Have an opinion?
Let the one who never sinned cast the first stone...Lets leave the judgements and blame aside for one second and look at this realistically. You fucked up, ok, that just happened. Here are your options:-Don't tell him. Try your best to be faithful and hide it from him. Your conscience will betray you, the secret you keep from him will drive you apart. He WILL know. I guarantee you that he will figure it out even if no one tell him. And you will not be able to fix it once he does figure it out by himself. It will be 150% over. He will probably hate your guts and cut you out completely and for good. Probably.-You tell him and break up. Its gonna hurt. Its gonna be hard. If there's any chance left for your relationship, maybe by doing this you can figure it out. There's no guarantee but this is your only shot at saving what you may have.-You don't tell him and break up. He will figure it out and the result and the result will be the same as the first option.So that's what you can do about your situation.Additionally there's a few things I would recommend you do. Figure out WHY you cheated. This is important. If you want a happy life, you will need to work on yourself to figure it out.Are you self destructive? Are you promiscuous and didn't want to admit it to yourself? Are you not actually in love with him? Why did you do it? Figure it out. If you don't there's a good chance you won't learn anything and it will happen again. It will hurt you as much as it hurts the people you are with, and you won't have a chance to be happy.
the why is a biggie. no healthy emotionally stable person feels the need unless long neglected and mistreated which wasn't the case here
Or she's juat hoe.
@levantine99 Well we actually don't know anything about the situation, there were no details so we can only assume that's not the case, but it could have been that.And even if that was the case, you'd still wanna figure out why you didn't just set a boundary and leave rather than cheat. There's never an actual excuse for a fuckup like that despite how you might rationalise it to yourself. So I totally agree, figuring out why you fucked up is super important even maybe the most important thing to do cause its a big obstacle to overcome.
This is a bull shit question. I sense this girl is a queen bee trying to stir up controversy for attention. The survey says: tell him. And she picks the two opinions that give her an out to not do the opposite.@sarah009991 Don't ask for advice if you won't listen to it. I suspect there are a number of cheaters in here. This is why you are stuck as outcasts.
And the result and the result will be the same as the first option. So much truth he said it twice for you.
no dont let him know, just dont do it again.
Lads this is why I tell you to never trust a women. She's never yours it's simply just your turn. Women don't value loyalty.
You are a petite is shot , fuk u you dirty thot , I hope you get pregnant and the dude fucks your mom after
Piece of shit *
@TheUglyMan u act like I told her to keep cheating. Lol she should not tell him. What he don't know won't kill him. Somethings are better left taking to the grave with u. If its not broke don't fix it.
Lol you just further proved my point.
You are a hoe , one day someone will break your heart , you thot
@TheUglyMan men do this all the time
@brownbratzdoll you are twisted
Good men don’t
Lol cheating isn't right and hiding isn't right either. That will never change sweetheart. Guys I rest my case never trust women.
@dothejohnwall97 I've already gotten pregnant by Satan. Ure too late lol. But LETS BE REALISTIC WE ARE HUMAN WE FUCK UP. SOME TRUTHS CAN FUCK UP SOMETHING SO GOOD. WHAT U DO IS NEVER DO IT AGAIN AND KEEP IT HIDDEN. IF HE doesn't SUSPECT IT WHY TELL? she gone lose all her good benefits WITH ALL THESE SHITTY ASS MEN OUT HERE ITS HARD TO FIND A GOOD. IM NOT TELLING SHIT ESPECIALLY IF IM NOT DOING IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN.
@dothejohnwall97 good men lie too
@TheUglyMan fucking before marriage isn't right either but we do it
Stop Smith this because men do it it's ok. It's not ok you just making yourself look foolish.
👏 good , get fucked over some more you thot. The world needs less people like you
Lol we talking about cheating
@dothejohnwall97 been there done that. Hearts been broken OVER IIIIT! its all apart of life. I'm going to get my prince charming good man one day and he gone be pussy whipped.
Lol I don’t know if “Prince Charming “ wants t fuck a girl who has fucked 1000 men and has every std possibe
Sorry he may not want to wife you
The fact that this opini9n got the most helpful girl should be a clear indication to men to never trust a women.
@TheUglyMan bro it’s facts. Don’t trust these women they will turn and Burn you. Just smash and leave
@dothejohnwall97 I'm awesome why not?
