Do guys care if a girl is anorexic?

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And doesn't eat?

I've tried everything to stay skinny healthy but it never works so it's a year later and basically I never eat and if I do eat, it's once a week and a piece of toast or an apple.Do guys care?At least I'm skinny lol

dance_backwards · Accepted Answer

Anorexia is a disease. A clinically diagnosable disease. Do most guys care if you have that particular disease? Well, like any disease, it probably depends on how bad you have it. It also depends on the guy. A lot of guys are pretty disgusting, I'm afraid, and are attracted to self-destruction, especially if it comes in that particular form.

I think the problem is that it's hard to tell what you're asking. If you're just skinny, and you don't eat too much, and you feel that it is comfortable and natural for you not to eat too much, then certainly some guys are attracted to skinnier women, and some are attracted to heavier women, and some, like myself, tend only to be attracted to fairly athletic women who are neither skinny nor bulky.

If you are truly anorexic and starving yourself to death... certainly, NOT ALL men are attracted to women who are anorexic. Yes, I'm afraid that some men are. Those that are genuinely attracted because of the anorexia are undeniably disgusting people. As I say, it is undeniably disgusting to be attracted to someone's sickness, and I don't see how you can get around that when you ask the question.

If you are asking, on the other hand, whether a decent guy could be attracted to an anorexic woman in spite of her anorexia, which I think is the real point of your question? Well, then my answer is that a perfectly decent guy could certainly be attracted to someone with anorexia. Absolutely. Just not BECAUSE of her anorexia. All the same, for decent guys, anorexia is fairly likely to be a "turn-off," just not a "deal-breaker."

asakurakid · Accepted Answer

your all a bunch of sick fks then should get smacked to the floor and id like to beat the hell out of all you lot that tell her to stay skinny don't be bloody stupid don't starve yourself to be skinny because you will be come ill and the more you do it the more ill you become and won't be able to pick up from it why don't you just eat and gain some weight and then excersise daily and properly to keep your weight and a good level that way you stay healthy and skinny not ill I think any guy who wants a girl to do such a thing obviously is wrong in the head and needs a kickin any girl who thinks starving themselves to death is attractive then your an idiot the only thing your going to attractive is the prat guys that will use you for sex and nothing more than treat you as a tool if you think your clever then your shallow and pathetic and a disgrace to girls out there who have respect for themselves my answer to your question is yes REAL MEN DO CARE WE TAKE PRIDE IN A GIRL WHO HAS RESPECT FOR THEMSELVES THE ONLY GUYS WHO DONT CARE THAT YOUR MAKING YOURSELF ILL ARE THE ONES WHO ARE FKING JERKS ANY GUY WANTS TO ARGUE WITH IT BRING IT ON IL SMASH YOU DOWN WITH WORDS ALONE FKING LOOSERS GET A LIFE AND ACTUELLY HELP THE POOR GIRL BECOME HEALTHY You SICK FKS!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To answer you question:

->Yes, guys do care. They want you to be healthy. Anyone who doesn't is a jerk, even jerks care.

From personal experience:

->I've been there and I know it's hard. I'm still recovering. I'll never be the same. My heart is messed up, my bones are frail, and worst of all I will never be able to have my own baby because it would kill me to be pregnant. You don't want to end up like me. I had to quit everything I loved and spend months hooked up to an iv in the hospital. I'm going through intensive therapy and no one looks at me the same anymore. My friends eventually got sick of it. Guys who didn't know me were disgusted by me. I honestly looked like death and I'm surprised I'm still alive.

To prove my point:

->My guy friends tried to force-feed me...multiple times.

->Even one of the biggest jerks I know started bringing me a lunch so I wouldn't have an excuse to skip lunch.

->The boys I played sports with stopped trying because they told me they were too afraid they would break me in half.

Now a lecture (I know you said no but just read it):

->Please please please try to get healthy. You don't want to end up like me. My life sucks. I almost died because I wanted to be skinnier. I was naturally a zero and I still thought I was fat. Sometimes I wish I had died. Please get help. Think about what it could mean for your future. Don't you want a future? Don't you want to be able to have kids? Don't you want to keep doing the things you love? Please just consider it.

Arwens-Fire · Accepted Answer

For starters I will say to "Anonymous User",DONT ask a question,if you are not prepared for all types of answers from ALL angles. DON't tell folks not to lecture you. Doing so is very ignorant being that you are confessing to have a very serious disease that is BOTH psychological and physically damaging. YOU posted the question,so if anything you should be kicking yourself in the ass for even asking it and expecting only YES or NO answers. That actually shows how dilusional you actually are,and further explains why you should seek HELP. I'm not railing on you,however,people in the right frame of mind KNOW that anorexia is not cute or attractive. YOU are hurting yourself in everyway. So after reading your responses to some people, I've just got to say,Step Off, and calm down that attitude. You're super defensive about it because you know you have a problem and you want people to give responses that are enabling to your disease.

