My boyfriend wants me to wear revealing clothes in public? Why?

[Anonymous]

Like shorts , skirts , dresses, leggings/yoga pants, crop tops, tank tops etc.
he's also always wanting cleavage showing
I don’t even dress like this around the house. He says he wants to show me off but like Other guys would be looking
I think it’s kinda strange , cuz I don’t want other girls checking him out

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+1 y

Been with this guy for a year and a half

[7p3ue7]

Once had a girlfriend called Alison who had an extremely sexy body and pretty face looking a couple of years younger than she actually was (she was only about 24, I was about 29/30) she wore short skirt anyway as she had great legs. I once asked her if she always wore underwear and she said not always. I took her out one night to a pub (in UK so you might say a bar), I went to the counter to order our drinks and when I turned to look at her, she took a quick look around and opened her legs as wide as she dare, big smile both ends. It's not always the guys that want to have you reveal, you can lead the way, it's in your power, but if it's not your thing DON'T GET USED and JUST DON'T DO IT.

[hahahmm]

Guys want to know that other guys find their woman attractive BUT if you’re uncomfortable doing something then don’t. He knew how you dressed when he met you. No reason for him to expect you to dress more revealing now.

The other thing is he should be careful what he wishes for. Women who dress like they’re looking for attention are looking for attention which could be bad if she gets the attention of a guy she likes more than her boyfriend

[Asker]

He suggested. He’s fine with me not wanting to

[hahahmm]

Keep in mind that guys are visual so if you wear things he likes around him sometime (or meet him halfway) he’ll be more excited.

[Asker]

Eh to bad for him. I don’t care what he wants. I dress how I wanna. I should be comfortable

[hahahmm]

You might aswell get a new nf who doesn’t care then because this will be an issue. Compatibility issue.

Some guys care less the older they get but still every guy has his limits.

[Asker]

He said he’s fine with it

[Vesta]

If he's fine with it, why did you ask about this in the first place

[hazedaii]

You know what's strange? I always thought men want their women to only look sexy and revealing with her partner, I didn't know me liked to show off their partner and want other men to check her out. It would turn me off if my significant other was like that, I would leave him. It's not his business to tell you to cover up or reveal more, when a man comments on these things or even suggests these things I automatically assume he's insecure. 😡

[btbc92]

Because he thinks your a hoe. You better leave that jerk alone and get out of that relationship. A man that cares about you would want you to cover up, not expose yourself. He wants to parade you around. Don't allow that. He only cares about you being whorish and is upset that you don't 'turn on' sexually for that. That is not your job. He's showing you what type of guy he REALLY is.

[Asker]

K you don’t know him. I know him
I asked why.. I didn’t ask for you people to shit on my boyfriend

[btbc92]

Then do whatever you want and stop asking why since you know him so much. I know guys like him, and that's that. You like to be treated that way, then don't get upset when your needs are not being met. You should be PROUD to do that for him since you love him so much. It's obviously not strange since he's your 'boyfriend'. He desrepects you and if your okay with disrespecting yourself, knock yourself out. Not me.

[btbc92]

Then do whatever you want and stop asking why since you know him so much. I know guys like him, and that's that. You like to be treated that way, then don't get upset when your needs are not being met. You should be PROUD to do that for him since you love him so much. It's obviously not strange since he's your 'boyfriend'. He disrespects you and if you're okay with disrespecting yourself, knock yourself out. Not me. I told you why. He wants you to dress whorish and let others know who you are to him.

[Asker]

I’ve been with him a year. This is the first time he’s ever asked anything of me

[Asker]

He suggests one thing and suddenly that’s disrespectful

[btbc92]

I don't care if you been with him for 10 years, it's your choice to be blind for over a year. Plenty of people who are smart would know right off the bat. It's not the it's the first time, it's something that he always wanted you to do, but never had the opportunity at least in his perspective to actually pursue it. Is disrespectful for anybody to suggest that of a woman. That degrade you as a woman and that degrades me as a woman. And any other woman. And any man in his right mind would simply tell you that. Because they don't even treat their own women like that. If you already like that is because you don't even really know what a good man is , and have a good man would actually treat you. And let me tell you, they would rather to see you cover up than for you to expose yourself for everybody to see. Because if he has an opportunity to get a woman that dresses in those ways to pay attention to him you can bet to be sure he would cheat on you with her.

