I was drinking with my best friend and she said she wants to try kissing a girls for ones. Later she leaned in for a kiss but I turned away. I'm sure it was just the Alkohol talking
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Has a friend of the same sex ever made a move on you?
Actually it has never happened to me personally, but I recall one time a female friend of mine, real close one, tried to flirt with another female friend of ours. We were having a night out to celebrate the end of the semester, as a group of class mates, and my friend started talking to me about that other friend with a blushing face. She did not have much to drink so it was not the effect of alcohol, and she kind of came out and told me she was a bi romantic person and have never tried to physically kiss a girl. Long story short, she stood right behind her and poked her on the shoulder. As soon as the other friend turned to face her she just planted a sweet gentle innocent kiss on her lips. I was shocked and surprised she did it in front of everybody. It did not end badly, because that other friend appreciated her honesty and how decent it was, but told her she was straight. I think they became closer as friends or sisters since then.
My advice to you dear, whatever the reason was, alcohol or not, you can always let it out of your chest, both of you, and just be honest. Who knows, maybe it will bring you closer together as friends or sisters just like it did to my friends?
It is hard for a person who is not straight to come out as for there are people who will have hard times accepting it, and imagine how she will be feeling in case her real friend, YOU, ended up the friendship because of that.
In case you are not attracted to girls, then tell her the truth and stay by her side as a real friend. She will appreciate it more in my own honest opinion :-)
My best friend is gay and he kissed me once, but he knew I was straight he was just drunk and depressed cause his boyfriend broke it off with him. He got worried for a moment but I brushed it off like no biggy. We also met through a similar situation but it was just him asking my oldest and best friend about me cause I guess he thought I was tall and handsome, which I am tall. He found out I was straight but hey, compliment, and then I hit him up as a drinking friend after. I get a drinking buddy and he gets to keep me around to look at, everybody wins. For the record I'm still not completely shunning a possible same-sex experience, I'm straight but I have my curiosities as I'm sure most heterosexual men like myself do. I just know for a fact that nothing is ever going in me and romantically I'm only attracted to women. Also physically lean way more towards women too.
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I did have a friend who once told me that her psychiatrist told her that she thought I was her girlfriend by the way she talks about me. Like what am I suppose to say to that? lol I was in highschool so this was like 6 years ago. I just laughed and said " oh really? like what?" And she said " I just talk a lot about you I guess" but then she told me that the psychiatrist told her " who is this girl you always mention? seems like she makes you very happy and that you are in love?" But I was like haha no way!. Anyway, a couple of years later I found her on this dating site but she said she was looking for a girlfriend. She had never told me she was bisexual so I wasn't sure if she was being catfished but it said she was looking for a friend to maybe just hangout or more. So I have no idea.. maybe she did like me? if she did, I feel bad. like was that a hint? And then last month I saw her kiss her friend but her friend is straight and thought it was gross but she just kissed her so passionately and randomly lol So I don't know :o Maybe she is bi but I don't think I should ever tell her just because I guess there's a reason why she hasn't told me yet.
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My best friend used to always tell me that if I was a guy, she wouldn't hesitate to date me. It was an ongoing thing and we truly felt we were soul mates in a strange way. I don't think it's unusual to feel that way because friends normally understand you better than anyone else & are there for emotional support. It natural to develop an attachment to them. But it got a little weird sometimes because she would try holding my hand out in public and we had a drunken kiss or two when we weren't thinking straight (no pun intended) :) I think she might be bisexual but she has never really spoken openly about it
Firstly, I think most of us have experienced this/experimented so it’s nothing to panic about.
Secondly, does it matter? I mean put aside her inabititions were lowered, does it effect her skills as a friend? Does it effect how you feel? If you are comfortable in your own skin you should be able to say “thanks but no thanks not my thing” and it shouldn’t change how you approach her or feel for her. She might be uncomfortable but you not changing your approach will help her accept things and it won’t happen again. (I’m not saying she’s a lesbian, she just might become very relaxed around friends; one of my friends was when drunk. She kissed everyone, Male or female, it was her expressing love, not sexual attraction)
Just be open and talk and try not to get wrapped up in “gay or not” because honestly, it’s not your battle/issue to come to terms with and your friend will appreciate you more for supporting her.
Firstly I think none/seldom/few/handful/an appropriate amount/even/about half/some/many/most/all of us have experienced this/experimented is it’s nothing/a small amount/ reasonable/ understandable/uncontrollable/ imperative/ highly important/ essential to panic about.