Yeah,im not a guy,and No I don't care to answer this silly question. No I'm not mean,but honest. I'm going to finish my kit kat and pizza,have a good one.

human_condition · Accepted Answer

Men can be shallow, but hopefully not to the point where they put their girlfriends in danger.

If nothing else, they won't want to put up with that kind of drama. It's a mental disorder and you'll end up in hospital for ages with people trying to help you get back on track.

Men are genetically programmed to be shallow because beauty used to be a sign of good health- a women with good skin and a decent figure would be a suitable child bearer. Now that standard has been twisted and girls think it's good to starve themselves to appease men. Being underweight is just as bad as being overweight. All men I've talked to hate the anorexic look. I'm a healthy weight and have never had any big trouble with finding a boyfriend.

I get that none of these replies will change your mind but you asked a question, the members of GAG only want to help, and we're doing our best (well, most of us).

I know, I know, you wanted a one word answer, so mine is YES. (Frankly, if he doesn't care, he doesn't deserve you).

thegroupof7 · Answer

Listen, you really wana know what guys think, sure the skinny chick models are hot but we KNOW no body ACTUALLY looks like that. We don't expect girls to look like that, if you've been anorexic for to long, your body consumes all its energy stores, including both fat and muscle. Meaning you become so thin its NOT attractive anymore, Even the natural healthy looking fat in your breasts gets consumed, the overall appearance looks sickly. And as far as guys caring, yes guys DO care. Honestly its so selfish that a girl will want a certain figure that she deprives herself like that! Do you have a boyfriend? What's he say? Are you truly so selfish that you don't want to go out to dinner with your friends? I know that no matter what I say you won't change your habits, So not only do guys care about you and your health, because we want you to be safe and be OK, a guy will also care about your figure, and hear me now, a woman at a healthy weight is FAR more attractive. A man will also care about your emotional state, and the fact that you apparently think your fat is really quite depressing and the actions you have taken because of this are selfish

gdude2002 · Answer

From the update, I can see that the asker doesn't really care about the answer to her question at all. However, I will still try to answer it, for the benefit of people who are reading this...

There are many different types of guys around, some of them are nice and some of them are assholes. Unfortunately, the latter seems more common. Personally, I would care if the person I was going out with was putting themselves in this sort of danger, because it means that they most likely have self-esteem or self-confidence problems. I would still love them but it would be a constant worry, and it could honestly drive some people over the edge if the girl doesn't do anything about it. I also think that being extremely thin would also remove any sexual feelings I had for her.

Not trying to lecture the asker here, but... While anorexia is a voluntary decision to not eat, it IS a clinically recognised disease and it IS known to be fatal most of the time. You see some really screwed up pictures of anorexics sometimes, and I often wonder why they bother when it is so obviously completely messing up their health. However, I understand that some people do it because of personal issues and I sympathise with that. Just remember: Super small sizes, for example size 0, are UNNATURAL and A MAJOR TURN-OFF for nearly every guy on the planet. The emotional love may exist, but the sexual feelings will not.

Anonymous · Answer

I would rather my girlfriend look like this: Than this: Skinnier is better looking to look at,hold and have sex with.No one wants a "big" girl

mozellaaa · Answer

Hey a**hole, you'll probably never read this because its a year later, but shut the f*** up. It often starts out as a conscious decision and it is NOT something that happens because of protein and cerebral blood flow imbalances. It IS a conscience decision, that's why its so much more likely in the States over, say, Africa. Because it is something that is programmed for young girls to believe from as young as 5 years old, that they are overweight. You should seriously read a f***ing book sometime, instead of spouting out sh*t that your girlfriend said. An "ACTUAL" anorexic doesn't mean sh*t, you sound so stupid. You're describing one case, your girlfriends, dumbass. They don't normally eat three meals a day, and eat far less than 1000 calories (generally speaking). She is neither stupid or selfish, you ignorant prick. Why would she have a personality disorder because she posted a question and happens to define something in another way than your narrow minded and ill informed self? Go f*** yourself. I hope you do read this.

mozellaaa · Answer

"Over a year agoMy girlfriend deals with chronic anorexia and at one point was down to 75 pounds (before I started dating her) and first of all, being anorexic is not a f***ing conscious decision. It is a serious mental disorder that is caused by protein and cerebral blood flow imbalances, also with other problems that have to do with the nervous system. It's a serious issue, not something that a dumb bitch like you can use to use as a f***ing crutch. And by the way, a girl who is ACTUALLY anorexic eats 3 times a day every day, but strives to keep her daily calorie intake under 1000. You're f***ing stupid and selfish, you've got a f***ing personality disorder, not an eating disorder. F***yourself "

