Has a friend of the same sex ever made a move on you?

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I was drinking with my best friend and she said she wants to try kissing a girls for ones. Later she leaned in for a kiss but I turned away. I'm sure it was just the Alkohol talking

StrangerByTheDay · Accepted Answer

Actually it has never happened to me personally, but I recall one time a female friend of mine, real close one, tried to flirt with another female friend of ours. We were having a night out to celebrate the end of the semester, as a group of class mates, and my friend started talking to me about that other friend with a blushing face. She did not have much to drink so it was not the effect of alcohol, and she kind of came out and told me she was a bi romantic person and have never tried to physically kiss a girl. Long story short, she stood right behind her and poked her on the shoulder. As soon as the other friend turned to face her she just planted a sweet gentle innocent kiss on her lips.
I was shocked and surprised she did it in front of everybody.
It did not end badly, because that other friend appreciated her honesty and how decent it was, but told her she was straight. I think they became closer as friends or sisters since then.

My advice to you dear, whatever the reason was, alcohol or not, you can always let it out of your chest, both of you, and just be honest. Who knows, maybe it will bring you closer together as friends or sisters just like it did to my friends?

It is hard for a person who is not straight to come out as for there are people who will have hard times accepting it, and imagine how she will be feeling in case her real friend, YOU, ended up the friendship because of that.

In case you are not attracted to girls, then tell her the truth and stay by her side as a real friend. She will appreciate it more in my own honest opinion :-)

Zefram · Accepted Answer

My best friend is gay and he kissed me once, but he knew I was straight he was just drunk and depressed cause his boyfriend broke it off with him. He got worried for a moment but I brushed it off like no biggy. We also met through a similar situation but it was just him asking my oldest and best friend about me cause I guess he thought I was tall and handsome, which I am tall. He found out I was straight but hey, compliment, and then I hit him up as a drinking friend after. I get a drinking buddy and he gets to keep me around to look at, everybody wins.
For the record I'm still not completely shunning a possible same-sex experience, I'm straight but I have my curiosities as I'm sure most heterosexual men like myself do. I just know for a fact that nothing is ever going in me and romantically I'm only attracted to women. Also physically lean way more towards women too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I did have a friend who once told me that her psychiatrist told her that she thought I was her girlfriend by the way she talks about me. Like what am I suppose to say to that? lol I was in highschool so this was like 6 years ago. I just laughed and said " oh really? like what?" And she said " I just talk a lot about you I guess" but then she told me that the psychiatrist told her " who is this girl you always mention? seems like she makes you very happy and that you are in love?" But I was like haha no way!. Anyway, a couple of years later I found her on this dating site but she said she was looking for a girlfriend. She had never told me she was bisexual so I wasn't sure if she was being catfished but it said she was looking for a friend to maybe just hangout or more. So I have no idea.. maybe she did like me? if she did, I feel bad. like was that a hint? And then last month I saw her kiss her friend but her friend is straight and thought it was gross but she just kissed her so passionately and randomly lol So I don't know :o Maybe she is bi but I don't think I should ever tell her just because I guess there's a reason why she hasn't told me yet.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My best friend used to always tell me that if I was a guy, she wouldn't hesitate to date me. It was an ongoing thing and we truly felt we were soul mates in a strange way. I don't think it's unusual to feel that way because friends normally understand you better than anyone else & are there for emotional support. It natural to develop an attachment to them. But it got a little weird sometimes because she would try holding my hand out in public and we had a drunken kiss or two when we weren't thinking straight (no pun intended) :) I think she might be bisexual but she has never really spoken openly about it

jennifer_bloom · Answer

She wasn't really a friend but a lesbian woman tried to flirt with me after dumping her girlfriend - about 1-2 minutes afterwards.

ChronicThinker · Answer

Yes, female friends always wanted a piece of my ass lol.

Hidden_P · Answer

Firstly, I think most of us have experienced this/experimented so it’s nothing to panic about.

