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You look better than I ever did! See the dork in that picture on the left? That was me in high school. I was very sad, withdrawn, and didn't do ANYTHING. I didn't even TALK to girls, because I didn't know what to say to them, and I was afraid of them anyway. It was a depressing time, not so much over the girl thing, but the fact that my entire life was all jacked-up.
A couple of years after graduation, life started getting better. I got a new job, moved to another part of the state, and kind of left my shitty old world behind. I started doing things I wanted to do, like partying with co-worker friends, inner-tubing, and I took up ice skating lessons, among other things. All of these things gave me a feeling of accomplishment and self-confidence (and gave me things to talk about whenever I DID go on a date). I broke out of a lot of shells, and girls just kind of floated in and out of the picture along the way. By the way, I didn't have a girlfriend until I was about 25.
The point is, expanding my horizons, and learning and doing new things, made me more comfortable within myself. I wasn't really trying to 'get' a girl, but my growing self-confidence made it easier to be friends with them. If they wanted to become more than friends, great, if not, I'd just go back to doing things I wanted to do. The dork in the picture on the right is a more recent is a more recent one of me. I'm still not much to look at, but I have a much higher confidence level, and I'll say 'Hi!' to anyone.
I've been married for over 30 years.