Deal breaker. I'm pretty ambitious myself so he may get annoyed with my prioritization of my schooling, career goals, and my wish to travel. I'm not saying that I'd push him to the back of my mind but he may feel like he has to compete for my time and energy which would be the truth. Especially if we want 2 completely different lives. I'd also probably feel somewhat frustrated if he started to undermined my efforts like some of the less ambitious people I know. I've had a few people tell me I'm wasting my time, energy, etc and it annoys me.
For me it's an absolute deal breaker. I'm a very active person, I love hitting the gym, learning new things and traveling. I don't need someone who earns much money as I have a well-paid job myself, but I would like to end up with someone who is working towards *some* goal in life or has something he is embrassingly passionate about. <3
It is a turn off. I don't need a guy to have a seven-year university plan with intentions of working for 6 figures by any means, but someone who is content with doing NOTHING just says that they don't care about the future and they don't care about themselves.
u Women who are looking for a potential spouse are usually looking for a man with ambition because they want to know that he will be able to support the family when she is at home taking care of the children. Living the rest of your life with a guy whose greatest accomplishment is reaching Level 25 on a video game doesn't sound too exciting!
Its a turn off because for women money is the mist IMPORTANT quality.
The use code words like ambition, vision, stability, so people dont think they are gold diggers. On a dating site a chic pulled the word ambition as something she wanted. With prodding ahe admitted it was more about money. Wealth.
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A turn off and a deal breaker for me.
Massive turn off.
Who wants a girl or guy who just sits at home doing nothing with their life and is not good at ANYTHING?
It's not so much that they need to be on the grind every single day making big things happen all the time, but when they are just like, you know whatever man, I just do what I do, and that's literally nothing, I can't see how that can help our future together. I want to accomplish things in my life and I work towards those things, and I'd want that in a partner. I'd want him to want me to have ambition because he has dreams for him and our future as well. So lack of ambition is a total deal breaker for me.
It's a deal breaker. Starts as a turn off but I'm speaking for ambition personally. I don't care how much you make, you just need to be able to support yourself and you need to have dreams. I dated a guy who was 23, working at McDonald's since he was 17, and no plans to change. Also high school dropout who would get his GED "someday". I broke up with him when I found out he cheated on me with someone the whole time anyways, nasty man hoe.
Girls are looking for how you'll support her and her lifestyle the way she is accustomed, along with her many offspring. If you lack ambition you'll not get to first base. Guaranteed.
Unless of course, she's one of these booty-call girls that are so popular in here. [shrug] Then they don't care, they're just wanting a pump and dump. :)
It would be a major dealbreaker but the definition of a lack of ambition differs from person to person.
If you're happy doing what you do and you're good at it and can live fairly well from the income it produces - I'm fine with that. Whatever it is, unless it is illegal
But if you have no ambition - I'll be turned off. Ambition is a top trait that attracts me to a potential partner
Ultimate deal breaker, no way in hell can I interlace my ambitious/determined energy with someone who is content with sitting at home all day staring at the wall. It's fine if he doesn't have a job yet/is looking - but at least have dreams/goals and be actively trying to pursue them otherwise you're just a lazy ass loser and I can't see a future with that.
Well, define ambitious. If being a good mother to your future children is ambitious, then please go ahead and be ambitious. If ambition means making a career and nothing can stop you from compromising, then I'd actually say I don't even like ambition in my partner.
Women are hypergamous and want a future provider, they won't accept lack of ambition because it means that the guy won't make substantial money for her and future offspring. It's a basic form of prostitution. Look at the results, men say it's ok, while for women it's a turn off or a deal breaker.
Huge turn off. They don't need to be raking in the cash but they do need to have some type of goal or ambition even if it's as simple as becoming the manager at a local store, but it needs to be something.
Hell yes; even ambition in the relationship. I want someone who wants more from life than drinking and clubbing; someone who is always looking to improve themselves everyday, through the smallest things up to the bigger things 😊
Absolutely.
If we're on a date and all you can talk about is how much you hate your life and things can't get any better, then I'm convinced you're a dud.
I tried being with someone with no ambition and it bothered me so much. I broke up with him because of it. Definitely a dealbreaker.
Yes, that would be a turn off to me. I want someone who is motivated, has goals, and is willing to work to meet those goals.
Depends on the level of lack of ambition. I'm not a super ambitious person but would still like to move up in my career.
I don't mind if he doesn't want to be at the top rank at his job but he shouldn't want to settle for the bottom either.
literally doesn't matter, you got looks and charm? you have the chick
you got money? she's yours... the only thing you do with ambition is shove it in your ass (not you personally lol ), its useless if you have something better
Yes bc everyone needs to at least know what they wanna do in their life
Ambition equals drive and passion which I like. And if you lack those traits we're a mismatch.
Definitely a turn off. I like when a woman has a goal and a passion.
I'm not a super ambitious person but i think at least some; all we need to have to move anything and relationship it's not different.
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