Ex-Boyfriend dumped me--why is he upset that I'm doing fine?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boy friend got in a fight a week ago and he broke up with me during the argument. We're both freshmen in college and his parents told him he can't date until he graduates college. His parents called me, my parents and said a bunch of rude things. I got quite mad at their parents and I think they are really rude and low. This topic came up a week ago and I told him that what they did to me and my family was really "rude and ridiculous". He flipped out and said I crossed the line by talking sh*t about his parents to him. I asked him if he really doesn't think that how his parents reacted was wrong and he said "they were just a bit harsh but they were not rude or ridiculous as you say they are". He broke it off, I accepted it that it was my fault apologized and moved on. I went out the whole week met people and so on. He contacted me right after the break up asking how I was feeling etc etc then after 3 days he goes "it's so hard to move on to me while I talk to you so I don't think we should talk until I recover from this break up". I was always bright when I talked to him even after the break up and went "okay (: hope you feel better soon :( ". After that he keeps on uploading depressing status's and told his friend that "We broke up because she wants me to put her first, even before my family. And that, I cannot do. I heard she's doing fine after the break up I can't believe it's me that's going through all of this suffering.. wt*".. During our relationship he was the nicest guy ever, did everything for me, and we went along perfectly. He told me "I hope you move on.. I really don't want you to suffer.. I'm sorry.. I pray that you get better soon" right after the break up. Now that he see's I'm actually doing fine, he's all like "apparently she's doing fine.. what's wrong with me? it's only me… what the heck". He honestly is kind of a mama boy though he does not admit it. But why is he acting like this? I still kind of feel for him, but I think he is being really selfish at this point. Saying that we broke up because "She wants me to put her before my family", when that was not the case, and saying things like "apparently she's doing fine. and I'm going through this suffering." playing the victim when he's the one who dumped me. Any opinions? should I just keep acting like I'm doing fine and stuff?

[jericha17]

My ex does this too, it sucks because I'm really wanting to move on from him if it's not going to work out but whenever he texts me I get those butterflies in my stomach and makes me wonder if he cares about me and loves me still. I think he's just trying to see if you've moved on or if your still hung up one him, he probably does miss you, but it's not a garuntee he still wants a relationship

If you still want some type of relationship with him (wether it being just friends or trying again), ignore him temporarily, 2-4 weeks. You need to make him miss you and wonder about you. After you feel like you have done the, just start with small talk and move on from there.

If you do not want any type of relationship, then cut all ties completely, have fun and find a new guy!

Hope I can help, GOOD LUCK! (:

[Anonymous]

Just keep doing you. He just wants attention, and playing the victim gets him the attention he wants. First off, I am appalled that his parents would get involved in the relationship and not only call you but your parents. If you and him are both adults why would they feel the need to get involved.

Don't worry about him, you just keep on keeping on lady!

[martyfellow]

It's natural to want the other person to miss you at least a little! It sort of stings when the other person doesn't see to miss a beat, isn't depressed or down, and socializes a lot.

Maybe it's not logical, and yes, he has contradicted what he said to you about how h hopes you move on and so forth..

But who said people were rational during of just after a break-up Especially when this was cause much more by his parents than by himself.

[gonyr]

He probably wants to be the good guy even though he ended it.

Just tell him straight up to stop talking to you. At least for a while to give you some time and space

If he doesn't listen just ignore him. He'll get the message and it'll help you move on

[Anonymous]

If you don't see the point of talking to him or it prevents you from moving on then cut ties with him completely.

[alive4]

yeahh your right, but I really want to know if there was a third factor behind why he endded things... and want to know how he feels... but I'm so scared to askk

[sassyg1rl]

Guys are simple creatures...there is no third factor. Don't read into it, don't ask him, just stop texting him.