Not at all. I have had advances from women in their 20s and mind you I am in my 50s now. The most recent one was 27, emotionally and physically we clicked. It was not something that I could do because I have a partner. Well let's just say that in the past I have dated women 18 to 20 years older than I was and I was quite content with them. There is a couple that I know that lives about 80 miles from me she would be and her late seventies early eighties now and he would be about 54. They are professional gardeners and he works at a rubber mold factory too. I also know of another similar couple that is about 40 miles away. She is 40 and I think he is 72. They are ranchers and have three children together. They're lovely and beautiful people who see each other for who they are and disregard age, body physique or looks. They're madly in love and they hold hands in church to this day. Their oldest son is 19. I'm met them when I was 23. It was a funny story because because I was hitting on the man's wife and I thought it was his daughter when I first met him at their home. Her vehicle has broken down at a convenience store in the middle of nowhere and I jumped the battery for her and fixed the short to her alternator. All the while I was trying to get to know her, she finally invited me to dinner that evening and introduced me to her husband. She told him that I've been hitting on her. They both laughed and then finally let me in on the joke. His comment to me was, I can't blame you and offered me a beer then explained how they got together. We are all still friends to this day although I have not seen them in a few years.
u The significance of the age gap decreases as you get older.
If you were 15 and she was 25, obviously that doesn't work.
If you were 55 and she was 65, that is not a very big deal. (I am 64 and my girlfriend is 57. Been together 1½ years.)
At your age, what is significant is not the age per se but the compatibility of your interests and goals. Do you see her as a long term prospect? Do you want children? Does she? Do you have similar interests so that you can find activities you both enjoy doing together? Will you be accepted by both groups of family and friends?
Not at all, as long as both people are of legal age, who cares about he age difference. Do you love each other, make each other happy? Yes? Then enjoy the time you are with each other and if anyone says any differently tell them to go take the piss.
10 years above is a big age gap regardless the gender roles. At the end of the day, it's the love, chemistry and connection between two lovers that matter.
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I don't see a problem with that. What matters is that you're compatible.
My wife is 3 years. younger but she acts 10 years. older than me. Take note this is not me complaining cause I understand & love her. She is often tired, wants to just stay home, & the sex is less than what I desire. Between the onset of menopause & the fact she has Lupus, I am not sure what has slowed her down.
I think companionship is the most important facet & if you feel compatible this way then perhaps the age gap won't matter. But other obvious things such as energy levels, sex drive, & aging all will be affect sooner than yours. You need to ask yourself if you are prepared for such effects.
It depends on the nature of the relationship. There are couples with a very strong bond between them; watching them, you could see that no single number or other attribute would be enough to define or denigrate their relationship. In such a case, the age gap is nothing, but a number; and the value or sign of it (who's older than whom) does not really matter at all.
Not at all. My partner is 20 years younger, and I wouldn't trade him for any one else. There's something special about sn older woman younger man relationship which only those in it can understand and appreciate.
Depends on her life experiences. If she’s done stuff you haven’t it can become an issue later on... either because she feels superior or she thinks YOUR life is a joke & just a game to her while you think you’re both on the same page. I mean for serious. If it’s only sex then it wouldn’t matter
Well it's not typical, I mean the other way around is far more common since guys usually naturally want younger girls and girls usually naturally want older guys, but there's nothing wrong with the girl being older as long as both parties are happy and attracted to each other.
That's the ideal gap. Women marry up, and the highest SMV she has is as soon as her body is legal, and then it slowly falls over the years. Men's highest is about 25 to 30, depending on how well they've got their life sorted out.
I think it depends on the gap. 20 & 30 are quite a gap because of the different stages of life they are each in. 30 & 40 feel less so & then 40 & 50 feel hardly apart at all ( depending on health etc so on & so forth. )
10 years is a pretty fair age gap, and age gaps can sometimes be an issue in relationships, but if you click and get along well, who cares? I’d go for it.
Yes, pretty big. Now if you are talking about a 75 year old and a 65 year old it isn't a big deal but a 30 year old and a 20 year old? Yes, that's pretty big.
You're both legal consenting adults, so do what works for you. It's really no one else's business aside for you and your cougar 😉
As you get older age gaps don't mean as much. For example
12 yr old and 22 year old BIG DIFFERENCE
55 yr old and 65 yr old not a big difference
its not overly common but its also quite normal and really is down to no one but the couple themselves to decide if its right or wrong
well if one of them isn't legal then yes. After 20 I'd say a ten year gap isn't as bad.
Best woman I ever dated was 8 years my senior. 10 years is about the most I would even consider, but I try to keep it under 5.
Depends if she wants kids, if/when you do. If you dont with 5 years, and ahe does, you have to let her go.
Otherwise it can work, if you both want it to
depend on how old the younger person is, if he's 20 that's pretty high but if he's 40 that's nothing.
If she is 10 years older than your listed age and you want kids of your own, then yes, she is too old already.
I think an age gap of 10 is big but isn't it much better than 15 or so... I know people who are 10 years apart who are happy together.
Age gaps become a problem when partners have subtantial differences in where they are in life, their goals etc. If thats not the case, then its not a problem.
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