Kinda speechless after watching that, so sad to see what some kids go through. Reminds me of "Jewels" story. Obviously has been through some painful times.
I think taking someone in like that, who doesn't have it together, is a tough road and don't know what you are taking on. Close relationships... the stuff comes out that much more. Guys get abused as well. I have seen homeless couples.
I hope she does find some help and climbs her way out. I recognize how hard it is once hit the street like that, but haven't lived it, only seen.
"Sleeping in front of church". Just kinda a sad statement of fact. I know Ny does better than most in terms of housing people, so wonder why she can't get in, but probably don't have capcity for all who seek. It's so expensive, noone can afford. Man... you really want to have good family in this world or it's gonna be hard.:(
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Uh, I am not really sure, and don't know any, but I have heard that many have drug addiction issues, and 'abandonment' psychology issues. I don't know how to deal with those things! I struggle with the ones I have known, and simple drinking issues, and 'Daddy' issues!
I understand what you are suggesting, and why, and I think it is a good idea, but could so easily being abused!!
Do you have an idea, like maybe a non-profit for helping these, specifically, finding a safe home, maybe with a woman host, like a mother, who's children have grown up?
Your standards reflect who you are.
If you are willing to date a homeless person, it means you can't get someone better.
If you're willing to date someone without a job, it means you don't have a successful career either.
If you're willing to date someone without an education, it means you don't have much of an education either.
If you're dating someone ugly, chances are this means you're not likely to be very attractive either.
Because most homeless girls either are addicts, lazy, dangerous, or have severe mental issues that cause them to be homeless. I know there's a few who aren't and just had a bad stroke of luck but honestly... Young women under 25 have the most resources afforded to them to get back on their feet. (aside from minors) So the ones who are out there either want to be, or have a lot more baggage then you're probably qualified to handle.
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Most are drug addicts some are not but do you really want to take that chance?
That would be like inviting a diseased raccoon rummaging through your garbage can out back and seeing if they want to be your roommate?So let's turn this into a scenario. I see a cute homeless woman and I talk to her. We get along and I offer to take her someplace for a meal. She's obviously hungry and I seem alright so she starts to gather her few belongings (which she can't reasonably leave unattended) and I say "Does Thursday around 7pm work for you?"
Hmm, no. That doesn't work. If I'm offering a meal to a homeless person it can't be a thing that I'm offering when I have more free time. They need food in the moment. So the offer would have to be in the moment.
So let's say I do that. We go out to eat. When the meal is over, it's starting to get dark, and she still hasn't figured on where she will be sleeping that night. Then I say "Well this has been nice, would you like to do it again soon... Can I drop you off somewhere?"
That doesn't really work either. Because it's me treating her like she is not in the situation she is in. Like she isn't in desperate need of further assistance. So say I offer her the couch for the night.
Okay so she brings the entirety of her worldly possessions to my place and is sleeping on my couch. Obviously she'll use the shower. And what kind of dick would I be if I didn't wash her clothes as well. She's likely eating breakfast there as well.
So now I've got an attractive, wet but drying, and scantily clad vagabond that no doubt feels indebted to me in my home. And why would she have come back with me if she didn't think I had.. Intentions?
So what happens if she slinks into my bed and makes me an offer that's hard to refuse. Be a gentleman about it? Give her my bed and sleep on my own couch? Do I not let her stay there for another night? Am I now actively dating someone who effectively lives with me out of nowhere? Someone I know little to nothing about? If we get in a disagreement over something will all my shit be gone the next day? Will all my shit be gone within a week because she has a habit I didn't know about?
Everything about this seems as if it would awkward and feel wrong. Like I either she or I (perhaps both) are taking advantage. Like it almost instantly ends both of us up in a long term relationship where we know next to nothing about each other.I know that plenty of factors play into why someone becomes homeless, but for a lot of people it would just be too big of a risk. When it comes to having an actual relationship with a homeless person, it's not as simple or easy as "oh they're just cute, and in need of some food and water and a place to stay". Would they be capable of finding a job and eventually pay for their own things? If not, why? Do they have mental problems? Do they have an education? How likely is it that they would just steal from you? What about the power imbalance when it comes to dating someone who you literally have to take care of? Would they become too dependent on you? How would you know that they're with you because they actually like you vs. with you just for the food and shelter? What if you break up, will you just kick them back out on the streets? Or would you feel obligated to keep helping them out? Do they have a traumatic past? How does that affect the way they see relationships and treat their partner? Are they able to commit, communicate and trust? How stable or they?
