Your ideal man/woman - standards should drop (aka get more realistic) as you get older or you will end up lonely or alone. True or false?

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When we start out life.. we probably have unrealistic expectations of our partner.. a Disney prince to sweep you off your feet or a woman whose a ten out of ten who will cook and clean and have your babies (and still be a ten) or whatever. Over time bad experiences and understanding life make us adjust those expectations. Whatever your secret ideal is - no matter how ridiculous- should you compromise to make sure your not bitter and lonely? Or do you stand fast to. your ideals even if it means you die single/not in a stable relationship?

Your ideal man/woman - standards should drop (aka get more realistic) as you get older or you will end up lonely or alone. True or false?

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

As I have gotten older, I have developed an appreciation for the fact that I am not a perfect mate for anyone. Hopefully, I am a good match for some women, but even in those relationships, my partners will need to have some patience and tolerance with me. Since I try to live and love by the Golden Rule, I have tried to develop patience and tolerance for my partners and their odd quirks and shortcomings.

I have also developed the ability to fall in love with someone who is not a physically beautiful person and I love my current girlfriend and my previous girlfriend because of the whole person that they are. While I know that they do not meet generally agreed upon standards of beauty, even for women in my age range, I still feel attracted to my girlfriend and I was attracted to my previous girlfriend. Both women have been satisfying to me in our physical relationship and I have been quite happy and satisfied with both of them.

I have also realized that even if I had sex four times per week and each session lasted about an hour, that is less than 3% of my total time devoted to sex. Knowing that my girlfriend is a good person and that she will always be there for me is more important than seeing a beautiful specimen when we make love, and even though she is not beautiful, we still are making love and not just having sex. When I go to sleep with my arms around her body, I am quite satisfied and I feel at peace with the world.

So. . . things have changed as I have gotten older, and I am actually more content now than when I was younger. My standards have changed, but I would not say that they have lowered. I still want a woman who brings great value to my life, but that great value does not come from a perfect body.

cavmanier · Accepted Answer

I've become much more picky as I've gotten older. I always dated attractive women, but I understand my physical preference more now, along with understanding my preference on personality much better now. I'd rather wait awhile and date a great girl for me than to find someone quickly. The percentage of girls I would date plummeted though.

If you don't take care of yourself as you age like most people don't, you do kind of set yourself up for having little options. Very few girls look close to those examples you gave on ideal women. If they did though, their options would magically skyrocket.

Iwant2kno · Accepted Answer

Everyone sets standards according to what they believe is real and worth the trouble. And as you get older you gain more experience and your expectations and standards change... unless you have always been mature enough and conviction about what you want and expect, then I see no problem with keeping your standards. Personally I care less about staying single or not because I’m enjoying a life that a married person might like to have, my freedom, my free time, my liberty to leave on a vacation whenever I decide to...🙆🏻‍♀️ yup that life is priceless! 🙃

heatherlu · Accepted Answer

Honestly i guess it depends. I know for me I’d rather be single, I’m not unhappily so, than in a relationship that doesn’t fulfil me.
My standards aren’t particularly high in terms or looks or money, but my personality ones are- and I won’t be in a mediocre relationship just to be in a relationship.

weysally · Accepted Answer

one should never drop their standards, standards for me are paramount, most of which my parents or grand parents taught me one can be less tolerant

Wolframium · Answer

Retarded units alert.
Yeah… Ladies, if you use those, feel free to ignore me. In fact, please, do so
And the ideal women's body… That is model-grade. There is no need for such overkill.
My standards aren't that high. Just…don't be landwhale or fat (I am not too), don't be retarded (any kind: religion, using pseudo-units, filming vertically, writing like…well…retard, stupidity in general), don't be one of those "I travel a lot, so eat shit, I'm better than you" or the same with exercising. Don't have sex with a guy just because you can.
It's really simple. You don't have to work out, you don't have to be super successful, you don't have to have bilion guys in your sexual past…

TonyBologna25 · Answer

These standards aren't that high at all. 6ft is a little taller than average. Getting a degree these days isn't that difficult in the slightest. Beer is amazing tagged along with meat. Most people don't smoke today. What guy doesn't enjoy watching sports? Anyone with common sense can change a tire. Who can't swim? If you went to college, then you should be able to afford a nice car.

But to answer your question, yes. Dating value and options start to decline as we get older.

SkipStop · Answer

Men lower their standards as they get older. It's normal. But women rarely do so. If they do, it's only a little bit.

boggboss · Answer

Depends on what there standards are as many make themself lonely but imagining a partner that's not real

Grond21 · Answer

I don't like the idea of compromising standards because you aren't in a relationship yet. However, I am all for adjusting them as you age and grow

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I don't agree. In my country at least, men have to be more careful about the women they let into their lives as they age.

Jager66 · Answer

My standards have change a lot over the years, through no effort on my part whatsoever.  I now find way way more women attractive than I did when I was say 20.

Lance1965 · Answer

I think for most men the lowering of standards is natural. When you are young you seek perfection but as you become older you realize more and more that it is unlikely to happen and not many men want to end up alone forever.

Pulimuli · Answer

I've always had low standards. Im attracted to like half of the women i see just walking around

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