredibly narrow-minded.
Happens 89% of the time.
Its whatever its to be expected with how guys act on social media
I guess I'm just not likely to buy into that generalization since I don't have too many bad experiences with men. It's easy to blame the whole gender when someone's done you wrong.
Mhm most people get conditioned to generalize when it happens to them more than 5 times. I know friends that get soooo many pms on instagram or facebook
In example look at your followers and then myn the difference in "thirst"
You may have been ghosted because these guys have found better matches to date, or they have found someone whom they could hook up with with less effort.
Personally I would reply to someone within a day. Everyone carries their phones with them all the time. They saw your messages the moment you sent them. They chose to respond after a few days. They weren't that into you in the first place.
a lot of girls on these sites seem to be really bad conversationalists lol they expect the guy to do all the work it seems... healthy guys don't check tinder everyday by the way so it's a good sign if they arne't on every day
They're probably there to meet in person and hook up, not to gab. After a while they'll get bored and spend the effort on another girl who might yield results.
In India... tinder is only for sex sex n sex 😂😂... If you are not a badass then certainly that's the reason 😂😂
Please don't stereotype Indian people.
Dear Indian (I assume ) ... sad.. but truthful... I've been on Tinder .. gave few attempts but my bad... everything boils down to sex... maybe you are an exceptionπ
Yes, I am the exception and that's the point you know "you can't judge many by the action of the few".
Great to know you are exceptional like me... cheers to that... but u see I talk out of experience... and you can't change it... let me have few gud experiences then I'm sure I'll change my opinion...
I wish you well.
Same pinch πβ
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Hahaha xD
OK so now you aren't annoyed? ππ
Annoyed? why
It's certain that you didn't like me talking the way I did about Indian Guys
Indeed but i like talking about things that seem annoying that's how i learn about things.
Great... then why do u even get annoyed
Cuz people tend to judge others pretty quickly these days and all I wanted was to share my opinion so that I can have a better understanding of others.
Ooh... that's not me... π
No problem cuz that's what makes this world an interesting place to live in and fun to explore.
Yup... love to explore... minds I'd say
True I agree with the thought of exploring the minds but I also like exploring the nature it keeps me balanced.
That's the best kind of hobby actually... exploring the nature.. pinch there again π
Hahaha yeah.
Where r u from
India
Haan haan I can make out... waha kaha
Oh! Hahaha well ok, then I'm from Utter Pradesh and forgive me but can't give out more information than that I hope you understand.
Lol wait let me kidnap you fom uttar pradeshπππ ... I'm from Sikkim
Hahaha sure
You can dm me if you want to continue further.
Who needs tinder, you guys did it on GaG lol
I'm a genius you know hahaha xD
Deformate lol you are funny ππ. by the way let me tell you u assume a lot πππ
iamshan how are you a genius? I'm wondering
Hahahaha xD
I'm just waiting to get an answer πππ
I was just being a dork xP
Acceptance is the way to sensibility ππ
True that xP
Woman is always right π
Actually yeah cuz I can not remember them ever being wrong. :)
... and even if they are, you dont tell them :P
Shhhhh! xD
Most people on tinder just want sex. If you indicated that you want more you probably seem like too much hassle. People are very fickle online too.
When I tried Tinder, I would find someone interesting who claimed to also be looking for more... we have what seems like a great exchange of 2 long messages & then they vanish. Itβs not like irl at all.
It's probably guys that aren't happy at home with their wives and they are thinking they should find a girl to have fun with on the side and then it hits them that they can't do it
From my experience if you haven't met each other in the first 48 Hours it ain't going to happen and it's time to move on after the first two days it becomes boring
Tinder isn't meant for long term relationships. It waa evident you are looking for one and the guys you message aren't and are looking for a quick hook up. Do it the old fashioned way and meet someone in person.