I know a lot of these questions apply to people who aren't homeless as well, but being homeless is by default pretty rough. Most homeless people didn't choose to be homeless and probably have a troubled past. So because of that, it simply adds more risks. It's not like you're just taking home a puppy to play with because it's cute and you feel like it, they're an actual person.(Coming in late) I have volunteered at homeless shelters in the past. I noticed some significant differences between the men's and women's shelters. Many of the men clearly had problems and lacked basic social skills, but they were generally quiet, peaceful and kept to themselves. When I did a women's shelter, some of the women attacked the others, some screamed in their sleep. They had been through a hell of rapes and abuse. I don't think many people are ready to try to help people who have been damaged so badly. It's like foster care for severely abused children. Ordinary people will not have the training to handle such victims.
Usually they aren't very attractive, if they are remotely attractive then they probably have a drug and/or alcohol problem. There is also the likelihood they were a prostitute at some point, meth or heroin problems are bad enough. Have you ever seen an attractive woman on the streets who wasn't a prostitute? I know some women on facebook that go between their parents house to a friend's house to a boyfriend's house on a regular basis, if you're talking about those types of "homeless" women, I've noticed they have drug or alcohol problems mixed with mood disorders and commitment issues.
LOL I hope no men actually think they can try a stunt like this. Because if you want your throat cut this is how you do it. When , oh when will be stop calling these people "homeless" as if they just needed a job and everything would be fine. These people are psychiatric cases every one of them they are foaming at the mouth crazy and if you're around one for a while you'll see how nuts they are and how dangerous they can be.
How stupid we are as a society not to have mental asylums for these people. Marxism and "equity" again.I do some work with the homeless. Honestly, I don't see too many cute girls. They are often on drugs, or are mentally ill, and many do not take care of themselves very well. However, a number of them are nice, decent people. You can't paint them all with one brush.
i would in a heart beat but some of the homeless women i have met are so used too taking care of them selves they lie and steal for self preservation there is no real interest in relationships. not to mention that half of them are homeless to hide or evade abusive relationships so no guy will ever be good enough till they get that out of there lives.
I've never seen a cute homeless girl in my country and I don't really wanna go to the places where I could find one. I was homeless for a bit (not on the street but I had to live in hostels and temporary rooms for almost 2 years) and I don't wanna go back. I'm not that desperate either.
One desperate dude for sure who would do something like that to meet women. Why not go further and say, "Why not date a super ugly girl who will be happy just to get a man?" as that is nearly as bad.
How about care for the homeless and feed them because they are hungry instead of "Suck my dick for a can of Campbell's Soup?"Well, she'd probably take any option available in her situation, so I wouldn't want her to be with me just coz I'm providing a roof over her head. But if it was no strings attached deal of "my body in exchange for your accommodation", then I guess it's a pretty straightforward exchange lol
I mean obviously this is why so few cute girls do end up homeless, so few women in general end up homeless and if they do they are usually ugly, or young and totally fucked up on drugs and sex.
So why wouldn't I date her? If she's cute and she's homeless, it must be because of drugs and failed relationships, and she's probably having sex for drugs / cash, so why the hell would I get involved in that?Yes, some guys do this, which is basically why there are 3 times as many homeless men as women.
There are more men willing to do this then there are cute homeless young women who are willing to date some middle age loser for a place to sleep.
As someone noted, many homeless girls have homeless boyfriends.I've pretty much tried this, they find someone they like better and leave you lonely. It does not work. You cannot buy happiness. Also relying on other for it will only lead to unhappiness, which is where I am now.
Dating someone who clearly makes bad decisions? Why would you ever consider that? And why do we have to responsible for her shelter, food, and water? Those things aren't cheap, especially in NYC. There are homeless boys too, and no one is advocating women take them in.
why don't you date a cute homeless guy? and dating a girl that's in a sticky situation to use her for some "cheap pussy" as you call it doesn´t really make them morally superior than guys dating normal girls.
They do. Most "homeless" girls aren't on the street. +90% of people sleeping on the street are men. Every time I go into the city I spot a homeless person. Only once have I actually spotted a girl, she was cute and I thought "instead of handing her change, I could just buy her a meal and sit down with her and all that sort of stuff. But what's working against her is "How did she end up there? Is she a druggie that's going to accept my charity only to turn around and swipe my stuff?"
Lmao kinda a cute idea in a way. I'm sure there are some sweet and cute homeless girls who are just down on their luck and if you found one could take her in. But like others have said.. it's usually unhealthy unstable individuals.
are you stupid? why would anyone bring a stranger who may be dangerous into their lives. but don't let the fact that you're not a man stop you. you can date handsome homeless men
because i've never encountered a cute homeless girl before it's always been panhandling bums who buy either their drugs such as coke/heroine/meth/weed or some other shit or they buy their booze or cigarettes instead of using what little money they have to buy themselves a hot meal or a place to sleep for the night. and if you're asking how do i know this it's because i walked in on 3 drug deals taking place in under 2 months at a bus stop when i was trying to use the restroom
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