I have the same thing with women. They message every few days then nothing. One girl replied saying she doesn't get notifications but she is interested so if she takes a while to responds thats the reason. That was one message FOUR WEEKS AGO!
the reason to use tinder is to hookup or meetup. if it's a huge talk that goes on and on with no endpoint in sight that's when most of us tap out. tinder isn't match. com
Mmm maybe you told them something that it not their taste. Or maybe they found someone better or already start dating. Maybe it is not you that is at fault. Could be many things.
You're right. There are several reasons why this could have happened. The fact that it seems to be happening all the time makes me think that it must be something I'm doing, though.
People on tinder are not looking for a conversation people on kik are but not tinder they are looking for hookups and dates so if you're taking 3 weeks and not going to see them chances are someone else made the move
Are you boring? Via some people are easy to chat conversations flows like water. Other you hope them to even understand small lingo. One girl on tinder took 30 mins between chats to answer. I just blocked her.
Maybe they found someone else. Dating apps are terrible for finding partners in my opinion. Another reason is because they didn't find you interesting enough
Both make sense, really. I guess I would have appreciated a heads up but if I put myself in their shoes, I probably wouldn't have said anything either.
It's important to have common interests because that's what keeps a conversation going. You can also tell if the person is interested in talking to you if they ask you questions about you. If not, don't worry too much about it. Keep looking
That's the thing, though. Every time this has happened, the guy has seemed interested in getting to know me and asked a ton of questions. I guess from my answers they realized I wasn't what they were looking for.
Indeed, seems like that's the case. I'll let you in on a little secret - don't look for something, it will come naturally. Meanwhile, focus on other things in life. Eventually, you'll find the right person
I hate when people tell me that. I agree that pushing too hard to find something is only going to make you less approachable but not putting yourself out there is going to have a negative effect on your chances, too. There should be a balance of wanting something without being too passive or being too desperate.
Well, yeah, I guess you could put yourself out there. It's easier for girls because guys will write more often. Also, just out of curiosity what was your reaction to the "Finland doesn't exist" theory?
Haha, that's interesting because I live near Finland and my neighbors have been there. I wonder what is that strange and mystical place they go to with good roads, tasty chocolate and weird language :D
I don't know I get the same thing when I'm talking to women on Tinder everything's going great then all the sudden they don't talk to me or answer any of my messages anymore
Happens to me often. Hard to say, but it's good you're questioning yourself. But it's honestly not easy, for other people like us, to tell you if you're a bad conversationalist.
I'm gonna take a wild guess here and say that it is because you are overweight and as soon as someone who isn't replies to them they go for that instead.
Looks like you figured out something here, just wanted to add that regardless of meeting site, and given the nature of online distance everyone has this problem. For a variety of reasons, but choosing online unfortunately comes with this frustration.
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I have the same thing with women. They message every few days then nothing. One girl replied saying she doesn't get notifications but she is interested so if she takes a while to responds thats the reason. That was one message FOUR WEEKS AGO!
The best is maybe a Facebook than tinder at least you will find real people with your mutual friends.
Tinder is not Really known with a Reputation Here, Dear, Of Having A... Real Relationship. More like Hook-up Site. xx
You're probably not moving at the speed they want you to. Some people give up once they haven't met you in a certain time. Or they found other girls.
One possibility: they decided you weren't interested in meeting in-person.
Another possibility: they found someone else they like better.
the reason to use tinder is to hookup or meetup. if it's a huge talk that goes on and on with no endpoint in sight that's when most of us tap out. tinder isn't match. com
My guesses are they were talking to someone else and had more interest or you picked a good bunch who don't know how to carry on a conversation.
When that has happened with someone I connected with, it will ask, basically saying I just want to learn something and wondered what happened.
With guys on tinder need to find ways to keep convo interesting, trying to keep their attention is difficult. Don't take app seriously
Have you used it much too? :D
Did you have a sex chat with them? Told them all your sexual preference?
We didn't talk about anything sexual.
Mmm maybe you told them something that it not their taste. Or maybe they found someone better or already start dating. Maybe it is not you that is at fault. Could be many things.
You're right. There are several reasons why this could have happened. The fact that it seems to be happening all the time makes me think that it must be something I'm doing, though.
I know and that is sad and makes you blame yourself.
People on tinder are not looking for a conversation people on kik are but not tinder they are looking for hookups and dates so if you're taking 3 weeks and not going to see them chances are someone else made the move
Are you boring? Via some people are easy to chat conversations flows like water. Other you hope them to even understand small lingo. One girl on tinder took 30 mins between chats to answer. I just blocked her.
Maybe they found someone else. Dating apps are terrible for finding partners in my opinion. Another reason is because they didn't find you interesting enough
Both make sense, really. I guess I would have appreciated a heads up but if I put myself in their shoes, I probably wouldn't have said anything either.
It's important to have common interests because that's what keeps a conversation going. You can also tell if the person is interested in talking to you if they ask you questions about you. If not, don't worry too much about it. Keep looking
That's the thing, though. Every time this has happened, the guy has seemed interested in getting to know me and asked a ton of questions. I guess from my answers they realized I wasn't what they were looking for.
Indeed, seems like that's the case. I'll let you in on a little secret - don't look for something, it will come naturally. Meanwhile, focus on other things in life. Eventually, you'll find the right person
I hate when people tell me that. I agree that pushing too hard to find something is only going to make you less approachable but not putting yourself out there is going to have a negative effect on your chances, too. There should be a balance of wanting something without being too passive or being too desperate.
Well, yeah, I guess you could put yourself out there. It's easier for girls because guys will write more often. Also, just out of curiosity what was your reaction to the "Finland doesn't exist" theory?
It's not a theory, you know. Finland really doesn't exist.
Haha, that's interesting because I live near Finland and my neighbors have been there. I wonder what is that strange and mystical place they go to with good roads, tasty chocolate and weird language :D
I think your neighbors have made that up.
How do you explain the Finnish flag?
What's there to explain?
How's Tinder different in Finland?
Honestly I'm still waiting for a chat to happen in tinder.
Tinder is a garbage site. fun for looking at a hundred hot pics a day, but worthless for having even the most basic of conversations.
Idunno, I've been on there a few days and I've yet to have a chance to use the chat function.
Maybe they got frustrated and quit like you do.
I don't know I get the same thing when I'm talking to women on Tinder everything's going great then all the sudden they don't talk to me or answer any of my messages anymore
Happens to me often. Hard to say, but it's good you're questioning yourself. But it's honestly not easy, for other people like us, to tell you if you're a bad conversationalist.
I'm gonna take a wild guess here and say that it is because you are overweight and as soon as someone who isn't replies to them they go for that instead.
Sounds pretty plausible.
Looks like you figured out something here, just wanted to add that regardless of meeting site, and given the nature of online distance everyone has this problem. For a variety of reasons, but choosing online unfortunately comes with this frustration.