Are you for or against putting photos of yourself and your partner on social media?

[coachTanthony]

I am for

I am against

[Cynicaldreamer]

Seems like attention seeking to me-

Remember when people didn't put their entire lives online? I do. Nothing against it, or putting the occasional picture of your partner/spouse online for special occasions. But those that feel you -have- to have a picture of your partner with you as a way to let everyone know you're in a relationship or taken? You're trying too hard or just looking for attention.

And what if your partner doesn't like pictures or being on social media? I know I'm one of those people that hates pictures, so if a guy dated me and asked to put my picture online, I'd probably say no or ask he not do it without a good reason.

Before social media, people knew you were in a relationship because you TOLD them or they asked. Just saying. That's not something that's exactly important in a relationship.

[sheikalana]

The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it on social media. Your relationship like other details of your private life are to remain private. When you start exposing your life like that on social media it rarely ends well. I'm not telling anyone to hide that they're in a relationship but don't brag about it and don't show it off. There's a lot of jealous people out there.

[NathanDavis]

would make no difference to me

but I don't have social media... and none of my exes had it either or they had it but didn't really use it

however, we were all over the media of other friends and family... pictures, post and stuff, either together or individually, this is something I never cared about

[AviatorTom]

I don't understand why people put all the crap they do on social media. Do we really care that you're sipping drinks on a beach in the Caribbean? Or that your dog is chasing a ball? Or... <add your own> ...

[Dinklex3]

I’m pretty private about the people I date. I personally, don’t like posting pictures or letting everyone on FB know who I’m dating. Especially with the guy I’m with now. Idc if he posts photos, but I’m not.

Im not really against it, I just don’t tell a bunch of people who I’m dating.

[petitedollbabee]

I have no bad feelings towards people who choose to do it. But I’ve never been big on it. I make it clear on my social media’s that I’m in a relationship, but I don’t post photos of him or of us together, I like to keep that private. I don’t feel a need to share my relationship with the world.

[HighValue]

If they post pictures of themselves on social media, they should include one with their SO too, unless they are pretending they are single to try to cheat or looking for someone better. Either delete social media when in a relationship, or post a picture showing that they are unavailable.

[Hardshell1234]

So being in a relationship becomes your identity? We are separate people outside of our partnerships…

[HighValue]

Social media is mostly for people to cheat. If they don't have anything to show that they are taken, they are likely flirting with others and trying to find someone else. If their social media is public and they post pictures of themselves, it is usually for attention from others. Cheaters often want social media accounts and don't want people to know they are taken.
So it would make sense for the majority of women to not show their partner, because the majority of women cheat.

If she says she is too private to post them together, she is obviously LYING because if she actually was a private person, she wouldn't post herself or things about her life on social media in the first place.

[Hardshell1234]

Oof that’s a strong reaction. I’m not saying you are totally wrong but plenty of women don’t need to flaunt their man on social media to feel or act secure. The majority of women cheat? Cite your sources, please.

[HighValue]

Living in CA for 37 year while working with mostly women in education. Plus online many married women messaging me frequently when I had public social media (which I deleted), and dating sites devoted to cheating wives. I don't recall what sites had some of the studies and surveys, but a significantly more amount of American women have cheated compared to men. Plus, in the past when I did go through the effort to find and link resources on G@G that made women look bad, it just gets reported and deleted so there is no point on this site anymore. Some of the mods are sexist against men and racist against Whites too.

There is a difference between flaunting something, and making a single post to show they are unavailable. Most men would happily delete their social media if the woman would too, but most women won't because they frequently seek attention from others. That is the same reason why many women wear provocative/revealing clothes in public that they don't wear when staying home. It isn't for themselves or they would also do it at home, it is for attention from others.

[Hardshell1234]

Wow. Okay. Why do you think women cheat? I’m genuinely curious. What drives us to do it?

