the why is a biggie. no healthy emotionally stable person feels the need unless long neglected and mistreated which wasn't the case here
Or she's juat hoe.
@levantine99 Well we actually don't know anything about the situation, there were no details so we can only assume that's not the case, but it could have been that.And even if that was the case, you'd still wanna figure out why you didn't just set a boundary and leave rather than cheat. There's never an actual excuse for a fuckup like that despite how you might rationalise it to yourself. So I totally agree, figuring out why you fucked up is super important even maybe the most important thing to do cause its a big obstacle to overcome.
This is a bull shit question. I sense this girl is a queen bee trying to stir up controversy for attention. The survey says: tell him. And she picks the two opinions that give her an out to not do the opposite.@sarah009991 Don't ask for advice if you won't listen to it. I suspect there are a number of cheaters in here. This is why you are stuck as outcasts.
And the result and the result will be the same as the first option. So much truth he said it twice for you.
Cheating is never a mistake. You can't accidentally have sex with someone, even if alcohol is involved.
That's the right answer. I don't understand why everyone here is so pious. She's a horny 20yo that fucked up. Made a bad decision and now regrets it. Still loves the guy. Instead of worrying about this shit she should focus on being a better partner to her boyfriend and move on.
This is why you never trust women.
@Wally48 Lol the guy should know. But the first mistake he made I guess was trusting a young women.
minus the z. Should have been a period.
I don't think it's good for your moral fiber to do that. You risk ruining your own future relationships when you start lying. Bite the bullet, rip off the band aid, face the consequences.You are spot on about ruining his future relationships. Especially if he was loyal. And you risk doing just that to a guy by lying or omitting. I've walked in this guy's shoes. And it is NOT fair to leave him in the dark searching aimlessly for what he did wrong, it stunts his personal growth and actually hinders his ability to move on.
@love_conquers_lust I'd say admitting to cheating will stunt him even more. I've seen the damage it does.
I'd much rather know. Truth over feelings. I'm sure that most people would rather know the truth. Besides, if she doesn't tell him that she left because she cheated (something that she did wrong), he might start thinking it's because there is something wrong with him and that is why she left. So for his self-esteem, I think telling him the truth is best anyway.
@lumos you are wrong I'm afraid. I appreciate your intentions are good, but the guys have made a good argument for why it is important to tell him. Otherwise he will be in the dark, confused, not knowing what happened.
He needs to know what women truly are
AND IT NEEDS TO BE DONE!! Your feelings and advised manipulation on this one are not good. This isn't some white lie. This is serious. I won't move on this. I had a bitch cheat on me yet never actually admit it and had to learn years later through the grapevine what she did because she was too big of a coward. And even then, I still have to rely on someone else's word. Which is another problem, would you want someone else filling in the narrative you left void?This is what people talk about when they get pissed off at girls. If you're scared of a violent reaction, go through a medium: friend, text, phone, whatever. Get it off your chest. And you will feel like shit. You'll feel like shit anyway no matter how many mental hurdles you jump through. But at least you can begin healing. It's just cruel what you suggest.
@love_conquers_lust I’m not saying this is the easy way out for her. It isn’t. It’s the easy way out for him. I had a friend who was cheated on. It damaged him greatly. After that, he kept getting into fucked up ”relationships” with women who were unstable. It was never a real relationship because he just couldn’t commit anymore. He was always in limbo with multiple girls and would leave a mess behind him because of the damage his ex had caused. And now we’re closing in on year 10 since it happened, and he’s still single and almost in his 30s.Although I’m sure people would value the truth and yadda yadda, like I said, I’ve seen the impact cheating can have on someone’s self-esteem. It’s not pretty. And if it could have prevented, I’d much rather see my guy friend whole and happy.
could have been*.
@love_conquers_lust not to mention that the confusion and hurt he’ll experience from just being dumped can’t be compared to the massive blow being told he was cheated on is.
Lol that person shouldn't have cheated in the first place. He should know that he's dating someone who isn't loyal.
@TheUglyMan yeah because cheaters go around with a message on their forehead that says "I'm a cheater"? Your opinion is irrelevant, Ugly Man.
Nope I mean the partner of the cheater should know lol.
Lads this is why I tell you to never trust a women. She's never yours it's simply just your turn. Women don't value loyalty.
