Is it normal if I don't want to be in a relationship and focus on my career? Am I just aromantic and asocial?

[Anonymous]

Guys! is it normal if I don't want to be in a relationship and want to focus on my career and my healing? I keep pushing guys away from me for some reason. Everytime someone tried to get close to me, I shut them off. I can't imagine being stuck with the same person all the time or even for the rest of my life. I feel like I have commitment issues and that makes it hard to start a relationship. I'm used to being alone. Not to mention that I have bpd, avoidant attachment style, and poor social skills, that makes it hard to be in a relationship. Am I different from everyone else? Is this normal? Should I change myself?

[slatyb]

You are young. Do what you please. But it sounds like you have a poor view of yourself in social situations. If you want a relationship but are also afraid of one, counseling could help. If you are truly content to be alone, and some people are, there's nothing wrong with that.

[boggboss]

At the end of the day aslong as u are happy thats all that matters