[HighValue]

Speaking about the ones that I have personally known IRL (that I worked with in schools) it has often been for getting something free from the other guys (food, drinks, clothes, and vacation trips), and because they like the thrill of doing something they shouldn't do, sneaking around, and getting away with it for a while. Some of them get bored with their current life because when things go well for too long and there isn't conflict in their relationship (lack of drama) they tend to create it themselves.
Another reason is that many of them have public social media, which they post pictures of themselves on, but not of them with their mate/SO, where other people contact them and they don't have enough self discipline to not be tempted.

In my opinion, if people first thought about what they have in a relationship, what it brings to their life that is good, and thought about possible consequences of their actions, plus removed the temptations, especially social media since many can't handle that, they wouldn't make those bad decisions nearly as often and have a happier life in the long run.
But I also think that most people don't want solutions, they just want to do anything they want in life and then are surprised when there are consequences for their actions.

Don't get me wrong though, even if women do cheat more in the USA, some men do cheat too. I think their reasons are different though. A lot of the men that cheat are the type that participated in casual sex in their past so they never cared to be loyal to anyone. Other ones that cheat do it when their options increase, which is often tied to them having an increase in financial means because that often increases the number of potential partners.

[jahaims]

We only have family and close friends on social media. When we share family pictures it is the same idea as sending out post cards. People you care about and care about you can keep up with what is going on to a certain extent without having to individually contact everyone.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I don't go on what people class as typical social media platforms.. Just here and You tube but no I wouldn't post pics because there is a sickness in this world.
Just last night for example. A terminally ill boy has a van equipped for all his urgent medical needs. It was stolen. Police were pleading for it to be returned.
The world has some evil twisted people in it, and I have no intention of giving them reason to target me!

[Little_Bumblebee]

It's not like I'm standing on the streets with a sign saying I'm against posting couple photos on social media.

I'm just not the sort of person who posts personal things on Facebook or Instagram for others to see. And so I don't really feel like posting couple photos either.

[more_than_a_guy]

For, to a certain degree, no absolute yes or no. Just because someone does it, doesn't mean it's for attention seeking. Also it depends how often you do this. If it's when you have special occasions like a cool trip and you post yourselves in a cool place, go ahead. If you post cheesy touchy too much and on daily basis, so it's weird.

[JacobJordan]

Pictures of me exist but not online. There are no pictures of me online, on other people's phones, I have still never ended up in a photo by accident. Have had friends try and sneak pictures of me and fail and they still don't understand how I know when someone is trying.

[HawkPerception]

The most successful relationships are kept private without the judgment of others. I do keep my Instagram as basically a photo album of myself, but I think I'd only post pictures of the girl I marry and know I'll spend my life with. Other than that, no I don't think your love life should be broadcasted to the world.

[electromagnetic]

I don’t have social media but my partner does post us on his. I don’t mind. But we mutually agreed our kids won’t be posted.

[Anonymous]

I don’t put a lot. For two reasons a) I don’t need to brag about it. B) I’m actually unsure of my future with him so I don’t want to create a false narrative c) people who do put up constant photos tend to be overcompensating

[Opinion Owner]

I guess that’s 3. Haha

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'm fine with like fun selfies, but they don't have to be posted online.

[bobby_bush_eater]

I wouldn't say I'm against but I am entirely against frequent posting or look how happy we are every week posts. Once in a while on a celebrated occasion, sure it's fine

[Miristheiss]

I am not into my partner being big into social media.

[andreasderjuengere]

Isn't it unsocial media, rather?
I find it pointless to run a personalized billboard.
Those who want to know about me can ask directly.

[worldscolide]

My wife and I have a very limited social media presence. You won't find many pictures of us.. And it's because we are very private people.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

100% against. Social media doesn't need to know a damn thing about me and my girl.

She can post pictures of herself on her account but not me in the photo.

[Nikki1989]

We made a point of having NO social media at all.

[TacosRAwesome]

For. As long as I'm looking good. My ex used to post a lot of photos and I look like shit in too many of them.

[laly520]

we dont share anything online or use social media to post personal life