Secondly, does it matter? I mean put aside her inabititions were lowered, does it effect her skills as a friend? Does it effect how you feel? If you are comfortable in your own skin you should be able to say “thanks but no thanks not my thing” and it shouldn’t change how you approach her or feel for her. She might be uncomfortable but you not changing your approach will help her accept things and it won’t happen again. (I’m not saying she’s a lesbian, she just might become very relaxed around friends; one of my friends was when drunk. She kissed everyone, Male or female, it was her expressing love, not sexual attraction)

Just be open and talk and try not to get wrapped up in “gay or not” because honestly, it’s not your battle/issue to come to terms with and your friend will appreciate you more for supporting her.

MrMysteryMan · Answer

Yes. I remember in Junior High days. We hung out a lot and that. But one day, for some reason, I was in the bathroom washing my hands and then he came into the bathroom, closed the door behind him and said, "I know you want me." I was shocked for sure, but I kind of just laughed it off and said, "What?" He then sort of laughed it off and just said he was joking, but the look on his face when he said it wasn't a joke...

That's the only time I know of it's happened. My gay cousin, however, he's made a pass at me a few times. *SMH

But I just take these things as compliments. Gays don't make passes unless they are really attracted to whoever I'm sure.

1Anon · Answer

Yeah a few times with different friends. All but one was alcohol related (drank too much, complained that guys were no good and maybe they should bat for the other side). The non-alcohol related one is the most recent. She was complaining that no guys seem to be interested and she’s not been in a relationship since her ex (it was before I knew her); she said she just wants to find a nice guy then thanked me for listening to her. She said she loved how easily she could talk to me then joked and said she wishes she could just date me since I already know her and we get on so well. I laughed but then she said asked if I’d ever been in a relationship with a girl before; she gave me a hug and asked if it’s something I’d consider. I said no, never have and I’m very happy with the guy I was dating. Now it’s something that’s never mentioned. She’s still single and hasn’t dated anyone in the time I’ve known her.

Platypus007 · Answer

Yah, but I never felt threatened or made him feel weird about it. Just told him, he was normal, as I figured everyone wanted to bang me. (As a joke) but it did change how I saw him a little, both good and bad, saw him as more complex and interesting but always questioned his motives if alone and say, spending the night, however I could just knock him out whenever I wanted so, guess that is a comfort level some people may not have, I just knew that wasn’t required and laughed it off, in fact, felt kinda flattered, had no idea a dude thought I was hot. Who figured? At this point, I’ll take it, compliment, not a big deal and know at this point, where we stand and still as good as friends as ever, it’s not a big deal, so what? A friend thinks you are hot, doesn’t mean you can’t handle it and set things how they need to be

Tideo568 · Answer

Last year I went on a school trip to Washington DC. I had to room with 4 other girls. I felt awkward about one of the girls , but kept denying my feelings. So I pretended to be passive. However , one day she couldn’t go on a trip with her friends because of her medical issues. My teacher forced me to look after her. I pushed myself away from liking her , I called myself crazy. We had fun going to monuments and eating ice cream. We actually had a civil conversation. We finally got home at 3:00 pm to the hotel. The rest of our roommates went downstairs to watch law and order. There was awkward silence so I said ,”I had a fun date-I mean day (cough).” All of the sudden she hugs me and starts crying. I hug her back begging for the tension to END! But then I feel myself falling on the bed. She forces both of my hands down and kisses me. Her eyes are still in tears and she says ,”Thank you.” I couldn’t sleep for
The next five days.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, my guy friend did. i use to go to his house and one time he took out his penis. He said lets masturbate to some porn. i thought it was fine and watched some porn together. I didn't think he was gay because he was masturbating to straight porn with me. After a while, he suggest we take turns giving each other hand jobs. i went along with it, until one day he ask to take turns kissing each other on the penis. I refused it to do it and told him that's gay. He said you don't have to do it, i'll do yours and he started kissing my penis. I'm not sure if he's bi or gay he never told me what's his sexuality.

nightdrot · Answer

My roommate in college, who always seemed to be horny, came back to our room drunk. I had been drinking too and when I was getting undressed for bed for some reason I had a hard on. He came over and started stroking me.

