How many dates until you become exclusive?

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FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

There isn't a timing to dates but there is definitely a timing on how long we're dating. I can find myself going on numerous dates with someone but learning nothing from them or missing the key signs that i need to pick up before it's exclusive. I have to know that he's serious and when he pops the serious questions about relationships and commitment than it'll take me some time to consider depending on his actions and how the situation plays out.

MlleCake · Accepted Answer

You don't become exclusive until you discuss it and both agree to it, no matter how few or many dates you've had. Assuming it's exclusive is not very wise. Discussing things and getting on the same page is where it's at.

PrincessPie · Accepted Answer

For me it completely depends on how i feel, and how they feel i'm happy after 3-4 dates if i feel like chemistry is there and its going well.

Julius1933 · Accepted Answer

Anywhere between 3 and 1000 dates. There no mathematical formula. When you both arrive at the point where you don't have a desire to see other people, then you become exclusive. If you have a desire to date someone other than that person, don't tell them you'll be exclusive, because it would be a lie for you.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I have decided that I want to be exclusive with a lady several times after three dates, but that is not an absolute rule. I know that I want to be exclusive when I stop bothering to check whether I have received any messages on my online dating accounts.

Logorithim · Answer

I've always known pretty quickly that I've wanted to go exclusive with her (when I have wanted to), even the one I originally met online. Sometimes you just know and the chemistry is really there.

StrangerByTheDay · Answer

As matter of fact I have never counted, but you start being exclusive the moment you pour your hearts out to each other.
In my own opinion I may say seven dates or more.
less than seven dates frankly a couple could still be getting to know each other, thus on the edge of being exclusive, it could wave one way or another.
Personally I don't count the days, but have never been exclusive with someone I have seen for a period of time that is less than few months.
Am going to use my mathematical logic here, just for fun and give my answer:
10 + 3 = 13 / 2 = 6.5 ~ 7
Math says 7, but when it comes to emotional stuff, Math is dumb.
So my answer is:
More Than 10

GoodManDave · Answer

I would say 3-5, but it really is kind of open.

I think that if both of you are mature enough to have the "where is this going?" conversation, then that might be the time it becomes more "official" - whenever that is.

If you're going on two months and no one has brought it up, then it's not time to be exclusive. And it's best just to not get too emotionally invested in it. To me, that would feel pointless. I'd feel like I was "stringing her along," or that she wasn't interested if she wasn't interested in taking it to the next level... but that's me.

aicarg · Answer

It depends on how the dates go and what type of dates they are as well as the chemistry that's then built between us. If it's a one on one, if it's a group date, if it's a date where he introduces me to his friends, if it's an intimate date where things get quickly steamed up, if it's a date with little vs. no interaction... all make a difference. I usually get a vibe after the 3rd date in knowing how things are going.

newbie2015 · Answer

Depends on the person. I do make a statement that i don't sleep with mulriple people and i expect that in return. But that is different then exclusivity. My ex husband expected it within 2 weeks. My current boyfriend and I have never had the talk though I'm certain we are exclusive. Some men I've dated months without exclusivity. I will say i would be turned off by a man who asked sooner then a month, because he wouldn't really know me.

KenM9215 · Answer

honestly, for me its always been 3 dates for sure, but two out of the three of my exes were pretty much lock and key by the first date. Personally I would say three dates is a good number, especially if they have been spread out throughout the month. It's a good indicator this person is willing to make time for you and wants to spend more time with you, at least in my eyes.

rezasameie · Answer

I've had it where on the first date we decided to be exclusive, and also have had it where we dated for 3 months before deciding to be exclusive. I'm super picky so by the time I decide I'll go on a date with a girl, I'll know.

Another thing to add to this is that both sides dont always have to be exclusive. Sometimes one person will decide they like someone and they win them over in time. I've seen that happen too

ranonamousNZ · Answer

Hard to answer but I'd say about 3 or 4 , because by then we might already be doing things that couples only do like holding hands, hugging and all that stuff etc. . . By that point u can usually be sure it's done deal, but I'd still pop the question to be 100 percent sure.

