Why can't guys be simple and give there girlfriends good compliments?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend were talking and I personally think that sexy and wild describes a body type and so I constantly have to fish for COMPLEMENTS from my own boyfriend is that bad or no?

[Oliver_jhosking]

Hey! Hopefully I can help you! I'm judging from your account age your under 18. Now when it comes to teenager relationships, quite often the boys haven't had the experience, and don't have any knowledge when it comes to complimenting girls, and even the basics like expressing emotions, which could be why he's not saying the lovey dovey stuff. But it's also important to understand how each person expresses themselves differently, perhaps they just the way he says 'you look beautiful'. The best thing to do is just talk to him, calmly, and explain to him that 'sexy' and 'wild' aren't ways you like to be described, maybe give him some words to work with. Talking is always your best option.

[0112358]

It’s about what I’d expect given your age.

Guys put a lot of value on sexual attractiveness while also almost never being told they’re sexually attractive. So for most guys, being told you’re hot is like the best complement possible. Guys by contrast are often sick of being told they’re nice.

young guys have often not learned that decent looking girls are sick of being told they’re hot and want to be valued for other things. So it’s good to pretend you like her taste in art or her photography or act like she has some really special emotional intuition into people or some other bullshit. If she actually has good qualities, even better.

[AwesomeCookie]

Well if you're really under 18 then that explains why you have to fish for compliments other than sexy and wild.. clearly the guy you're dating just doesn't know any better. It's a learning curve for most guys, and some just don't mature into men. And it's your preference of what a compliment is. Is it in reference to your physical image only? Cause for me a compliment would be, "Babe thanks for cooking a wonderful meal" "Babe you're a great mother" I could care less if the compliment is about my looks. And I wouldn't fish for it either, learning curve for you?

[Asker]

I just wanted him to say your so beautiful or sweet bc he was being hard on him self about how he doesn't deserve me and I somewhat wrote him a semi-paragraph and he said sexy and wild and I just didn't want that

[mrfoox]

Uuh, well... I personally wouldn't enjoy only getting compliments on my looks. Because my body isn't WHO I AM. Can't say how long you both been together and your past history... But if all he ever talks positive about you is your body and looks... Maybe he's not as serious about you as you'd think.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Tbh you kinda sound like a wet blanket in this example. He clearly thought you wanna feel and desired so tried to initiate dirty talk, and you got insecure and started trying to coax some other type of compliment. Communication issue on both sides, if you wanna be complimented in a particular way then you have to tell him as much.

[Asker]

I did then he got all mean and rude and basically told me that if I didn't not send him nude igjt away he was gonna break up with me and watch porn and block me on snap

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Oh well in that case he sounds like a pillock. Get rid.

[ChaoticVortex]

Well I'm the type to use actions. If I like something about you I'll pay attention to it. I'll get you to show me it, like a lot. Singing, art, hair design, all of that creative stuff. I dont complement cause you dont need it. You know your awesome to me cause I SHOW you. I dont say a word... unless you are super dense like me... HAPPY NEW YEARS!

[Passinggas]

I would say the pink opinions on here are the most revealing. Feminism has removed compliments from political correctness. As is apparent, women are insulted by compliments because they are independent of men and compliments insult their ascension to superiority.

[Asker]

No I didn't want him to call me sexy and wild I just wanted a simple your beautiful or even pretty I'm not that hard to please but apparently he can't see past my body

[Gatman34]

Just tell him you want to him to compliment you more that’s all you have to do. Guys aren’t mind readers. You women are dumb sometimes. He complimented you but it wasn’t the right compliment so you got all emotional that’s how crazy you sound and now you blame him and men when it’s clearly your fault and women who get emotional and can’t communicate right

[acooke-13]

This is not how to get compliments. You're getting angry and he won't understand why, the last thing he's going to be thinking about is calling you beautiful when you're getting aggy with him. Just tell him how you feel

[Davidstang]

Guys are more direct, if you just ask him point blank he will answer you. Girls post pic of themselves here all the time asking guys what they think and they always get the answer.

[BeMuse]

I only give genuine compliments. So you have to be pretty fucking amazing and complex to get them on the regular.

[Liz_thorne]

Tbh you just sound a bit desperate here. Like yes, compliments are nice but let him give you some when HE feels like it

[Liam_Hayden]

Why can't girls be simple and give their boyfriends a clue about what is upsetting them before going off?

[KyleBroflovski]

What kinda retarded middle school romance bullshittle did I just read?

[YHL6965]

I don't even understand the conversation you were having.

[Anonymous]

Mercy.
He can't read your mind. Why can't you just be simple and chill out about compliments?

[Avicenna]

We do. I did as a teenager.

[Asker]

I dont want sexy or something else pretty or beautiful Is like amazing

[Iron_Man]

We do when they deserve it

[rockrewls]

Oh the high school antics at play...