Why won't some men just walk up to a woman like a real man and ask her out? (Page 2)

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Response to a question similar to this one The long-term effect of the sexual revolution and misandrist feminism has been a fundamental and I posit largely negative shift in the areas of dating, sexual relationships, and marriage. The average man fears walking up to a woman he finds attractive and attempting to chat her up. why? Society is likely to view him as a creep even though he's doing something that’s completely natural. If you are single man and you find a woman attractive, you want to get to know her, the only way to accomplish that is to go up and talk to her. However, doing that isn't so simple in today’s era. Unless you are Chris Evans , there is a high chance that you will be publicly ridiculed & shamed.  I get it, us men can be quite scary. It can be very intimidating for a woman to reject a man who could hurt you if he doesn't like the response. A woman’s fight or flight response kicks in if a big guy walks up to her looking like he wants to eat her. Sure, these are completely valid concerns. However, this is how men and women have been getting together for centuries. I think you're hot and I want to come talk to you. If that’s not allowed anymore and I don't have any formal venues like college to meet women, what is a fella to do? No man wants to be labeled a creep and many women view this kind of behavior as not allowed. Thus the world of hookup culture, friends with benefits, incels, and hostile blue haired cat ladies who are pissed at all men because they never get any. hypergamy has increased in recent years and women call most guys creeps for approaching them. If a woman thinks that the guy is ugly or unattractive in some way, all she has to do is yell “Get away creep!” and the man has to deal with horrific public embarrassment. Most guys don't want to be publicly ridiculed or have their reputation destroyed, so they avoid walking up to women and asking them on a date.

justawhiteman · Answer

Its not only being afraid of rejection, but the thought of coming off in a way that makes me look terrible or sexual which im not in anyway shape or form... I do believe the man should be the one to approach the women almost all the time but its really hard to gage when the best times are!

Bwyze · Answer

Because not all women seem like they want a man... not all men seem like they want a women... a lot of times... a guy goes up to a woman... tries to talk to her (knows how to talk... says things correctly)... sometimes it's a go... other times the chick may say---i gotta man... or I'm taken, or no thank you

MzAsh · Answer

Men aren’t scary. Some would like to think they are but that’s a different discussion for a different day.

Good men still know how properly approach a woman. If a guy doesn’t know how without being a creep, best if he just stay out of the way.

Appetite · Answer

A "Real man" is an idealist, unrealistic view with unfair expectation from a person based on their sex.

Also, I think there's something to say about how the dating scene changed throughout the years with things like dating websites/apps.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s desperate as fuck. Some guys have realized it’s dumb to keep putting women on pedestals and chasing them around like dogs. men need to start acting like the prize and quit feeding women’s already high egos

J2ohhhhh · Answer

This is just not true. Girls can get cold or passive if they are not comfortable with the situation, but they aren't taking extra effort to make you feel shit.

grega239 · Answer

BCS I'd probably get rejected. BCS of the types of women don't make it worth the bother. And BCS I have Better things to do than get into a relationship and being cheated on.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Because some people are just too shy, me being one of them and already feeling like I'm an Old Maid.

Audrine310 · Answer

It goes both ways. Obviously both genders get nervous. You're probably just not ready for a relationship, or don't know you're worth enough yet to know what you deserve in life. It takes time to stand up for you want and to know what you even want in the first place, and everyone goes through it. It's part of life

Shahax · Answer

Because my ass isn't gonna risk prison time for approaching the wrong woman

Avicenna · Answer

I have no problem doing this if the opportunity presents itself and she seems approachable. It's much more fun than messaging a woman online.

Anonymous · Answer

bad past experiences.

some girls just freak out and don't know what to say or do to the guy. so they say yes because they get a free meal and something to do for a few hours, even if they don't really like him.

many women's life philosophy is to just wait around for the right guy, that sparks their interest in just the right way that they havnt figured out yet, but they will know it when they see it. instead of that same woman going out and searching herself.

Anonymous · Answer

I have better things to do? You speak of misandristic behavior but you also have misandristic ideas yourself. "like a real man" well... Does it not make a woman a real woman if she does not approach?

I tell both men and women if you like someone approach they likely don't even know you are there or have more stuff on their mind then them so approach or miss your shot

BestUserName100 · Answer

Because I lack confidence because I’m broke as hell and stuff like that. I only want long term and not one nighters so I’m either all in or all out.

TheDudeAbides007 · Answer

It's an intense situation for some men... I get called good looking my women and I still have trouble asking some women out...

the_imperfectionist · Answer

because some women always act the most way when they are approached when tey dont want to be approached, thus wounding that guy's self-esteem

robertKugler · Answer

It's rarely works... for so many reasons... like creep factor stranger danger etc.. woman especially attractive ones get its too often n men I'm all cases see them as easy... when they found out there not.. men have jerk attitudes now after more than a few bad experiences first hand or second (when they hear about it happen to someone else) women are super guarded.. thanks ass holes..

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Lack of confidence. by the way, "real man" is a bullsh*t term designed to manipulate guys into doing things that are usually not in their best interests.

humanearth · Answer

Men have fear and are a wuzzy. They have not found their confidence yet. Some take more time then others.

arabgoddess · Answer

I find men are quite confident in approaching me.. i have the weirdest stories lol

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