[btbc92]

A person that has to demand and ask you to dress a certain way as a person is actually a person they settled with.

[Asker]

Okay. Ur all jealous we something. Wow

[btbc92]

Me? Jealous? Now that's a laugh. Why would I be jealous of you when I know how many supposed to treat a woman? Sorry sweetheart I don't want what you got. You got a low income and person I want to see you to be his hoe. Why would I want to be a hoe? Let alone dress like one? Unlike you I know I deserve better. Maybe when it actually happens you start to wake up and smell the coffee.

[btbc92]

But then again you're 20 you still got a lot to learn.

[btbc92]

Low and uncommon person*

[btbc92]

You got more than enough guys giving me a pennies and answering your question that's telling you no different than what I'm telling you. You just hard of hearing and refuse to listen because you know for yourself that's exactly what's true. And you're acting very arrogant to hide your insecurities because you think you haven't been caught. It's you that's the naive one.

[Asker]

Low income! Bitch I work in the oilfield. I make a lot more money than some people double my age.
I don’t dress like a hoe. I am completely covered at all times
My boyfriend doesn’t disrespect me , he suggested one thing. He’s never suggested anything like that before. And my boyfriend is the same age as you, he knows how to treat a lady
Him suggesting one thing doesn’t make him not worthy and I’m not that naive.. i know he loves me and treats me well
Just cuz something offends you, doesn’t mean it offends/should offend everyone else. We all react differently

[btbc92]

I meant Lo and uncommon person. The low income was a typo. Maybe stop being so overly reactive and actually pay attention before you write something. If you wanted to bring you what he does and what he best to you, as I told you before that is simply your choice. If you want to dress that way you do it. If you don't don't do it that's your choice. He gets mad then you deal with it I'm not dealing with it. I don't know why you got to be so pushy and rude to everybody else and we're trying to tell you something. It's very clear that you don't need to be asking such a question since you claim you're not naive. You can treat you well all he wants. It's all an act until he can't get what he desires out of you. Until you start neglecting and rejecting what he wants out of that relationship. You should never even have to suggest anything like that. And as I explained to you before he doesn't have to suggest it in the beginning because again it's an opportunity did not arise for him, then he's not going to do it. Guys like that will go ahead and wait until a certain time to actually demanding things. I did not say you dressed like one. I'm saying that he's asking for you to. So stop being so rude and open your eyes.

[btbc92]

I wouldn't want you to be a hoe or dress up like one. That is why I told you to let him go. I'm concerned for YOU, not would I would do. But do you don't want others concerning for you, do as you please. Becaus this question comes off as you seeking attention.

[Asker]

He didn’t get mad and he didn’t demand. And I’ve said that before

[btbc92]

And the comment has to do with him it was not directed at you.

[btbc92]

It's not the point that he's mad. It's not the point that he demanded. It's the fact that he suggested it. What man in their right mind would suggest it! Other guys on here even said so. The others would applaud it because their horny themselves and would like to take a peak.

[Asker]

You stop being rude. He isn’t demanding. I’ve said that so many times. how many more times do I have to say that? How about you open your eyes

[btbc92]

He wants to change you into somebody your not. And he only said he's not mad because he doenst want to give off that he is a bit upset. A man that really loves you would not care about that unless it's affecting his relationship with you. Especially when married. But your not married. So it's a matter of what kind of image he wants you to be as. Instead of excepting you as you are now.

[Asker]

And some girls wouldn’t mind if their boyfriend asked. It’s all in how offended you get, l. Ur more sensitive towards it I guess
He didn’t demand. He didn’t ask. He suggested
I’m not used in the relationship. Sex isn’t often. So it’s not about that

[Asker]

He knew I woukdnt. I don’t change for people

[btbc92]

I'm not being rude and my eyes is opened for me to see it. If I can't see it, it's obviously, no offense me sleeping with him, if you are to have my rational judgment tampered with. I pretty much knew that aboy6your sex life the moment you stated that he asked you to dress up that way. It means he's losing sexual attraction out of lust. I'm not stupid.

