I don't necessarily think it's the "cowards way out" or that it means "I'm not interested in you." It could mean other things like that you are escaping having to deal with ANY significant romantic relationship and work is your opiate of choice. It could mean that you are not escaping, but just not really interested in such a relationship at this time in your life and enjoying your work life instead.
I dont think its an excuse. I think its more of a justification of the lack of girlfriends/boyfriends/romantic relationships or just social life in general. You'll feel better about yourself if you tell yourself you are missing out on these things for a very good reason.
I mean, sometimes it depends. If you have school and a job then yes it is more understandable if it can help you focus your grades and all more. However, if you're out of school and you're just working then there is no real point go end a relationship based on your career. There are some exceptions, but most people don't go into that.
I don't see anything wrong with that. There are people out there who have to study full time, work full time and factor their friends in there too. A relationship is hard work and you may as well be dedicated to someone than having a half assed attempt.
But only if either you make the relationship hard or your partner does. I am responsible enough to not make the relationship hard work but a walk in the park 🏞
no working 12 hrs during the weekend plus going out. Do you really think some people get the weekend off? Most of us in the casual field can take what we get.
I mean at my age 95% of us work at hospitality or retail, who's big days generally are the weekend. Not to mention some people have other stuff to do on the weekend.
If the right person comes along they will dump that excuse. When is a career worth more, as if they have infinite options, especially as they get older.
I think in some cases it can be b. s. However it can be valid because they may be so focused and unavailable because of their career that they know they can't give the time and attention needed to have a healthy relationship.
You can’t ghve a rejationship yiur all. You can give it what you can give it just like everything else life. it’s ubtealistic to expect 100% time devotion. life doesn’t allow that.
Obviously it’s an autocorrect mistake not a spelling mistake. Anyhow , this is a talk site. That’s what people are here for. You should heabke to deal with other people’s opinions. It is not as if I was not being rude.
@VIVANT. I don't think she was saying you have to give 100% of your attention to have a healthy relationship. But you shouldn't get in one unless you have enough time to give to someone. If you are someone really focused on working on your career and have no time to spend on someone but every once in a while when you see fit then don't expect you can make someone happy in a relationship. You gotta find a way to give time to both or a relationship will likely fail.
My boyfriend works during weekends and have a part time job (same thing for me too) but we still have a hell a lot time for each other. We wake up at 5 am to see each other before class starts at highschool and when we finish the day we met for another 3 hours. There is always a way.
I don't think it's necessarily an excuse at all, valid or otherwise.
Maybe they genuinely just don't want or they avoid it but aren't hiding that they avoid it. It's just like yeah, finding a relationships is hard and I'm fed up with try, I'd rather focus on something that actually benefits more or makes me feel happy in some way.
It's a valid excuse. And understandable. Some people really don't have time to be in a relationship. They're working, studying, doing research and taking care of themselves. Focusing on someone else might make them lose their focus or they wouldn't pay enough attention to their partner.
I don’t think that it is a coward’s way out, but I think that if you want to make time for a relationship, you will ALWAYS find a way. That involves putting someone else’s needs/wants alongside your own. So if you are ready to make that sacrifice; a relationship makes more sense to you.
Depending on the scenario, it is usually valid. I had a guy use this excuse on me. He had plenty of time for a relationship. I called him out right then and there. Like I hate when people use you and try to act like they care about your feelings... yeah i think that’s worse than ending things completely.
I believe it's a valid excuse. with the cost of living going up, job requirements, job expectations, and advancements you need to stay on top of education in order to get what's needed. a lot of times relationships can interfere especially if your mate is not on the same page.
Having excellent notes requires a lot of dedication you are not gonna find with a relationship. Is valid to want leave romantic relationahips aside if you are in college, and for other reasons. The fact that you could have a relationship, doesn't mean you should.
Well if you want her, you will find time. Thought studiying and working full time + hobbies, can be tiring. So it may not be fair to her. But then again it deppends on relationships. If its not past dating and not beeing official i would take it as it is. If its steady relationships, that its cowards way out. If you want to leave, just tell it so, and be deamed if you can't answer why.
Some people can't multitask. I met a lot of girls like that who didn't want to date until they were done with college. I understand that because their career is for life. That fucker they met at a party isn't for life it's just a waste of time relationship.
I think it can be a valid reason since a relationship requires time and devotion and seems unfair can't give that especially if going into a new relationship. I guess it can work if there is patience and understanding.
On the other hand, Some people socialize better than others. I’ve had a hard time making/trusting friends. I wouldn’t want to put someone I care about through the same issues. Rather them be happy/better off without me.
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I don't necessarily think it's the "cowards way out" or that it means "I'm not interested in you." It could mean other things like that you are escaping having to deal with ANY significant romantic relationship and work is your opiate of choice. It could mean that you are not escaping, but just not really interested in such a relationship at this time in your life and enjoying your work life instead.
I dont think its an excuse. I think its more of a justification of the lack of girlfriends/boyfriends/romantic relationships or just social life in general.
You'll feel better about yourself if you tell yourself you are missing out on these things for a very good reason.