You just said u would cheat and not tell a man, the only thing u will have us men running trains on you. No romance for a thot
You African with no morals lol wow, disgrace
@dothejohnwall97 that's why in my opinion i expose the female tactics when they cheat.
@BrownBratzDollAgreed. I don't understand what the problem is. People have very small, sad worldviews these days.
@Anon-ymous1 the problem with cheating is you've lied to your partner😂
@TheUglyMan doesn't matter we do things we aren't suppose to all the time.
@dothejohnwall97 why are u so bitter? Thats not going to happen lol my filter game really strong. And even if he slips through, i never leave empty handed sooo...😂😂😂😂
It does if you don't take your relationship seriously dont get into one😂
@TheUglyMan i take my serious relationships serious kiddo
He deserves to know... If this happened to me I wouldn't trust them again that anyone is telling the truth, and I can't believe this answer got MHO.. Not tell someone is like lying to them.
@TheUglyMan Dude, look at the poll. A majority of girls don't agree. It's not fair to put them in the same camp because of the actions of a shitty few.
@dothejohnwall97 i have not fucked over a thousand men, i dont have no stds u dumb fuck. And a girl can get an std fucking ONLY ONE GUY, ure an imbecile.
@love_conquers_lust no most women are like this brown chick but she's just honest.
@TheUglyMan Hey, I get it. I fucking hate girls who won't let go of one branch before grabbing a hold of the next. It REALLY makes me want to tell girls who scream for equality to shut their fucking mouths as long as they continue to engage in such dishonorable behavior.
@dothejohnwall97 I've never cheated tho 😂😂😂😂😂 but i can't say it won't ever happen... im human. I've been cheated on tho.
@dothejohnwall97 im black American dumb ass. U liking my profile? I was born and bred in america descendent from the slaves. 😂😂😂😂😂 u are mad or nah? I see u read my ancestry results. Im 89% African 10% european.
@dothejohnwall97 lol @running a train on me. U are really a wounded dog. U probably the softest man to break down and fall in love 😂😂😂😂 the "bitches ain't shit" mantra dont mean anything.
@BrownBratzDoll I'm pretty sure he was referring to your name. There is no need to devolve this into pedigree or race.
@xButterflyKisses87x no its not. If he never suspects it. Why ruin him like that?
@TheUglyMan question why is your name ugly man?
Seriously? then why cheat on someone in the first place? the same difference by the way
@TheUglyMan whats the female tactic. U haven't exposed anything 😂😂😂 im just honest and REALISTTIC!
@BrownBratzDoll Oops. Thought you were addressing someone else. He was talking about race. No need for that from @dothejohnwall97 .
Because I'm am ugly male
@BrownBratzDoll So do your SOs in your relationships that you take seriously know you feel this way?
@TheUglyMan so is this why you are angry? Do u need a hug?
@love_conquers_lust really think about this question? I would NEVER tell my significant other. That just sounds like im planning to cheat. I've never cheated in my relationships 😂😂😂😂 but u are shooting yourself in the foot admiting something like that. Thats like going to a job interview telling them all the bad things.
@love_conquers_lust love is practically lust 😂😂😂😂 they both activate dopamine. Its PURE attatchment.
@BrownBratzDoll "I've never cheated tho but i can't say it won't ever happen... im human." I've heard that lame excuse before, as if it's you who serves as the authority on what humanity is. Break it off, then move on. Don't backstab. Simple.
@love_conquers_lust why would i ruin our stable relationship BY TELLING HIM SOMETHING HE doesn't EVEN SUSPECT. u sound dumb and unrealistic.
@BrownBratzDoll It doesn't matter, sweetheart. If our SO feels the same way, you're telling me you're okay with them making you look like a fool?I'm afraid you don't know what love is.
@love_conquers_lust im not breaking off a good relationship over a mistake ure smoking crack if u think so😂😂😂😂😂
@BrownBratzDoll Love transcends chemicals and lust. At it's core, it's a choice. Free will. Something a descendant of slaves should appreciate.
@love_conquers_lust im not telling to break his hesrt and ruin our happiness. If IT isn't BROKE DONT FIX IT!
@BrownBratzDoll Then why cheat if you don't want to break his heart. The seed has been sown. I don't care how long it takes to germinate.
@xButterflyKisses87x mistakes happen, people have slip ups. If he doesn't suspect it BURY THE SECRET AND NEVER CHEAT AGAIN. a good man is a good man and some truths dont need to be told.
