In my own honest opinion it is none of people's business if I post a picture with my SO or not. For instance, if you are having a vacation or at a special event together, the moment and event is worth having it captured for what that particular time is important, then you can post it if you both see as good profile picture material. You can also not post anything at all either. Personally, I rarely post pictures, and if my SO feels the need to post a picture of both of us in the "Virtual World" then would be glad to let her snap a nice one and post it. Society is changing and people are getting more obsessed with "Virtual Approval" on everything, and this is one of the reasons I have deactivated facebook and many other online social network accounts.
If I may ask: WHY is it important for somebody to post a picture with their SO on social media? If it is important to you, then WHY? (just out of curiosity) Is it because you want to show off? Is it because you need approval from virtual people and robots?
For me, it doesn't matter if you post or not, but it does matter the reason why you want to post it! If my future SO/wife wants to post a picture of us together, then I would be glad to, but not my priority at all, for the simple fact that it is only Online Social Network, Virtual World, Virtual People, etc...
Hard to say. To me, it's not important. I wouldn't want them on. But them I'm a bit skittish about what information gets out there. I hate "checking in" to physical places, (I don't want everyone knowing where I am at the moment) and try to keep my stuff fairly private. I use a stage name or alias. I think of it as mostly being "for business" so I don't generally talk about private stuff.
I don't need to brag about any girlfriend (unless she did something I think was amazing, like won some huge award or something). I may not hide the status, exactly... but I would not want everyone knowing who she was, when we started dating, and if we broke up, or why... people don't need to know. I don't need that out there. So for the most part, I wouldn't.
Whether it's someone I've dated, or only a client, many of them have been a bit paranoid about their info (sometimes pictures of them, but not always) being online. And I do my best to respect their wishes. I have a mom who is obsessive about not being on camera, to the point of it being ridiculous, but I grew up with that, so I try to be respectful.
With my last boyfriend, I felt a NEED to have us post photos. It was really important to me. However, looking back at it, the relationship was unhealthy and I didn’t trust him (which I had a right to, because, he was cheating). I thought posting a photo would solve everything. Maybe it would have made cheating harder, but, probably not. Some people don’t care, or respect relationships. But, with the guy I am dating now, I don’t feel the need to do that. In the future, I’ll probably post a photo with him because I like showing off and gassing up my mans!
It wouldn’t make sense coz I caught you on the fact that it was you who cheated in the relationship. Ignore it , it’s alright , but we all know the truth calix
Hehe. Alright m done with the making you angry part. Cool temperament you’ve got calixx. Maybe that’s what you’ve learnt from the past and hence you’re applying it in this new relationship and it’s doing wonders.
If they are active on social media, then yes its important, you are a part of their lives and social media is a representation of their life. The last person who refused who put anything about me on social media was messaging girls on the side and wanted to appear single. When i requested after 8 months that we update our staus to in a relationship he defriended me. If someone wanted me in their life but didn't want me on their social media, i would just say goodbye as they are clearly hiding somthing.
It's not that important, to me it isn't. When I was with my ex I only posted 1 photo of us and that was only because my dog was acting jealous and it was cute so I took a photo to show how he acts. I really don't see the big deal and I don't understand when someone gets mad and wants to end it if their S/O doesn't post photos of them. People on social media doesn't have to know. I trust him enough to believe that he tell random girls that he's taken and he trusts me as well to believe the same.
I don't want people to know who I'm dating cause if they find out - they might think he dated a girl not as hot as him and that he would be easy to steal away. I am also worried his best friend will get jealous and try to steal him away. She is very close to him so I don't think its right to end their friendship or ask him to stop talking to her but it makes me wonder if he will want to replace me with her one day.
Every now and then, is good, if they literally didn't want me to post a picture of them (and we were both users of social media) i would think something was up, sure if they don't use it, but if they're someone who puts there lives online of places they've been etc.. i'd find it strange and a cause for alarm.
In my case, I completely go against the obligation of posting anything related to personal time and space anywhere. Assuming by your answer, you'd be okay if someone with my perspective would say no to posting (not an excuse for refusing to take photos).
In my social media pages I have nothing available besides profile picture, some common personal information (name, age, city, ...), and random posts. Not one photo or text there shows where I've been, what I've done, nor with whom.
But of course, that's me. Would you accept if someone refused posting after saying that? I've had some encounters were women even feel offended that I don't "brag" to others I know nothing about, about being with said women.
I've never got myself around to accept that of even try to. But then, I actually enjoy being single, so that might be part of it
If a person I am with ties our relationship into social media, I am ending the relationship. In other words, if the person I am with badgers me about making our relationship social media official, we are done.
I am not big on social media at all. When I tell people this, they say that's rare for a 27 year old not to be into social media. It's just not important to me at all.
When I used to have social media, I used to get mad and jealous of people and it used to make me harbor negative feelings towards people.
-If someone unfriended me without saying why, I got annoyed. -If friend in the same circle as my other friends added everyone except for me on social media, I would get annoyed. -If I posted something cool, but only a couple people liked it, I would get annoyed. -If a friend of mine posted something similar to me and they got a whole bunch of likes, I would get annoyed.