We ended up in my bed, kissing and sucking each other's dicks. Suddenly we both sort of realized what we were doing, stopped, he climbed into his bunk and we never spoke of it again.

Cwood · Answer

Used to work backstage and many male actors are gay. They take their shot, can't blame them for trying. When definitely explain it isn't for me, they are always respectful. Gay guys are not vampires waiting to jump in the night. Just dudes looking for their own good time.

LucyGrace · Answer

It was a dare and I had to kiss this girl who didn't I didn't know liked me so I did. It was supposed to be a short one but she kept going on and on and when I tried to pull back she kept going forward. I had to call it off but she told me she liked me and I'm straight so yeah

tetrismaster · Answer

There was this one girl in my class and she would always stare at me during class, and one day when we were in the bathroom alone together she just asked, “Can I kiss you?” lol. There were many times where I kissed my best friend, and she wanted to be my first kiss for some reason (we’re both straight), but she taught me how to kiss pretty much.

Rhonda333 · Answer

Was sitting at a bar drinking with a much younger female colleague. She reached over and stroked my exposed thigh saying how much she liked the Donna Karam hose I was wearing. Her touch was like an electric shock. I've never been touched like that by another woman and I was thrilled. You can imagine what happened next.

binarybabe001 · Answer

Yes, It was ten years ago and it was the most uncomfortable, awkward and unwelcome situation I have ever been in. Believe me, the moments of shock and speechlessness can drag on for what feels like an eternity after someone who is supposed to be your friend and has been married to the same man for years says to you, " I really want to f*** you, before my husband gets home from work." It's really something that you don't expect and even more difficult to wrap your head around.

ladsin · Answer

Said A, but it's more of "kind of?".

When I was coming out as a bi fellow in a relationship with a man I'd wait to tell my close friends until we were good and drunk. One of my friends (who was both drunk and high) then tried to make a move on me. I thought it was a joke so I laughed at him and refused. He was a really good friend of mine and I used to see him (hang out) a few times a week. After that event he has avoided me.

thomasans2 · Answer

I Watched my girl get seduced and then they started kissing and rubbing each other. They went upstairs. I got a hard on watching and decided to sneak up and watch. When I found them they were naked on the floor eating each others pussy. I lost conrol and as I appeared with my dick out Sara looked up as I slamed my dick in Saras new friend. She pushed back as I fucked her. Sara licked my balls but as soon as she stuck her fingers in my asshole I shot off and came like never before. I Left them alone and never saw either again

purplestardust · Answer

Yes, when I was younger my friend always greeted me with a kiss just in the corner of my lips but I never thought anything about it, then one day we went to the bathroom and she just stood in front of me and grabbed me by my neck and kissed me full tongue and everything and grabbed me everywhere. At that very moment I realized I was bi haha

TheBigSoftie · Answer

No... but I made a move on this one boy to mess with him.
I kept leaning in to "kiss him" but he just kept turning his face away.
Now because I said nothing to this boy (he was kind of a giant baboon's dick) he likely thinks I'm gay.
Not like I'm ever gonna see him again tho so... yea. Not worried AT ALL.

Florancerose404 · Answer

Yes, a friend once dragged me into the loo she was touching me so I told her to stop and laughed it off (I was drunk).

I've been kissed on the mouth by a few friends (close) but that's just because I love them and care about them but not in a lesbian kinder way. As there was no attraction just loved them as they were a big part of my life. I

katiesmuff · Answer

Sort of but a bit different. It was three of us having a sleep over. We ended up naked exploring each other. It was my first experience of any sexual thing other than my private masturbation. The three of us all agreed it was really nice and felt great. It's been ages since those times and I will admit that I sometimes miss some of that girl lovin.

SkyeMind · Answer

Yes. Quite a few times. Nothing wrong with showing or telling someone that you have a crush on somebody.

I have also acted on it, when I was younger, in the experimental years of getting to know who I am sexually.
It's normal, it's not weird or bad or creepy.

It's a friend, whom you know and trust. And it takes a lot for someone to be that vulnerable.