You are a petite is shot , fuk u you dirty thot , I hope you get pregnant and the dude fucks your mom after
Piece of shit *
@TheUglyMan u act like I told her to keep cheating. Lol she should not tell him. What he don't know won't kill him. Somethings are better left taking to the grave with u. If its not broke don't fix it.
Lol you just further proved my point.
You are a hoe , one day someone will break your heart , you thot
@TheUglyMan men do this all the time
@BrownBratzDoll you are twisted
Good men don’t
Lol cheating isn't right and hiding isn't right either. That will never change sweetheart. Guys I rest my case never trust women.
@dothejohnwall97 I've already gotten pregnant by Satan. Ure too late lol. But LETS BE REALISTIC WE ARE HUMAN WE FUCK UP. SOME TRUTHS CAN FUCK UP SOMETHING SO GOOD. WHAT U DO IS NEVER DO IT AGAIN AND KEEP IT HIDDEN. IF HE doesn't SUSPECT IT WHY TELL? she gone lose all her good benefits WITH ALL THESE SHITTY ASS MEN OUT HERE ITS HARD TO FIND A GOOD. IM NOT TELLING SHIT ESPECIALLY IF IM NOT DOING IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN.
@dothejohnwall97 good men lie too
@TheUglyMan fucking before marriage isn't right either but we do it
Stop Smith this because men do it it's ok. It's not ok you just making yourself look foolish.
👏 good , get fucked over some more you thot. The world needs less people like you
Lol we talking about cheating
@dothejohnwall97 been there done that. Hearts been broken OVER IIIIT! its all apart of life. I'm going to get my prince charming good man one day and he gone be pussy whipped.
Lol I don’t know if “Prince Charming “ wants t fuck a girl who has fucked 1000 men and has every std possibe
Sorry he may not want to wife you
The fact that this opini9n got the most helpful girl should be a clear indication to men to never trust a women.
@TheUglyMan bro it’s facts. Don’t trust these women they will turn and Burn you. Just smash and leave
@dothejohnwall97 I'm awesome why not?
You just said u would cheat and not tell a man, the only thing u will have us men running trains on you. No romance for a thot
You African with no morals lol wow, disgrace
@dothejohnwall97 that's why in my opinion i expose the female tactics when they cheat.
@BrownBratzDollAgreed. I don't understand what the problem is. People have very small, sad worldviews these days.
@Anon-ymous1 the problem with cheating is you've lied to your partner😂
@TheUglyMan doesn't matter we do things we aren't suppose to all the time.
@dothejohnwall97 why are u so bitter? Thats not going to happen lol my filter game really strong. And even if he slips through, i never leave empty handed sooo...😂😂😂😂
It does if you don't take your relationship seriously dont get into one😂
@TheUglyMan i take my serious relationships serious kiddo
He deserves to know... If this happened to me I wouldn't trust them again that anyone is telling the truth, and I can't believe this answer got MHO.. Not tell someone is like lying to them.
@TheUglyMan Dude, look at the poll. A majority of girls don't agree. It's not fair to put them in the same camp because of the actions of a shitty few.
@dothejohnwall97 i have not fucked over a thousand men, i dont have no stds u dumb fuck. And a girl can get an std fucking ONLY ONE GUY, ure an imbecile.
@love_conquers_lust no most women are like this brown chick but she's just honest.
@TheUglyMan Hey, I get it. I fucking hate girls who won't let go of one branch before grabbing a hold of the next. It REALLY makes me want to tell girls who scream for equality to shut their fucking mouths as long as they continue to engage in such dishonorable behavior.
@dothejohnwall97 I've never cheated tho 😂😂😂😂😂 but i can't say it won't ever happen... im human. I've been cheated on tho.
@dothejohnwall97 im black American dumb ass. U liking my profile? I was born and bred in america descendent from the slaves. 😂😂😂😂😂 u are mad or nah? I see u read my ancestry results. Im 89% African 10% european.
@dothejohnwall97 lol @Running a train on me. U are really a wounded dog. U probably the softest man to break down and fall in love 😂😂😂😂 the "bitches ain't shit" mantra dont mean anything.
@BrownBratzDoll I'm pretty sure he was referring to your name. There is no need to devolve this into pedigree or race.
@xButterflyKisses87x no its not. If he never suspects it. Why ruin him like that?
@TheUglyMan question why is your name ugly man?
Seriously? then why cheat on someone in the first place? the same difference by the way
@TheUglyMan whats the female tactic. U haven't exposed anything 😂😂😂 im just honest and REALISTTIC!