@BrownBratzDoll Secondly, how happy can you really be if you adulterate like that?
I'm not angry a hug would be good though
@BrownBratzDoll "If he doesn't suspect it BURY THE SECRET AND NEVER CHEAT AGAIN". That's what a homewrecker would say.
@love_conquers_lust i know ignore that statement i was thinking of the actual act in having sex. Having sex with the same person breeds strong attatchment and activates the dopamine at the same level as love. But lust is like being turned on by somebody no attatchment has been made.
@BrownBratzDoll " a good man is a good man and some truths dont need to be told." If he's a good man, why do that to him?I'm done. I'm broaching on harassment here.
@love_conquers_lust At least you have the same belief as me... If my partner cheated and also hid on me, I would be devastated, that he was not man enough, he had no balls to tell me I cheated... BECAUSE in a relationship there is communication, I'd be devastated that he cheated on me also but, at least after the storm cloud passes on I'd move forward to see if I can actually trust him again... But the other party deserves to know not be kept in secret like she is suggesting, plus I feel like along those lines she is suggesting that its okay, (seems that way)
@love_conquers_lust again nobody is perfect. Are u telling me all your relationships were perfect? U think people who are married never hsve slip ups? What dream world are u in? Perfection doesn't exist. This lady feels bad about what she has done and WILL FEEL WORST IF THIS ONE little TRUTH BREAKS A POTENTIALLY AMAZING RELATIONSHIP UP. the fact that she feels bad tells me she loves him. She does not have to tell him. He doesn't suspect it so it NEVER HAPPENED.
@love_conquers_lust i know what love is. But im a REALIST. If my man treats me right and i never suspect anything. Im going to be a happy girlfriend or wife under the guise he is faithful. I may die HAPPY, NEVER KNOWING. Now if i FIND OUT, depending on how deep the rabbit hole goes im leaving or i may stay and work it out. again this shit is real life. What people IDEALY think and what they actually do. Are two different things.
@love_conquers_lust cheating is not always rooted in unhappineds.
Would you care if your husband cheated on you and bluntly hid it from you?
You still African you dumb black nigga. Lol I’m ashamed to be black when I see how low black Americans intelligence is.
You’re a hoe point blank period. Do us all a favour and delete your account and I would say more but we are on the internet
@brownbratzdoll never mind 😂 you are too ugly to be a hoe I just peeped your picture
@brownbratsdoll no offence tho
@dothejohnwall97 Alright, fucknut. The only one being a n** here is you. I don't care if my account goes down with yours for being a racist asshole.
@love_conquers_lust Saaaaaaay wooooooord brooooooo
@dothejohnwall97 I think you should apologize.
@love_conquers_lust i ain't apologetic. man up lol
@dothejohnwall97 I just did. And gave you some damn good advice.
@love_conquers_lust say word bro
@dothejohnwall97 Try apologizing without ebonics or slang, too. That barrage of insults was too far. You pretty much gave her a reason for believing what she does. Can you see why guys can scare the shit out of girls sometimes, moron?
@xButterflyKisses87x if I don't know or don't suspect I would never know. How can u care about something u don't suspect?
@love_conquers_lust I can’t respect women like her who play guys and cheat guys, it’s not cool. Same way girls don’t respect players
@dothejohnwall97 opinions are like assholes MANY men GAY AND STRAIGHT find me beautiful. One rare opinion of me being ugly don't phase me.
@love_conquers_lust I did say stupid insults that were unnecessary, I’ll admit that
Sure they do...
Your not ugly just chill damn...
@dothejohnwall97 "I can’t respect women like her who play guys and cheat guys, it’s not cool. Same way girls don’t respect players" Okay. I can agree with that. Assuming she does, IF she does.
@love_conquers_lust she clearly implied she does and supports it
Well — Don’t cheat, don’t lie and or hide if I’d you do. Lying about it and hiding it is just as bad as actually cheating you need to understand that or if you even care...: how would you feel if your husband/boyfriend did that to you and you somehow found out? I’d be pissed if I was lied to and he had been hiding it from me.