TuMeManques · Answer

Unless there's a clear discussion about being exclusive I don't consider it an exclusive relationship. I'd hope around 5ish dates.

GnarCute · Answer

1 date, To get to know what your basic likes are
2 dates to show you what im like
4 dates to get to know you a little more
5 to get to show you more of me
6 to get to know you intimately
7 to lock the key in, ;3c i've found me a partner

ScaryCool · Answer

Exclusive like ill stop talking to other people in dating prospects? Probably 2-3.
I don't want to lead anyone on long and I'd rather give my all to the person I've been going on the series if dates with.

Pamina · Answer

Who would actually decide something like that by number of dates? I mean come on, seriously?

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

After knowing each other for about a month or so, if they still aren't sure about being exclusive by then kick to the curb and move on to the next one.

Monnie312 · Answer

It really depends on the relationship. It should feel right, not depend on an amount of dates. Yes, only dating the one person would be preferable after let's say 3 dates or so, as you would clearly like each other more and have seriously been on multiple dates

brendon76 · Answer

I think it depends on the girl and the relationship. If you are talking to the person everyday and go out on a couple dates and everything just clicks you can become exclusive pretty quickly. But sometimes it takes a little longer to get to know someone and then it would be more dates in maybe the 5-10 range. I think if you’ve been on 10 dates and does feel like being exclusive it probably never will be. But that’s just my opinion and what works for me.

notpc95 · Answer

1. I learned it from Lifetime Movie Network Movies. You see... I'm "ruggedly handsome, with a mysterious past!" I take her out on only 1 date, on my rented yacht. Then after a few weeks... I start making the creepy midnight calls, just heavily breathing on the line!!😒😒then I key her car while she's at work, because she's getting suspicious!😡😡At the end... she knows I'm Psycho Sam by now... so I chase her through her house!😠😠😠but strategically placed throughout the house are a cast iron skillet, and cordless drill😮😮as I turn the corner, she bonks me on the head with the skillet!😠😠As I try to give chase, she drills me through the leg!😩😩😩as she runs for the front door to escape, I hobble after her, howling "Agggh! You biiiittchh!!! COME BACK HERE!!"😖😖😖But she opens the front door-and now I'm busted. Literally and figuratively. So... only 1 date. That's all it takes. Then the psychosis spreads!

vishna · Answer

3 dates usually, and maybe 5 dates if I was talking to 2 people at once. Then I will cut it off within 3 weeks with one of them.

jcoldstream · Answer

Despite being married, I don't do exclusivity. There is always a chance that you might meet a guy and enjoy some good sex. Same for hubby, of course. I'm not a possessive woman.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Depends on when you a conversation about it. You can be casually dating someone over a prolonged period with no expectation of exclusivity, or you can have a conversation very early on. It's about what works for the two of you.

OjosOscuros2 · Answer

I feel like you should know by the second. But then again I don’t like wasting time.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

It's no less than five dates for me to get a clearer picture of my life with a guy if I wasn't sure early on.

YangBH · Answer

I think it all depends on the first date.. U will know on that very moment if u have a thing. Anyay, u wouldn't wanna go for second if u didn't get along at first.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I think after three dates you should know if you want to be exclusive or not.

Hidden_P · Answer

I voted 3 because I’m not the type to date multiple at the same time. Even the early stage. I’m honest with everyone.

Torex · Answer

I feel like one is doing something wrong if it takes more than 5 dates to become exclusive. (assuming they aren't openly having a non exclusive relationship)

LeftMark9 · Answer

I don't think its a number, but maybe like 4-5.  Its usually when one of us brings up that they don't want to sleep with anyone else.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

It depends on the conversation between the two of you of "are we exclusive now?" and both sides saying "yes." It has nothing to do with the literal number of dates. No vote.

AynonOMouse · Answer

If after 3 dates someone doesn't know if there is long term potential I think they aren't dating correctly. And once I think there is long term potential I wouldn't even be considering anyone else.
I think after 3 dates, either it is exclusive or end it. Don't waste time leading someone on.

