Girlfriend is letting herself go? Should I break up? (Page 3)

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I've been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now. She's gained a good 30 lbs at least. She wasn't skinny to begin with.. but was still in good shape. She worked out a lot.. ate decent. I work out and eat healthy. I like to take care of myself and told her I expected the same from her. She agreed. Over the course of 10 months she's gained 30-40 lbs. I'm not shallow.. but come on. She has a beer gut. She can't fit into any of her jeans so she wears leggings. I've brought it up multiple times. It seems like she shapes up for a week or two. "Hey look I went to the gym today.. hey look I'm eatinf healthy again." Then goes back to her old ways. She'll cook something healthy in the kitchen when I'm there.. but catch her stuffing her face with junk while she's cooking. She looks at me like "oops" when I say.. lets go for a walk.. lets go to the gym.. she pouts. She's mad because we haven't had sex in 2 months.. but what does she expect? It's NOT attractive. Our relationship has gone down hill. Sorry.. if you're going to show me you're letting yourself go.. I'm going to push myself away. I put a lot of effort into the relationship. We got into a heated argument the other night. I yelled at her saying.. I'm tired of putting in so much effort and living up to your expectations while you get lazy and let yourself go and don't try. She cried.."I know.. you have.. I'm sorry.. I'll work on it." She goes back to her ways. I deal with this every relationship where girls get overly comfortable. It' annoying. Should I end it?

Just_A_Guy2018 · Answer

oh she has a man now so her looks no longer matter. She obviously believe that you are tied around her little finger.
If you are not happy, end it and find a better quality woman... that might take you a while though mate.

Ecco939 · Answer

Depends on how much you care for her. If you care little end it. If you care enough to actually get to the core of her issues with keeping herself up to your expectations then work that rout.

ATuairiscean · Answer

I would end it unless she kept her end of the bargain

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, end it. She may shape up once she´s single again, but only until she gets into another relationship. Know the type only too well.

taleswapper · Answer

Yes, you should leave her. This is how she'll be. She only puts in the effort to stay in shape when she's looking for a guy.

Floridacowboy911 · Answer

If you love her, you will love her for however she looks

rebelsunshine · Answer

I'd cut my losses and move on. Find a girl with healthier habits.

boomboomtown01 · Answer

seems that you guys need to communicate and find out what is going on. if the relationship is not working then it is probably better to move on..

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Dude, leave. Not your responsibility to take care of someone who doesn't want to take care of themselves.

_hottchocolatee · Answer

30 pounds in that small amount of time is an issue. I say that you should tell her that you’re only looking out for her and that you don’t want her to not care for her health.

pete10 · Answer

Maybe find something to do together. To help her be more active. Walks. Play tennis. Whatever. That would be good for both of you. Telling her right out like that. No good. She is the same person. Help her in a ositive way she needs to feel pretty

Pink2000 · Answer

That is so fucked up.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Tell her you're serious, and she is going to have to change or she will lose you. And a healthy lifestyle is as much a benefit to her as it is to you.

CaptRob · Answer

If you can determine that it really is just laziness, yes... end it immediately. Next relation, keep her on her toes a bit. When she slips up, withdraw attention, flirt with other girls, etc.

JackJPershing · Answer

You have run into a lady in the acquisitive mode who now thinks she has acquired you. Dump her and within a month or two she will be back in fighting shape.

Cookie8888 · Answer

Tell her outright that you don't fucking want her to do hurt herself, and that she should get the fuck back to being healthy. You have no obligation to stay with her.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd confront her about it one more time, have a serious talk, hint that you would break up with her and If she doesn't change, then break up

Reggieray · Answer

She pulled the BAIT AND SWITCH. When this happens, it's probably best to move on.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Remove your attention and start checking out other women. You'll see how she will start taking care of herself. And if she won't then no problem. You have moved on anyway.

James981 · Answer

Come on now bro, you can’t take sex away from her! That will make her more upset and self conscious causing her to eat more. Tell her she needs to sort herself out or you’ll have to go.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Try to involve her in some sport activities and better nutrition together.

SouthernGirl23 · Answer

You're an anon talking down on someones looks?😆😆😆 dont make me laugh

Anonymous · Answer

Girls:, you're an asshole for leaving her just because she's getting fat! "Oh your Boyfriend lost his job and broke now? Dump his ass" You do you man.

Jackdalad · Answer

You are reasonable, if a person changes, you may not be attracted to them the same as you were

Cask23 · Answer

Yes. If she’s that careless now just wait if you get married. Can you say “morbidly obese”.

D4rkGuy · Answer

Discuss it with her.. with an open heart ! And final decision should be mature and based on both agreement.. Good luck

dontgofalling · Answer

Just invite her to work out with you, but try to also get a little fat to show her you're doing it together

Goodwifie · Answer

#shedeservesbetterthanyou

PrettyRegular · Answer

No, but I would play tuba as she walks.

dreamstar72 · Answer

Up to you so you still will do whatever you want to do anyways.

art84 · Answer

If her weight is bothering you that much and you don't find her attractive then break up. You can't force someone to change for your own self.

ICantthinkofa · Answer

Try for a bit longer. Make it clear it’s threatening your relationship though.

clampfan101 · Answer

What do you love about her? Do you feel it’s enough to let her make those mistakes on her own?

Rambler221 · Answer

She needs support. Try a little longer, incentivise her or something.

audrukas36 · Answer

Maybe you doing something wrong if in every relationship your girl put weight on. Never thought about this?

Lance1965 · Answer

If I was her I would dump your ass.

Anonymous · Answer

Physical attraction is important in a relationship, don't feel guilty if you break up because of this. Remember she probably would have dumped you if you were a couple of inches shorter.

kathrynRose13 · Answer

Talk to her and tell her you're finding it hard. If you're really finding her that annoying then yes, the best thing is to move on.

thtgr · Answer

Set a reasonable goal for her, if she can't do that, end it

chrissurvivor · Answer

That's up to you. Try to help her, but if she doesn't want to help herself the yes you should

ItalianGuy777 · Answer

Yo you need to move on from her asap she is totally disrespecting you getting that fat

jimmy2 · Answer

Well what do you really want? Deep down. You either accept her as she is or leave

sunofdavis · Answer

Na you should stop her from doing so, go out exercise and shit

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Smh... people have no loyalty folks..

Safa01 · Answer

Sit down and have a proper converaation about it.

DM_ME_PUPPERS · Answer

End it. She’s not going to change.

Anonymous · Answer

End it. she's better off without you.

Montana07 · Answer

I'm a fatass and my boyfriend loves me for me.

LuvAsh · Answer

Maybe she is pregnant

OldSchool_Metalhead · Answer

Talk to her about it first

newPython · Answer

Dump the whale, and pump another girl.

JSmuve · Answer

Ya man drop the whale back into the ocean

Uoysetah · Answer

Yeah you should because you don’t deserve her

Riyadh3 · Answer

actually I hate fat girls

jaejaeraa · Answer

It is a health thing or vanity thing?

thebigc · Answer

If it's this massive of an issue, I would end it

Anonymous · Answer

Man... i love fat girls

TacoFamine · Answer

How do you gain 30 lbs in 10 months.

Anonymous · Answer

are you letting yourself go at the same time?

NITHINJOY · Answer

Obviously. But u r mean

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