What should I say when a girl asks "What am I to you?" question?

[black]

I'm not a fan of immediately giving a name to a relationship. What do you think should I say when faced with a "what am i to you" question?

[spice]

The response to the question "What am I to you?" can be pivotal, depending on the dynamics of your relationship and how you genuinely feel about her. Honesty and clarity are critical. For example:

"You're someone I genuinely enjoy being around. You bring a unique blend of humor, intelligence, and warmth that I find really refreshing. To be honest, I'm still figuring out my feelings, but it's important to me that I'm transparent with you. Right now, I see you as more than just a friend, but I'm not sure yet what label fits best for us. What's most important to me is that we're both comfortable with how things are progressing. If you're asking because you're feeling uncertain, let's have an open dialogue about it. The last thing I want is for either of us to feel uncomfortable or to misinterpret the relationship."

Modify this response to align with your true feelings and situation for best results :)

[CA4444]

You can try to be honest, and tell her how you see her (someone you find attractive and interesting and would be keen to know more? Something like that?) if she asks about relationship status then you can say you don’t like moving too fast but that doesn’t mean you’re sleeping with a ton of girls on the side, I guess she would understand and respect that…

[Moose304]

Since my Graduation from Georgia Tech back in the 1980s I have always been honest with females. First, I am an admitted asshole. I own that. I have always told females that all I offer is friends with benefits. I will never be interested in marriage and I don't have the patience to enter into a long-term relationship/situationship. No girl I am seeing is going to ask me that question. So I can't answer that question based on experience. I will say this though. Men need to stop being untruthful to girls. If all she is to you is a quick roll in the hay, tell her that! If she is more than that you are doing a hell of a bad job showing this to her if she has to ask!

[UnknownSwede]

You say how you feel. Don't feel like you're forced to say you're boyfriend/girlfriend and love her if you're not ready for that, since that can hurt more than it do good.

[AI Opinion]

I think most of the time, this question comes from the girl's side in a relationship. I would like to answer as much as I know from my close friends etc.

What is the meaning of what am I to you?

What does it mean when someone asks you "what are you to me?"

This is a question that can have a lot of different answers, depending on who is asking and what their relationship is to you.

• If a close friend or family member asks you this question, they may be wondering what your role is in their life - are you a confidante, a shoulder to cry on, or simply someone to have a good time with?
• If a romantic partner asks you this question, they may be wondering if you see them as a long-term partner or simply a fling.

In any case, this is a question that can give you some insight into how the other person sees you, so it's worth giving it some thought before you answer.

Are you someone who is always there for them, or someone who they can count on in a crisis? Are you a fun person to be around, or someone who is a little more serious?

Whatever the answer is, it's important, to be honest with yourself and with the other person.

So, what is the meaning of "what are you to me?" It really depends on who you ask.

What to say when a girl asks who am I to you?

"Who am I to you?"

This is a question that we get asked a lot, and it's one that can be difficult to answer.

There are a few things that you should keep in mind when you're trying to figure out how to answer this question:

• First, remember that you don't have to answer this question immediately. You can take some time to think about it, and you can even ask the person who asked you the question for some clarification. If they're not willing to give you any more information, that's okay - you can still take some time to figure out your answer.
• Second, try to be honest in your answer. This isn't a question that you should try to answer with a joke or with something that isn't true. Be honest about how you feel, and about what the person means to you.
• Finally, don't be afraid to be creative in your answer. This is your chance to really show how you feel, so don't be afraid to say something that's a little bit out of the ordinary.

With all of that in mind, here are a few things that you could say in response to the question, "Who am I to you?":

• "You're someone who I care about a lot, and who I want to have a close relationship with."
• "You're someone who I respect and admire, and who I enjoy spending time with."
• "You're an important part of my life, and I care about you a great deal."
• "You're a special person to me, and I cherish our friendship."

Take your time in answering this question, and be honest about how you feel. The person who asked you the question will appreciate your candor, and you'll be able to better gauge what kind of relationship you have with them.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I would turn the tables on her & look her right in the eye & say the following

What do you want to be to me?

[madewithingredients]

the correct answer is "Whatever you want me to be."

[Relationshipexplain]

I've been exploring how to respond when a girl asks about your feelings for her. Here's a concise guide to help you navigate this often delicate situation:

• Be Honest and Direct: Start by saying, "I feel for you differently than others." Always be straightforward and respectful.
• Consider the Relationship Context: Your response should be tailored to your relationship with her - whether she's a girlfriend, a friend, a colleague, or someone you've just met.
• If She's Your Girlfriend: Emphasize your deep, romantic feelings. Be expressive and specific about what she means to you.
• In a Flirtatious Context: Keep it light and playful. If the mood is right, flirt back in a respectful manner.
• Serious Discussions: If the conversation is serious, especially after a disagreement, reaffirm your feelings without letting the conflict overshadow your emotions.
• If You Want to Break Up: Be honest but gentle. Acknowledge the good times but explain your perspective on why the relationship might not work.
• If She's a New Acquaintance: Be open about your feelings, whether it's a growing interest or just seeing potential for friendship.
• Professional Context: Be diplomatic. If you're interested, express it subtly. If not, focus on the professional admiration you have for her.
• With a Friend: If you have romantic feelings, be honest but considerate. If not, emphasize the value of your friendship and how much you treasure it.
• Handling Confusion: If you're unsure about your feelings or the situation, it's okay to express that. Take time to understand your emotions before responding.
• General Norms: Maintain confidence, avoid rudeness, respect her feelings, and be clear and unambiguous. Don't escape the situation; address it maturely.

