Which is worse? Ex dating someone really hot or really ugly?

Question

Does it feel worse when your ex dates someone way hotter than you or if they start dating someone that is way uglier than you?

ManFrom1982 · Accepted Answer

This is one of the things that still slightly baffles me about women. I can honestly say that once any girl broke it off with me (or the other way around), my only desire was to never hear from or about her again.

I mean I somewhat understand that women are more relationship focused, in general, and men are more process or object focused, again in general. So from that standpoint I can kind of get why the ongoing relationships of someone you had a relationship with recently would matter on some level of trying to work out how to process aspects of the previous relationship... but it's hard for me to grasp why women are so apt to apply it so personally about judging what implications it has about their own looks. I mean, do women consider, for instance, that if a guy is bitter after a relationship, he might be purposely (or even subconsciously) be pursuing someone who's VERY different from the person he just dated?

I think I need to be asking this as my own question...

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

The absolute worst thing is when you worry about what your ex is doing instead of moving forward with your life.

Ellie-V · Accepted Answer

Neither one is a big deal but I guess maybe the ugly option. Because that probably means that the ex sees them for their personality and is able to find some kind of attraction to them. What that might mean for you is that when they were with you, you either had a trash personality or they were just being shallow when they met you.

dlauren512 · Accepted Answer

Ugly. Because then it makes you feel like you weren’t that good, since his standards are low enough for the ugly girl. However if she was hot it would make me feel good because i was his type and she was his type too so it would make me feel like I was on the same level as her

Logorithim · Answer

It really doesn't matter, but I guess someone ugly.

PinkChampagne · Answer

Worst is to think about who is dating your ex at all

NatashaJ · Answer

Why you would think bad thoughts about the girl who just dated your ex. Even if she uglier then you, you don't need to be happy about it that's so petty and pathetic focus on yourself then what he and his new girlfriend is doing. Don't think mean thoughts about the girl she didn't do anything to you. That speak volumes about you if you need to feel better about yourself if your ex "downgrade".

MTiago11 · Answer

I can see the reasoning behind both options but tbh you always feel better if at the end of it your ex got a downgrade don't you? Cause if you've been upgraded then you'll be nothing but fodder in their relationship cv

Anonymous · Answer

I really don’t care. I think it would matter if they cheat on me. Like that’s when I would probably have the answer on whether it’s worse if the girl was hotter or uglier. But then again, it wouldn’t matter cause he’d be my ex anyways if I found out...

DakotaNorth · Answer

I picked one but actually I don't give a care. If someone can fin use for that hand me down then go for it.
My ex became more and more abusive in many different ways as the years went on. If someone else wants to try to take her on then he has my sympathy.

VixenRach · Answer

Really hot, because then you'd assume that your looks (or lack thereof) played a part in the breakup. If they're really uglier, then you can just be like "hah, you downgraded, so your loss" 😂😂

i1T2daty · Answer

I think the worst or more grammatically correct, worse since there were only 2 options. Is focusing on what is part? It sounds like a recipe for unhappiness to stay concerned w/ those thoughts

blubblubblub · Answer

I don't know nothing more than seeing them get along really well and be all cute.

Hotter would make me feel insecure, ugly would make me feel a little good about myself but both wouldn't be great and shouldn't even be relevant cos its an ex!!!

Factshurt90 · Answer

Who the hell cares? As long as he, or she is happy I’m unbothered. Appearances say nothing about how happy the relationship makes them.

Skarara · Answer

Ugly ex is worse I would just get turned off by her because of the thought of "damn really? You actually gave it up for this ugly ahh guy? The thing I put effort and energy to get and this ugly guy have gotten it?" like that and it means she has self esteem issues probably because that indicates a very low standard. Whilst if it was attractive I would be like "oh yeah I get it" (no diddy)

Jaguar1818 · Answer

Neither matters, I would only be bugged about it if the person starts copying you. Ex. You get a haircut, a few days later said girl has the second exact haircut.

ShoeGirl24 · Answer

You’d feel better about yourself if he dated someone ugly. It would be harder if she was hot. Especially if you have low self esteem

Jxy95 · Answer

Really hot will make me feel like it was because I am not good looking enough that is why they left me (hurt my self-esteem)

JanuaryCanine · Answer

I wouldn’t really care either tbh. If he’s an ex, he’s cut out of my life so it wouldn’t matter whether he dates someone uglier or hotter.

ShesAmerican · Answer

Imagine someone feeling so worried about their ex partner’s appearance.. can’t relate.