@xButterflyKisses87x how about not cheating in the first place? Are you a scum bag? Stop justifying when cheating can be acceptable
@dothejohnwall97 You know, it's like, we'll never really know anyway. You generally have to take their word even if they admit it. But that's the check and balance in the golden rule. I'd go so far to say is if she believes if her spouse cheats then he shouldn't tell her, I would impose a double standard and say I wouldn't approve of it for either one of us. So she can hold me to one standard but I'd hold her to another. She'd have to learn to live with that or it's a no-go. That's compromise.
@dothejohnwall97 I’m not saying cheating is good lol... don’t mix up the user names and back off because I agree cheating is bad
@dothejohnwall97 I’m not even accepting that it’s ok
@xButterflyKisses87x but nobody is saying cheating is good. I just think she should cut ties with the guy she cheated with and carry the secret to her grave. What he don't know won't hurt him and u can't fix whats not broke. I a woman living HAPPY with her husband never told him that she fucked her ex while she was engaged one last time. They life is happy. It's better to run a smooth trail.
@TheUglyMan lol at the hug would be good
@dothejohnwall97 I have a 3.7 GPA any many offers to joint honors or accelerated college courses in colour. I'm a strong critical thinker and a realist. Far from low intelligent
@dothejohnwall97 I don't play men who are decent, only dogs get played. U just don't like my method to this situation. ifb u cheated on ure girl and she never suspected it 99% chance u not telling.
cool who cares. i graduated university last year and I just started off earning a decent salary of $70,000 a year at the age of 23. whats your point?
if i cheated on my girl, i would dump her the next day. but again you probably live with ratchet hood ghetto black people are are very uneducated and have no morals. i left the United states to go live in Canada with normal people.
who have* and i would never cheat.
@dothejohnwall97 never say never
@dothejohnwall97 your lying
whatever you say lol. i dont have to prove anything because @ the end of the day, my income is for me.
@dothejohnwall97 I am ugly
@TheUglyMan Im a woman and I HAVE NEVER EVER cheated on my whole fucking lifehow the FUCK do you explain that you nitwit
And @BrownBratzDoll you r slut lets start thereits very clear you have cheated before and ONLY losers cheatreal WOMEN they DONT cheatthey HAVE THE GUT TO BREAK UP you disgust me
@GirlfromSweden97 I never said all women have cheated
@TheUglyMan you said This is why men shouldn't trust women cus women are not loyal. Those r yournwords
@GirlfromSweden97 Not true my words are "Lads this is why I tell you to never trust a women. She's never yours it's simply just your turn. Women don't value loyalty." I never said women can't be loyal. Read properly next time.
@GirlfromSweden97 haters ganna hate
Telling him the truth and you initiating a break up are two separate decisions.You need to tell him. It's completely unfair to him and makes your entire relationship seem like a lie of you don't. Besides if he found out some other way it would hurt him a lot more.If you are honest with your self and feel like you cheated because you're not entirely happy with the relationship and want to break up, then you need yo tell him that too.You need to be completely honest with him... dont just leave him to try and figure it out for himself coz that will mentally torment him. It may be harsh but he will appreciate it. You've made a mistake but you're not a horrible person... what you do from now will impact that. Good luck (: x
Well duh? What do you think? He's not your boyfriend while you're lying to him. You don't have the right to call him that. He's just some guy you are stabbing in the back. Get some balls and be honest, or at least break up with him and allow him to be with someone who treats him better.
Yes you must tell him immediately. Then proceed to let him go so he can find someone who loves him and treats him the way he deserves.Don't hate him when he finds the love he deserves and don't for one second ask for sympathy when you realise what you lost.Cheating doesn't just happen and no one forced you to so you knew exactly what you were doing.You'll break his heart when you tell him but with friends/family/his self belief he'll recover and learn to love himself so that in time someone, somewhere will love him... That person, sadly won't be you!
What the hell is up with woman like you? What is so wrong with your marriage that makes you want to cheat or have an affair? Why are you in the relationship in the first place then if you have those kinda intentions? Girls like that really fuck up some really good guys out there. Ever wonder why some guys are complete assholes? That goes both ways.
Break up and don’t tell him you cheated. Clearly your heart isn’t in the relationship so you’re better off just leaving him. And instead of dropping this bomb on him that will crush his self-esteem and potentially ruin his trust in other people (i. e. you’ll ruin his future relationships), do him a favor and don’t tell himz
minus the z. Should have been a period.
