Yes. I would and have. My ex-wife has a fairly serious lifelong chronic illness that she needs treatment for. However, to be more specific and honest, I suppose it would depend on what it was exactly. If it was likely going to cut her life *much* shorter or was terminal, etc., I'm not sure I would want to get involved to be honest at this point in my life (I have children and I want/need a stable relationship). As far as mental illness, I'm an extremely rational and logical person and I don't know if I would be able to deal with many mental illnesses. Again with children, I need and want a stable relationship for their sake.
On the flip side, my ex-wife was specifically looking for someone who had no major diseases or even was a genetic carrier of any kind of major inheritable disease even though she herself was. At one point she had me get gene sequenced to check to see if I was a carrier for certain diseases. It was then I found out I had a pretty clean genetic profile. It appeased her, but I found it a little bit hypocritical on her part. I brought it up with her and she simply agreed with that statement. I feel like she wanted a genetically engineered man with a perfect genome. And by the way, it was her that initiated the divorce, not me.
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yes I would until its not something extreme mental conditions like they use violence. I don't think I can't deal with a girl with a anger management issues. Some mental condition like depressing or ADHD or other's , I think they are fine.
about physical illness, it all depend on what types of illness it is; Its matter I don't want to date with someone with HIV. I am looking for long term relationship when we date so I am fine with many illness but some illness is not something I want to deal with.
I'll find out if I'm datable in the future I guess. I struggle too. I was married for quite awhile which my ex's alcoholism put quite a strain on me. I, also, got slammed with some health issues that made it a bit worse.
I think what is important is are we practicing good self care and being the healthiest we can be. People are more apt to see us as a viable partner if we are on top of our illness whether it be taking meds, doing natural things, eating right, keeping our stressors down and doing therapy.
And we are more than our illness. We can be creative, kind, caring people and many people with anxiety disorders and depression are some of the most sensitive people which isn't all bad.
It takes a partner to understand that brain disorders as I call them aren't any different that diabetes just that scientists and doctors don't really know how to treat them. Most of the time it is just trial and error. We are still in the infancy of treatment when it comes to brain disorders and ones like bipolar are now thought be be protein based liked MS.
It would depend on how chronic. And how independent he was. As long as he didn't view me a potential carer, id consider dating him. But I can't really say yes for definite until I know more about his illness and how it would affect our lives together.
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I'm only saying this because it's true and I have one. So yes I would but most people are going to lie and say yes just to feel good about themselfs but in the real would they wouldn't. Some maybe but most no. I been in a few relationships and right when I told them or they found out they changed and either brake up, lie, cheat or just change around you. I won't Judge everyone but most of the time that's the case it's sad but it's true.
Personally yes but I grew up w me and most of my friends having at least minor illnesses, I don't know how most people would take it but a little mutual understanding can go a long way with this stuff, just make sure you acknowledge that both of you will have issues from it and try to focus on the relationship as much as both of your respective health's and happiness
I would date a girl that has mental illness disregarding which type. Maybe it's because I have depression and a skin condition. But I feel like that's something that we can BOTH work on and get better with each other and grow as individuals. Also if both people find interest in the other person, only to be turned down because a mental illness the other person will continue to be stuck in that hole while everyone moves forward. That's why I think its essential for both people to lift each other up, instead of disregarding the other person for their chemical imbalance. That's my opinion.
I agree with you. It’s definitely something you should share with your partner before things get serious. If you don’t tell them, it’ll just make it worse in the future. They’ll wonder what else you’ve been hiding from them. Heartbreak will definitely happen.
I have Chronic Mental Illnesses and i have dated girls who
whose illnesses was worst than mine and we had no problem
but one thing i want make better i don't want a relationship
that is just based on sexual things such as foreplay or actual
sex i want take time and base it on real love.No, because it would be pointless.
Dating is a series of auditions to select a mate.
Someone who has a chronic illness is self-evidently unfit genetic material, therefore unsuitable as a mate, so interacting with them would be pointless, as well as a waste of time and money.I would. My condition doesn’t get worse over time (although it could) but I will have it for the rest of my life and will probably pass it down to my children and my boyfriend still loves me. If you love the person and you know it’s much more than infatuation, absolutely.
Depends on illness and what I could expect when it progress.
Big NO, if I would need to 100% change her adult diaper and/or she will become mentally 'vegetable'.I think I could date someone with any illness that obviously wasn't going to be detrimental to me like AIDS - but besides that if someone wants to be with u they will take u for ur whole glory and successful relationships are inclusive of teamwork.
If its something i can handle i would yes, there is burden in these relationships but they can be really rewarding as well. But it does depend on the illness and how capable i am off handling that specific one.
Yes, absolutely! I have Crohn's Disease and Anxiety Disorders... if I were to discriminate that's make me a hypocrite and shit person. I'm many ways, those that have experience with suffering have more open and compassionate hearts because of it.
My boyfriend has an illness called ulcerative colitis. He is on medication to control it and basically would die without it. He told me about it when we first started dating. Only thing that bothers me about it is seeing him in pain when he has a flare up.
I doubt many people begin their dating relationship with a person afflicted by a chronic illness. I would say 98% of the time the person was healthy when you started dating and then subsequently came down with a chronic illness later. The real question is would someone stay.
Depends on what it is.
I would potentially date someone with chronic illness, assuming it was manageable, not life threatening.
Its impossible to be depressed with me around, so I wouldn't worry about that in a partner.you can be friends and date someone who has a serious health problem but you do not have to marry them unless you fall in love with them ! Do not marry anyone out of pity for them either ! Thanks
Yeah I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't. I have bipolar disorder which is a mental illness. It's regulated mostly with meds and therapy. I also have Crohn's disease which is a lifelong bowel disease with chronic pain and bowel issues.
I have chronic pain etc and it would be selfish of me to not date someone who has yet expect them to accept me
so my answer is yes without questionWell it depends. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, but in marriage sex is definitely important. So, if the chronic illness we're talking about will make it impossible to have sexual intimacy, I don't think so.
Yes, depending. Things like depression and anxiety are pretty common and I'd be so happy helping a significant other carry their burden because I can relate to it, if it were something like autism or dirty defects or something I couldn't relate but if I loved them I'd still fight it with them.
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