I mean, sometimes it depends. If you have school and a job then yes it is more understandable if it can help you focus your grades and all more. However, if you're out of school and you're just working then there is no real point go end a relationship based on your career. There are some exceptions, but most people don't go into that.
I don't see anything wrong with that. There are people out there who have to study full time, work full time and factor their friends in there too. A relationship is hard work and you may as well be dedicated to someone than having a half assed attempt.
Warm.
But only if either you make the relationship hard or your partner does.
I am responsible enough to not make the relationship hard work but a walk in the park 🏞
No but some people don't have enough time in the day. Like study+school+friends+virtually no sleep. They could not physically handle a relationship
Yeah. There's the weekend however.
no working 12 hrs during the weekend plus going out. Do you really think some people get the weekend off? Most of us in the casual field can take what we get.
I thought most workers get weekends off considering we are not talking about cashiers and medics and law enforcement as well as the police.
I mean at my age 95% of us work at hospitality or retail, who's big days generally are the weekend. Not to mention some people have other stuff to do on the weekend.
If the right person comes along they will dump that excuse. When is a career worth more, as if they have infinite options, especially as they get older.
That's my point!
I think in some cases it can be b. s. However it can be valid because they may be so focused and unavailable because of their career that they know they can't give the time and attention needed to have a healthy relationship.
Exactly, if you know you can't give a relationship your all or undivided attention it's best not to enter
@SouthernGirl23
You can’t ghve a rejationship yiur all. You can give it what you can give it just like everything else life. it’s ubtealistic to expect 100% time devotion. life doesn’t allow that.
@VIVANT learn to spell and stop stalking. blocked tfoh
@SouthernGirl23
Obviously it’s an autocorrect mistake not a spelling mistake. Anyhow , this is a talk site. That’s what people are here for. You should heabke to deal with other people’s opinions. It is not as if I was not being rude.
@VIVANT. I don't think she was saying you have to give 100% of your attention to have a healthy relationship. But you shouldn't get in one unless you have enough time to give to someone. If you are someone really focused on working on your career and have no time to spend on someone but every once in a while when you see fit then don't expect you can make someone happy in a relationship. You gotta find a way to give time to both or a relationship will likely fail.
@pink thank you😎. my point exactly
Well it's one of those cliche break up lines such as it's not you it's me or I need to find myself.
Yeah!
My boyfriend works during weekends and have a part time job (same thing for me too) but we still have a hell a lot time for each other. We wake up at 5 am to see each other before class starts at highschool and when we finish the day we met for another 3 hours. There is always a way.
I don't think it's necessarily an excuse at all, valid or otherwise.
Maybe they genuinely just don't want or they avoid it but aren't hiding that they avoid it. It's just like yeah, finding a relationships is hard and I'm fed up with try, I'd rather focus on something that actually benefits more or makes me feel happy in some way.
It's a valid excuse. And understandable. Some people really don't have time to be in a relationship. They're working, studying, doing research and taking care of themselves. Focusing on someone else might make them lose their focus or they wouldn't pay enough attention to their partner.
Stereotype.
I don’t think that it is a coward’s way out, but I think that if you want to make time for a relationship, you will ALWAYS find a way. That involves putting someone else’s needs/wants alongside your own. So if you are ready to make that sacrifice; a relationship makes more sense to you.
Not a valid excuse. If someone truly likes someone, they make time.
True to that.
That's fairly accurate. However the career would have to come first.
I think you can focus on your career and still live in an enjoyable relationship, these two dont cancel each other out.
I think its a cowardly way out.
Agreed
Depending on the scenario, it is usually valid. I had a guy use this excuse on me. He had plenty of time for a relationship. I called him out right then and there. Like I hate when people use you and try to act like they care about your feelings... yeah i think that’s worse than ending things completely.
I believe it's a valid excuse. with the cost of living going up, job requirements, job expectations, and advancements you need to stay on top of education in order to get what's needed. a lot of times relationships can interfere especially if your mate is not on the same page.
I already said that
Having excellent notes requires a lot of dedication you are not gonna find with a relationship. Is valid to want leave romantic relationahips aside if you are in college, and for other reasons. The fact that you could have a relationship, doesn't mean you should.
Well if you want her, you will find time. Thought studiying and working full time + hobbies, can be tiring. So it may not be fair to her. But then again it deppends on relationships. If its not past dating and not beeing official i would take it as it is. If its steady relationships, that its cowards way out. If you want to leave, just tell it so, and be deamed if you can't answer why.
Some people can't multitask. I met a lot of girls like that who didn't want to date until they were done with college. I understand that because their career is for life. That fucker they met at a party isn't for life it's just a waste of time relationship.
I think it can be a valid reason since a relationship requires time and devotion and seems unfair can't give that especially if going into a new relationship. I guess it can work if there is patience and understanding.
Valid excuse, although there is no excuses...
On the other hand, Some people socialize better than others. I’ve had a hard time making/trusting friends. I wouldn’t want to put someone I care about through the same issues. Rather them be happy/better off without me.