I don't think it's good for your moral fiber to do that. You risk ruining your own future relationships when you start lying. Bite the bullet, rip off the band aid, face the consequences.You are spot on about ruining his future relationships. Especially if he was loyal. And you risk doing just that to a guy by lying or omitting. I've walked in this guy's shoes. And it is NOT fair to leave him in the dark searching aimlessly for what he did wrong, it stunts his personal growth and actually hinders his ability to move on.
@love_conquers_lust I'd say admitting to cheating will stunt him even more. I've seen the damage it does.
I'd much rather know. Truth over feelings. I'm sure that most people would rather know the truth. Besides, if she doesn't tell him that she left because she cheated (something that she did wrong), he might start thinking it's because there is something wrong with him and that is why she left. So for his self-esteem, I think telling him the truth is best anyway.
@lumos you are wrong I'm afraid. I appreciate your intentions are good, but the guys have made a good argument for why it is important to tell him. Otherwise he will be in the dark, confused, not knowing what happened.
He needs to know what women truly are
AND IT NEEDS TO BE DONE!! Your feelings and advised manipulation on this one are not good. This isn't some white lie. This is serious. I won't move on this. I had a bitch cheat on me yet never actually admit it and had to learn years later through the grapevine what she did because she was too big of a coward. And even then, I still have to rely on someone else's word. Which is another problem, would you want someone else filling in the narrative you left void?This is what people talk about when they get pissed off at girls. If you're scared of a violent reaction, go through a medium: friend, text, phone, whatever. Get it off your chest. And you will feel like shit. You'll feel like shit anyway no matter how many mental hurdles you jump through. But at least you can begin healing. It's just cruel what you suggest.
@love_conquers_lust I’m not saying this is the easy way out for her. It isn’t. It’s the easy way out for him. I had a friend who was cheated on. It damaged him greatly. After that, he kept getting into fucked up ”relationships” with women who were unstable. It was never a real relationship because he just couldn’t commit anymore. He was always in limbo with multiple girls and would leave a mess behind him because of the damage his ex had caused. And now we’re closing in on year 10 since it happened, and he’s still single and almost in his 30s.Although I’m sure people would value the truth and yadda yadda, like I said, I’ve seen the impact cheating can have on someone’s self-esteem. It’s not pretty. And if it could have prevented, I’d much rather see my guy friend whole and happy.
could have been*.
@love_conquers_lust not to mention that the confusion and hurt he’ll experience from just being dumped can’t be compared to the massive blow being told he was cheated on is.
Lol that person shouldn't have cheated in the first place. He should know that he's dating someone who isn't loyal.
@TheUglyMan yeah because cheaters go around with a message on their forehead that says "I'm a cheater"? Your opinion is irrelevant, Ugly Man.
Nope I mean the partner of the cheater should know lol.
Yeah, tell him so he has the chance to dump you. Don't expect anyone to have sympathy for you either, there is absolutely no excuse for cheating, it is unforgivable. Only doing it the one time and no matter how regretful you may feel makes no difference, once a cheater, always a cheater.
You stupid ass cunt ! GODDAMMIT you need to have your ass beaten to a pulp ! You're a vile POS and I hope you burn in hell !
Hey whore, yes bitch I condescending to talk to you. I hope he cheats back on you and crushes your sorry ass self like the cockroach that you are, you are one vile POS and I hope he finds out, rest assured he will, aND WHEN HE DOES HE BEATS YOUR SORRY ASS TO WITHIN AN INCH OF YOUR LIFE. aND THEN GET A GANGSTER LIKE ME to hunt down the guy you cheated with, kick his ass, cut his balls and dick off , shove them in his mouth and dump him on your front porch. I hate you and cunts like you. Bitch, I hope you did a slow painful death.
It might be nice. It may not have dawned on you that he cares about you. You may wish to ask yourself how you would feel if the shoe is was on the other foot.At a minimum, you might show him what you are and that you see him as not your boyfriend - which is for you a term of convenience and not a word with any meaning behind it - but as just another toy to play with.
Breaking up with him and hooking up with your cheatee is the easy way out.If you can find it in yourself to not cheat ever again, and work on rebuilding broken trust (because you "made a huge mistake and you were drunk and you love this guy"), then tell him before someone else does or he finds it out from your guilty conscience.
Sorry he doesn't deserve someone who will cheat on him, once a cheater always a cheater.
You should tell him and then part company. This relationship is going nowhere. There were NO excuses for cheating, whatever happened. Cheating is NEVER the answer. My guess is, though, that you will not have the guts to tell him!
