No. They want the man to be empathetic. Put themselves in the girl's place when they're talking to you about some rude woman in the office, their passions, or even if they ask you to go to the store with them. You don't have to read minds. Just realize how your actions and words will affect them emotionally.
I want a man who can read EMOTIONS. That takes empathy and common sense. Knowing WHY I feel the certain way about a certain thing is irrelevant, it's knowing that I DO and how he handles it is what matters.
Am i correctnthinking you are indifferent because that is how your father was towards you so yoi translated that as how love w a man is. But you also hold it against the guy if he does not respond to your indifference because you wanted more from your father?
actually no, I meant it here. "indifferent... so they never know why um mad anyways". It just sounds like mixed signals hard for him to decipher. maybe I'm reading it wrong...
I'm expected to look like a stripper you guys can do something too. We are actually very simple creatures. Just give us things and will be good. Food, girts, d#*k we are happy
No, i don’t think the man to read my mind and know what I’m feeling all the time, I mean sometimes guys just need to really watch what they say or just the tone in how you say it.. but you can tell me what your feeling when your down as I could do the same but it sometimes does take a little “ hows your day “ question through out our days cause nobody really ask anybody how there days been going ( communication )
Women use a lot of passive aggressive language and are typically used to staying in that frame of mind so they hold the same expectations for men subconsciously.
Yes and no. She want him to read between the lines at times. Example "Can I hang out with my friends tonight?" "Sure" usually means i wanted to hang out with you tonight
@Creepazoid If a woman is really into you, she will never look bored or tired. We become animated when we are around the people we like. We can't help it. It's strange because we can be thinking we're giving you every possible sign and we're wondering why you aren't picking them up, it's only later that it occurs to us that maybe we still weren't clear enough.
It is. Did some thinking and coming to a horrible realization that some girls might have actually been interested in me. Probably best we never got together though.
wasn't really applying to the attration/first date aspect but for those whom were already in relationships in. Women expect for us to know them inside and out completely and even times when we ask if everythings cool, theyll say yes, and latter that day theyll be all like "you should have said this, should have done that." Me, "well i asked you." Them, "Well you should have already have known"
@bimmy5000 Sadly, I think both men & women tend to realise a lot of missed opportunities on reflection. Especially if one or both are shy. Sometimes, again, it can be misinterpreted as disinterest.
@Creepazoid We do often think that we've got the subtle, but obvious thing just right, and that you're choosing not to pick up what we put down. It frustrating when two people can't just say how they feel about each other. Good or bad.
Christ I know taking a hint is important but damn I'd wish people could be just straightforward with things. I think I gotten hints and wildly misinterpreted as something else and assumed they were either not interested or maybe being bothered? Arrgh frustrating!
@Jamie05rhs I understand that... but we look for signals too, and we can be just as worried about getting it wrong as you.
Two people can really like each other but they're so worried about what the other person is or isn't saying, that they miss out. Also, a lot of the time, women do get approached by guys who just go straight for it, and if we've been used to that, if we meet a guy who suddenly isn't like that, we more often than not assume he's not interested. Sometimes he isn't. Sometimes he's shy, but it can be hard to tell the difference.
When we are verbal about everything then we are accused for complaining all the time. When we are not (when we try to give hints instead) then we are accused for expecting others to read our minds. However you put it, it's no good. We all need to have a bit more empathy about what we do and say and how that affects others. There are just some things a person should already know without having to be told to. Otherwise it just feels like you're dating an idiot who lacks common sense. It often happens that I feel bad about something and my man doesn't understand why because he thinks it's stupid to feel that way about that, he will usually discard my feelings because he doesn't agree with it (he doesn't feel the same way about it). Understand that how someone feels about something is not up to us to judge. Just because we don't agree with someone doesn't give us the right to ignore it or try to change them, we need to respect other's feelings. And knowing well enough our partner should trigger that empathy and respect without them having to tell us or show us. And certain expressions, wordings and gestures should be enough of an indicator that we have them feel bad. It's called emotional maturity.
Not exactly. But I would for sure appreciate it if he is able to know when I am feeling down or when something is wrong without me having to spell it out for him.
You flipping right they do that is why they say silly shit like "You know what you done" or "You dont love me or you would of remembered my dr. Appointment I told you about six months ago.
@Jamie05rhs obviously not to many people. There are people (like my ex) who believe because I wanted him to be considerate and see problems between us, I wanted him to read my mind.
It overall depends what a person view "reading mind" to be. Realistically, why would a woman believe a man can read her mind? That makes zero sense. "Reading someone's mind" is basically like a figure a speech for being considerate and paying attention to one's partner needs
Lol what i got from your video is women are like autistic children, they have meaning to their behaviors and actions and men have to figure out that meaning and walk them through their behavior just so we can satisfy their needs. Gotcha!!! 😂👍
Most of the time you have to play "20 questions" to figure out what they are on about before even hazarding an answer which will usually be wrong because the answers to the "20 questions" were so vague as to be useless.