When I used social media, I felt like it was a competition to get the most friends and most likes, or else you are irrelevant. I know I am not the only one who has had similar feelings like me.
Anyway... I don't bother with social media anymore. I still have a Facebook... and I sometimes post a recent image of me once a year, but that's about it.
However... back to the main question. It's not important. I just don't feel a relationship should be defined my social media. Besides, the whole world doesn't need to know you're dating. Keep your relationship to yourself and be happy.
My boyfriend doesn't have fb or insta so I don't see the problem here. I do post our photos occasionally just to let people know that I am in a relationship. I have seen some people bragging about their love life which is unnecessary to me. From my experience, these people are not as happy as how they portray themselves.
I don't think its important because some people don't even have social media (like my bf) so I just really see the point in posting pictures. And I feel a lot of the time its not posting it out of love its often just showing off I feel. A way to show everyone how happy they are in their relationship. Looking at my facebook, you wouldn't even know I had a boyfriend, but does not mean I don't love him. We'd just rather our relationship wasn't all over the internet.
You can every now and then if you want to, but technically, the more pictures you post of each other on social media, for others to see, shows you and others that you’re having a hard time with your relationship. Usually it’s stability wise, you post more for others to see that things are doing well, and for you to also convince yourself that things are doing well in the relationship, even tho they might not be.
I’m really not into social media platforms like Facebook and what not. I’m not even that into Instagram but if we are in a relationship there will be a pic of us doing something fun. No Pda.
Even my Facebook account get updates of pics from a trip with a SO.
Sadly if it isn’t on social media it isn’t official.
No, I hate those pics. It's one thing if you're married or living together but just dating and putting random pics up is stupid. You're only going to post them when things are great, not when you two are going through a rough patch. So you put all these pics up and then suddenly there's nothing, everyone knows, their done but someone will ask publicly...
Doesn't matter. It would be nice if you're out on a date or whatever and take one to add to an album of memories or something, but it doesn't have to be taken JUST for FB. No one cares about our lives as they're busy with their own like they should be.
It's very important every once in a awhile. Based on my experience, my ex-boyfriend would post pics of his ex-girlfriend when they were still dating, but when we went out, he never did. Sounds strange doesn't it? In the end, he left me for the same ex-girlfriend. I was just someone he was using the whole time.
dude that really doesn't matter. My ex didn't want me to post her pic at first because she didn't want creepy dudes to look at her but then she wanted me to do it because she was fully committed to our relationship. But at the end, it really doesn't matter, at least don't lie when somebody asks if you got a partner or not
I don't know of it's necessary. But if she does it usually means I will pay more attention to you. Let me say this too. Lots of women like to do it. They like being looked at and the good compliments they get. I have come across a couple that without me asking they love sending pictures. Some were the most graphic nudes I've seen. They really got off on me seeing them
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I chose "doesn't Matter" because personally i don't care if they post on social media, i mean our photo's are everywhere as our Profile Pictures on 90% of the sites we use.
I post every now and then on facebook when i feel like it because i want to how do you say "be cute" on facebook because we hardly use it and it is a form of posting something to keep active, otherwise if it anywhere else i ask him permission when we are together (we are in a Long Distance Relationship) and we know where we stand with one another and honestly as long as the love between us is true, i honestly don't care about posing online otherwise in a creepy obsessive sort of way meaning the daily posts where it's for example 7 paragraphs
I don't think it's necessary to show how both of you are doing in the relationship especially when you are assured of him/her. However, it would be useful to post once in a while (like during special occasions) so that some of your friends/family could be updated.
It doesn’t matter cuz u might want to keep ur relationship with ur partner private from people (maybe except for your family and friends). Otherwise people would snoop in your private life, create drama and rumours, and many more. U don’t need to show off ur relationship with ur partner in social media
It isn't important. We've been together for sixteen years. I have photos of the two of us on my phone and my friends have photos of us together but there are no photos of us together on my social media.
My husbands friend showed no sign of being married on facebook, he was trying to look like a single man. I think it's nice every now and then to post something of the two of you together.
I felt like very important but there is a lot saying it does not matter. I'd aim to say that if you love someone you will let people on social media know you are dating and what your date looks like. It seems like common sense to me
Yes. You have to make them feel like they're part of your life, and that means and part of you.
I'm not big on Facebook, and I don't have a lot of pictures of my girl, but she has non of me...
Now that I think about it... What the fuck?
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Honestly, my boyfriend post more pictures of me than I post of him on IG. But that's probably because he post more content and more frequently than I do. (I usually post a selfie now and then and posts for my family or friend's bday, i. e. not as much as I used to). It personally doesn't upset me one way or the other but it's something my boyfriend will mention once in a while. Guessing he finds it weird but I usually don't post much pictures in general anymore.
There's no law saying that I'm supposed to upload a pic with my girl, wife or whatsoever. It's a matter of choice, but the real truth is that the happiness loves silence, the more silent we are the more love we might be able to get.
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