Do girls notice the quiet guy in the room?

[Anonymous]

Doenst have to be a nerd. Just someone that's into philosophy, art and politics. And doesn't really like going to parties o clubs.

[SteveSmith1985]

Not if I can help it! I'm kidding... but actually realized halfway through my joke... there is some truth in that.

It's not to say that girls don't notice the quiet guy. Some girls particularly notice the quiet guy. But in general... no... not as much as someone less quiet.

The reason for that is simple. First girls will notice that which is most noticeable. Sounds stupid, but that's kinda why I realized my stupid joke (above) had some truth in it.

So if there are a few people gathered in a social setting (any social setting). And among the guys there, are you and I, along with say 4 other guys (or it could be 400... which would make the effect worse).

So I'm not an asshole. I have no desire to keep you from finding your girl or being noticed or anything like that. I'm not thinking about you... I'm thinking about the women in that social setting. There's no thought of "competitiveness" prompting me to keep women from noticing you. I don't even notice that this is what I'm actually doing.

See I am NOT a quiet guy. Not at ALL. I'm the opposite. But not obnoxious (so far as I can tell anyway).

But realistically, I'm gonna be talking, and laughing and joking around with everybody (the women). I will absolutely dominate the "noticeable things going on in the room" category.

So that's the "girls notice what's noticeable" so... if you've got a guy or two like me in the room (think of it like a big flashing billboard--super noticeable... it is the thing that demands notice in the vicinity) then next to that billboard, the plain white paper with black lettering in the corner, unfortunately, is LESS noticeable than usual (at least I would have thought until I just thought about it this way for the first time).

So it's not even just a matter of being quiet... it's also a matter of all the people who are less quiet, sucking all the oxygen out of the room.

Again, I've never thought about it that way, but I suppose it must be. When I'm being my extrovert self... It never occurred to me that this might make things worse for the most introverted. That actually makes me feel a little bad. But not bad enough to do anything differently... I gotta be myself too.

I can't pretend to understand quiet people (not being one). But I will tell you this, girls have a hard time noticing you, if you aren't able to show them who you are. It's when you start talking and being whoever you are... that you stop being "the quiet guy in the corner" and start to become (whateveryournameis) a guy with a personality... girls will notice a guy who seems different than every other quiet guy in every other corner in rooms she's been in. You would for sure be more interesting if you can show more of yourself.

Don't go for being noticed generally... concentrate on being noticed by whoever's most important. Look at it as a pinpoint surgical strike, not a carpet-bombing campaign. Get that one girl you're most interested in, and bring her aside, have a nice chat and let her know you a bit without having to try and be noticed by everyone.

If it makes you feel any better, I'm single right now, and know lots of quiet guys who are happily married to great women.. so... don't worry too much man.

[BestUserName100]

It depends. What do they have to offer, what are they looking for in a relationship. Most attractive ones can get multiple people multiple times a day so they can afford to be picky. Now the ones looking long term will want you to have enough money obviously to support them so that’s important. If it’s just to get laid you want her huge muscular wise that look like you can handle them sexually and be able to get them off look healthy etc and clean etc. Try to up your looks too as much as you can. You could try cougars who need/want to get laid but have a harder time since obviously their age and everything. Focus on your money because it will never leave or break your heart and there will always be single women.

[mrfoox]

Yeah, if she's into that kind of people! I am so I usually notice people who aren't loud. The ones who just sit and doodle on their own or reading. You don't need to be loud to be seen

[SarahsSummer]

some may but he needs to have a “voice” so people know of his interests and talents.

[meesegoMoo]

If you are genuinely smart, and can be funny about those things, yes.

Or just let people insult you and talk mostly in devastating off-the-cuff comebacks. WUH-SLAM!!!

[thewiggles]

I was noticed a lot but the logic behind it that I got by analyzing it everyday instead taking action on it was that I'd never dated so creates a mystery and I could see me being different from most and standing out in that way. Attractivesness I'd put at a 7 most days. But also small town, bitches be runnin out of play room.

[Shiver]

Yeah, I recently found out most of the girls in my classes (different people every year) had a crush on me, despite me literally being "the quiet kid". Missed opportunities for sure. Lol

[Liz_thorne]

Those things aren't mutually exclusive.

And yes, quiet people get noticed as well.

[MrGenius]

I'm a quiet guy , and believe it or not, sometimes girls hit on me. A large majority of girls seem to like mysterious guys.

[Tyler131]

Sometimes they do, those are the best girls. Unless of course they retreat right away lol.

[Anonymous]

Well in my experience Im the only person in class who don't talk and Im just on my phone but I don't know how can this 2 girls like me in the same class 😂

[Mindwipe]

Only a woman who has made it her mission to find the low key dude in the corner reading by himself, which is exceedingly rare, because 99/100 times women don't do the initial approching.

[Nikki1989]

Yes I actually do. I have always been drawn towards the quiet ones.

[moonpie89]

Sometimes, especially if he's alone while everyone else is chatting in groups

[InfobotsMom]

🤐👈🖐️😏

[moonpie89]

Really? I would've never guessed

[james2018dean]

Usually not. That's why so many go for the bad boy!

[mdgyr]

Well going to parties enhances your probabilities in my opinion

[GayLoner]

No. Women dont notice invisible people.

[Slim57]

They notice who to stay away from sure

[Golden_shine]

No, not at all.