@AmandaYVR We men are always wrong no matter the circumstances, depending on the mood of the female the response varies a mild spoken rebuke to having your head handed to you that's the "hazarding" part.
yea lol i had my ex whoop the shit outta me for not getting her the Klondike bars she wanted when she didn't advocate she even wanted any, i have more stories like this but none are as ridiculous but either way it proves women think we have the ability to read minds
If the person is being well open with there words or actions... seeing right through the crap but other times they manipulate you so you don't have the ability to see what they are doing playing games with you more less.
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Yes... And if not we get beaten for it and thrown in the cupboard until we understand why we are wrong
lol what are you talking about?
"Bad doggie, time out for you!"
It's what it's like living with a woman! 😁
That's why guys sleep on the couch, not the bed, I guess?
It's for an easier life... The female of the species is more deadlier than the male
No. They want the man to be empathetic. Put themselves in the girl's place when they're talking to you about some rude woman in the office, their passions, or even if they ask you to go to the store with them.
You don't have to read minds. Just realize how your actions and words will affect them emotionally.
I want a man who can read EMOTIONS. That takes empathy and common sense. Knowing WHY I feel the certain way about a certain thing is irrelevant, it's knowing that I DO and how he handles it is what matters.
Sadly yes
Im bad at communicating. But for the most part i always seem indifferent so they never know when im mad anyways
As long as you don’t take it out on us for being unable to figure out why you’re mad we don’t really mind
Am i correctnthinking you are indifferent because that is how your father was towards you so yoi translated that as how love w a man is. But you also hold it against the guy if he does not respond to your indifference because you wanted more from your father?
@lightbulb27 Wrong post maybe?
yes, phone app messed up...
actually no, I meant it here. "indifferent... so they never know why um mad anyways". It just sounds like mixed signals hard for him to decipher. maybe I'm reading it wrong...
@lightbulb27 She never mentioned her dad at all... I am pretty sure I know which comment that did!
I don't think it's intentional, I think it really comes down to a lack of understanding of communication of the sexes.
I'm expected to look like a stripper you guys can do something too. We are actually very simple creatures. Just give us things and will be good. Food, girts, d#*k we are happy
Your response reminds me of a quote from a movie jack Nicholson was in.
"Gimme money and I'll do shit for you"
Grits are food.
I like grits. Especially with a bit of ham and egg tossed in.
GITRDONE
@Jamie05rhs I meant gifts but grits are good
@bimmy5000 I like grits with cheese and shrimp
@bimmy5000 I'll do shit 😂
Lolol
My everyday favorite saying" sorry hun you just weren't thinking loud enough".
So true!
No, i don’t think the man to read my mind and know what I’m feeling all the time, I mean sometimes guys just need to really watch what they say or just the tone in how you say it.. but you can tell me what your feeling when your down as I could do the same but it sometimes does take a little “ hows your day “ question through out our days cause nobody really ask anybody how there days been going ( communication )
Women use a lot of passive aggressive language and are typically used to staying in that frame of mind so they hold the same expectations for men subconsciously.
Yes and no. She want him to read between the lines at times.
Example
"Can I hang out with my friends tonight?"
"Sure" usually means i wanted to hang out with you tonight
Hmm.
I thought "sure" meant "the hell you say?"
@spartan55 lmao depending on context and tone. In this case, it's a slight sad tone. An annoyed tone "sure" is the "The hell you say?"
I thought "sure" meant fine by me.
I'm out.
@raverae
Oh, I am familiar with the annoyed version of that trap lol.
Not mind readers.
More hint takers
Ha Ha Ha that's awesome!
What if the woman is bad at giving hints? Like a woman sitting there with a look that she is bored could easily be misinterpreted as one who is tired
Some of us are very bad at this. Like it can be somewhat obvious and it will fly over our heads like a satellite.
Well, thats why verbal communication is what should be important because some people are bad at giving and reading social ques
Cues*
@Creepazoid If a woman is really into you, she will never look bored or tired. We become animated when we are around the people we like. We can't help it.
It's strange because we can be thinking we're giving you every possible sign and we're wondering why you aren't picking them up, it's only later that it occurs to us that maybe we still weren't clear enough.
@bimmy5000 That's the frustrating thing. We don't realise this and usually end up thinking you're not interested.
