I would always pay, personally. But that's not what I believe 'should' be done. I believe in equality both ways. But I am a hypocrite when it comes to chivalry - I would always want to do the old-fashioned gentlemanly thing.
My girl has always said - which makes perfect sense - that it should be paid by whoever asks the other on a date, because you can't invite someone to something then expect them to pay for it. Makes sense! But I'd still want to pay either way lol.
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I have always paid for the first date, but would be fine if she wanted to split or pay for herself- I just prefer that she tells me in advance.
It really doesn't matter who pays though- should be what they're both comfortable with.
If women wants to lay the foundation for a good relationship she should pay 50%. She should treat it as an investment. Guys need to be treated with respect and their budgets should not go haywire as they have to pay most of the time. Give them a chance to be equals in terms of what they have to pay.
I think that going Dutch on a first date is a good idea. That way, nobody feels like they may be overpaying for somebody else.
Everyone pays for their own shit. Both should invest in the date.
ALWAYS split the bill, or better yet, do something free.
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I always offer to pay but on all my first dates the guy would end up paying. Like my boyfriend said he just feels good paying for a first date. Now that we together we split the bill mostly.
EVERYTHING SHOULD BE SPLIT. Each pay for themselves!
Whoever ask the other person out on the date should be the one to pay for the bill. However, at least for me personally, I always like to pay for the first date. To me, paying for the first date is showing that I am willing to invest time and money into them if a relationship were to come out of the date.
I prefer to pay for our own share of the bill. That way neither of us will feel obligated to see each other again if the date doesn't go too well. If one person pays , and they don't see each other again , the one paying will probably feel used and taken advantage of.
Some people date multiple people. A guy I know, dates a different girl every night lol One person couldn't possible pay for two people on each and every first date lolI feel like the guy should pay for the first date. I also used to think they should pay for others too, but maybe for the others, who ever does the inviting pays. Another idea would be for example the movies, one pays for the tickets the other buys snacks.
I know this might sound bad to some but if its the first date and the guy asked you out they should pay. if it turns into a second date I would consider paying. And if it turns into a relationship pay for dates every other time or whenever you can and they can't. That's how I do it.
Okay why tf is this so important? I really don't get it. At any other time I buy a woman a drink, or lunch, or hold the door, or etc. I am a sexist creep. But this one time introductory offer, this time only, I am allowed to pay and also expected to pay and I am granted a waiver this one time of not being a sexist creep. I really don't understand this stupidity that I continuously hear about. How about you explain it and help me understand.
I won't continue dating a girl if she doesn't pay for at least one of the three very first dates. She isn't that special that I'm going to miss her company if she proves to be a cheapskate that follows what is now considered archaic beliefs where men are obligated to doing this and that while she is free to do whatever she wants.
The rule I usually go by is "the person who made the invite pays". That goes for all social gatherings not just dates.
Both. Its the first date, a trial period. If the guy pays for it all then the girl can just get free food and bail afterwards. Which happens... All the time.
But if both have to put money into it, then it's an investment both have agreed to. This incentivises both to feel equal and not obligated to see one another again if it doesn't work out. Only if one of the two individuals goes out of their way to suggest paying the entire bill should it be expected.Why not split it? Makes it more comfortable for everyone, and noone has to feel like they owe the other person anything
each for their own. we live in an equal society and if you don't wanna establish inequality from the get go, you better pay for yourself... i mean unless you're looking for that guy who sends you to the kitchen to make him a sandwich, in that case let him pay.
Dude it's always going to be the guy, because your always going to be the one to ask her out. And it's been the norm since your great great grand parents. First dates shouldn't break the wallet so who cares. Your always going to pay more in life vs the women. There's sugar daddies but no sugar mommies.
I would say, whoever invited who, can pay. But I really think, both should pay. It's a first date after all, heck maybe go on a date you don't need to pay for anything lol. You don't know if you like each other, if there's a connection. It's sad when let's say the guy keeps going on first dates and always pays. You both work, equal rights! One isn't a princess, and the other isn't a prince. In the end all up to you and the other person.
I can I'm not fussed, split the bill. Some girls have taken me out and got me sloppy drunk, refused to take my money because they don't want to feel emotionally or financially chained to my side, so if I owe the girl money, I can't expect anything in return because I'm the one who has to put out. Interesting role, and psychological mind state. I'm OK with what ever makes a woman comfortable.
I say each person pays for themself.
Why should the guy pay for both?
My girlfriend was the one who offered to pay for herself so I didn't think she was trying to take advantage of me. That showed me she was willing to pay for things instead of expecting someone to pay for her.Whoever asks the person to go with them should go with the intention and expectation to pay. Man or woman. That’s how it is with me. Even now with my boyfriend, if I say “let’s go to a movie,” I make sure I can cover us both.
One person pretends to pull the car around, the other pretends to take a "very urgent" and loud phone call and leaves the restaurant as a courtesy to other diners, and let the house cover your meal. 🎉🎉🎉✔️✔️✔️💯💯👍👍👍👍👍
Whoever asked the other person out. It is rude to ask someone else out on a date but then expect them to pay for you when you did the inviting.
Since men usually do the asking out, women just wait to be "courted" men do most of the paying.If the date is not going well, I'll insist on paying for the meal so I don't feel obligated to the guy at all. Then, I won't probably ever want to date him again.
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