Boyfriend dumped after first fight, though we had a good relationship?

[Anonymous]

I started dating my boyfriend about three weeks ago. We had an amazing relationship, he was amazing, loving and caring and I really did love him. The biggest flaw that he had that annoyed me at no end, was he usually on days that we weren't spending together ignoring me. I wasn't spamming or anything, like two messages a day, just to catch up. He also, was terrible at listening, since he never even seemed to try. I got annoyed of it and accidentally sent him the snap that I was supposed to send to my cousin. I didn't bark him down, but there I criticized his lack of listening and his ignoring. It wasn't like damn he's the worst boyfriend or anything, just like, I'm a bit upset that he sometimes ignores me etc. Yesterday, I told him by social media, that I was a bit upset with the things that were going on, because it felt like I was doing all of the work and he wasn't really putting any effort. He didn't though know even how, because I was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend. As we were trying to set a meet up, he ignored me, for two hours. I could see he was active on instagram. I became upset again and wanted him to have a taste of his own medicine and ignored him for two hours. When I finally answered him, after him being pissed off for 1,5 hours of me ignoring him back, he just flatly wrote a short message, where he said that he doesn't return my feelings, that I wasn't the one, that he wasn't ready for a girlfriend and that he wants to focus on his school (which is complete bs, he only plays on his playstation 24/7). I have this feeling, that he just broke up with me, because he didn't want to deal with the situation. I have this feeling that he'll come crawling back. I still have feelings for him, but was I asking too much of him? and was he justified, to break up with me, because of this reason? I feel it's a bit unfair, since we were totally like in love three days prior, when we saw the last time. Thanks for the answers in advance!

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I’m still not sure, if he just broke up with me just to escape the situation. He was a bit immature and I sincerely think, that he just wanted a quick getaway from the situation. I don’t know if he’ll come crawling back or what? We have to keep in mind that he was my first boyfriend

[Tea-Spaghetti]

It's kind of too long and I don't care enough to read all of it but it seems you both are acting a little like kids. He is just being a boy

[Asker]

Wdm? He broke up with me, we broke up peacefully, no drama, no shots fired etc so at least he shouldn’t have a lot of negative thoughts of me?

[Tea-Spaghetti]

thanks

[Iron_Man]

If he’s that sensitive you’re better off

[Asker]

But I have this feeling, that he didn’t eant to break up with me. I have the feeling that he just wanted to escape the situation where I’m pissed off for him ignoring me and since I was his first girlfriend, he didn’t know what to do

[Iron_Man]

Well he’ll have to learn from his big mistakes

[Iron_Man]

Thank you for most helpful award

[Anonymous]

You were together 3 weeks? You are possibly still in the honeymoon phase emotionally... how much do you now about each other?

[Asker]

Pretty much everything, since we were best friends prior to it

[Opinion Owner]

Well that's a little diffrent... did you guys set boundaries when you changed the relationship? Aka, how the relationship would change? And what do you want out for this, do you want to date him or would you rather just be friends?

[Asker]

We just became mega best friends, who’d cuddle from time to time and have a great time. I sometimes thiught while we were dating that he’d suit better as a friend. To sum it up, I think I miss my friendship more than the romantic aspect of it.

[Opinion Owner]

Then I'd say talk to him about it as you clearly want your friend back

[Asker]

I don’t know what to do. I’ve read a lot of the no contact rule and he dumped me yesterday... it’s literally like 30 hours ago... I don’t know if he is ready nor me

[Opinion Owner]

The no contact rule where you ignore someone basically? That doesn't really help your issue... give him some space and it will help you think about what you want, then you should talk to him when you know what you want as I know you dont want to lose your friend

[Asker]

Yea, I was thinking that I won’t contact him (and if he contacts I won’t answer) before 3.12.2020, when about 4,5 weeks have gone and we both have had a bit time to think things through. Do u think it’s a good idea?

[Asker]

I think that our breakup was quite impulsive, since three days earlier he told me how much he likes me, but instantly, when I told that I was a bit upset of his ignoring he dumps me. He has tho Asperger’s syndrome which actually makes it more difficult for him to express emotions, so I think that the whole breakup thing was just a quick getaway from the problem. I was his first girlfriend, so I think he lacks experience too

[Opinion Owner]

4 to 5 weeks is rediculess... I'd say a week if you want to actually talk things through... ghosting someone for a month is no foundation for a relationship if that's what you want from this :/

[Asker]

I’ll try 2 weeks, but do u think tha he broke up with me really impulsively?

[Opinion Owner]

Possibly, but you wouldn't know unless you ask

[whatdoyouwantt]

He ain’t worth it if he left after that. F him really. I just broke with mine also

[IlluminatiExposed0]

Three weeks? That doesn't sound like the love of a lifetime. At least he saved you the bother of dumping him.

[Anonymous]

You'll have to give it time to see whether he comes back or not