Synttacks · Answer

2-5 so I put three. I would say after/during the second date it could be brought up if there is a good spark. If you're not exclusive by the end of the fifth date you probably shouldn't be dating that person or anyone for a while, with the intention of a relationship anyway. Obviously there may be exceptions like long term friends staring before an actual date or something happened and you're not sure about them so you need a bit of extra time to make sure.

acooke-13 · Answer

I'd probably say 6 or 7, depending on how they went and how I felt.

Jxy95 · Answer

I don't have a number for it, just whenever it feels right I guess

beast12101 · Answer

I can’t even get a date. I have a 💯 % rejection rate

JayMichigan616 · Answer

You don't become exclusive until you have that conversation & you both decide that's what u want. If you haven't discussed it then you're not exclusive & you can't be mad if you find out there are others.

AnimalFanatic · Answer

My current boyfriend only took us 3 dates to be exclusive. It's been nearly 6 months and i love him more than anything :D

MonaLee · Answer

Usually 3... as you are dating a guy you are really interested into

cth96190 · Answer

I do not want to put any number on that question. Every situation is different. Take every situation on its merits and do what is in your heart.

Lostranza · Answer

I think at 3 dates is when people should become exclusive but at most 5 dates.

Moonchild714 · Answer

It varies based on chemistry and Interests but at least ten dates.

BlackWidow93 · Answer

As soon as you know you want this person to be a part of your life, even if it's for 6 months or 6 years.

WildButterfly · Answer

It's not based on the number of dates for me. It's more about having a connection with that person.

CHARismatic110 · Answer

I feel like the number of dates doesn't really decide it, but if I'm choosing, then maybe by date 5? It still needs to actually be discussed tho, and not assumed. Both parties should be on the same page.

Zly_Ass_Hippy · Answer

No number of dates just kinda whenever the vibe feels right

Comawhite666 · Answer

1st date with my boyfriend~ we weren't talking to anyone else at the time and were really really into each other and had been talking for over a month before we met and we instantly clicked in person :)

Decentguy · Answer

None, we are in a LDR, but i am gonna meet her this year

LittleSally · Answer

As soon as possible - if we both feel it - which we should if we're already on a third date... If it isn't exclusive - it shouldn't exist - in my opinion.

bellybuttonlint · Answer

I'd say 3 is a good number... but I could go with 3-5.

Roseyred96 · Answer

It really depends on how you connect with the person but I think 5 is a good number

LegateLanius · Answer

Depends how we connect. It's not a set number. I've had four lousy dates. We didn't connect. Twice was my end, twice was their end.

BruceJender · Answer

I tend to wait till the girl I’m dating wants to make it exclusive. Till then I focus on enjoying our dates.

lostsaint · Answer

Glad you said exclusive instead of inclusive but you didn't leave a poll for 1 Date.. since it doesn't matter after 1 date

jjhonn · Answer

As many as it takes. Its not a numbers thing, it is a matter of when both people decide that it is what they want.

Browneye57 · Answer

Some simply do not recognize 'exclusive'. Google 'hypergamy' and 'fuk-boyz'.  :)

Logan-5 · Answer

All it takes is one and I've got my next project. I am compulsively loyal.

BaileyisDarcy · Answer

I dont date. But we're generally (to me) exclusive unless discussed otherwise from day dot.

englisc · Answer

If I like someone after the first date I stop talking to others.

Prankster13 · Answer

Oh my bad... I thought once the dates begin you are assuming to be dating them. Until the dating stops. I didn't realize there was a magic number..

asktoashu21 · Answer

Because I need to no how i really feel about her...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If you're undecided after the 3rd date then he or she isn't for you. Move on.

findingdreamland-1 · Answer

As many dates I can go. I think up to being exclusive it is a very fun. I always enjoy dating flirting..

MsShahad · Answer

I think that after three dates its pretty obvious that both of you are more than intrigued by one another

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