Have you guys talked about it afterwards?

KAF87 · Answer

Girls kiss all the time without it being gay. Honestly, you super over reacted.

Maybe your friend was just listening to Katy Perry.

Would it be so wrong to receive a same sex kiss? Honestly age 22, that's when most people experiment, not that I am saying your friend even wanted that.

JennieF · Answer

Yeah, more than once.

I had a lot of lesbian teammates in softball, and even though they know I'm straight, a few of them really wanted to "bring me into the fold." I was disturbed, but I admit I was also a little flattered. A few tried to do more than ask.

I've even had other straight girls tell me that they'd go lesbian for me, that if I was ever up for it, to let them know. One of them was a little drunk one night and she was kind of insistent.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. It was awkward, but before my friend came out as bi, she would casually bring up the topic of wanting to go down on me just to see if she was any good at it or wanting us to make out for fun. Always responded with a no and let her know if she pressed any further on the issue I wasn’t sure if we could stay friends because I’m only interested in men.

thenewgirlll · Answer

Omg yes, I went to her house for the first time and she said "If you wanna fuck then I'm down for it" lmaoo, I was so sure she was joking because she always said that to everyone but she wasn't, then when our friendship ended she told me she loved me.

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

Yes, my best friend from school... He asked me out when we were in middle school and when we went on a field trip, we shared the same bed and he made a move on me there... It was quite funny actually but later, we both agreed that it was a bad idea and I think he got over it after that...

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Yes
Guy friend try to kiss me
He push me to the wall , came near for kiss and his erect crotch was touching me as when he came really near I push him away
I didn't speak about that incident nor did he to anyone but
Since then we are not friends
It's was when I was in 10 standard about 15 years old and in my own house
And as it's slightly big house standing 4 floor and 25 bedroom no one knew about it as well as he was never invited again to my place

Anonymous · Answer

It was old days' story when I was living with a girl in an apartment during studies. Once after shower I came out of bathroom naked, as usual. She was there watching TV. While talking, she touched my boobs. I felt exciting and soon nipples were hard. It was the beginning that she also took off her clothes, I reciprocated by massaging her boobs. And then we continued...

Beauxbreaux · Answer

I'm actually surprised other men haven't been hitted on. I mean it doesn't help that I used to go to gay bars often. Dude gay bars make me feel like the hottest dude alive. Plus free drinks lol. Im in a new city and my goal is to find a new set of gay guy friends. Being the token straight dude is the best.

Anonymous · Answer

My friend just recently told me she is bi. I then realized she had given me slight hints she would be interested in me for some months already. She never made a move though. Those hints would have been almost too clear if I would have known she likes women too. We haven't talked about it and I don't know what I should think about it. I'm not interested in women, and I don't want to loose her as a friend.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Yah lol I took it like a boss and told him I appreciated the compliment but don’t “play for that team”

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, a friend/coworker of mine who stayed after his shift to catch a buzz (I used to work in a bar/restaurant in college) had a few too many and asked if i wanted to stay the night. I had/have a longtime girlfriend and laughed it off, and never brought it up later (not sure if he remembers saying it tbh). He is happily engaged now and i have no problem/awkwardness going to his wedding when it happens.

Lovvyyy · Answer

No, thankfully I live in a very small town with very Chatolic beliefs in regard. NOT THAT THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY, but since I'm not, receiving that kind of attention from a friend would be uncomfortable.
It has happened in bigger cities pubs, but except for a couple of rude ones, they were all gracious when rejected, so that's fine.

aicarg · Answer

Yes. Some had no control of their behavior as they were drunk while trying to throw themself ar me and her handsy, and one girl I met from university thought that I was open minded to experiment my sexuality.

ravedave · Answer

Yup, twice actually. The first one was actually what helped me come to terms with the fact that I am bi.

SKINNYPETITE1 · Answer

I made the move and changed our relationship for about 6 months we went with each other then she found a new girlfriend and we dont even talk anymore. Llesson learned, let her make the first move

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

For my bf's b-day years ago, I brought a woman home for him but I got lured onto the bed instead of just watching & directing them. I'd say that's the official start for me being a bi-sexual woman.