I am sorry that my generalistic statement of MY OPINION wasn’t to your tastes but also, you are 10 years older and not from my area than me and likely to have had different experiences. I’m sorry my generation are experiencing different things. A lot can change in 10 years.
People have always experimented, but to say that a majority of women/girls experiment with the same sex is something I'd need to see statistical proof of.
I have brothers your age and they had different experiences. Eg, people were punched in the head to the point of brain damage and needed air lifting away. When I was at school we had an openly gay boy who literally skipped, wore make up, and set up the first cheerleader club.
If we go back to my dads day they were beaten with canes and belts and being gay was a criminal offence.
So no it’s not a “jab”. It’s a fact. Things change.
Same sex attraction has existed from the dawn of time. People have always experimented. Some openly some not so openly. Making it look like it's what everybody does is what I disagree with. Just because it's normal in your circle doesn't mean it's normal in everyone's.
@cherryphi82 but it hasn’t been accepted for all that long. Go back to the 50s and you were arrested for it. Same sex haven’t been able to marry until recently.
That's a fair point, but that still doesn't make it the norm. Interracial marriage wasn't legalized till the late 60s but most people don't marry or even date interracially.
@cherryphi82 but then on the flip side normal is fluid.
I’m afraid I have to use UK towns as examples, but go to somewhere like Brighton and being straight is almost “odd” (it’s a well known city for supporting gay rights and holds a huge gay pride parade). Whereas go to rural northern Wales and that same attitude is not in such rich supply.
I do get what you’re saying but this is such a floaty topic. For me, many people I know have experimented
Yes. I remember in Junior High days. We hung out a lot and that. But one day, for some reason, I was in the bathroom washing my hands and then he came into the bathroom, closed the door behind him and said, "I know you want me." I was shocked for sure, but I kind of just laughed it off and said, "What?" He then sort of laughed it off and just said he was joking, but the look on his face when he said it wasn't a joke...
That's the only time I know of it's happened. My gay cousin, however, he's made a pass at me a few times. *SMH
But I just take these things as compliments. Gays don't make passes unless they are really attracted to whoever I'm sure.
Yeah a few times with different friends. All but one was alcohol related (drank too much, complained that guys were no good and maybe they should bat for the other side). The non-alcohol related one is the most recent. She was complaining that no guys seem to be interested and she’s not been in a relationship since her ex (it was before I knew her); she said she just wants to find a nice guy then thanked me for listening to her. She said she loved how easily she could talk to me then joked and said she wishes she could just date me since I already know her and we get on so well. I laughed but then she said asked if I’d ever been in a relationship with a girl before; she gave me a hug and asked if it’s something I’d consider. I said no, never have and I’m very happy with the guy I was dating. Now it’s something that’s never mentioned. She’s still single and hasn’t dated anyone in the time I’ve known her.
Yah, but I never felt threatened or made him feel weird about it. Just told him, he was normal, as I figured everyone wanted to bang me. (As a joke) but it did change how I saw him a little, both good and bad, saw him as more complex and interesting but always questioned his motives if alone and say, spending the night, however I could just knock him out whenever I wanted so, guess that is a comfort level some people may not have, I just knew that wasn’t required and laughed it off, in fact, felt kinda flattered, had no idea a dude thought I was hot. Who figured? At this point, I’ll take it, compliment, not a big deal and know at this point, where we stand and still as good as friends as ever, it’s not a big deal, so what? A friend thinks you are hot, doesn’t mean you can’t handle it and set things how they need to be
Last year I went on a school trip to Washington DC. I had to room with 4 other girls. I felt awkward about one of the girls , but kept denying my feelings. So I pretended to be passive. However , one day she couldn’t go on a trip with her friends because of her medical issues. My teacher forced me to look after her. I pushed myself away from liking her , I called myself crazy. We had fun going to monuments and eating ice cream. We actually had a civil conversation. We finally got home at 3:00 pm to the hotel. The rest of our roommates went downstairs to watch law and order. There was awkward silence so I said ,”I had a fun date-I mean day (cough).” All of the sudden she hugs me and starts crying. I hug her back begging for the tension to END! But then I feel myself falling on the bed. She forces both of my hands down and kisses me. Her eyes are still in tears and she says ,”Thank you.” I couldn’t sleep for The next five days.
Yes, my guy friend did. i use to go to his house and one time he took out his penis. He said lets masturbate to some porn. i thought it was fine and watched some porn together. I didn't think he was gay because he was masturbating to straight porn with me. After a while, he suggest we take turns giving each other hand jobs. i went along with it, until one day he ask to take turns kissing each other on the penis. I refused it to do it and told him that's gay. He said you don't have to do it, i'll do yours and he started kissing my penis. I'm not sure if he's bi or gay he never told me what's his sexuality.