[btbc92]

He wants sex to be all the time and he feels because he is not getting that to find a way to get both you and him in the mood. And many girls who do that for their boyfriend dont really love themselves enough to get put of those toxic relationships. Their scared their going to be alone forever.

[btbc92]

That means there is a problem. And he's low-key telling you that. Bad enough I don't agree with premarital sex. When men tell you that , that's exactly what it means.

[btbc92]

He's just not being direct with you about it.

[Asker]

He’s the one who chooses not to have sex. Not me

[btbc92]

Yeah because you're not dressing how he wants his women to dress.

[btbc92]

He feels turned off by you.

[btbc92]

And judging how you came off on me, I can tell that if he told you that directly you probably would have slapped him of it got into a heated argument. To avoid it, he rather gently encourage you on the idea. Until then he ain't gonna budge. I promise you.

[btbc92]

Please remember that just because you're over the one-year Mark it doesn't mean that he is not contemplating if he needs to get his sexual wants met elsewhere. He's smoothing it over because he doesn't want you to suspect that he is not okay with lack of sex the way he wants and pursue to seek other women eventually. He's just being patient to see of you will change your mind and decide from there. Besides. He knows your not going to leave him.

[Asker]

You don’t m ow me or him.
I’d leave him if I felt necessary

[Asker]

Know*

[btbc92]

OMG, Asker you and this relationship with this guy, no offense are a joke. It's very clear both of you don't take relationships seriously. This is crazy. Do whatever you want. Don't need the stress.

[Asker]

That’s your opinion. I think ur a joke, that’s my opinion

[btbc92]

OKAY. You'll know sooner or later. I'll give it another few months before this all gets shut down. That's all. Not my problem.

[btbc92]

I can see how you girls get cheated on. Too easy.

[Asker]

Hahahaha Hahahaha I’m with him everyday. Basically the whole day so would be kinda hard to cheat.
(We work at the same place, we drive together) so um yea no
You may know some guys and girls. Not everyone is the same :)

[Asker]

Done work at the same time. So cheatings really not possible and I live with him.
And neither of us go out, unless it’s together to a store :)

[btbc92]

Yeah. You're naive to think something so dumb. It's really not that hard if he can keep you for over a year.

[redpanda_]

If you're not comfortable with it, you need to tell him. Maybe compromise and say you'll wear tightER stuff, but not short or something. Whatever is your happy compromise. But if you don't want to whatsoever, don't be afraid to tell him - if he loves you, he'll appreciate you and value you over having other men drool over you.

[Asker]

I did tell him. I was just asking a question

[TallMaria90]

To show you off probably.

[SirRexington]

That's so weird. Obviously all guys are different but im the exact opposite. I don't like the feeling of other people being able to see the bits and goodies that only I should see.

He seems to have the thought process of "look what I have and you don't, you can look but can't touch, that's reserved for me" but I personally don't like that philosophy because when I'm out with a girl I'm thinking about her and the reasons I like her. Part of the reason I probably like her is because she isn't that revealing in her clothing. I'm just a guy who respects the old school stuff. Whether it's a nice dress or some casual clothes like jeans and a t-shirt.

[wankiam]

i can understand why he would want to show you off and its also actually quite a sexy thing for a guy to have other guys checking out his girl... its like a trophy thing and a wank fantasy rolled into one but if you dont feel comfortable with it then make it clear because ultimately its your choice

[wankiam]

@update he could also be trying to spice things up then or he is just bored with how you look

[Asker]

Well to bad for him. I told him I’m sticking to band tees and pants

[wankiam]

well like i said its your choice

[beach_chick]

I take it as a compliment. My boyfriend asks the same thing. He is attracted and likes your body. I also dress more modest I guess. I also don’t let him control what I wear. It’s just a flattering thing maybe he’s proud of how you are and wants people to also see who he’s with.

[JackSmy]

Sounds like he is insecure, personally, and needs to show you off, like 'he got you, and you are hot' to make him look good.
I wouldn't want to be a loser's toy, being paraded around, for others to see! "Show them your teeth, babe" like livestock!! Sad, and humiliating!!
You are with this kind of guy, why?

