This is one of the things that still slightly baffles me about women. I can honestly say that once any girl broke it off with me (or the other way around), my only desire was to never hear from or about her again.
I mean I somewhat understand that women are more relationship focused, in general, and men are more process or object focused, again in general. So from that standpoint I can kind of get why the ongoing relationships of someone you had a relationship with recently would matter on some level of trying to work out how to process aspects of the previous relationship... but it's hard for me to grasp why women are so apt to apply it so personally about judging what implications it has about their own looks. I mean, do women consider, for instance, that if a guy is bitter after a relationship, he might be purposely (or even subconsciously) be pursuing someone who's VERY different from the person he just dated?
I think I need to be asking this as my own question...
Most Helpful Opinions
- u
The absolute worst thing is when you worry about what your ex is doing instead of moving forward with your life.
Neither one is a big deal but I guess maybe the ugly option. Because that probably means that the ex sees them for their personality and is able to find some kind of attraction to them. What that might mean for you is that when they were with you, you either had a trash personality or they were just being shallow when they met you.
Ugly. Because then it makes you feel like you weren’t that good, since his standards are low enough for the ugly girl. However if she was hot it would make me feel good because i was his type and she was his type too so it would make me feel like I was on the same level as her
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
53Opinion
It really doesn't matter, but I guess someone ugly.
Worst is to think about who is dating your ex at all
Why you would think bad thoughts about the girl who just dated your ex. Even if she uglier then you, you don't need to be happy about it that's so petty and pathetic focus on yourself then what he and his new girlfriend is doing. Don't think mean thoughts about the girl she didn't do anything to you. That speak volumes about you if you need to feel better about yourself if your ex "downgrade".
I can see the reasoning behind both options but tbh you always feel better if at the end of it your ex got a downgrade don't you? Cause if you've been upgraded then you'll be nothing but fodder in their relationship cv
I really don’t care. I think it would matter if they cheat on me. Like that’s when I would probably have the answer on whether it’s worse if the girl was hotter or uglier. But then again, it wouldn’t matter cause he’d be my ex anyways if I found out...
I picked one but actually I don't give a care. If someone can fin use for that hand me down then go for it.
My ex became more and more abusive in many different ways as the years went on. If someone else wants to try to take her on then he has my sympathy.Really hot, because then you'd assume that your looks (or lack thereof) played a part in the breakup. If they're really uglier, then you can just be like "hah, you downgraded, so your loss" 😂😂
I think the worst or more grammatically correct, worse since there were only 2 options. Is focusing on what is part? It sounds like a recipe for unhappiness to stay concerned w/ those thoughts
I don't know nothing more than seeing them get along really well and be all cute.
Hotter would make me feel insecure, ugly would make me feel a little good about myself but both wouldn't be great and shouldn't even be relevant cos its an ex!!!Who the hell cares? As long as he, or she is happy I’m unbothered. Appearances say nothing about how happy the relationship makes them.
Neither matters, I would only be bugged about it if the person starts copying you. Ex. You get a haircut, a few days later said girl has the second exact haircut.
You’d feel better about yourself if he dated someone ugly. It would be harder if she was hot. Especially if you have low self esteem
Really hot will make me feel like it was because I am not good looking enough that is why they left me (hurt my self-esteem)
I wouldn’t really care either tbh. If he’s an ex, he’s cut out of my life so it wouldn’t matter whether he dates someone uglier or hotter.
My ex dated only for physical reasons so I'd pity the pretty girl he chose.
The worst bit is that they are still breathing. I mean, you pray for them to fall into an industrial meat grinder and hope for the best.
Don't care, plus my exws can't get anyone hotter them me unless she's a blow up doll, it's not like I dated Nick Batemans.
I didn't vote. You're worse for even caring what your ex does. Just move on already like he obviously did.
I wouldn’t care but id say someone ugly because you wonder, is their personality better than yours? Are they a better person? Something obviously attracted them to her
If you obsess over an ex both of them will feel the worst.
So why should anyone care. They can date whoever the hell they want. Their choice.
Learn more
We're glad to see you liked this post.
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions