When it comes to dating is lack of ambition a turn off?

When it comes to dating is lack of ambition a turn off?

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Just to clarify I don't mean to the extreme of staying home all day more like being content with a low end job. Personally it's a turn off I need a travel buddy someone I can see the world with. Not a broke hoe!
The vast majority of people lack ambition the numbers in the polls don't add up. it makes me wounder how many how voted deal break/turn off lack ambition themselves or just want a guy to take care of them. Be honest with yourselfs!!

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  • It is a turn off. I don't need a guy to have a seven-year university plan with intentions of working for 6 figures by any means, but someone who is content with doing NOTHING just says that they don't care about the future and they don't care about themselves.

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    • πŸ€” 6k a month? That's pretty good higher then average how much do you expect him to make 100k a year?

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    • The way you structured your original sentence, it could be interpreted entirely differently. Just saying. Now I will shut up. I simply can't spend energy arguing with someone so incredibly hot.

    • @Apope16 Lol. Noted.

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  • Women who are looking for a potential spouse are usually looking for a man with ambition because they want to know that he will be able to support the family when she is at home taking care of the children. Living the rest of your life with a guy whose greatest accomplishment is reaching Level 25 on a video game doesn't sound too exciting!

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    • It makes her a hypergamous prostitute.

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    • I meant you both have things to offer each other. I feel like so many men are quite cynical about this. I don't want to have to depend on anyone to that extent, I'd rather know that I can manage my own life just fine, but both can build a better one together as a team.

    • I agree, but I'll add that I think a woman can also have the ambition to be a great mother to her children, and keeping a good home environment. I'm not there yet but I'm looking forward to raising kids with my husband soon.

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What Girls Said 21

  • huge turn off.

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  • It's a deal breaker. Starts as a turn off but I'm speaking for ambition personally. I don't care how much you make, you just need to be able to support yourself and you need to have dreams. I dated a guy who was 23, working at McDonald's since he was 17, and no plans to change. Also high school dropout who would get his GED "someday". I broke up with him when I found out he cheated on me with someone the whole time anyways, nasty man hoe.

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  • Hell yes; even ambition in the relationship. I want someone who wants more from life than drinking and clubbing; someone who is always looking to improve themselves everyday, through the smallest things up to the bigger things 😊

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    • So, is there any form of ambition that does not involve more money or a better job that you would like out of a man?

  • Ultimate deal breaker, no way in hell can I interlace my ambitious/determined energy with someone who is content with sitting at home all day staring at the wall. It's fine if he doesn't have a job yet/is looking - but at least have dreams/goals and be actively trying to pursue them otherwise you're just a lazy ass loser and I can't see a future with that.

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    • Riiiiight. Because a man who is content and happy with where he is in his life is some couch potato, eating ice cream, jealous of athletic looking bodies on tv, and complaining about how they can't get a guy... oh wait... are we talking about men? or a coach potato woman?

      It is amazing how quick a woman is to judge a man if he says he is not ambitious. She immediately stereotypes such a guy as jobless or some couch bum. Why? Because she subconsciously views 'ambitious' from the context of a gold digger wanting money and status. It cannot even fathom in her mind that a guy who is a construction worker making $50,000/year may not want to be the Manager of the company. He might have a good job, is hard working, and is content with his current circumstance. Many of the women commenting are so blinded by the dollar sign that they can't picture a guy like this.

    • @Apope16 Oh shut the fuck up you lazy ass bum. go get a job.

  • It would be a major dealbreaker but the definition of a lack of ambition differs from person to person.

    If you're happy doing what you do and you're good at it and can live fairly well from the income it produces - I'm fine with that. Whatever it is, unless it is illegal

    But if you have no ambition - I'll be turned off. Ambition is a top trait that attracts me to a potential partner

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What Guys Said 17

  • Massive turn off.

    Who wants a girl or guy who just sits at home doing nothing with their life and is not good at ANYTHING?

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    • I doesn't have to be extreme what if she's content being a clerk at a grocery store or a tiller at the bank? Massive turn off or tolarent?

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    • Not a complete deal breaker, but she better be quite attractive and a genuinely nice person. You can make up for one thing with others.

    • Agreed

  • Girls are looking for how you'll support her and her lifestyle the way she is accustomed, along with her many offspring. If you lack ambition you'll not get to first base. Guaranteed.

    Unless of course, she's one of these booty-call girls that are so popular in here. [shrug] Then they don't care, they're just wanting a pump and dump. :)

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  • Women are hypergamous and want a future provider, they won't accept lack of ambition because it means that the guy won't make substantial money for her and future offspring. It's a basic form of prostitution. Look at the results, men say it's ok, while for women it's a turn off or a deal breaker.

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  • Well, define ambitious. If being a good mother to your future children is ambitious, then please go ahead and be ambitious. If ambition means making a career and nothing can stop you from compromising, then I'd actually say I don't even like ambition in my partner.

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  • Its a turn off because for women money is the mist IMPORTANT quality.

    The use code words like ambition, vision, stability, so people dont think they are gold diggers. On a dating site a chic pulled the word ambition as something she wanted. With prodding ahe admitted it was more about money. Wealth.

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