Which is worse? Ex dating someone really hot or really ugly?

Does it feel worse when your ex dates someone way hotter than you or if they start dating someone that is way uglier than you?
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  • The absolute worst thing is when you worry about what your ex is doing instead of moving forward with your life.

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    • Completely agreed.

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    • From still following them on facebook to driving by their house is a bit of a leap don't you think? 😂

    • @MTiago11 Yes, and I don't do any of that.

  • This is one of the things that still slightly baffles me about women. I can honestly say that once any girl broke it off with me (or the other way around), my only desire was to never hear from or about her again.

    I mean I somewhat understand that women are more relationship focused, in general, and men are more process or object focused, again in general. So from that standpoint I can kind of get why the ongoing relationships of someone you had a relationship with recently would matter on some level of trying to work out how to process aspects of the previous relationship... but it's hard for me to grasp why women are so apt to apply it so personally about judging what implications it has about their own looks. I mean, do women consider, for instance, that if a guy is bitter after a relationship, he might be purposely (or even subconsciously) be pursuing someone who's VERY different from the person he just dated?

    I think I need to be asking this as my own question...

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  • Ugly. Because then it makes you feel like you weren’t that good, since his standards are low enough for the ugly girl. However if she was hot it would make me feel good because i was his type and she was his type too so it would make me feel like I was on the same level as her

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  • Neither one is a big deal but I guess maybe the ugly option. Because that probably means that the ex sees them for their personality and is able to find some kind of attraction to them. What that might mean for you is that when they were with you, you either had a trash personality or they were just being shallow when they met you.

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What Guys Said 53

  • It really doesn't matter, but I guess someone ugly.

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    • Me too. It makes me feel horrible I don't know how to describe lol.

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    • This is clearly the unpopular opinion based on the polls but I 100% agree. I shouldn't care but if they start dating someone way uglier I feel like it reflects poorly on them and ultimately me for having dated them once. It also makes me feel like I must be similar to that ugly person.

    • @asker: Indeed that's how I'd feel lol.

  • I can see the reasoning behind both options but tbh you always feel better if at the end of it your ex got a downgrade don't you? Cause if you've been upgraded then you'll be nothing but fodder in their relationship cv

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  • The worst bit is that they are still breathing. I mean, you pray for them to fall into an industrial meat grinder and hope for the best.

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  • I think the worst or more grammatically correct, worse since there were only 2 options. Is focusing on what is part? It sounds like a recipe for unhappiness to stay concerned w/ those thoughts

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    • Confused by this comment... Are you trying to correct my grammar or the grammar in your own comment?

  • Why should it matter he/she is your ex and they can do whatever they want to do and basically I don’t really care it’s their life and they can live it the way they want to

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  • If you care what your ex is sticking their genitalia in... you still care too much.

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  • I dont care about, what my exes do. Thats why they are exes.

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  • My advice unless you are friends with them move on and take no notice.

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  • The worst is if you're paying attention to them at all. They're your ex for a reason. Move on.

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    • Yep pretty much summed up my opinion. I broke up a year ago and I can't care less right now who she with

  • If you remember WHY he's your ex, you should realize that it doesn't matter who he dates, hot or not. What matters is... why do you care?

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  • Ugly... everyone wants to upgrade to a better model

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  • I really don't care. They are dead to me. I don't think about dead people.

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  • I don't tend to check up, but I have been curious as to why women always want to be friends after. Hmm, maybe this is why lol

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  • Personally it shouldn't bother you so much see if they are happy and if they are than be happy for them. Be the bigger person

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  • I don't give a damn what they do, if they're wildly successful or a miserable failure. It's history. Done with it.

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  • Ahah what a great question i font really know since no matter which one it is you know theyre "better than you"

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  • Worry about you finding someone better. They are an ex for a reason.

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  • Ex dating someone just hurts. Doesn't matter who he/she is.

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  • If she's dating someone that's ugly, than what does that say about me, am I ugly too?