Hey a**hole, you'll probably never read this because its a year later, but shut the f*** up. It often starts out as a conscious decision and it is NOT something that happens because of protein and cerebral blood flow imbalances. It IS a conscience decision, that's why its so much more likely in the States over, say, Africa. Because it is something that is programmed for young girls to believe from as young as 5 years old, that they are overweight. You should seriously read a f***ing book sometime, instead of spouting out sh*t that your girlfriend said. An "ACTUAL" anorexic doesn't mean sh*t, you sound so stupid. You're describing one case, your girlfriends, dumbass. They don't normally eat three meals a day, and eat far less than 1000 calories (generally speaking). She is neither stupid or selfish, you ignorant prick. Why would she have a personality disorder because she posted a question and happens to define something in another way than your narrow minded and ill informed self? Go f*** yourself. I hope you do read this.

Xenoid19 · Answer

Your right it is Your body.My personal preference is an in shape girl that likes to eat but works out. This doesn't mean She has a super model body. Its all about living a healthy lifestyle, and for my preferences, I eat 4000 calories a day, I think it would be impossible to date someone that didn't eat at least half of what I ate.

If you ever want to talk nutrition, losing weight and getting in shape while eating I'd love to help. I've trained girls who thought the only way to stay skinny was to not eat. I trained a 100 lb 5"6 girl for a year. She gained 20 lbs, she went up a cup size, got a bigger booty, a nice flat stomach with oblique lines.

If you want to talk friend me, I'd like to help if you want it, if not then You got my opinion.

Anonymous · Answer

Ohh your in deep sh*t girl, I just spent 3 years and $10 000 fixing my skrewed up digestive system that was the result of my anorexia. I missed out on my teen years and that I can't get back.

And I said for 4 years "It will never happen to me" well buckle up girl your in for the worst few years of your life and it's torturous because your not going to die...it's MUCH worse, years of constipation, a bloated stomach, hair falling out, suicidal thoughts... I'm sorry I can't help but laugh, I can't believe I was as stupid as you.

I'm eating now, my digestive system is working now, I'm thinner than I was, I am sure as hell hotter than I was, I have the sweetest boyfriend, I have finally started uni, I am happier then I've ever been and my ass fits in my jeans!

Yes they care, they want to be with someone NORMAL., YOU ARE NOT

they want to be with someone with a future YOU DONT HAVE ONE

they want to be with someone who can bare their children, thus YOU NEED UR PERIOD

How do you expect them to love you when you can't love yourself

I know you don't care for lectures because when I was at your stage of anorexia no amount of yelling or bribery would get me to eat a damn thing and I functioned just fine. But your day will come and please alert me when it does because I could use a good laugh.

Idiot

funkadelic5 · Answer

I just want to back up what I said before in that the "toned" looked that almost all girls strive for comes from having a combination of low body fat percentage and high amount of muscle (for women). When one starves themselves they lose a disproportionately high amount of weight from muscle mass compared to losing it by heathier eating and exercise - giving them the "bony" look instead of the "toned" look. When men say they like skinny girls what they really mean to say is that they like slender girls. Girls that we can pick our teeth with don't appeal to us.

0ddjob · Answer

Whether or not you are anorexic, this is a control issue for you.

You are anorexic (or claim to be anorexic) because:

A) it is something over which you alone can exert control;

B) it elicits an emotional response from others, affording you another degree of control;

C) you can choose to manipulate the people you interact with by giving or witholding information, or designing your counterresponses to elicit a desired reaction, thus giving you - more control.

Of course, I know you're not going to provide a meaningful answer to this, as that would be something you would interpret as relinquishment of control, but I would find it interesting to know the cause(s) that led to this effect.

I won't bug you anymore after this.

I hope you live long enough to get your head screwed on straight, learn to enjoy life and then live long enough to savor that experience.

Good luck.

peace-love-couture · Answer

Ok, I just have to answer this question again.

People on here are acting s though their "words of wisdom" are going to change a persons eating habits.They aren't.If someone is ana or mia, your words,especially over the internet,mean nothing.Nothing you say will stop this girl from starving herself,nothing you say will make her "eat a burger/pizza" Nothing you say matters to this girl, people suffering from ana won't even listen to nutritionists and therapists let along you people.I'm not encouraging her, and neither is the anon girl, but if you don't understand this mindset, then you are in no position to talk about encouraging or not, because clearly you lack the ability to comprehend that she isn't going to have an epiphany because of y'all

BrookeleShort · Answer

Ack you only is like once a week!?! that's crazy... sorry I love food=P. I've asked many guys what they about very skinny girls, the answer is alwasy the same... men love curves! They don't want a bag of bones, but someone with a little bit of meat on them at least, when a girl orders a steak over a salad it shows they have a good appetite. Unless you're happy eating the way you are that's OK, but you should still stay healthy, plus only eating once a week screws up your body metablosim and sometimes makes you gain weight, because you're starving your body of healthy vitamins and carbs it needs so once you take that away it freaks out and stores as much fat as possible. But uhhh chyea curves like Beyonce's are sexay;) Plus if a guy supports anorexia he's a shallow, insecure dimwit with no life, so eat a burger! A guy should love you for you, not your body weight silly.