If he's lucky, at a minimum the bitch won't miss whatever life she was sucking out of him and come back to do it again. That's the best he could hope for at this point. If you don't tell him, please, at a minimum, stay away and go find another life to F'k up. I know exactly your type of selfishness. It deserves the worst treatment because you know you're a whore and own it proudly.
I honestly dont think you should tell him, we are all humans and can make mistakes,, it depends on the circumstances and the reasons you did that.. If you really love him and want to be with him, and are sure that you won't do this again, then just keep it is as lesson for yourself and dont hurt him with the truth. Just if you won't do this again.
Cheating is never a mistake. You can't accidentally have sex with someone, even if alcohol is involved.
That's the right answer. I don't understand why everyone here is so pious. She's a horny 20yo that fucked up. Made a bad decision and now regrets it. Still loves the guy. Instead of worrying about this shit she should focus on being a better partner to her boyfriend and move on.
This is why you never trust women.
@Wally48 Lol the guy should know. But the first mistake he made I guess was trusting a young women.
It depends. Would telling him do more harm that good? Will it likely affect his health? Are you considering telling him to alleviate your guilt, and lay the burden of the situation on him? Are you determined not to cheat on him again? Have there been other incidents of you cheating on him? These are the kinds of questions you need to ask yourself.
Just break up with him, say things aren't working out so he can find someone better. It's a waste of time to continue being with someone you're not loyal to. Why bother being in a relationship if you're going to cheat?
Oh jeez just the way you worded the question makes me think you don't really care just break up with him and if you do care then try talking it out tell him why you did it and see if you can come to a solution and hope HOPE he forgives you good luck your gonna need it
Yes... and then proceed to break up with him. I don't know what kind of guy he is. He may not be worthy of you, he may not deserve anything good. But no one who cheats can ever claim the high ground or claim they are justified in doing so.
This all day
Telling home will lead to a breakup anyway... so either tell him and eventually break up, or don't tell him and continue the relationship.If u choose to not tell him, u need to do some soul searching and find out why you cheated
Seriously... you're supposed to love your boyfriend not cheat... tell him so you both can move on clearly he deserves someone who will respect him and not cheat on him like you did
Ask yourself: Did what happened affect your feelings for your boyfriend? Do you like/love him any less? Yes? Then tell him, and likely break up with him. No? Then keep it to yourself. There's no reason why it should affect your relationship and end it unless you want it to.
What a simp
@TheUglyMan Nope. Just telling it like it is. Don't be so insecure, mate; you don't wear it well.
that words is thrown around far too often its lost all meaning
Yeah tell him so he can dump you like the trash you are.
Hmm, well do you still want to be with him or do you think you want to move on from him?
Nope i still love him
@sarah009991 you don't love him if you cheated... end of story
Yes, I'd let him know. It's his choice now whether you two stay together or not. Let's hope after this you don't do that again.
Most cheaters cheat again. It's a vicious cycle.
Yes absolutely. Let him know. Then, see what he does. Don’t be surprised though if he breaks up with you, because you absolutely deserved that
If he is like me he already expects it so it probably doesn't matter either way.
You should definetely tell him. Then its up to him either to forgive you or to breakup.
The truth will come out eventually so you may as well tell him sooner than him finding out later. Then let him decide what he wants to do.
Tell him you and him aren't meant to be and that it's over. Like as soon as you can, now would be a great time. by the way, don't be a cunt.
A and C,. And why do he can change himself if that's why you cheated
If you did t feel guilty you wouldn't be asking
You can’t let a lie become part of the relationship. tell him.
You should tell him, it's his choice whether he chooses to forgive you or not, but seeing as you still love him, can I know why you did it? But overall, even if he dumps you or doesn't you should tell him
Tell him, You were bold enough to cheat, don't get scared now.
I'd say just be honest with him. Then he could decide on whether he wants to continue the relationship or not
Break up with him as you obviously are bored with him
You're the lowest of the low. Well done. Tell him so he can dump you and find someone that has a set of morals.
Hyperbole is seldom useful.
Yes you should tell him and accept the consequences that either he will break up with you or if he does stay, he will have a hard time trusting you.
Why did you cheat? Clearly there's something that's not working out in the relationship so just break up with him. That'll be the best for both of you and he can find someone loyal.