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  • If they are dating very ugly people then they clearly dont care About looks and care about behaviors making me feel like a jackass

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  • I'm ex dumped me for a super ugly dude and it's haunts me thinking about why. What was so bad about me that he was better.

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    • Maybe his personality. I mean people who date ugly people care more about inner beauty obviously.

  • It makes no difference to me, they are an ex for a reason.

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  • This is a really tough one lol :P voted ugly of course

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  • Dunno why we should care what exes do, but id be more secure if the new guy was not more attractive than myself

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  • I don't pay any attention to my ex. Who she is or isn't with is none of my business

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  • You never want your ex to be doing better than you.

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  • really ugly, like you left me for this dude? he's a 3 on a good day XD

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  • there is no worse. I really dont care who they date after me.

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  • I really dont care. If i already decide to move past you. I thought about it deeply well.

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  • I mean, does it matter

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What Girls Said 34

  • Worst is to think about who is dating your ex at all

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  • Why you would think bad thoughts about the girl who just dated your ex. Even if she uglier then you, you don't need to be happy about it that's so petty and pathetic focus on yourself then what he and his new girlfriend is doing. Don't think mean thoughts about the girl she didn't do anything to you. That speak volumes about you if you need to feel better about yourself if your ex "downgrade".

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  • Neither matters, I would only be bugged about it if the person starts copying you. Ex. You get a haircut, a few days later said girl has the second exact haircut.

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  • Really hot, because then you'd assume that your looks (or lack thereof) played a part in the breakup. If they're really uglier, then you can just be like "hah, you downgraded, so your loss" 😂😂

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  • I picked one but actually I don't give a care. If someone can fin use for that hand me down then go for it.
    My ex became more and more abusive in many different ways as the years went on. If someone else wants to try to take her on then he has my sympathy.

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  • I don't know nothing more than seeing them get along really well and be all cute.

    Hotter would make me feel insecure, ugly would make me feel a little good about myself but both wouldn't be great and shouldn't even be relevant cos its an ex!!!

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  • Really hot will make me feel like it was because I am not good looking enough that is why they left me (hurt my self-esteem)

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  • I wouldn’t really care either tbh. If he’s an ex, he’s cut out of my life so it wouldn’t matter whether he dates someone uglier or hotter.

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  • My ex dated only for physical reasons so I'd pity the pretty girl he chose.

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  • If you obsess over an ex both of them will feel the worst.
    So why should anyone care. They can date whoever the hell they want. Their choice.

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  • I wouldn’t care but id say someone ugly because you wonder, is their personality better than yours? Are they a better person? Something obviously attracted them to her

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  • Who the hell cares? As long as he, or she is happy I’m unbothered. Appearances say nothing about how happy the relationship makes them.

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  • You’d feel better about yourself if he dated someone ugly. It would be harder if she was hot. Especially if you have low self esteem

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  • Don't care, plus my exws can't get anyone hotter them me unless she's a blow up doll, it's not like I dated Nick Batemans.

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  • Neither because a) I don't know and b) I don't care. There's a reason they are an ex.

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  • I didn't vote. You're worse for even caring what your ex does. Just move on already like he obviously did.

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  • Imagine someone feeling so worried about their ex partner’s appearance.. can’t relate.

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  • I don’t really care, but if I have to pick one, I would say hotter.

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  • Am I the only one that doesn't give a single fuck about what my ex dates?

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  • What's worse is actually giving a crap. Focus on yourself, he did after all.

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  • None, the worse thing is that you still give a crap.

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  • The fact that you even have an ex shows ou failed at being a woman and are now damaged goods

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  • Ex getting married to someone else within a year. Their looks don't matter much.

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  • Nothing is worse..
    You don't need to judge others

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  • Could you sound anymore shallow?

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  • I wouldn’t care

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  • One word: Insecurities

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  • Really hot, because it wasn't expected.

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  • thats why i say relationships are crooked and shallow af. all ego games and smokes.

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  • Way hotter than me of course cuz it feels like ur ex dumped u for a hotter person

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