@BrownBratzDoll Oops. Thought you were addressing someone else. He was talking about race. No need for that from @dothejohnwall97 .
Because I'm am ugly male
@BrownBratzDoll So do your SOs in your relationships that you take seriously know you feel this way?
@TheUglyMan so is this why you are angry? Do u need a hug?
@love_conquers_lust really think about this question? I would NEVER tell my significant other. That just sounds like im planning to cheat. I've never cheated in my relationships 😂😂😂😂 but u are shooting yourself in the foot admiting something like that. Thats like going to a job interview telling them all the bad things.
@love_conquers_lust love is practically lust 😂😂😂😂 they both activate dopamine. Its PURE attatchment.
@BrownBratzDoll "I've never cheated tho but i can't say it won't ever happen... im human." I've heard that lame excuse before, as if it's you who serves as the authority on what humanity is. Break it off, then move on. Don't backstab. Simple.
@love_conquers_lust why would i ruin our stable relationship BY TELLING HIM SOMETHING HE doesn't EVEN SUSPECT. u sound dumb and unrealistic.
@BrownBratzDoll It doesn't matter, sweetheart. If our SO feels the same way, you're telling me you're okay with them making you look like a fool?I'm afraid you don't know what love is.
@love_conquers_lust im not breaking off a good relationship over a mistake ure smoking crack if u think so😂😂😂😂😂
@BrownBratzDoll Love transcends chemicals and lust. At it's core, it's a choice. Free will. Something a descendant of slaves should appreciate.
@love_conquers_lust im not telling to break his hesrt and ruin our happiness. If IT isn't BROKE DONT FIX IT!
@BrownBratzDoll Then why cheat if you don't want to break his heart. The seed has been sown. I don't care how long it takes to germinate.
@xButterflyKisses87x mistakes happen, people have slip ups. If he doesn't suspect it BURY THE SECRET AND NEVER CHEAT AGAIN. a good man is a good man and some truths dont need to be told.
@BrownBratzDoll Secondly, how happy can you really be if you adulterate like that?
I'm not angry a hug would be good though
@BrownBratzDoll "If he doesn't suspect it BURY THE SECRET AND NEVER CHEAT AGAIN". That's what a homewrecker would say.
@love_conquers_lust i know ignore that statement i was thinking of the actual act in having sex. Having sex with the same person breeds strong attatchment and activates the dopamine at the same level as love. But lust is like being turned on by somebody no attatchment has been made.
@BrownBratzDoll " a good man is a good man and some truths dont need to be told." If he's a good man, why do that to him?I'm done. I'm broaching on harassment here.
@love_conquers_lust At least you have the same belief as me... If my partner cheated and also hid on me, I would be devastated, that he was not man enough, he had no balls to tell me I cheated... BECAUSE in a relationship there is communication, I'd be devastated that he cheated on me also but, at least after the storm cloud passes on I'd move forward to see if I can actually trust him again... But the other party deserves to know not be kept in secret like she is suggesting, plus I feel like along those lines she is suggesting that its okay, (seems that way)
@love_conquers_lust again nobody is perfect. Are u telling me all your relationships were perfect? U think people who are married never hsve slip ups? What dream world are u in? Perfection doesn't exist. This lady feels bad about what she has done and WILL FEEL WORST IF THIS ONE little TRUTH BREAKS A POTENTIALLY AMAZING RELATIONSHIP UP. the fact that she feels bad tells me she loves him. She does not have to tell him. He doesn't suspect it so it NEVER HAPPENED.
@love_conquers_lust i know what love is. But im a REALIST. If my man treats me right and i never suspect anything. Im going to be a happy girlfriend or wife under the guise he is faithful. I may die HAPPY, NEVER KNOWING. Now if i FIND OUT, depending on how deep the rabbit hole goes im leaving or i may stay and work it out. again this shit is real life. What people IDEALY think and what they actually do. Are two different things.
@love_conquers_lust cheating is not always rooted in unhappineds.
Would you care if your husband cheated on you and bluntly hid it from you?
You still African you dumb black nigga. Lol I’m ashamed to be black when I see how low black Americans intelligence is.
You’re a hoe point blank period. Do us all a favour and delete your account and I would say more but we are on the internet
@BrownBratzDoll never mind 😂 you are too ugly to be a hoe I just peeped your picture
@brownbratsdoll no offence tho
@dothejohnwall97 Alright, fucknut. The only one being a n** here is you. I don't care if my account goes down with yours for being a racist asshole.
