How to text a shy guy for the first time?

[dewatschka]

I won't text hi, cause what can you answer to this. Especially as a shy guy. What should I text him. (We met at a club; he's 21)

[howlyz]

Just talk to him I guess. Would You say he is interested in you by the interaction you two had in that club? What were you talking about, maybe just ask him how was it for you that night, do you like that place, will you be dropping by again. Maybe check online if there is some event there or near that he could be interested in, practice communication with him maybe, it will do good for both of you if you are both shy lol

[sophisticatedbeing]

I can always link a simple "hi" from strangers, but yeah I don't know that guy he might be too shy.

I suggest you make him feel comfy with the chat, no tension questions like "do you have a girlfriend?". Just start with a simple compliment about him maybe he seems nice or something (must be a true fact about him), it mostly works on guys to start with compliments

[scales2002]

Do something out of the blue and out of context, or go with a simple hi because yes you said that there isn't a good response to he but he could just say hi back and then you ease your way into he conversation like how is your day or how are you but if you know a different language you could say como estas instead of how are you and then he will be like OMG that's Soo cool you know a different language

[dewatschka]

😂you really thinl he would be impressed by a different language? A bit random^^

[scales2002]

Yes, it's like one of those things you don't expect in people and are surprised because we've all been through a high school Spanish or just foreign language but only a small percentage of the population actually remember that foreign language

[devils_play_aj]

Its really hard to deal with shy guys. I used to be one. Say something like "how's it going"
Generally a shy guy feel awkward talking to unknowns. Make him feel like you're no stranger. A friendly message can do it

[gnrlklaymore]

Bring up something he said but ask a question about it. I. e. if he had you try a new drink just say "hey what was the name of that drink you had me try"

Then keep the conversation going from there.

[abishekraaman]

Ask him a random question like Hey are you from ABC school, stay at xyz place so that he will get forced to answer in both the cases , if his answer is Yes or No.

[sSsQ2]

Go like this... " Hey , timid , have you ever had a ciquita like me? I can do this you won't believe , I can turn your virgin ass into a man " ... I bet that'll get his attention ;)

[dewatschka]

Lol^^

[sSsQ2]

Shit , I know that kind of stuff gets my attention haha

[Harsh_5299]

"Hi there... you seem awfully shy for a guy, text me back if you're man enough to"
... this reply will make the shyest of guys to respond, unless he's gay

[dewatschka]

That's harsh af

[dewatschka]

Oh well that is your name lol

[Harsh_5299]

Some guys need tough love... if you know what I mean 😉

[Halucinator]

@Harsh_5299
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[Wollu]

I would expect a simple "Hello handsome! Would you go down on me if I'd ask you for it?". But I'm no snowflake. I have no clue what they'd expect. Maybe a "Hi".

[laaaate]

Hey is this (so and so) that I met at the (so and so) club?
Oh hi, I'm (insert name and description with some kind of humor) , h9w have you been?

[TallGuy96]

You need to ask questions that forces him to answer, i'm a shy guy and this always work on me.
Personalised experience is that i like it when a girl is straightforward and straight to the point, hi and these stuff don't concern me.

[Halucinator]

would you mind giving some details? As if how did you meet or what happened etc? I might give you a good para to text him😬

[dewatschka]

I texted him already but maybe you could tell me what else guys (shy) like to talk about:) he went to the club to watch over his younger friends.. and two of those friend told me he wanted to dance with me and pushed us together (😅) and then we danced a little and-I don't usually do that but I- asked for his number. Then later me my friends and his friends and him went out to get some fresh air and we talked a little but he was very shy, but smiled a lot and took care of, cause I was a bit too drunk. But he didn't touch me without aking me if it's okay. Yeah and then I went home with my friends

[Halucinator]

well being a shy guy myself, I can surely tell you that we hide our feelings most of the time. If he was smiling a lot, this is a sign that he likes you. Even though, we shy guys also smile when we're nervous and got stuck in a situation.
I might be nervous irl but I'm kind of quite open online and I've many female friends here. I'd totally advise you to be abit flirty and funny and talk over something that he likes. People always like tp talk on their hobbies. Even a shy guy would talk a lot if he likes football and all you're talking about is football.

[dewatschka]

Okay thank you a lot!

