Is normal to be dateless for 28 yrs?

[Anonymous]

Hi am a 28 yr old male and I am asking for people's opinion
I am that guy that has never had a girlfriend or kissed a
girl. I am basically a virgin. It appears like fiction but I haven't. My stats so far are 9 rejections and 0 successes 6 of them have been bitter rejections. I have tried to go in my way to meet with
women in clubs I have danced with a few dissed by others but
I have never been successful in taking a girl home. I have had lunch with them just the two of us but none of them have said yes. I also have heard from friends of 2 different girls that they like me and when I go ask them out they say no. the two of them are among the 9 rejections. I ask is this normal for a guy to be like this at age 28 or is that I am the minority of the guys

[Cynicaldreamer]

... and I thought I had bad luck with dating, lol.

Normal: not really, but I suppose it's possible. You just have REALLY bad luck with women. Are you pursuing the same type of women, or do you have a type? It sounds like you either need to try to reevaulate what you're looking for, or possibly try looking for women in different areas.

Or, as I said, it might just come down to bad luck... seriously, some people can go years without finding someone. Look at me- I've been single for about 10 years now!
Also, how are your social and conversation skills with women? If your friends tell you a girl likes you, yet they say no when you ask them out, that's telling me there's some factor deterring them from going the next step with you.

Use your friends to practice approaching and talking to women with, or ask them for tips on how you can maybe improve your luck since they probably know you better than we do.

[Asker]

I tend to fall for introverts. I consider myself an extrovert. I dont see myself getting anxiety in a social situation. I have given a few speeches now and then to people. I have lunch with a lot of friends so I dont think I am bad at interacting with people. Maybe the introverts are very shy that they panic and say no I am not sure however, I always go with what they say"No"

[MrTuxedo]

I'm really sorry to hear that man... that must be tough.
I'm not sure, but I believe it's not very common to be 28 and never had experienced dating, nor any type of relatioship with a girl...

But, I would suggest you to keep trying, 9 times? Who cares, you already had 9 which is A LOT, so what is 1, or 10 to that (hopefully there would not be)

Try meeting girls at other places than clubs or bars, like parks, museums, librarys or other stuff like that. Never give up! There is a girl out there waiting for you, just be strong. I truly wish you GOOD LUCK!

[Logorithim]

If you have only asked out 9 girls, you have not asked enough of them out. Rejection rates for most guys are very high for a number of reasons.

That said, what you need to work on most is making yourself more interesting to women and giving yourself the best chance of a successful relationship.

[dmale248]

I think your anticipating it to much. Very small chance your going for lunch then just go back to your place. You have to put in the work I feel like when you ask these girls it's not because your even fully interested but more just wanting something. If any female picks up on the fact your ultimate goal is that kinda stuff she's out.

[WhereAmI]

No it’s not normal. You are the outlier in the six sigma curve called life.

Considering you’ve been brutally rejected says something is wrong with your approach. Find a female you can confide in and try to get an honest opinion about what’s wrong.

[Asker]

I did find one and when I asked she replied that I need to figure out when a girl doesn't want to hangout. Because when I'd ask she would say yes at times and no. Basically I have to read her mind. I was hoping for different answers like my approach or rude behavior but I got that from her

[WhereAmI]

It sounds more like reading her body language than reading her mind. Truthfully it’s hard to say without knowing you that’s why I recommend confiding in others. Your friend doesn’t sound too helpful. Sounds like you need another opinion

[Anonymous]

definetley more common than you think, for the past couple years now, its really bothered me, and at the same time, I feel its quite obvious, as to why cases, situations like this are male-dominated, because traditionally, men do all the heavy lifting in dating.

[NerdInDenial]

It’s getting more common. The sad part is there will be a moment when you have to realize maybe you’re not meant to have a partner or you have to lower all standards.

[Accidental_Genius]

Then ask more girls out! Ask more and more untill U find one!

[Scarecrow13]

I don't know if it's"normal", but it is not as unusual as you might think.

[Clarke498]

Hope not, because that's going to be me.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is

[14141mamfdafa]

That's weird