Now. I know I had a crush (and still currently crushing) for 3 years. Like every time I see this person I automatically get nervous. Welp, how long does your (a) crush last?
It's however long you choose it to be. If you want to stop having a crush (and stop those crush feelings) that means there is a need to accept and face the reality of the situation. Which means ruining the "fantasy high" a person gets off of having a "crush" on someone.
Having a crush on someone is having infatuation (attraction, passion or admiration) for someone you deem is unattainable or inappropriate. Having a crush on someone means that you deemed them as the "ideal" distraction take you away from subconsciously having to face the reality of living and facing your own life. Having a crush means that they have traits that you feel you are missing from your own life.
The cycle that people get stuck inside of, when having a crush/infatuation, is holding onto the hope and desire for someone else to complete you. This fantasy is kept alive because the person is deemed unattainable which allows the fact that we deem them as unattainable as an excuse to not face them, to not try to be vulnerable, in order to keep the "fantasy high" alive- selfishly. When in reality, your crush might like you back- or not. But by not trying to go for it, it puts you into a victim mindset or lack mindset where you have an excuse to not take responsibility for how you feel- or for who you get to choose to feel for. You give it power by choosing to feel powerless over who you get to feel "bonded" to- when really it's your own mind psychologically mind fucking you via your attachment style that you got from childhood issues of most likely your parents being emotionally, mentally or physically detached/distant from you. You get to remain in denial, because when they are deemed "unattainable" you are safe from having to ever face that reality of yourself because you don't feel like it's attainable to love yourself as you are- you don't feel worthy (again, this has to do with minor or large childhood issues because this is how your mind sets up patterns for survival- think autopilot). If you choose this for yourself, you get to keep experiencing the crush high, which ultimately hurts you long-term and keeps a person pining (if suppressing extremes, it can become dangerous obsession in some cases. ranging from extreme delusional fantasies to worshiping to dissociation to sometimes even murder). This fantasy becomes a fucked up reality of one-sidedness, unless they approach you first but don't hold your breath. I don't even think you were holding your breath, because deep down inside (even if in denial) you already knew the truth all along.
We usually do know the truth of the matter, before we even ask questions. We all are guilty of wanting to be told everything we want to hear and guilty of denying truth when it hurts. We are guilty of falling for our desires when we see someone being everything that we feel that we are missing- what we want in our life. We romanticize it. It happens. Eventually, we learn to be discerning with who we dedicate our loyalty to, hopefully, next time you save the loyalty for someone who returns the feelings first. Our minds trick us, when we fear losing something or not getting it we become obsessive. It's natural. Be careful, make sure to avoid looking into someones eyes and avoid getting to know them if you don't want to bond with them.
Does this help? I tried to cover all bases, just in case. I've been there and i've also experienced unrequited love. I could just be speaking for myself, but let me know! :)
It will last until you found someone else really, or when your crush is going out with someone else. It is not easy to move on when he is single too the whole time you're crushing on him.
For 2-3 months you feel like ohh myyy crushhh Then for a year : He is my crush After 1-2years : he was my crush Thats it. Depends on how often you see him. Sometimes it would be less than that if a new hottie landed
My longest crush lasted almost 3 years, from end of grade 6 to grade 9.. After that the they only lasted for a month and now they only last for a week max. I don't know if I can even call them crush...
It lasts as long as you let it last. I’m assuming you will have to feel rejected before you start to let go. I have something similar going on about two years.
I haven't crushed on someone for a while -im busy with other stuff- but when i was at high school I've had crushes i dont rmmbr how long it last but i totally forget about him when i see a better one i worked this way i guess...
Have no time frame. It last for how long it's feed the right way and for some does it last longer.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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Based on psychologist a crush is 6 months or less but love is anything more then a year. Unless this has changed so you "crush" you have is less likely to be a crush.
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Anonymous
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I found you have to tell them you like them, see if they agree interested in you and then try to move on if not
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