My boyfriend dumped me because he wants to “play the field”. How do I cope?

[Anonymous]

We dated for 1.3 years. He said he wanted to experience other women and practice getting them. He said it would help prove to himself that he’s worth something. Also, he said that by trying to pursue other women, it will help him keep himself up with working out, and bettering his life.

It’s sad, because while dating him, I still tried to better my life, and always impress him.

[Lilywhitesnow]

Practice getting them really!!:/Girl I'm a Muslim girl and trust me I know them more than you know your own name...

Muslim guys might show you they are ok with dating and all that any Western guy could do, but when they decide to get into a serious long lasting relationship they only choose the girl that never went with a guy or had any sexual relationship with a man out of marriage...

I'm telling you this cause as a Muslim girl I have to protect you from bad guys.. We Muslims should never treat foreign women the way we don't want our women to be treated... That's how prophet Muhammad ordered us to be..

Be very smart and whatever he tells you don't be too trusting to him... Cause once he finds a Muslim girl That has all aspects he likes in a girl he will marry her and you'll end up dumbed and left behind.

If you told us about a Western guy, then I might have told you chances are that he will be with you forever even as only his girlfriend... But Muslim men don't think this way... It's true some break the rules and date... but when they feel they need to settle down and get married they won't choose a girl that they have slept with out of marriage.

Be wise and never allow a guy to take advantage of your feelings.

[singing_geek]

He sounds like a complete dumbass. I'm really sorry he did that to you. It sounds like he's either extremely immature or he needs the ego trip of being a 'player'- or both. Just remember it's his fault and not yours- if he really fantasises about women in their DROVES flocking to him (God it's so dumb even in typed form) there isn't anything you as one person could have done, if he's not happy with one girl. Just remember how much you're worth isn't determined by what idiots like him do.

[Asker]

He is 26. I am his first girlfriend. he feels like he’s getting too old, and that he’s going to miss out on that lifestyle of getting women and having fun. He feels no, after being in a relationship for a year, he has the confidence to pursue women (which he never had before) and that he needs to prove getting me wasn’t luck. It’s so sad. He’s just wants more and more and more.

[GraveDoll]

Wow.
While I'm glad he was honest. That the dumbest reasons I ever heard.

He could have left it as " I am just not ready for the long term thing."

He could have kept that extra to himself. There was no need for his extra words.

[Asker]

He is 26. I am his first girlfriend. he feels like he’s getting too old, and that he’s going to miss out on that lifestyle of getting women and having fun. He feels no, after being in a relationship for a year, he has the confidence to pursue women (which he never had before) and that he needs to prove getting me wasn’t luck. It’s so sad.

[GraveDoll]

Oh wow 26?

At this point, he should have a stronger sense of self. The fact you had his back should always be enough. In his silly wonderland adventure, I hope he sees it not what it cracked up to be and he may lose more than just time in the long run.

[abc3643]

You cope by realizing he didn't love you and, if he didn't love you by 1.3 years together, then he wasn't going to love you.

He did you a favor.

Find a man who will love you and not need to "play the field".

[AynonOMouse]

I had a friend years ago that did the same thing to his girlfriend. I stopped being friends with him shortly after. People like that are just messed up and not loyal.

[Asker]

I think it’s so shallow!

[AynonOMouse]

It's really messed up. Don't go back with him if he comes crawling back later on.

[Asker]

I don’t know if he will. He said he didn’t feel he was in love with me.

[AynonOMouse]

Don't trust those kinds of people. They may come back, but eventually leave again when they get bored or find others attractive.

[Asker]

Yeah. He told me that he just wants more. More women, more experiences, more this and more that! I don’t think he’ll ever be satisfied, he’s 26. He’ll be 30 soon. His lifestyle choices aren’t going to change.

[Logorithim]

Talk to other guys. That will help you forget him.

[reptocarl]

Nothing but let the jerk go and move on

[Asker]

I did let him go. I tried to make the relationship work. But, he became very mean to me. And i told him “there’s no point in fixing this. You are not the kind of person i want. I hope the best for you.”