It is. Did some thinking and coming to a horrible realization that some girls might have actually been interested in me. Probably best we never got together though.
wasn't really applying to the attration/first date aspect but for those whom were already in relationships in. Women expect for us to know them inside and out completely and even times when we ask if everythings cool, theyll say yes, and latter that day theyll be all like "you should have said this, should have done that." Me, "well i asked you." Them, "Well you should have already have known"
@EmiliaB Good luck with that.
@bimmy5000 Sadly, I think both men & women tend to realise a lot of missed opportunities on reflection.
Especially if one or both are shy. Sometimes, again, it can be misinterpreted as disinterest.
@Creepazoid We do often think that we've got the subtle, but obvious thing just right, and that you're choosing not to pick up what we put down.
It frustrating when two people can't just say how they feel about each other. Good or bad.
@Jamie05rhs Right?
@EmilaB Right. And your response to Bimmy is 100% correct.
@EmiliaB; sorry.
But re: your response to @Creepazoid, sometimes we ignore hints on purpose because we're not sure and if we guess wrong we'll get called a Creepazoid.
Thats the diffrence between you and i, i dont let the name influence who i am
Christ I know taking a hint is important but damn I'd wish people could be just straightforward with things. I think I gotten hints and wildly misinterpreted as something else and assumed they were either not interested or maybe being bothered? Arrgh frustrating!
@Creepazoid I was just f'ing with you, man.
I know
@Jamie05rhs I understand that... but we look for signals too, and we can be just as worried about getting it wrong as you.
Two people can really like each other but they're so worried about what the other person is or isn't saying, that they miss out.
Also, a lot of the time, women do get approached by guys who just go straight for it, and if we've been used to that, if we meet a guy who suddenly isn't like that, we more often than not assume he's not interested. Sometimes he isn't. Sometimes he's shy, but it can be hard to tell the difference.
"subtle, but obvious"
I uh
If it's something worth communicating, wouldn't clearly stating it be the way to go?
When we are verbal about everything then we are accused for complaining all the time. When we are not (when we try to give hints instead) then we are accused for expecting others to read our minds. However you put it, it's no good. We all need to have a bit more empathy about what we do and say and how that affects others. There are just some things a person should already know without having to be told to. Otherwise it just feels like you're dating an idiot who lacks common sense. It often happens that I feel bad about something and my man doesn't understand why because he thinks it's stupid to feel that way about that, he will usually discard my feelings because he doesn't agree with it (he doesn't feel the same way about it). Understand that how someone feels about something is not up to us to judge. Just because we don't agree with someone doesn't give us the right to ignore it or try to change them, we need to respect other's feelings. And knowing well enough our partner should trigger that empathy and respect without them having to tell us or show us. And certain expressions, wordings and gestures should be enough of an indicator that we have them feel bad. It's called emotional maturity.
Not exactly. But I would for sure appreciate it if he is able to know when I am feeling down or when something is wrong without me having to spell it out for him.
You flipping right they do that is why they say silly shit like "You know what you done" or "You dont love me or you would of remembered my dr. Appointment I told you about six months ago.
For me, in a way, yes. If I'm sick and my boyfriend knows, I will definitely want him to ask me how I'm doing, if I'm OK, need anything, etc.
Stuff like that, you know the common sense stuff
That's not reading your mind, though. That's communication.
@Jamie05rhs obviously not to many people. There are people (like my ex) who believe because I wanted him to be considerate and see problems between us, I wanted him to read my mind.
It overall depends what a person view "reading mind" to be. Realistically, why would a woman believe a man can read her mind? That makes zero sense. "Reading someone's mind" is basically like a figure a speech for being considerate and paying attention to one's partner needs
Lol what i got from your video is women are like autistic children, they have meaning to their behaviors and actions and men have to figure out that meaning and walk them through their behavior just so we can satisfy their needs. Gotcha!!! 😂👍
Not gonna lie this video does emphasize womens empathetic and emotional ways of thinking compared to mens logical train of thought
Most of the time you have to play "20 questions" to figure out what they are on about before even hazarding an answer which will usually be wrong because the answers to the "20 questions" were so vague as to be useless.
"Hazarding an answer?" That's an interesting phrase. Pls. explain.
@AmandaYVR We men are always wrong no matter the circumstances, depending on the mood of the female the response varies a mild spoken rebuke to having your head handed to you that's the "hazarding" part.
yea lol i had my ex whoop the shit outta me for not getting her the Klondike bars she wanted when she didn't advocate she even wanted any, i have more stories like this but none are as ridiculous but either way it proves women think we have the ability to read minds
I don't know how this could possibly be debated.
I know right but here we are!
I could answer this question. But if you don't know the answer I'm not going to tell you.
That's a stereotype that has a lot of truth behind it.
If the person is being well open with there words or actions... seeing right through the crap but other times they manipulate you so you don't have the ability to see what they are doing playing games with you more less.