KarKingJack · Answer

LOL. Guys on GirlsAskGuys care. Actually, everyone will care, because anorexia is a big thing, you know? But hopefully they care compassionately, not y'know. 'Thats disgusting.' Hahaha.

Anyway, I dated an anorexic ^_^ Although she had managed to get over the worst of it and get eating by the time I met her, so it wasn't something I had to like, be part of. I have weight problems too, but not something whack serious like anorexia. But yeah. I quite like it, actually.

62893 · Answer

Guys care more about your mental state & confidence more than what you look like. I can understand wanting to be thin and attractive, but eating once a week? that's a bit extreme. If you are so uncomfortable about yourself that you would starve yourself, no guy is going to go for that. Be happy with yourself, the person you are, before worrying about what guys think. Even if you get a boyfriend, his love for you can never replace your own love/respect for yourself...you will be an empty shell who has tricked herself into thinking she is happy. Appearance isn't everything. Be confident and embrace the true you, and guys will love you for that.

Anonymous · Answer

I am anorexic by myself, and I wanna stay skinny)) In your case, I wouldn't tell your boyfriend that you are one of them, because he might freak out or something. Why should your relationship suffer because of this? If he likes you and you like him-be happy!) However, being anorexic is not very beneficial(cause you gonna have problems with health, with your parents who wanna you to be healthy and give birth to your "future" kids, live active and long, with yourself cause anorexia never gonna leave you in the future and you always will be upset with you image) BUT IT IS REALLY ONLY UP TO YOU! YOUR FUTURE) YOUR DECISION)

p.s. Guys Do love skinny girls all the way round, and there is almost no exception to this rule:)

dweebette · Answer

The answer is YES as you now know. The vast majority of answerers would care.

Why?

There's two possible endings for an anorexic girl:

a) You get help and learn to control your disease, which recquires medical help and support from your family, friends and boyfriend.

b) You die.

That's it. No other ending happens. An anorexic woman over 30 is unheard of; why? Because they die before hitting thirty.

Now obviously a guy is going to care if you are affected by a disease that could lead to your death. If he doesn't he's asshole.

Would you care if your SO had cancer? Presumably yes,because you'll be scared for him. It's the same thing.

I don't give a sh*t if you don't want lectures, that's what you get and that's what you need.

You should have expected it when posting the question.

Get help,girl <3

toosexualcat · Answer

some guys care, yes. Some guys will say wow, she takes lousy care of herself! Not a keeper! So what if you're skinny? You're unhealthy therefore undesirable.

Other guys just want a bang so they dont' care if you're unhealthy or not...

Some guys hate the typical I never eat on dates girl...

Other guys like the unhealthy so they can feel better by trying to rescue them and or keep them unhealthy so they feel better about themselves...

Question is, what guy do YOU want? A healthy guy will want a healthy girl. NO question.

TeAmo122008 · Answer

A guy that truly cares about YOU as a human being most certainly would be bothered by that. If you just so happened to come across a guy who did think it was OK and did nothing to help you because all he cares about is having a skinny girlfriend, well then that's no guy worth sticking with... Besides, being anorexic is unhealthy and you mentioned that you are doing all that you can to stay skinny and healthy...and by eating so little and so spiratically, you're messing up your metabolism, which is a big contributer to how your body works when storing the energy and fats it needs or doesn't need... You need help... And yeah, I lectured... But you put it out there..

Sarahhdx · Answer

Okay. I'm not going to lecture you because I know it's not what you're wanting, it's your body, your choice and you probably don't care what some random girl on the interent is saying about anorexia. But I don't think a guy would be keen on it. They would be concerned about you and I think a guy would prefer you to be a little chubby than dangerously underweight so if you want a boyfriend then you will have to start eating. I know how you feel because I've been there before. But with a little help from those who care about me I am now at risk of being overweight lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes we do because eventually you'll look sick and sick isn't attractive. There is a difference between healthy skinny and sick skinny and guys aren't attracted to sick skinny because you look like you would die before being able to have a child. Even guys that don't want kids still subconsciously judge women by how fertile they look.

Peedesperation · Answer

I think that if I was your boyfriend I would care very much that you were putting your health at risk, anorexia is a very complex condition and the problem lies within you, guys are happy if their girlfriends are happy but I suspect that if you are honest with yourself you are not happy. I would urge you to get some help

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