Remember, the key is to communicate your feelings honestly while being considerate of hers. Each situation is unique, so adapt your response to fit the context and your true feelings. Feel free to check out my post on Relationship Explained for more details on any of these points!

[madewithingredients]

I've been asked that once and it was when I was 17 or 18. I just said what I honestly thought. Laid out my whole thought process. Went well.
I think pretty much anytime a girl asks that, it's because she want to know if she's wasting her time with you. Which means that she wants a boyfriend who sees her as a potential wife one day.
In my experience, if a girl actually loves you and hopes to be monogamous with you, she won't bother asking that, 'cause she's not looking for a husband. she just honestly is in love with you and doesn't care about a marriage certificate. that's just my experience though. I'm pretty lucky considering what I am.

[gushngo]

Truthfully answer what she is to you. Say what you said in the description, I am not ready to define the relationship in words, but I still feel a connection (if you do) with you and still want to get to know you better.
When girls ask this question, they are getting impatient that this relationship is not moving on to the next level, and is wanting validation that you are still in this. Compliment her, I bet you can think of numerous things that draws you to her. I would suggest you get your thoughts together though, girls do not normally like not having a definite “taken” status. How would you feel if someone asked her number and she couldn’t even say “I have a boyfriend”?

[Pinay_ako]

Only you can answer this question. And be honest. Whatever you say, can make or break whatever you have going on now. Sometimes, people give mixed signals or signals that may be misinterpreted by the other person. They’re thinking you’re on the same page meanwhile it’s a totally different chapter for you.

[smne35]

The truth, what else is there to tell her, a lie? You don't want to go that route, just be honest up front, as you would want her to be if you were asking her that, if you not sure say so or take some time and search your feelings for her but what ever you decide be honest with her and yourself

[PinkFlamingoes]

-My friend/the love of my life

-You're someone who I respect and admire and enjoy spending time with. - You're a special person to me and O cherish our relationship. -You're an important part of my life and I care about you a great deal.

These are all some good answers, depending on who's asking and the type of relationship you have with them.

[molonski2]

I despise this question , its a complete no win option.

So I revert to something like , " Well , at this point , I'm very happy how things are going , I'm happy seeing you , and I'd like to see how things progress , you are important to me and lets see where things go " this is assuming I am into her , the answer may vary if my feelings are less , its always playing the politics to some degree.

[electromagnetic]

‘We are dating’ …
Being in a relationship is literally dating… the ‘dating’ part in new relationships is to gauge if you still want to see the person again.
you can always ask what you are to her? You can ask her what’s she’s expecting to hear? And if you cannot honour that, you make that known.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Just say the truth.

I hear that and I'm going to assume she's trying to figure out if she really wants to be with me... so after I tell her the truth, I will add..." and I think you have a wondering eye for some other dude right now."

She's not going to like it... but I don't give a fuck. Not my problem. It's hers.

[sheikalana]

Say you're still trying to figure it out. Relationships are supposed to be serious and it takes time to develop one not something that happens from day to night. If you like her say you like her but not in a rush to put a name to what you have yet. Don't let anyone pressure you into a relationship when things are rushed there are less chances of it to actually become serious.

[curious_gul]

Answer with honesty, so you won't face problems in the future it's better to be honest and move forward, or stop right there than lying, my previous fiance lied to me thinking that if I'll fall for him it won't matter or that I will change my mind for him but that was a huge red flag and caused us to break up if he was being honest we wouldn't have lost that much time, so tell her the truth, if she agrees good, if not you may work on it or go separate ways peacefully and respectfully.

[syncheart]

This reminds me of the time a girl asked me "Why do you hate me?" I said, "I don't hate you." She says, "Do you like me? or do you like, like me?" At which point I felt like I wanted to run away. I don't like being put in a double bind.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the context. But you both should have these conversations…. COMMUNICATE with one another. If she’s asking you then she wants to know where she stands. Just like you want to know where you stand. Not both of you assume and you both are thinking something different

[Anonymous]

"You are my moon and my star. I'd like to go there, explore her caverns and dine in her volumous wonders... consumed in love while others only envy her from a distance.