I actually think he should be given the choice on whether or not to continue the relationship since he was the one that was betrayed.
Uh.. at least you're honest.That being said; Scumbag move. Why would you cheat on him?
Even if you don't tell him (Which you should do) he'll find out, one way or another. I don't wanna sound like an asshole, but you obviously don't care about him.
Nope; and if you will never cheat him again, dont tell that to him.
So if you got cheated on, you'd be ok with your partner not telling you. What if she caught something like herpes or aids and didn't know she had it?
@AnnaCavallii I agree with you I totally disagree with his answer... that's really the immature thing to do, this lady owes it to her boyfriend to tell him...
Right? Such a selfish and immature thing to do, if you're bold enough to cheat please have the same energy to tell the truth. I see why he has that username now
That's the right answer. Being cheated on is a humiliating experience. As an act of kindness spare him that. Whether you keep him or dump him.
@Wally48 women can't underarand what i mean :)
If you CHEATED there is no act of kindness, especially covering it up and lying about it. How is that kind? you're way passed being kind here. Only a COWARD creates a bed he's afraid to lay in. BE MEN!! This lady wasn't thinking about being kind when she was bouncing on another's Guys dick! It's not humiliating for him, but for herself.. she's knows this already
You're correct! A WOMAN can't & won't understand what you mean as it is bullshit. A cheating coward will agree with you though. Dont ever have a daughter, you're the type of dad to know her boyfriend is cheating and will let her be blind by it all because you're afraid of her feeling "humiliated"
@AnnaCavallii @xButterflyKisses87xİf you delete completely ur lover from ur heart after a mistake; you will have never a constant lover in ur life.İ never suggest you that cheating is OKAY; but i am trying to tell, "be positive towards mistakes and never lose ur love easily".To me?İf my lover cheat on me physically with another person; İ won't forgive this. But if my lover makes a mistake in our relationship and regretting on it; sure i will forgive her when she convinces me that she will never do similar things...
@AnnaCavallii @xButterflyKisses87xİn society; people must be careful on their reactions not to humiliate anyone. And believe me; these kinds of rude words, reactions never fit on a woman.Just telling...
All of that is irrelevant. If you cheat, Own it.
@AnnaCavallii "If you cheat, Own it." You're absolutely right. And that's why you don't go blubbering back to your partner confessing and looking for forgiveness only to assuage your conscience. That only comes at your partners emotional expense; insult to injury. Your penance is guilt. Either dump him or do better by your partner.
Yeah but it's a pretty good thread.
Can you live with yourself if you dont tell him? Think about that and if you can what kind of person are you? Do you want to be that kind of person?
Tell him so he can dump your cheating ass. Or better yet, leave.
What do you think? Of course you have to let him know, he deserves to know the truth. Than break up and continue your thottery.
He deserves to know regardless of the consequences. If he decides to forgive you or leave you, that's up to him.
You might as well cause if be finds D's out it's over anyway
Bad spell check if he finds out should say
How accidentally coincidental
Yes be honest with him. Hopefully he can deal with it.
You should probably just break up with him. Is there a specific reason you are chatting
Nope it's a long story but i really regret it
sure you do... you shouldn't of in the first place.
So you aren't cheating anymore?
Yeah if you haven't broke up with him, he deserves better than you @Asker
Yea tell him so he can dump your sorry cheatin ass.
Um yes. No offence but you’re kind of an asshole if you’re cheating on him. How would you feel if he did the same?
Are you an idiot?Tell him what you did. Hope he leaves your cheating ass.
Kf you seemyourself with him in the future, yes tell him and figure out why you're cheating. If not, stop toying with the guy and call it off.
Most chicks who do this will only break up with him once she's done using him. So I recommend breaking up with him when he has no use for you anyor like other women do. Don't tell him.
Yeah and break up with him so he can find someone better
Just tell the poor sap, its only gonna make things worse the longer you keep quiet about this.
You did a bitchy thing right there, ofcourse you should lol.
Is that even a question? Of course you should. And then pack your stuff and fuck off. And be sure to never approach him ever again.
Are you really searching your soul here or just bragging about your lack of loyalty, conscience and self control?
Don’t break up with him but tell him if he finds out later he’s gonna be so pissed that’s how murders happen
I think breaking up is best option since he is going to have trust issues.
It's fair you should tell him. He doesn't deserve this
you should tell him and then break up with him, because you clearly dont love him anymore
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