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Either it's a cowards way out or their partner should let them focus on their career and not hinder it which is always never the case, its mostly an excuse
for some people its a cowards way out, for some its a valid excuse
It can be an excuse. But it can be very valid as well
It could be a cowards way out or a valid excuse depending on the person. I have come across both.
It’s a valid excuse. BUT many cowards use that excuse, that’s for sure.
Every excuse is a coward excuse. If you want to be with a person you just know, if you need excuses to avoid something serious it’s because you’re just using them for sex and don’t have enough balls to admit to yourself and to the world that you’re a piece of shit who uses people.
It is valid. I can't be in a good relationship and have a good family without being successful.
I mean some careers like medicine and engineering in college are pretty brutal and put that together with a job I can imagine why some people would have no time to be with someone.
Alphas focus on careers. Betas focus on families and pleasing the alpha. Typically the betas are the only ones who are focusing on a relationship because the alpha is focusing on himself.
Some people can't commit 100 % to a relationship but don't want to be with out one either! So they use work as an excuse!!
No one owes you a truthful explanation of why they don't want to be with you.
For a guy its valid as dating is more stressful for guys but for women its a meme
A meme? Lmao
That’s retarded
No bully
That’s actually retarded tho
Women need to focus on their gender studies career
Wrong, it’s a bullshit excuse for both genders
it's a cowards way out-otherwise-the individual wouldn't be in a relationship.
It's valid and appropriate. I have my career to pursue on.
It's valid to it's fullest
No, it's a bullshit excuse. After all, if you really WERE focusing on your career, you'd never be in a situation where you would feel a "need" to claim it to excuse or explain away something. You'd be too fucking FOCUSED.
To focused that's a new one
Relationships take time. Sometimes focusing on your career doesn't leave much time, and you feel torn between priorities.
And if you met the right partner then the relationship would not be a burden. That's why they're so scarce.
Maybe its not the other person. I think it may have a lot to do with how much time and effort they expect of themselves in a relationship. Commitment is more than just being exclusive. They may ask themselves if the time they have available would be enough of the roles were reversed.
If you can factor your thoughts from your updates into your relationship criteria, would you consider this person the one for you?
My mistake: not your updates, but your explanation of the question.
The one is the savior or our planet. May he be remembered
![Is the "I want to focus on my career" excuse a cowards way of avoiding a relationship or a valid excuse?]()
Anyway there are multiple qualified women for relationships. There are perhaps even many of them since I am only into strong and independent women. And those have the same in common that I have: little time.
Sure. There are always multiple women who meet most of your criteria. The question is; Is the ability to make time for a relationship one of your criteria? If not, should it be? If it is, where does it fit in your prioritised list of things you're looking for in a woman?
I kinda care little about that. Life is busy as it is and i have understanding that we're overwhelmed by default. So it may work either way.
Would it work if the other person doesn't have the same mindset and understanding of the situation as you?
Probably not. Life is busy.
But I'm sure a working woman will usually understand herself.
The fact that life is busy doesn't prevent a good relationship from forming. The mindset of the individuals does. You have a good understanding, but if she doesn't, then you're incompatible. Which is why I asked if such a woman was the one for you.
It doesn't do us any good to analyse what the person really means or whether they're being honest or lying. Either way, they're not compatible with you.
I agree. Unfortunately such women are few and far between. Normally.
Which is why I'm going to live single for a very long time. And "abandon" the idea of marriage, family and kids. We barely have enough time for ourselves.
I say "abandon" in quote marks because it's not part of my long term life plans. Never has been.
im telling you this right now
there are very few people who will focus on their career as if it matter
simple place little bit of money and im good
I think it is valid and coward at the same time but follow your heart💖💖
nobody needs an excuse to not be in a relationship
I agree but still, hehe.
Not everyone thinks like you. Not everyone wants a relationship like you.
It's valid. If you wanna get somewhere in life you sometimes have to sacrifice other things
It's bullshit. It's the modern woman's excuse for basically saying "I wanna sleep around with hundreds of guys. Fuck relationships"
Whatever the reason it let's you know what is important in his life
It's an understandable response. People need to focus on future.
More than likely she's not interested. that's why she says it
Most of the time, it is indeed bullshit.
I always thought that was an excuse
People can be obstacles to your career goals
How can personal life affect work life? Then what people who are married and working?
Not valid at all, you have to make sacrifices for the ones you live.
Depends on the situation.
it depends on the person and their true reasons
I agree with @Wowgirl10q.
Good for you Here, dear. xx
You always have time for the people you care about
Valid
xx
~ Mrs Manson
Valid.
before I started school and met an awesome boyfriend (who I thought was awesome at that time) who knew of my career goals because I shared that with him. So with less than couple months before school started he decided to break up with me for no good reasons (he cheated, found out later), was devastated and it took me longer than few months to finally recover from the breakup. I noticed how it affected my social life and school work afterwards. From there, I decided that career first then have relationship after completing my goals without any distractions/interferences with cheating/break up issues which might occur because some people are fickle easily like that even when you feel safe and secured in the relationship.
TO the ASKER,
You also have the NPD personality. a lot of people you agree with have this personality. The"You must be right, they must be wrong at all times." You failed to sympathize with others feelings as well.
No. They have failed to explain to me why its a valid excuse. Refer to one of the guys MHO to prove you wrong.
I explained and yet you didn't agree with my honest experience.
Where did i say i disagree? You have followed up with your story i see and couldn't find me disagreeing with you in the logs.
Just read all those other's opinions whom you have selected, none actually shared their negative past experience for it to be truly valid, except one lady who agreed with you that it was an excuse because she happened to be in a positive relationship while having a career oriented boyfriend.
It doesn't take 1+1 to know all this.
So? One of the guys explaining the reason why its valid got MHO too and there are only a total of 4 mho's possible.
It doesn't mean anything. That's only overanalyzing scheiße.
What did you call me?
Nah, I recall you arguing with me on GaG over me being straight. You kept on saying all girls are bisexuals. Lol
Yoi refused to be wrong, you just wanted to Win, win like you know it all. 😊
NPD doesn't like to lose, they always want to be right, never admitting for scheibe. ✌
I never said all women are bisexual.
You must have confused me with someone else.
The irony is very strong here.
Anyway you are dismissed and I don't take any of your words into account. Goodbye.
I am dismissed from you mr. General? lol.
Funny part is you proved me something, I never said all women, I said girls and you proved my point. ☺
Because your anonymous post said "All women..."
it's an actual And valid excuse
people wanna better themselves. can't fault them
Its a perfectly fine personal choice.
typical fear excuse
Valid to fools
I don't think so
Cowards way.
Maybe, but also maybe this person is a robot
. no. they don't owe you a thorough explanation.
It can be both
Honestly, I would be glad.
please take me off here I can not stand, Idiocracy.
I think it is
It’s understandable
No, it isn't.
Totally valid
Valid
Valid
It's valid.
It's a valid excuse
very valid.
Yes.
Very good
Completely valid