Lavinnykins · Answer

My ex dated only for physical reasons so I'd pity the pretty girl he chose.

CauseNEffect · Answer

The worst bit is that they are still breathing. I mean, you pray for them to fall into an industrial meat grinder and hope for the best.

azzntittiz · Answer

Don't care, plus my exws can't get anyone hotter them me unless she's a blow up doll, it's not like I dated Nick Batemans.

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

I didn't vote. You're worse for even caring what your ex does. Just move on already like he obviously did.

Penelope_ · Answer

I wouldn’t care but id say someone ugly because you wonder, is their personality better than yours? Are they a better person? Something obviously attracted them to her

nofunkgiven · Answer

If you obsess over an ex both of them will feel the worst.  So why should anyone care. They can date whoever the hell they want. Their choice.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

If you care what your ex is sticking their genitalia in... you still care too much.

Jooying · Answer

I don’t really care, but if I have to pick one, I would say hotter.

03FreeBird14 · Answer

Why should it matter he/she is your ex and they can do whatever they want to do and basically I don’t really care it’s their life and they can live it the way they want to

MrMilti · Answer

I dont care about, what my exes do. Thats why they are exes.

ATuairiscean · Answer

My advice unless you are friends with them move on and take no notice.

Anonymous · Answer

If they are ugly then why would I be jealous? If anything I would hope to date someone better to show them I can do better

Chaz269 · Answer

The worst is if you're paying attention to them at all. They're your ex for a reason. Move on.

tyfizzledub · Answer

If she's dating someone that's ugly, than what does that say about me, am I ugly too?

Wraithofsparta · Answer

Ugly... everyone wants to upgrade to a better model

PondyPand · Answer

Neither because a) I don't know and b) I don't care. There's a reason they are an ex.

Anonymous · Answer

Hot of course... but what really makes someone devastated in the end is how happy and awesome they are together regardless of how hot or how ugly they are lol

redpanda_ · Answer

What's worse is actually giving a crap. Focus on yourself, he did after all.

zoeyvxtxxnx · Answer

None, the worse thing is that you still give a crap.

loveslongnails · Answer

If you remember WHY he's your ex, you should realize that it doesn't matter who he dates, hot or not. What matters is... why do you care?

Jackieboi · Answer

Ahah what a great question i font really know since no matter which one it is you know theyre "better than you"

Anonymous · Answer

My ex is currently dating a bitch who looks like a bird. I ain't even joking either.  I would feel worse if he was dating someone really hot.

howlyz · Answer

This is a really tough one lol :P voted ugly of course

Charlotte_May · Answer

The fact that you even have an ex shows ou failed at being a woman and are now damaged goods

AoiKaito · Answer

I really don't care. They are dead to me. I don't think about dead people.

OldDad · Answer

Worry about you finding someone better. They are an ex for a reason.

zagor · Answer

I don't give a damn what they do, if they're wildly successful or a miserable failure. It's history. Done with it.

Anonymous · Answer

thats why i say relationships are crooked and shallow af. all ego games and smokes.

aaronbw · Answer

It makes no difference to me, they are an ex for a reason.

jessture · Answer

I don't pay any attention to my ex. Who she is or isn't with is none of my business

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Ex getting married to someone else within a year. Their looks don't matter much.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I don't tend to check up, but I have been curious as to why women always want to be friends after. Hmm, maybe this is why lol

GuyWithAnOpinion · Answer

Personally it shouldn't bother you so much see if they are happy and if they are than be happy for them. Be the bigger person

_teddy_ · Answer

If they are dating very ugly people then they clearly dont care About looks and care about behaviors making me feel like a jackass

Anonymous · Answer

Am I the only one that doesn't give a single fuck about what my ex dates?

Anonymous · Answer

Better he dates someone hotter, because then he doesn't want sleep with me 😂

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Ex dating someone just hurts. Doesn't matter who he/she is.

hammeronfire · Answer

really ugly, like you left me for this dude? he's a 3 on a good day XD

iFarted · Answer

there is no worse. I really dont care who they date after me.

RockStarBob · Answer

You never want your ex to be doing better than you.

nick2585 · Answer

I'm ex dumped me for a super ugly dude and it's haunts me thinking about why. What was so bad about me that he was better.

Shaun1993 · Answer

Dunno why we should care what exes do, but id be more secure if the new guy was not more attractive than myself

Anonymous · Answer

Way hotter than me of course cuz it feels like ur ex dumped u for a hotter person

Future7 · Answer

I really dont care. If i already decide to move past you. I thought about it deeply well.

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