27 and never had a girlfriend , help?

I've just hit 27 and I've never had a partner. I've been on pof ( all that ever comes up is read and deleted ) , been on bumble and tinder and use the photos below for 2 months and literally not one match. Growing up I always got teased and bullied for having red head and was told I was ugly asf. If I ever summon the courage to talk to a girl I'd get horribly shut down.. I even had one girl say go away you ugly ranga. So things like this ( and many more ) has completely screwed my mental health up when it comes to women. Like I see a girl I'm attracted to and the first thing that comes to mind is no women like red head guys she will like someone who's brunette and brown eyed. Can some give me tips or help? I'm a high income earner , keep myself fit and healthy , love history , international studies , marine biology , sports and going out with friends yet I seem to repulse most women. I also find when I'm in Europe I find women easier to speak to while I find Aussie women ( especially in Melbourne and Sydney ) extremely rude and don't give you one second ( it doesn't help when someone's on their phone 24/7 ) ( well that's my experience )

27 and never had a girlfriend , help?



27 and never had a girlfriend , help?





27 and never had a girlfriend , help?

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  • You look better than I ever did! See the dork in that picture on the left? That was me in high school. I was very sad, withdrawn, and didn't do ANYTHING. I didn't even TALK to girls, because I didn't know what to say to them, and I was afraid of them anyway. It was a depressing time, not so much over the girl thing, but the fact that my entire life was all jacked-up.

    A couple of years after graduation, life started getting better. I got a new job, moved to another part of the state, and kind of left my shitty old world behind. I started doing things I wanted to do, like partying with co-worker friends, inner-tubing, and I took up ice skating lessons, among other things. All of these things gave me a feeling of accomplishment and self-confidence (and gave me things to talk about whenever I DID go on a date). I broke out of a lot of shells, and girls just kind of floated in and out of the picture along the way. By the way, I didn't have a girlfriend until I was about 25.

    The point is, expanding my horizons, and learning and doing new things, made me more comfortable within myself. I wasn't really trying to 'get' a girl, but my growing self-confidence made it easier to be friends with them. If they wanted to become more than friends, great, if not, I'd just go back to doing things I wanted to do. The dork in the picture on the right is a more recent is a more recent one of me. I'm still not much to look at, but I have a much higher confidence level, and I'll say 'Hi!' to anyone.

    I've been married for over 30 years.

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  • I love red hair and it would be a shame to color it but you still have that option if it bothers you so much. And I think you look pretty hot. But it seems like guys don't have much luck on dating Apps since women have waaay to many options. At least that's what I've gathered from other GaG questions.

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    • Thanks :) literally I have never had one girl even take interest in me. Like right now I can hear my friend on the phone with women interested in him and I don't think he's attractive at all yet he's overweight but the only thing he has is olive skin and women seem to love him

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    • Do you mean your friends asked out others?

    • Yes that's what I mean. They are confident enough to ask others out. That's why they aren't single

  • You looks so cute and handsome with the long red hair... and you sound lovely and a bit jaded. First off don't take what people say so seriously don't be hard on yourself. Second you'll find someone if you change your attitude into something like today I'll find the woman I like and ask one out. Lastly it's hard for everyone most people aren't ready to commit they are immature.

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    • Thanks for the advice , I'm thinking of seeking help for mental health :)

  • @Abdkilani he is look like sexy

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  • You're fine. Im 34 and always single

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  • Dude, you're not a bad looking person. You just have to get over mental block and quit stressing.

    Women like chill and relaxed men. Just say hi to women and if one is feeling you then let the vibe and convo flow naturally.

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  • Shave your head and be more consistend with talking to girls its like Sport the more Training the better you get

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  • mate, stop putting them up on pedestals they do not deserve it. Aussie women are the worst, followed by American women, then British. Women today just want a man for his utility value and wallet. They want status and to elevate themselves in their social circles.
    Continue to be picky as hell, if you get a bad one, she will destroy your life. Like so many other men have. There are 3.5 billion women on the planet, you may want to try the Netherlands, they are direct and blunt, but you get used to it.

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    • Well the funny thing is I'm on around 105 k per year , work my arse of and importing steel from around the world for Australia's largest infrastructures yet I hate a lot of the yuppie crowd and some of the corporate snooty people. I grew up in a large working class family with 5 kids and I still act that way. I don't dress up in expensive clothing or drive a top car which I could but I feel like that would attract the wrong type. Yeah I've been to Germany and Brussels but not Holland. I find the women there a lot easier to speak to especially the women from the balakan sea region.

  • Grow a beard so you don't have a baby face. Also you have this stare that's really creepy. This in combo with inexperience gives a cerial killer look. To get them off your weird stare you gotta properly time complimenting and propositioning. These are an intro to a soft approach woman which is good for you. Don't say will you suck my dick but things like a long stare at the body while complimenting her looks or biting your lip while looking her up and down during a close conversation. If she starts touching you start see what physical boundaries she has with you. Just don't slap her on the ass tell after she's had your dick in her mouth.

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  • That's why it looks like a men go through growth more than women do as a result of improving dating life

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  • Your hair is fine dude, people may use that to insult you but no one actually dislikes a guy for being a redhead. Attractiveness has a low correlation with relationship success in men so although you don't look unattractive to me, it actually doesn't make much difference. If you have a mental health issue then finding a partner won't help. If you want other people to love you then you need to become self sufficient, people are drawn to those who love themselves because it proves that they think they are worth loving. What you really need is to force yourself into a mentality where you are so happy with yourself that you could live out the rest of your life without a significant other and love it. Of course very few people achieve this entirely but it is important that you can be content with yourself. From your description, it sounds like you really need to stop focusing on lack of relationship and manifest the mentality that regardless of your relationship success, you will always love yourself. I truly believe that this is what you need, however, if you do this and it doesn't work then at least you won't care anymore.

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