@love_conquers_lust Saaaaaaay wooooooord brooooooo
@dothejohnwall97 I think you should apologize.
@love_conquers_lust i ain't apologetic. man up lol
@dothejohnwall97 I just did. And gave you some damn good advice.
@love_conquers_lust say word bro
@dothejohnwall97 Try apologizing without ebonics or slang, too. That barrage of insults was too far. You pretty much gave her a reason for believing what she does. Can you see why guys can scare the shit out of girls sometimes, moron?
@xButterflyKisses87x if I don't know or don't suspect I would never know. How can u care about something u don't suspect?
@love_conquers_lust I can’t respect women like her who play guys and cheat guys, it’s not cool. Same way girls don’t respect players
@dothejohnwall97 opinions are like assholes MANY men GAY AND STRAIGHT find me beautiful. One rare opinion of me being ugly don't phase me.
@love_conquers_lust I did say stupid insults that were unnecessary, I’ll admit that
Sure they do...
Your not ugly just chill damn...
@dothejohnwall97 "I can’t respect women like her who play guys and cheat guys, it’s not cool. Same way girls don’t respect players" Okay. I can agree with that. Assuming she does, IF she does.
@love_conquers_lust she clearly implied she does and supports it
Well — Don’t cheat, don’t lie and or hide if I’d you do. Lying about it and hiding it is just as bad as actually cheating you need to understand that or if you even care...: how would you feel if your husband/boyfriend did that to you and you somehow found out? I’d be pissed if I was lied to and he had been hiding it from me.
@xButterflyKisses87x how about not cheating in the first place? Are you a scum bag? Stop justifying when cheating can be acceptable
@dothejohnwall97 You know, it's like, we'll never really know anyway. You generally have to take their word even if they admit it. But that's the check and balance in the golden rule. I'd go so far to say is if she believes if her spouse cheats then he shouldn't tell her, I would impose a double standard and say I wouldn't approve of it for either one of us. So she can hold me to one standard but I'd hold her to another. She'd have to learn to live with that or it's a no-go. That's compromise.
@dothejohnwall97 I’m not saying cheating is good lol... don’t mix up the user names and back off because I agree cheating is bad
@dothejohnwall97 I’m not even accepting that it’s ok
@xButterflyKisses87x but nobody is saying cheating is good. I just think she should cut ties with the guy she cheated with and carry the secret to her grave. What he don't know won't hurt him and u can't fix whats not broke. I a woman living HAPPY with her husband never told him that she fucked her ex while she was engaged one last time. They life is happy. It's better to run a smooth trail.
@TheUglyMan lol at the hug would be good
@dothejohnwall97 I have a 3.7 GPA any many offers to joint honors or accelerated college courses in colour. I'm a strong critical thinker and a realist. Far from low intelligent
@dothejohnwall97 I don't play men who are decent, only dogs get played. U just don't like my method to this situation. ifb u cheated on ure girl and she never suspected it 99% chance u not telling.
cool who cares. i graduated university last year and I just started off earning a decent salary of $70,000 a year at the age of 23. whats your point?
if i cheated on my girl, i would dump her the next day. but again you probably live with ratchet hood ghetto black people are are very uneducated and have no morals. i left the United states to go live in Canada with normal people.
who have* and i would never cheat.
@dothejohnwall97 never say never
@dothejohnwall97 your lying
whatever you say lol. i dont have to prove anything because @ the end of the day, my income is for me.
@dothejohnwall97 I am ugly
@TheUglyMan Im a woman and I HAVE NEVER EVER cheated on my whole fucking lifehow the FUCK do you explain that you nitwit
And @BrownBratzDoll you r slut lets start thereits very clear you have cheated before and ONLY losers cheatreal WOMEN they DONT cheatthey HAVE THE GUT TO BREAK UP you disgust me
@GirlfromSweden97 I never said all women have cheated
@TheUglyMan you said This is why men shouldn't trust women cus women are not loyal. Those r yournwords
@GirlfromSweden97 Not true my words are "Lads this is why I tell you to never trust a women. She's never yours it's simply just your turn. Women don't value loyalty." I never said women can't be loyal. Read properly next time.