[Asker]

Holy fuck. He just suggested something. That doesn’t make him a terrible person
Wtf

[TinawAllison]

That’s odd. If had any kind of respect for you he wouldn’t do it. Me I’m one that keeps & should be kept personal only between two people that’s it. You wear what you feel that’s make you feel comfortable. I’d say no to that. It’s immoral. You don’t know what someone else’s thinking.

[sean1234]

sta·tus sym·bol
[status symbol]
NOUN
status symbols (plural noun)
a possession that is taken to indicate a person's wealth or high social or professional status.
"the palace was built as a status symbol" · "a stressful job can be a status symbol"
synonyms:
symbol · indicator · mark · sign · hallmark · trademark · status symbol

[sean1234]

You are his status symbol he has to show off. That's how it seems to me.

[UnicornLobotomy]

He either wants to show you off, or he harbors a secret cuck fetish. I wanted my girlfriend to wear a kinky, tight skirt/dress to show her off, and to wear it around the house. It turned me on, it would boast her confidence and feed my ego catching guys ogling her.

[elizamichale1]

Well to me there's nothing wrong in that darling coz if he had any wrongful intentions you would have known it by now
He only wants to show u off to others that he has a hot and sexy girlfriend and he is proud to have u honey
But yea if u dont feel comfy in such dresses then just simply talk to him and say no
My boyfriend is the same and i do wear what he likes but i do it with my choice though

[Anonymous]

people can date people for various reasons, i believe love should be the only reason and it seems he is doing it for reputation, ego and popularity. If you have the same intent as him then go for it, but if you have deep feelings for who he is then ask him if he does too and let him know you dont want to do it

[Asker]

He’s not doing it for popularity. I’ve been with him for 1 1/2 years
I know he loves me
Wtf

[almondcake]

The truth is he is probably a power seeker. I gues you are not comfy wearing clothes he wants you too. And if you do something for him because you love him then it makes him feel good. That is a power thing and he probably doesn't know he does this. You should talk to him about it. Thats my thoughts on it
Have a listen to this song

https://youtu.be/4QEqLTbEXy0

[Dragonstarterplus]

On one hand, you shouldn't feel pressured to dress uncomfortably just so he can show you off to strangers and get an ego boost

On the other hand, all of that stuff you mentioned is just regular clothes that people wear everyday

[Asker]

Yes but it’s still revealing

[SarahsSummer]

On one hand it shows he's proud to be seen with you but on the other it kind of seems like he's trying to control you. Or maybe he gets off on others drooling over his trophy wife (girlfriend).
Do what makes you most comfortable.

[R4vedave]

Sounds like he's a bit of an exhibitionist in a sense, and genuinely enjoys showing you off.

If you're not comfortable going along with it, then you should be straight forward and tell him

[Asker]

I have and he is fine with it. I was just confused

[markscott]

He wants other guys to see how sexy his girl is, so they will be jealous, and he will seem better than them. Basically, he uses you as a prop for feed his ego.

[SexyAshh]

He wants to show you off

I always wear short shorts/ skirts because i like them and its funny how some of my more conservative friends boyfriends will urge them to push the envelope more with their clothes because of it

[soe11]

My girlfriend too

[Miristheiss]

LOL! Well, there are all types. Some guys are like this... I'd guess most were the other way in that they don't want their girl showing off all the goods to other guys but the world takes all types.

[Miristheiss]

Per update, is this a new thing for him or has he always been this way?

If this isn't stuff you normally wear and are comfortable being in, in front of a large group of people and strangers than I'd tell him no.

[Asker]

I did tell him no, and he was fine with it
I was just asking a question

[EmbraceThePain]

Well, why do you think? Use your head please, it’s not that difficult. My patience for questions asked on this site is running thin. I’ve seen stuff like “My boyfriend says he loves me, what does this mean?” 😑😑😑😑😑😑😑

[djmzes]

Simple

[boredguy01]

Some guys like it when other people check out there girlfriend because they think it's cool that other guys want her but they're the only one who gets to have her

[SkipStop]

Ask him. Maybe he thinks it will make you feel more confident and comfortable in your own skin. Maybe he likes to show off the hot girl he has. Just ask. How hard can it be?