Why would she play hard to get after first date sex?

Question

Met a girl on Monday. Got her number. Texted her that night. Set a date for Saturday. Had some drinks. Searched for hotels but they wouldn’t let us in because it was 2:00 AM. So did it in my car. And then drove her to her car. Kissed a little and she said we will see each other again. Then parted.

I wasn’t gonna texted her but friends told me she’ll feel used if I didn’t. So texted her 5 days later on Thursday night. I was very busy too. Just texted her name. She send me a reply the day after around 2:00 pm.

She still texts the same as we were texting before the sex but it take ages for a reply. Sometimes 9 hours. I don’t ask about her day or anything just handling logistics and giving her specific date and time when I’m free.

I never double text or call her out on it but I also reply hours later. Not as long as she does but for my doing long. I answered twice now after she replied hours later or a the day after.

Friday night 12:00 am we did had a quick back and forth texting like 3 texts her and me. She did reply within minutes. Then I replied after ten minutes, she went silent. Texted me the day after again.

First two answers I gave after a long wait, was out of courtesy but if I reply again after a long wait she lose every interest in me or think I’m easy.

Isn’t a little too late for her to play hard to get after first date sex? Or is she not interested? Or is she testing me if I’m needy, creepy, desperate or whatever. She’s 21 and I’m older.

Answer 1

hahahmm | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Some women are more shy in messages than in person. Also the guy is often expected to lead in my generation so maybe your girl is old fashioned. She would probably do almost anything you want in person. Just does not want to chit chat about it yet. When she trusts you more that’d be less of an issue.

Answer 2

SC4321 | 139 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I think both of you are too old to be playing these stupid hot and cold games over text. Talk in person and see what each other wants. If you want to be together, cut the games and be together. If you dont, then break it off and go your separate ways.

Johnny110

+1 y
I agree with you. I wasn’t expecting this. After the sex everything changed. Or she’s mad that I didn’t call her sooner or she’s not interested anymore or whatever. I would much rather she told me that but based on past experiences girls don’t tend to do that
SC4321

+1 y
I mean yeah you probably should have called or texted her sooner than 5 days, but still these are like high school dating kind of games that are going on between you. You should ask to see her in person and talk it out.

Answer 3

Johnny110

I agree with you. I wasn’t expecting this. After the sex everything changed. Or she’s mad that I didn’t call her sooner or she’s not interested anymore or whatever. I would much rather she told me that but based on past experiences girls don’t tend to do that

Answer 4

SC4321

I mean yeah you probably should have called or texted her sooner than 5 days, but still these are like high school dating kind of games that are going on between you. You should ask to see her in person and talk it out.

Answer 5

Neelie1271

Xper 1

Everything is wrong and immature. I'm not surprised she' can't connect with you at any level.

Answer 6

valualty

Explorer

People talking in her ear

Johnny110

+1 y
What does that mean?
valualty

+1 y
That means she might be influenced by what friends tell her. Girls for you
Johnny110

+1 y
Like that you mean, okay.