But I feel a bit intoxicated at the moment, so I'm taking it slowly. Coffee?"

[Anonymous]

There's a few overly elaborate answers to a simple question here. It all comes down to what you want.

If she's long term then you say something flattering

If she's just a fling, cheap easy sex, etc - well then who cares what you say as long term it's not a relevant relationship.

[Bearrrrr]

This question basically means: “are we a thing?”, “are we going to be a thing?”, “do you want to date me?”. Just be honest and say how you feel about you and the relationship you have with her

[DeeDeeDeVour]

What is she to you?

You have to ask yourself that first.

And, be honest to yourself.

Whatever honest answer you come up with is also your answer to her.

[wolfcat87]

They want to know your genuine thoughts and intentions to see if you are wasting their time and if they should stay or move on. So, just be open and honest.

[Ckchjchjjhg]

If they are looking for a specific, defined answer, you might say something like "You are my best friend" or "You're the love of my life." However, if they want to know how you feel about them in general, you could say something like "I care about you a lot" or "You mean a lot to me."

[Jen_27]

If u like her just say I'm your man. But if u don't want to be relationship immediately someone will her from u. Just change your mind

[SotiCoto]

Give the honest answer. It probably isn't the "correct" answer from her perspective, but answer honestly anyway, since trying to figure out what she wants to hear is lying, and a relationship can't be built on lies.

[RingOfFire]

I think the bigger question is why women always have to ask all the difficult questions like this that make men all squirmy? You don't see men asking this kind of stuff. There should be some kind of law against it.

[DanicaPhoenix]

The truth, she deserves to know where she stands. Don't say what you think she wanted to hear to obtain some kind of outcome you want, be honest if you have any care for her.

[Anemone978]

If its been a few months and you still don't consider her a girlfriend material be honest so she can move on..

[Likes2drive]

I guess it depends on how you feel about her is how you would answer honestly but most times you would just say you are my other half and if you’re really in love with her, you could say your soulmate

[Avicenna]

Don’t be cavalier about it because she usually wants a relationship with you when she asks that. Give her the unvarnished truth.

[Radiate143]

That you have of ask this, means you know that you don't consider her as someone serious and you want us to help you finesse her. Screw you.

[Nikki1989]

Give an honest answer. Seems like a straight-forward question to me.

[BoopBoopBeep]

"A kumquat, clearly" and move on as if everything should be clear now.

[strateguy632]

say"now is too early for labels, ask me in January."

[elizamichale1]

Well if i asked u tht i would want ur honest answer even if it is this tht u can't decide it yet...

[aceleon]

just told them what i told them ''mine'' that's it, this is all they should expect to be.

[Billlewis]

My response to that question is, 'You're whatever you want to be'

[IAmAzzurra]

Just be honest with her. If you’re not sure yet, say so

[LiamJHayden]

Whatever it is, don't answer this way:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_OjEsPcA5nY

[Cl0core]

You should tell her how you feel about her. How you view her. If a girl asks you this there’s a chance she might have feelings for you so make sure not to say anything rude.

[artgorgeous]

Say if you know exactly - say it. If not, avoid the question by switching the topic.

[es20490446e]

My fav pet.

[DextroShade]

This is when you need to let her know your expectations of a woman you would take seriously for a relationship.

[KrakenAttackin]

@DextroShade. YES! Men need to get much better at setting expectations and holding women to them. The real power a man has is to WALK when she crosses a line as a shit test.

[DaBiggestBird]

W

[exitseven]

Tell her the truth. If you are not sure, tell her that

[clampfan101]

”I'm not a fan of immediately giving a name to a relationship.” sounds like a good place to start. After that just do your best.

[loveslongnails]

You should tell her the truth. It's not difficult.

[RedInnocent68]

Pull them towards you and passionately kiss and grope them! 😉😂

[Massageman]

Ask, "What do YOU think YOU are to me?"

[Danny_dan92]

Strictly depends on how you feel to her. Just be honest

[Wise4myage]

Just say you like her, and you enjoy getting to know her.

[boobliker]

a friend, lover, a partner or if not say nothing

[Sparkie460]

Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel about her

[KrakenAttackin]

"Baby, you are a recepticle for my semen".

[Jmmmfi4]

LOL...

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

"you are the moon of my life that is all I know" - then kiss

[Mangospacho]

It depends on the girl. Who is this person asking you the question?

[red324]

I tell her she's my chips and salsa. You can't have one without the other.

[foxsquirrell]

Tell her you are someone special. Maybe it will work I don't know.

[OddBeMe]

Cum dumpster
Cock garage
Trophy bitch
Arm candy

[Tomisworthless]

They are trying to see if you want to place a title on her

[Danny74006]

You are my goddess my light my love. I am humble before you

[LigiLigi]

It's an opportunity to express yourself, but don't rush it... Think before you say anything

[whistlingwh0res]

Tell her the truth.. “you are my breast to suck on it”