[Halucinator]

don't say thanks please!!
If you really wanna thank me, you can gimme a box of snickers😂😂

[dewatschka]

Okay okay I won't😅 here you have your very big box of snickers! (I love them too... so I will leave some for me)

[Halucinator]

Lmao

[lucas262]

If he, s shy let him know its ok and your interested too. That will take care of some of his hesitation and make it easier for him.

[Charleslvajr]

If you know anything about him you can start with a question about his interests.

[iamshan]

Just say, hey how you doin'

[rahul_24]

Try to keep. simple and straight forward. Best way is try to find something in common, he will open up quickly

[Anonymous]

Just tell him that you really like talking to him. Sometimes, shy people just need to talk to someone. He may text you for a long time, well I mean he may have longer conversations. I'm shy so, I know

[dewatschka]

He's kinda distant...

[Opinion Owner]

He is? Well, just try to connect with him. The reason why we're so shy is because we don't have anyone to connect to.

[dewatschka]

How do you connect with a shy guy.. or guys in general?

[Opinion Owner]

Find things you have in common. Try to relate. Let him talk to you a bit. It may be hard starting out with a shy guy. But try to let him be comfortable with you

[DrDanger]

Maybe tell a little bit about u. Like Whats your hobby. Its easier to response to something like this. Thats my device as a shy guy

[dewatschka]

Isn't that a bit strange, if I never texted him before? Can you do me favour? You say, you're a shy guy... can you answer my last question, please?

[DrDanger]

This was your last question?
If its me, i would like it if she tells anything about her. And i had in mind, if you wrote your hobbys its easier for him because maybe he have the same hobbys. Or u ask for his hobbys. So maybe its easier for you to Start a conversation

[dewatschka]

Oh I ment "previous" ^^
Okay, thank you!!

[DrDanger]

No Problem :)

[Pritam001]

Test me... you might find your answers... I also fall in the same category.

[danny215]

Uhm what are your intention do you want to date the guy have sex with him or just be friends

[dewatschka]

Date if he's cool

[danny215]

Be like hey i like you and i want to be in a serious relationship tell him you want to be his

[dewatschka]

Whaaat. That's a bit too forward

[Anonymous]

You seem like a shy girl asking this question. But just text him what your doing.

[Opinion Owner]

Shy girl asking how to text a shy guy

[dewatschka]

What a great combination:'D

[Opinion Owner]

I just don't like it when shy girls label a guy as a "shy guy". You can say that you think he is rather shy but calling him shy guy...

[dewatschka]

Yeah, you're it's not what defines him... but he behaved really shy... is that better?:)

[dewatschka]

right*

[Opinion Owner]

Put it like this... there will always be a guy that is the shyest out of a group of guys at a club. Often the shyest is the best guy

[dewatschka]

I know. I don't use "shy guy" as a bad term

[Opinion Owner]

It's still a label

[dewatschka]

My god

[Opinion Owner]

It is

[1derfulguy]

Why would the shyest be the best guy? I'm shy, it sure as hell hasn't made me a better guy. Just bitter...

[Opinion Owner]

Being the shyest is not the reason they would be the best guy. It's them as a person that makes them the best guy. You are not best guy just for being shy

[1derfulguy]

Okay, we agree :)

[dewatschka]

Haha^^

[RohitLakra]

Tell him to fuck you tonight.

[dewatschka]

I see you everywhere and you're very annoying

[RohitLakra]

I love you. Will you marry me? I've got tons of money.

[dewatschka]

.. No

[yourdarksecretx]

I swear this guy and the saurav guy

[RohitLakra]

I am sorry for my answer.

[Revolver_]

Just send him some memes

[dewatschka]

Hahaha I'm totally a meme girl^^ not sure if he is

[Revolver_]

He probably is, maybe that's why he's shy lmao

[bobby1973]

Wish a girl would text me

[1derfulguy]

Don't say that out loud on the Internet. The catfish will have a feeding frenzy...

[bobby1973]

I eat catfish bit they are easy to spot after a couple try to con you

[yasirakram]

Hi do u want to be my good friend?

[Hungry_Shark]

Just do it

[dewatschka]

I should have written "what" to text a shy guy

[yourdarksecretx]

Say how's your day