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I'd say be prepared to ruin your friendship. I made this mistake myself. I dated a friends ex. They had been broken up for three years. THREE YEARS. And they had only dated for about four months. So I thought it was no big deal. I was wrong. And lost my friend in the process. I'd say a strong no. Have some loyalty.
Your freind was immature. You didn't do shit wrong.
I don't know. I wouldn't say she was wrong. Me and her ex lasted a year. But then they started dating a year later, and are now married and have a kid on the way. Like, sometimes I feel like they were meant to be and I had no business getting in the way of that. You never know when people are gonna get back together.
You could be pissed at her to then. Why is it ok for her? Nobody knew... funny how shit works though. We have to try to break away from our ego sometimes. Don't beat yourself up.
NO. To me, friends are the most important thing ever in my life because my family's like shit not only after my Dad's passing but way before back then when I was a teenager. So yeah I would not hurt my friends' feelings by dating their exes. That's a big No-No.
So it really depends.
1) how long did they date.
2) how serious was it.
3) where do you think the new relationship will go.
4) what is the relationship status of your friend
5) how long ago did they date.
There are the questions to ask yourself. And go from there.
They dated for around 3 months. In that time they mostly just talked. They were only able to see each other 3 times because it was long distance. The furthest they went was making out. They broke up last week. However I’m planning on waiting at least a month if I do anything with him. Right now my friend is single.
I really don’t know where I want mine and his relationship to go. All I can say is that I love him and can’t picture him not in my life.
There is another negative point to it, usually the exes r out of the picture but in this case ur friend will always be in the picture one way or another and the guy always have the opportunity to compare or a reason to remember their old memories!
My friend and her ex are still friends. They talk regularly even after their breakup
Even worse! I wouldn’t date the guy!
Since you wwre friends I think that it's understandable. I think you should kind of weigh the two situations. Him versus your friend. You might loose a friend, is what I'm saying. But if he's worth it for you then that's fine
I didn't vote cause ur in a bridge. I can't because I don't know your friend. plus you're friendship is at risk. I guess I have to say don't risk your friendship and come clean with your friend. Tell her everything.
My friend already knows I have a crush on him. We met him together on a trip and since the first time I saw him, i knew that I loved him.
A week later, he ended up asking her out, so what could I do? I regret letting her date him so much
Are the two of u dating now
Sounds like he liked her more than you and your the second place prize. Don't do that to yourself :-/
@hq thank you👊
If they are on good terms & your friend has moved on, maybe.
But your friend could be okay with it today & NOT okay with it next week so if you want to fo down this road just realize that you could lose your friend.
I would say if you can't help yourself and just absolutely must date him at least ask your friend for her blessings, BUT you said she isn't over him yet. On the other hand it's usually not even worth it because most relationships don't even last so if it'll ruin your relationship just leave him alone at lease for a couple years lol.
Talk with your friend about it, see how she feels. If you do it behind her back, it's opening a can of worms that will backfire on you. Also, the three of you hanging out may be awkward too, no matter how much time passes.
Its an age old rule that you never date your friend's ex, but i have never agreed with it. Its a discussion you and your friend need to have.
Be prepared to lose her if you do.
Yeah! If you like him why not? To be fair my ex ghosted me and cheated on me. And I’m dating an amazing guy that happens to be my ex’s friend. If you want to date someone then date them!
If my friend is still into him, and I start dating him, it might destroy mine and her relationship
WAIT YOUR FRIEND? NOOOOOOOOO
Lol can u take back my vote? Lol if you’re partner doesn’t care if his friend is still into you that’s his choice tho, but if YOUR FRIEND, your choice, mine is GOD NO!
@Tonga I know she's a messed up person
@lilmissumshine well I mean that’s a little far, it’s just if your friend approves n is ok with i think it would be fine, but I believe in friends before boyfriends
I do too. I just want to know if I would be a terrible person to ask my friend if I could date her ex or not. I won’t do it behind her back or anything of course.
Ohhhh kk, well what do you want to do?
first you'd definitely have to check with the friend who's ex it is, because it might make them feel uncomfortable. if they say yes, then sure, go for it.
Maybe if you had a really serious conversation with the both of them separately, but it's not something I'd do personally. It could ruin your friendship, and if you and him don't work out, you'll lose him too.
Wait 2 months, ask your friend how he would feel, regardless of his response have at it. More than enough time should have passed for him to have gotten over it. If you need to get your dick wet, do what you have to do.
It’s an easier option in the real world. outside of the vacuum of high school.
In your situation, it’ll invariably affect the relationship you have with your friend. the best case scenario for you and him is after she starts dating someone else.
really depends on ur relationship with ur friend and the guy. There's a lot more options how to on about this.
So - sry not to vote but these r important situations. I hope u all (three) the best of happiness =)
Thank you🙂
U r welcome =)
If your friend doesn't care, then it shouldn't be a problem. That being said, I would still be wary because surely there'd have to be a reason why my friend would've broken up with her in the first place.
The ex broke up with my friend
I think we guys have a bro code, never date your friends ex, that's a huge No, I doubt girls have a similar code...
Girls have the same code too. I just really like him and am wondering if their was any circumstance in which him and I could be able to date in the future
If you like him that much, then my all means, I mean, now a days it's seems like it's hard to find people you really like. If you think he is worth it... yea.. but if you have any doubts...
If they aren't in a relationship anymore and something happened between them, that's their problem to fix; not yours. Sure your friend might get upset, but you can't control your feelings and your friend most certainly shouldn't be trying to control how you feel
I would say that you talk to your friend about it, if it is or will be, a huge problem in the future
I would make sure it's okay with them first, because I wouldn't risk a friendship like that unless I was in love with them. If it's love, real love, then no friend would stand in the way of that, but if it's not, then you should ask them first.