Both. Because it's a valid excuse, cowards use it when it's NOT true, to keep out of relationships. Wouldn't work nearly so well as an invalid excuse, would it?
I'm focused on my medical career. As a medical student, I'd rather study hard to be able to choose a good specialty, and have fun with my friends in the little free time I get.
Honestly, by the time I am a resident, I believe I won't have any problem choosing a partner.
You go ahead girl get that education. That's what I'm talking about. Meet a resident just like you who understands your lifestyle and the quality of an education.
It highly depends. I want a relationship but between my job and going back to university I barely have time to exercise. Some people can't handle as many stressors in their life. On the other hand. If they aren't working that much and just want some side action, it's an excuse.
This isn't really a question that gets a hard yes or no answer. Two busy people can make a relationship work as long there is a constant level of communicaiton. We live in a networked and interconnected world. If someone works 10 hours a day then goes to night school then little text messages here and there and a converstaion during my lunch hour is very much a loving relationship to me. NO ONE is too busy to have a relationship, anyone who says that is full of shit.
It depends on the person. If the person feel that a relationshio woulf distract him/her and make it harder to achive their goal in terms of career it id a valid excuse. However there are instancrs whete it is used just to avoid relationships.
Sometimes its a nicer way to reject someone without saying it or they could really just want to focus on their school/career at the moment. Most of girls at my job are in college and aren't thinking about relationships at the moment.
Sorry but it is somewhat valid, if someone doesn't want to date cause they want to focus on their career and that being the truthful answer, then you can't be upset cause you feel entitled to the time they don't have to give to you.
Yes. If they rejected you with an excuse like that, then that means that they're just not interested in YOU. But if they dumped you with a reason like that, then that means they are immature (it's still a legit reason, but a very, very immature one).
Valid reason. There might be lots of stuff to do after hours in addition to the time on the job. It can be very draining and the person might just want to spend off-time by himself/herself, or catching up on sleep.
Some people want both but don’t have the emotional capacity for both. If someone is really in love with their craft, there may not be room or motivation to make way for another commitment. Not everyone’s heart operates the same way as yours.
If they dont want to be in a relationship then you can't do much about it, focusing on yourself in any aspect is important so it takes priority. If they just dont want avoid straight up saying no then it might get annoying.
it's an actual And valid excuse but I think majority of people who use it just use it as an excuse, they're surely too lazy to get into a relationship so thet say that after they're people who truly mean it.
At one stage I just needed a break from being in a relationship, it had nothing to do with work. But there are people who just do better when they put all their eggs in one basket.
I think it depends on the career. Like if you're a full time nanny or whatever- not valid in my opinion But if you're a resident in the medical field or in law school or something, id say its valid as you literally have no time for anything else anyway.
Sorry, but I sense a bit of snobbery there, whether intended or not.
As you say, it is your opinion, but being a Nanny can be one of the most important jobs of all, at least with regards to the child in your care. I’m going to assume that you have no idea what a true Nanny actually does for your benefit.
I wasn’t raised by a Nanny, but my much younger sister was. She’s much more self confident than me for many reasons, LOL, but one being our Nanny.
I say “our”, I wasn’t raised by our Nanny but she was part of our household for me from 14 years on to 22 years old and she honestly raised me on a lot of issues.
She taught at a private preschool during the day then watched after my family from about 5-10:30pm every weeknight and stayed at our house with her kids when my parents were out of town.
She didn’t just need the money. She raised a child that wasn’t hers and turned that child into an extraordinary human being.
No lawyer is perfect nor is every physician, but this I can tell you, I have had the unfortunate privilege to defend and interview physicians and surgeons only to find out there is at least one bad apple on every bunch.
Physicians opening up those stand alone ER’s are simply doing so as a means of making money and not in the interest of the patient. The patient faces being charged twice by the fake ER that should be intermediate care and the hospital they are eventually sent to.
And law school doesn’t take up that much time, studying for the bar does.
Everything is person to person. Take a step back and look at your relationship without any emotional attachment. If your gut tells you he's fobbing you off. Then you know what to do.
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It certainly can be genuine. If you meet someone supportive and understanding then it can work, but the chances of that aren’t particularly high so...
I don't get it there so many successful people who have big milestones in their careers and were married and have kids. If you can't handle multiple things at a time oh boy good luck in life.
I think it is an excuse. If you think about it, how many hours do you really spend together while in a relationship. For me its usually only 5 hours a week. I'm sure everyone can find 5 hours a week to spare.
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Both. Because it's a valid excuse, cowards use it when it's NOT true, to keep out of relationships. Wouldn't work nearly so well as an invalid excuse, would it?
You make a point
I'm focused on my medical career. As a medical student, I'd rather study hard to be able to choose a good specialty, and have fun with my friends in the little free time I get.