Goddess_Gag18 · Answer

Of course. I am in this profession where I never know if it s going to be a guy or a girl. haha Seriously, in real life, yes, made passes to and even once I was told I love you by a best friend.

peachblossomluck · Answer

I have friends who are lez or Bi and they've tried to get me to kiss them or told me they found me attractive. I just told them it wasn't a good idea. If you are straight, we forget sometimes gay people are seeing things a different way.

TheNoOne · Answer

Nope never and I am so happy about that since if they made a pass on me it would mostly drive me away since it weirds me out. The few times a guy makes a pass at me I feel really uncomfortable I usually look for the nearest exit.

ScaryCool · Answer

Yes. I knew he was gay, but made it a point that I just was looking for a friend. Yet constantly batted his eyes and even asked if it'd be okay to kiss me which I said no in as friendly as possible way lol

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

Not happening. The minute that occurs the title of friendship would be wiped off, because why would my own friend make a sudden gesture unless it was already an intention in the first place but the alcohol was just a cover up.

DreadFather86 · Answer

I was at my brother-in-laws bachelor party. We were at Larry Flynts Hustler Club in San Francisco and his brother’s boyfriend kissed me. I had known him for about 2 years. Was very awkward, and even though I was drunk I remembered it the next day. I played it off as not remembering anything as to not ruin or make it awkward at my sisters’ wedding or reception.

MarketData · Answer

Alcohol doesn't make you act out of character. It allows you to act in character. But congratulations, you can now say you have a gay friend.

Lovi87 · Answer

No, but one random girl told me at the bar "Why is it always the straight ones who are pretty as hell?" she was flirting with me, and I said, "I'm sorry, duck, but I have a boyfriend."

madhatters4 · Answer

i had a friend who is now more of an acquaintance in middle school who was still in the closet and made a move on me once. it was the first time i realized he wasn't straight

Sbgirl · Answer

When my bi friend gets drunk she always tries to kiss me and another friend. Don't think she's attracted to us at all, its just an alcohol thing. I just make sure I avoid her when she's drunk haha.

Anonymous · Answer

None of them have "made a move" but they do voice things like "if you were into girls, id totally go after you." But they respect me and my boundries and theyve never pressed beyond that

Lilyanony · Answer

No and I'm not interested in that happening too. I get ready close with my friends but not that close.

angelgirl7 · Answer

My friend outright admitted to having feelings for me (no alcohol involved). I had to tell her I didn't feel the same way.

rjroy3 · Answer

Never, but to be fair it's very different with guys. I've had gay friends in the past who were in the closet for yeeeeears, even tho everyone knew lol. They didn't want to take the risk.

Whaler · Answer

Not a necessarily a friend more of an aquaintance. Weird guy who already tried getting with everyone but the gay guys at our school.

fjh80 · Answer

I thought girls kissing girls was a common thing. I'm not talking full on lez porn, I just mean kisses n stuff.

theharlequin · Answer

No. None of my gay friends are close enough to me to try, and if they were close enough, they'd know better.

Jooying · Answer

I thought we’re kissing for fun, but she told me she actually wanted me more. I stepped back and rejected.

Anonymous · Answer

As an adolescent, I knew this stinky scumbag boy, of a foreign nationality, who once or twice asked me if he could suck my d**k. So, I never classified him as a "friend", and he didn't actually "make a move" on me, and I obviously never accepted his "offer".

MScifiwriter · Answer

Doubt it was just the alcohol. People need to take responsibility for their own actions and not blame substances. That goes for men and women.

Math-Is-Power · Answer

Like, in grade 7 some gay kid told me I was more handsome than a friend. I suppose that counts

Mombie · Answer

Yes. And reciprocating was the worst idea. She took it as meaning more than just a friendly kiss

Oram52 · Answer

It has never happened to me. And I think your friend wasn't just a coincidence or "just" alcohol ;)  She's definitely Bi-curious but that attempted kiss well..

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