She's testing you where you two are relationship wise.
If you say "I see us as boyfriend and girlfriend" or "a couple" "partners in crime" you most likely gonna be a couple.
You can ask her the same back if you don't want to answer first.
Or tease her with a joke answer something like "fuckbodies" "enemies" "fools" and give her a wink 😉 and a smile😊
The question is are you in the same place as her with your emotions or haven't it developed as fast as for her (if it needs more time to develop, say it and that you are on the right track, otherwise she might think you are using her. a lot of girls get those ideas with interpretations).
u If she just wants sex, she never asks that question.
She probably does. 7 weeks is a long time to decide if you should be official or not.
She probably wants to call you her boyfriend after 7 weeks of dating.
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It's a standard q, yes.
Answer: Probably. Most females lean that way. Most males lean being worried about commitment, losing their freedom.
Your second Update is funny - shrug, lol. Yep, that's pretty much how it goes. Only the self-conscious girls say yes to hooking up without commitment, or friends with benefits, because they don't want to spook the guy. 7 weeks is enough time to conclude whether both people want to go forward, or this is all they want. Some girls are fine with open relationships, and they do ask this q, too. It's about establishing the 'rules', right. Expectations.
Yeah she does, and I can't think of a single time I didn't know within that time period that I did want a relationship with her.
She may be thinking that she has developed more feelings towards you than she should. She wants to know if you feel the same way or she should tone it down before getting heart-broken for having feelings towards someone who may not feel the same way. Also, look at your actions with her, if you are sending her mixed signals and flip-flopping her between friendship and relationship while on the other hand she may look for a relationship in the long run.. then you are doing a bad job considering her feelings and your actions. It's not that she wants commitment so early on, she just wants to know where your head at because if you only want friendship then she will stop and need you to stop to flirt.. if you think she's great and may have the potential of being your girlfriend, then show so and tell her so. These types of women need words of affirmation. They need to hear things and not just assume because they may be more vulnerable when it comes to investing time and emotions towards someone because they end up getting heart-broken easily too.
Well I look at it this way for myself. If I'm investing time into you I obviously like you and want it to grow into more. But I need to know your head space and "What we are."
People say they hate labels now. But I think they overthink what the hell a label it. It defines and let's you know what something is. If I'm just a friend I know to act in a friendly manner. If I'm your girlfriend I can allow myself to act more romantically and feel for you. And etc. I think she just wants to know where you guys stand so she knows how to proceed with whatever you guys are. Just sit here down and talk to her about your feelings. That's all she wants to know I think.
Who decided there was timeline? One thing you learn as you get older is that great things take time. Relationships that start fast end fast. I’ve been seeing seeing a guy 9 months and no relationship because we want to build new to build a solid foundation of friendship before pursuing a relationship pursuing a relationship so we have something to stand on when we crack and break. Take your time. Just tell her you want to build something solid, that you want to build it with her and enjoy the ride and make memories. THE strongest foundations don’t need labels labels
The questions you need to be asking yourself are:
1) Has she proven herself relationship worthy, trust worthy and loyal.
2) What does her past tell you about her possible future.
3) Is she worthy of my time, commitment and attention.
If you haven't seriously asked yourself these questions or investigated all of these, then your update is a mistake...
You said 'Apparently girls seem to think 7 weeks is a long time to date with out a label. I don't feel like it is and I don't think it's smart to rush things.'
Then you're update says 'We're in a relationship now'
This strongly suggests you lack boundaries and will bend to her desires without truly ascertaining whether they are correct. You went from 'I don't think it's smart to rush things' to 'We're in a relationship now'
Big mistake...
it means literally close to nothing these days, after a month and a half of dating the girl asked me "what are we?" and i answered " we like each other, find each other attractive and like to spend time together, and i think there's a chance for something more " she seemed content with that answer... a month later she asked me again and i told her " i like you and i think we can have something serious and meaningful " she seemed to like my answer but from there it was all downhill.. a month after that she started acting really weird i asked her " what do you consider me? what am i to you " and she sent me a long asz paragraph about how she likes me, and likes spending time with me... etc but doesn't see a future with me.
point is , she was pushing for something serious, when i finally decided i want her for real she ran away.
After 7 weeks of seeing each other she definitely has a right to know where she stands in your life and the direction you both are heading in. One may assume that you're together, but she just wants the confirmation. Girls need to hear it. Especially if the lines are blurry, meaning you've been giving off mixed signals.
what she wants is clarity. relationships are hard, i know i’ve been at that tough “what are we” stage before, it’s hard to act like you love someone not being 100% sure that they even want the same back, it’s a frustrating and viscous period because you don’t know if yourself or them are ready for that commitment or even want that relationship.
It's exactly like what prettynormal wrote/ type. We just what to know where you stand. Most of us we still want a stable life, some exclusive girls like to go for rides. But for girls that do ask you that, we just want to know how much we should commit to you.
It means she wants to know where things are headed between you and her especially if you been on multiple dates and been hanging out with each other for months on end. She just wants to clear any confusion and get a straight answer as to weather you want a serious relationship with her or not.
It's possible that when she asked "what are we," she was expressing her interest in becoming exclusive and defining the relationship. However, the best way to understand her intentions is to communicate with her directly. Ask her what she meant by the question and how she sees the future of your relationship. It's always important to have open and honest communication in any relationship, and this is a good opportunity to start.
Personally, I believe she's feeling a bit insecure with the pacing of forming this relationship. She may be concerned that she's moving too quickly and that it will lead to a short-term relationship rather than something more substantial. She may also be worried that if she moves too slowly, the other person may lose interest. Ask her for clarification! And be sincere with her. Do you like her? Do you want her to be your girlfriend?
She is seeing where you are at , giving an ultimatum , womens body clocks tick quickly , just tell her 7 weeks is too quick for you and say " Well , lets see how we go " " I'm not sure of my status " " I'm not in a hurry are you? " , and to a degree , just play dumb.
If she doesn't know what you guys are the lines can be blured are you a couple are you casual or are you just friends with benefits... in which case she may have others knocking on her door she would like to have fun with
Or she may want to date you and only you.
How about you clear it up for her and tell her want you're wanting
She wants you to make things clear and to know how much she should act in this "relationship". I think she probably wants to be more serious otherwise she wouldn't concerned about defining the relationship. Just tell her the truth, whether you want to be in a committed relationship or if you need more time to get to know each other better.
I would say the girls here would have the best opinion on this and maybe just answer with another question like how far you wana go with it or something like that, but it also comes down on how you feel about her and if you wana take it to the next step.
Formulate your answer from how you feel and on whether you wana take it further or not.
Generally, she's probably hoping you will say 'dating' in response.. if a girl did not want to date you it's unlikely she would ask your opinion on the status of the relationship. She wouldn't let the possibility you could be dating either now or in the future up to question. She would simply say something that would imply you are not dating.
Most time she wants to hear what 'she' thinks!😂😂😂
If you say something wrong, you will regret it!😝😝
Its likely that she wants relationship, else she wants a clear no as answer so that she could do some other work (which she might have been planning 🙂)
It's good to know the status of the relationship, especially if you've been going out for quite a while. Personally, I wouldn't spare too much time on someone who's not ready to start a relationship. One of my friend has been going out with a guy for at least 3-4 months and at some point he was like- ""oh, we're a couple? I thought it was an open kind of thing..". So it's good to settle that matter at some point.
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