Is it OK to show up at your gfs house uninvited if you have been fighting and she has slowly faded away?

[Redrocket69]

I never showup unannounced. However I HAVE to talk to my girlfriend/ex girlfriend?(I don't even know at this point) We got into a big fight over something right before I left this week for a business trip and during the fight she questioned our "compatibility" (meaning "you can't date me unless you agree to my terms and conditions"We have talked on the phone on a couple of occasions this week. Her words were "you're going to go up there for the week because right now me and you aren't working this isn't working... and when you get back maybe it will be different" I have felt sick to my stomach all week apparently she hasn't officially broke up with me. She wants us to discuss it all and she couldn't promise me we would still be together she said it depends if we can resolve the issue we had argued over. I can tell she isn't making any true effort to text or call me. I can also see she isn't treating me quite the same and she's really upset/questioning our compatibility. I haven't heard from her since we exchanged like 2 texts yesterday morning... and she ignored my text asking her to call me. I know this because I noticed she had been on Facebook messenger so I know she was on her phone and at least saw it. I need to know if she still cares about me and what's going on. Is it out of line for me to just show up if im still unable to get her on the phone by tomorrow?

[Temmec714]

depends how long you’ve been dating to just show up...

Sounds like either a. She’s tryin to control you.. by making her agree to this, this and that

B. She’s genuinely unhappy

Or

c. She doesn’t trust you going away for a week and is making a big scene

What you think it is?

[Redrocket69]

She thinks we migjt not be compatible because she's bipolar and I don't walk on eggshells around her

[whatthehellwasthat]

It would really anger me if I made a point to avoid someone and they just showed up at my home. If you ambush her, she's going to get put in a bad mood, not want to talk, and probably get defensive. She needs to want to work things out. Let her meet you half way.

[Redrocket69]

We've been talking (not as much as we used to) but the last text or call I've had from her was yesterday morning.

[whatthehellwasthat]

Ah, okay. Yeah, id think thats fine then.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Just break up already this is the 4th question you have asked regarding her !

[Redrocket69]

No... there's no such thing as a relationship that doesn't take effort

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Fair enough , then step back from the internet take a breather , think of what went wrong and how you can word things to your girlfriend so you can attempt to mend things. Just don’t bombard us with 4 questions

[Redrocket69]

Ill post as much as i fucking want

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

It makes it hard to give advice that helps

[Anonymous]

Ducks, dogs and donkeys.

[LeeKenz]

Depends on how long you’ve been dating

[Redrocket69]

3 months

[LeeKenz]

I’d say that’s long enough