@GirlfromSweden97 haters ganna hate
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Sorry he doesn't deserve someone who will cheat on him, once a cheater always a cheater.
Hey whore, yes bitch I condescending to talk to you. I hope he cheats back on you and crushes your sorry ass self like the cockroach that you are, you are one vile POS and I hope he finds out, rest assured he will, aND WHEN HE DOES HE BEATS YOUR SORRY ASS TO WITHIN AN INCH OF YOUR LIFE. aND THEN GET A GANGSTER LIKE ME to hunt down the guy you cheated with, kick his ass, cut his balls and dick off , shove them in his mouth and dump him on your front porch. I hate you and cunts like you. Bitch, I hope you did a slow painful death.
If he's lucky, at a minimum the bitch won't miss whatever life she was sucking out of him and come back to do it again. That's the best he could hope for at this point. If you don't tell him, please, at a minimum, stay away and go find another life to F'k up. I know exactly your type of selfishness. It deserves the worst treatment because you know you're a whore and own it proudly.
This all day
Most cheaters cheat again. It's a vicious cycle.
What a simp
@TheUglyMan Nope. Just telling it like it is. Don't be so insecure, mate; you don't wear it well.
that words is thrown around far too often its lost all meaning
If you did t feel guilty you wouldn't be asking
Nope i still love him
@sarah009991 you don't love him if you cheated... end of story
Hyperbole is seldom useful.
I actually think he should be given the choice on whether or not to continue the relationship since he was the one that was betrayed.
So if you got cheated on, you'd be ok with your partner not telling you. What if she caught something like herpes or aids and didn't know she had it?
@AnnaCavallii I agree with you I totally disagree with his answer... that's really the immature thing to do, this lady owes it to her boyfriend to tell him...
Right? Such a selfish and immature thing to do, if you're bold enough to cheat please have the same energy to tell the truth. I see why he has that username now
That's the right answer. Being cheated on is a humiliating experience. As an act of kindness spare him that. Whether you keep him or dump him.
@Wally48 women can't underarand what i mean :)
If you CHEATED there is no act of kindness, especially covering it up and lying about it. How is that kind? you're way passed being kind here. Only a COWARD creates a bed he's afraid to lay in. BE MEN!! This lady wasn't thinking about being kind when she was bouncing on another's Guys dick! It's not humiliating for him, but for herself.. she's knows this already
You're correct! A WOMAN can't & won't understand what you mean as it is bullshit. A cheating coward will agree with you though. Dont ever have a daughter, you're the type of dad to know her boyfriend is cheating and will let her be blind by it all because you're afraid of her feeling "humiliated"
@AnnaCavallii @xButterflyKisses87xİf you delete completely ur lover from ur heart after a mistake; you will have never a constant lover in ur life.İ never suggest you that cheating is OKAY; but i am trying to tell, "be positive towards mistakes and never lose ur love easily".To me?İf my lover cheat on me physically with another person; İ won't forgive this. But if my lover makes a mistake in our relationship and regretting on it; sure i will forgive her when she convinces me that she will never do similar things...
@AnnaCavallii @xButterflyKisses87xİn society; people must be careful on their reactions not to humiliate anyone. And believe me; these kinds of rude words, reactions never fit on a woman.Just telling...
All of that is irrelevant. If you cheat, Own it.
@AnnaCavallii "If you cheat, Own it." You're absolutely right. And that's why you don't go blubbering back to your partner confessing and looking for forgiveness only to assuage your conscience. That only comes at your partners emotional expense; insult to injury. Your penance is guilt. Either dump him or do better by your partner.
Yeah but it's a pretty good thread.
Nope it's a long story but i really regret it
sure you do... you shouldn't of in the first place.
So you aren't cheating anymore?
Yeah if you haven't broke up with him, he deserves better than you @Asker
Bad spell check if he finds out should say
How accidentally coincidental
She dosent care
@weaponsdude AND HOW DO WE CALL THAT?
Narsacistic personality disorder
You can love someone and still hurt them.
@bente2 than.. you don't love him enough... Sorry but cheating is a choice.. and when you fuck up... the loyalty is gone.
Yes. That I can agree with.
@bente2 hahah, Yeah.. i really hate Guys and Girls who cheat.. it's a lack of respect in my eyes... Hiding it is keeping a extremely sensitive secret from the person who you really love.
No she's not... if she REALLY loved him, she wouldn't cheat. Sensitive my ass... might as well stab the mf'er.