My roommate in college, who always seemed to be horny, came back to our room drunk. I had been drinking too and when I was getting undressed for bed for some reason I had a hard on. He came over and started stroking me.
We ended up in my bed, kissing and sucking each other's dicks. Suddenly we both sort of realized what we were doing, stopped, he climbed into his bunk and we never spoke of it again.
Used to work backstage and many male actors are gay. They take their shot, can't blame them for trying. When definitely explain it isn't for me, they are always respectful. Gay guys are not vampires waiting to jump in the night. Just dudes looking for their own good time.
It was a dare and I had to kiss this girl who didn't I didn't know liked me so I did. It was supposed to be a short one but she kept going on and on and when I tried to pull back she kept going forward. I had to call it off but she told me she liked me and I'm straight so yeah
There was this one girl in my class and she would always stare at me during class, and one day when we were in the bathroom alone together she just asked, “Can I kiss you?” lol. There were many times where I kissed my best friend, and she wanted to be my first kiss for some reason (we’re both straight), but she taught me how to kiss pretty much.
Was sitting at a bar drinking with a much younger female colleague. She reached over and stroked my exposed thigh saying how much she liked the Donna Karam hose I was wearing. Her touch was like an electric shock. I've never been touched like that by another woman and I was thrilled. You can imagine what happened next.
Yes, It was ten years ago and it was the most uncomfortable, awkward and unwelcome situation I have ever been in. Believe me, the moments of shock and speechlessness can drag on for what feels like an eternity after someone who is supposed to be your friend and has been married to the same man for years says to you, " I really want to f*** you, before my husband gets home from work." It's really something that you don't expect and even more difficult to wrap your head around.
@Romeo0071234 for the first five minutes all I could do was stare at her with my mouth agape in shock! I couldn't say anything. We were having some wine and watching a TV show at her house and I thought she was joking but, she wasn't and she said it again only this time she added, " I think, you are sexy and have a cute ass!" And I set down my glass and got up and left.
Yikes.. yeah she should have feeled you out more over time before coming out with that.. I wonder what made her think it was ok.. well besides the wine lol
@Romeo0071234 I honestly have no idea. We spoke again later when she saw me at the grocery store and I asked her if she was drunk that day of the proposition she made and she said no. And I asked her "does your husband know that you like women?" And went on to say that her husband didn't know but, doesn't stifle her in the bedroom either and had given her permission to be as open with other people sexually as she wanted to be as sort of permanent "hall pass" which I personally, wasn't buying. We never spoke to each other again after that and I never told anyone about the advances she made toward me. I didn't feel like it was my place to tell her husband or anyone that she was sexually attracted to women.
When I was coming out as a bi fellow in a relationship with a man I'd wait to tell my close friends until we were good and drunk. One of my friends (who was both drunk and high) then tried to make a move on me. I thought it was a joke so I laughed at him and refused. He was a really good friend of mine and I used to see him (hang out) a few times a week. After that event he has avoided me.
I Watched my girl get seduced and then they started kissing and rubbing each other. They went upstairs. I got a hard on watching and decided to sneak up and watch. When I found them they were naked on the floor eating each others pussy. I lost conrol and as I appeared with my dick out Sara looked up as I slamed my dick in Saras new friend. She pushed back as I fucked her. Sara licked my balls but as soon as she stuck her fingers in my asshole I shot off and came like never before. I Left them alone and never saw either again
Yes, when I was younger my friend always greeted me with a kiss just in the corner of my lips but I never thought anything about it, then one day we went to the bathroom and she just stood in front of me and grabbed me by my neck and kissed me full tongue and everything and grabbed me everywhere. At that very moment I realized I was bi haha
No... but I made a move on this one boy to mess with him. I kept leaning in to "kiss him" but he just kept turning his face away. Now because I said nothing to this boy (he was kind of a giant baboon's dick) he likely thinks I'm gay. Not like I'm ever gonna see him again tho so... yea. Not worried AT ALL.
Sort of but a bit different. It was three of us having a sleep over. We ended up naked exploring each other. It was my first experience of any sexual thing other than my private masturbation. The three of us all agreed it was really nice and felt great. It's been ages since those times and I will admit that I sometimes miss some of that girl lovin.
Yes. Quite a few times. Nothing wrong with showing or telling someone that you have a crush on somebody.
I have also acted on it, when I was younger, in the experimental years of getting to know who I am sexually. It's normal, it's not weird or bad or creepy.
It's a friend, whom you know and trust. And it takes a lot for someone to be that vulnerable.
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