Honestly, by the time I am a resident, I believe I won't have any problem choosing a partner.
You go ahead girl get that education. That's what I'm talking about. Meet a resident just like you who understands your lifestyle and the quality of an education.
It highly depends. I want a relationship but between my job and going back to university I barely have time to exercise. Some people can't handle as many stressors in their life. On the other hand. If they aren't working that much and just want some side action, it's an excuse.
This isn't really a question that gets a hard yes or no answer. Two busy people can make a relationship work as long there is a constant level of communicaiton. We live in a networked and interconnected world. If someone works 10 hours a day then goes to night school then little text messages here and there and a converstaion during my lunch hour is very much a loving relationship to me. NO ONE is too busy to have a relationship, anyone who says that is full of shit.
Total cowardice. It's just a whiny excuse used by weaklings who haven't the balls (real or metaphorical) to say "Just not feelin' it."
I now expect whiny little cowards to start telling me how wrong I am.
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It depends on the person. If the person feel that a relationshio woulf distract him/her and make it harder to achive their goal in terms of career it id a valid excuse. However there are instancrs whete it is used just to avoid relationships.
Sometimes its a nicer way to reject someone without saying it or they could really just want to focus on their school/career at the moment. Most of girls at my job are in college and aren't thinking about relationships at the moment.
So it could be either one.
Sorry but it is somewhat valid, if someone doesn't want to date cause they want to focus on their career and that being the truthful answer, then you can't be upset cause you feel entitled to the time they don't have to give to you.
Yes. If they rejected you with an excuse like that, then that means that they're just not interested in YOU. But if they dumped you with a reason like that, then that means they are immature (it's still a legit reason, but a very, very immature one).
Valid reason. There might be lots of stuff to do after hours in addition to the time on the job. It can be very draining and the person might just want to spend off-time by himself/herself, or catching up on sleep.
Some people want both but don’t have the emotional capacity for both. If someone is really in love with their craft, there may not be room or motivation to make way for another commitment.
Not everyone’s heart operates the same way as yours.
If they dont want to be in a relationship then you can't do much about it, focusing on yourself in any aspect is important so it takes priority. If they just dont want avoid straight up saying no then it might get annoying.
it's an actual And valid excuse but I think majority of people who use it just use it as an excuse, they're surely too lazy to get into a relationship so thet say that after they're people who truly mean it.
At one stage I just needed a break from being in a relationship, it had nothing to do with work.
But there are people who just do better when they put all their eggs in one basket.
I think it depends on the career.
Like if you're a full time nanny or whatever- not valid in my opinion
But if you're a resident in the medical field or in law school or something, id say its valid as you literally have no time for anything else anyway.
Sorry, but I sense a bit of snobbery there, whether intended or not.
As you say, it is your opinion, but being a Nanny can be one of the most important jobs of all, at least with regards to the child in your care. I’m going to assume that you have no idea what a true Nanny actually does for your benefit.
I wasn’t raised by a Nanny, but my much younger sister was. She’s much more self confident than me for many reasons, LOL, but one being our Nanny.
I say “our”, I wasn’t raised by our Nanny but she was part of our household for me from 14 years on to 22 years old and she honestly raised me on a lot of issues.
She taught at a private preschool during the day then watched after my family from about 5-10:30pm every weeknight and stayed at our house with her kids when my parents were out of town.
She didn’t just need the money. She raised a child that wasn’t hers and turned that child into an extraordinary human being.
No lawyer is perfect nor is every physician, but this I can tell you, I have had the unfortunate privilege to defend and interview physicians and surgeons only to find out there is at least one bad apple on every bunch.
Physicians opening up those stand alone ER’s are simply doing so as a means of making money and not in the interest of the patient. The patient faces being charged twice by the fake ER that should be intermediate care and the hospital they are eventually sent to.
And law school doesn’t take up that much time, studying for the bar does.
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like I said, my opinion.
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Everything is person to person. Take a step back and look at your relationship without any emotional attachment. If your gut tells you he's fobbing you off. Then you know what to do.
It certainly can be genuine. If you meet someone supportive and understanding then it can work, but the chances of that aren’t particularly high so...
That's terrible thing to say on G@G.
I like her saying the truth. Salutes!
Thanks @Unit1. Fins are more hurtful in the end, truth is always best.
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I don't get it there so many successful people who have big milestones in their careers and were married and have kids. If you can't handle multiple things at a time oh boy good luck in life.
I think it is an excuse. If you think about it, how many hours do you really spend together while in a relationship. For me its usually only 5 hours a week. I'm sure everyone can find 5 hours a week to spare.
Some people want money more than relationships. Why not? Let them do what they like.
Then they could say they're in a relationship with their job. 😎
Cowards way out.
If you're gonna live like that, there's never gonna be a good time. You'll always be busy working on something.