Women have girlfriends, and boyfriends, if you aren't being intimate with her, you are her girlfriend?

[coachTanthony]

Women have girlfriends, and boyfriends, if you aren't being intimate with her, you are her girlfriend?

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[btbc92]

I disagree wholeheartedly. If you say that you are in a romantic relationship, what matters is that you both respect each other and have setting boundaries that shouldn't be crossed. And if you're not going to be intimate with each other that's still okay. As long as that's what you both sincerely want. It is nobody else's business to judge your relationship. Now when it comes down to who's your friend or not, the question is what kind of relationship do you have with your friends? Just because you call that person your friend let alone somebody that you are romantically involved with, that doesn't mean they are trustworthy people you should be with. The problem is is that everybody has toxic people in their lives at some point. Who you choose to be intimate with or not is a decision only you can make. People are intimate with their friends, family, and all kinds of craziness. So I think it's safe to say to determine and judge the level of the mindset and character of a person more than the status of one's relationship.

It's the same thing with one night stands in Friends with Benefits. Just because the label is called friends with benefits. That does not mean your friends. It means that you are lovers in a sexual manner and they all your sex partners. But they are not somebody you are committed to in a relationship or marriage, and they almost certainly aren't your friends. And anybody who still thinks their friends at their done all that is really messed up in the head.

[btbc92]

Plus, I never liked the term boyfriend and girlfriend to name your 'friends'. It's confusing, misleading, and can cause a a lot of misunderstanding and unnecessary heartache.

[PrincessGrail]

I don’t trust most of my guy friends the way I trust my girlfriends.

[PrincessGrail]

Thanks :-)

[Kiran_Yagami]

If you have no attraction to woman and are her friend that's one thing, but if you have desire for either emotional or sexual connection, or both, and she has no interest in you then you are a beta orbiter. If you have feelings for a woman and she does not reciprocate you have no business being her friend. You're not a "girlfriend", because that would be giving yourself too much credit.

[Cask23]

It's worse than that.

If you ain't banging her, you are her friend zoned beta looser male that she keeps around like a pet to boost her ego and string along for favors.

[crazy8000]

Immatur ones are like that 😉

[SexyAshh]

This is actually kind of accurate😂 @cask23

[AmandaYVR]

Yesss! I've always thought this. The matter could be easily cleared up by the additional use of 'girl friend'.

[MercuryG]

Depends, are you in an actual relationship, or are you just a friend who happens to be the opposite sex.

As far as being in a relationship: I know several couples that aren't intimate in the traditional sense, but they're still dedicated and in a romantic relationship.

I think only putting it in those two terms and suggesting that a male is anything but masculine only due to how intimate he is in his relationship is kinda short sighted or intentionally derogatory.

At least that's how this question comes across.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I don't know if they are okay with it, but seem like all men are my brothers. And to be intimate with one (even if it's mentally) he needs to be single. If not, he's just another brother, as well as men who don't show any interest. Maybe it's beacause a cultural thing in my country. We always use words (non-formal; not titles) before people's names to show respect towards them. For both younger and older. So, everyone gets used to be called a brother or a sister.

[BlackRoseFairy]

I think this is due to the restrictions of the English language. In my native language we have a different word for Female and Male "simple" friends and a completely different for a spouse. After having to read you question twice to get it right, I prefer it so... less confusion about a person's role or gender. (Referring to the fact that the English word "friend" is gender neutral)

[Ellie-V]

I’ve never called a male friend of mine a “girlfriend” or a girl in general unless he was flamboyant or gay and referred to himself as a girl.

[coachTanthony]

Well deep down many women refer to them as such.

[Anonymous]

If a guy only hangs out with women in a desperate and backwards attempt to get fucked by them, you need to evaluate why you aren’t expecting more.

A good friend is a good friend. You help each other, wingman for each other, look for opportunities to get ahead for careers and interests, enjoy some similar lifeviews and activities, etc.

A lot of guys just won’t get brave and try to sleep with who they want to sleep with, so are sad little puppies for hot chicks. (and Vice versa - chicks doing pathetic favors for guys who treat her poorly)

That doesn’t mean there’s nothing between ALL men and women but sex. It’s just that too many scared lazy people fall into these traps.

[Opinion Owner]

The homophobic way this question is worded says a lot about the men who feel this way. Sad sacks doubting their own masculinity and desperate to prove his worth.

[Throaway1234]

Really rich that someone who benefits 100% from the friend zone (a vagina owner) denies it's existence.

[DWornock]

The question has insufficient facts for a meaningful answer. However, if she is intimate with girlfriends, there is no way for me to find out since I wouldn't know what is happening behind closed doors.

However, if she is meeting up with other guys, especially behind closed doors in non-public places, I will assume that she is fucking other guys and that she is not that into me. Therefore, even if I could marry her, since she is not that into me, she will be fucking other guys after we get married. I don't need that so I would terminate the relationship and not waste any more of my time.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't put it on the girl like that. It's on the guy. As a guy you either want to just be friends with a girl, or you want to have sex with her. If you want sex with her and you're acting like all you want is friendship, if you're not doing anything to make your intentions known and you're not actively advancing your goal, that's 110% your problem. Own that.

[NightFlirt]

The terms boyfriend and girlfriend can be misleading and kinda confusing. Most women call their female friends girlfriends, and the guy (s) they are dating their boyfriend (s). If you're asking if a woman is being intimate with her girlfriend the easiest way to ask her is if it's her girlfriend or her Girlfriend. A Girlfriend (note the capitalization) signifies that they are intimate.

[Anonymous]

I'm not really sure I completely understand the question, but I don't think it makes you her "girlfriend" or any less of a man or whatever to not be intimate with your girlfriend if you guys are wanting to wait or take it slow.

[DDpsy]

It is just partially true. Straight women have boyfriends that are always guys, girl friends that are always females and finally they have bitches that are almost always guys but sometimes females also.
Never be a woman's bitch.

[Mickey9999]

I trust my guy friends more. They gossip less and aren’t in competition mode all the time as with most women. With either sex it takes a long time before i let them “in” and define them as trustworthy.

[Anonymous]

If we aren't intimate we are friends.
I've always found this guys vs. Girls thing stupid. People develop romantic feelings and if it's not reciprocated get butt hurt and then they all of a sudden conclude men and women can't be friends. That's silly! I can understand if it makes it hard for you to be friends with that paticular guy or girl but don't besmirch an entire gender or spread your toxicity to others because you can't handle a rejection.

[JackSmy]

Sometimes. I've been extremely intimate, in a non-sexual way, not thinking I was her 'girlfriend' but rather 'big brother' or 'protector' when she did stupid things! Not about sex, but caring about a dear friend.

[MrsDahmer]

It doesn't applied to me. I have been intimate with dome girlfriends and not with some boyfriends. Also, I've been intimate with people I barely knew.
"Intimate" could either mean psychological/emotional intimacy or physical/sexual intimacy. Then I've been psychologically intimate with people I've never been sexually intimate with and vice versa.
The question isn't precise enough to give a proper answer.

[purplepoppy]

I just call them friends regardless of which sex they are. I'd never call a guy my girlfriend, that makes him sound like lesbian and that's just confusing.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I can be her boy friend. A boy that is her friend. We are not intimate. We are friends, but since I am a guy I am not her girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Indeed... if you're not her boyfriend, then you're her girlfriend...

[JamesRandiDebates]

If she's not emptying your sack, there's no purpose in having her around. Females bring nothing of value to a man's life aside from sex.

[VIVANT]

I think it’s SO vs friends of any gender. And what constitutes a Romantic relationship varies from person to person.