Am I overreacting? Boyfriend missing my birthday for a vacation?

[lisamw22]

The other day my boyfriend mentioned that his father wants to invite me to their vacation in Hawaii over winter break, but said he isn't too sure about it as he knows it's my birthday and he has work. They'll be gone from the 15th to the 26th of February, my 18th birthday happens to be on the 22nd. But then I see on facebook later the same dad his father posted a status about him booking their tickets and now I'm super upset 'cause he won't be here for my birthday and I just feel like he never really gave me a choice as his father did ask me if I wanted to go and I said I'd have to talk to my parents... It's my 18th birthday and I haven't had a party before, or friends over for my birthday before... He was supposed to be the first boyfriend to be with me on my birthday, but now he's going away and I just feel so upset. It's my 18th birthday and I wanted him to be there for when I get my first tattoo as he has a few already being almost 19. I wanted to feel special on my birthday for once and spend time with my lover but now that's not going to happen. Am I overreacting? I want to bring it up to him, but I don't want to hinder him from going on said vacation as I know he really enjoyed Hawaii the last time he went.

[OlderAndWiser]

He should not have mentioned you going with them and then not give you an opportunity to say "yes" before the tickets were purchased. However, it would be extremely unfair to your family to be in Hawaii with your boyfriend on your 18th birthday and not share the event with your family.

He is your age so he is not in charge of the vacation just as you are not totally in charge of your life. So treat it as a regrettable circumstance that is no one's fault and don't magnify it into a bigger problem.

[October808]

That's rough. I live in Hawaii. Would your parents have said yes? How much time did the Dad give you? Keep in mind tickets have to be booked by a certain date or they sell out or go up in price. is it ttoo late to add you? Find out and if there is, ask your parents immediately so you can give his Dad the answer. Don't wait.

[BigSlice]

Who cares you’re only 19

[Anonymous]

You’re Overreacting...