Do you prefer saying goodbye or ghosting?

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ghostqueen · Accepted Answer

I usually prefer saying goodbye because that kind of closure is good for everyone. The only time I'm inclined to ghost is if I feel extremely uncomfortable with someone or things turn hopelessly toxic.

arabgoddess · Accepted Answer

Saying good bye and thanking them is what I normally do.. I only ghost someone who has hurt me deeply

Ianto · Accepted Answer

Good manners require at least a minimal indication that you don't wish to pursue the relationship. Ghosting is acceptable once that has happened, where people refuse to accept your decision.

genericname85 · Accepted Answer

I declare my disinterest in continuing this conversation. I think ghosting is super disrespectful and a sign of a bad character ( except if the other is creepy and intrusive)

jennifer_bloom · Answer

there are some things I won't say out loud - like to one of my female contacts - "I think everything you say is a lie and I believe you are a prostitute pretending to have a job." or to the guy thats been stalking me "I think your sociopath with no conscience who does nothing to benefit society at all and just drains people of money by pretending to be sad." I don't say those things - I just ghost.

But if it is somebody I respect and care about - I will tell them what I think before I remove myself from their lives.

CapricornHoney · Answer

I prefer to say goodbye. It gives the other person closure and I’d like for someone to say goodbye to me in return instead of ghosting. Ghosting is just cowardly.

mrfoox · Answer

Usually say goodbye. Unless it's just someone I only talked with for an hour or something on tinder, then I can forget to to answer and so I end up ghosting

SydneySentinel · Answer

Saying goodbye may be more difficult but it's much more respectful than ghosting. Ghosting is cowardly.

diamond567 · Answer

If I am talking to someone and I knew it wasn’t going anywhere I prefer saying goodbye. I really don’t like ghosting I want to be able to say bye to that other person and end things well between each other. Unfortunately it’s happened before and it leaves me feeling bad asking myself if I did anything wrong to that other person to hurt their feelings or that I wasn’t good enough for them. I personally don’t think ghosting is proper way to end things with another person. I see it as a rude or cowardly way of getting rid of someone you don’t want to talk to or deal with anymore for whatever reason it might be.

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

Saying goodbye for sure, I feel depressed if I get ghosted, whereas if they say goodbye I know it is over for sure, I am talking about friendship and also when I have a crush and they stop it early before I fall too deep, I appreciate it when they tell me early that things won't develop, it hurts less that way.

Ghosting on the other hand I find to be a rather cruel and painful experience since it leaves the receiver confused, hurt, sad and sometimes angry. Ghosting is a terrible choice to choose and I think the only time it is a good option is if you have someone who is being threatening or abusive verbally or physically, in that situation I would say ghosting is better than continuing a conversation with them.

ohshee · Answer

I really don't like saying good bye I always leave the door opens I know people get busy,, or there looking for something and before u know it its been months since you have last chatted,,, and it's that way with me to so I guess I kinda ghost but don't mean it to be that way

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends on the girl. There is also an idea of hurting her. Which is going to cause less pain? I'd rather her be confused than crying. If she falls for me yet I don't share the same feelings it's much harder to say goodbye if we both mutually feel the same it makes it easier to say goodbye. But I'd like the idea if she was able or comfortable to still remain friends if possible

Glenn603 · Answer

I always prefer to say goodbye, but if I’m chatting with someone and they only answer whatever I say or ask with just a yes or no or wait for an hour before replying I always ghost them.
If they’re not prepared to make an effort then I’m not prepared to say goodbye

dpg91 · Answer

I think ghosting is pretty rotten and cowardly, unless someone gives you a good reason to (i. e. if they are being threatening or abusive). I guess it’s just too easy to ghost nowadays. If I get ghosted I try to see it as confirmation they aren’t the type of person I want in my life anyway.

So yeah, I would say goodbye and have much more respect for someone else who would.

Gud4somethin · Answer

Ghosting is fucking cowardly. Breaking up with a text message is some ho shit too. But there are abusive people out there though and that should be the only reason why. People were given ears eyes and a mouth for a reason. Oh yeah and rough breakup sex. Hit this any time your bored without having to be with that bitch. Hell yeah! Ghothings for losers

420guyinpanties · Answer

I don't know. Usually I'm the one that gets ghosted 😂. Unless you're one of those people that thing just because of that day I didn't say bye but yet I talk to you tomorrow that's ghosting cuz I didn't say goodbye that day then yeah I probably do it a lot but if I'm like not going to talk to him even if they're being a jerk usually at least say something and then give like a piece out or something

soleil2666 · Answer

I don't feel the need to traumatise, so the messages will always get received (and responded to on a human level). You ghost when unable to handle rejection, to torment the other by your disappearance/punish them by your own being gone into oblivion, playing dead. It has become see-through, that angry female's 'highly moral' punishment.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Please say goodbye. I want to say goodbye, too. If you're losing someone you care about (even a little), it's important to have closure. I want to be able to end things on a good note and send out positive vibes to the person I'm parting ways with. I want us both to be able to remember the other as someone who didn't work out but who was respectful and considerate and a good person.

OhThatsMorgan · Answer

I prefer ghosting because it’s easier but it’s more rude so I chose to say goodbye. It could be hard because a lot of people can’t take rejection but if things don’t work out, it’s always best to listen to your gut and leave; it’s not like they could force you to stay anyways.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It really depends on how long you've been dating. If it was only a month or so ghosting might be preferable since the other person might not really want a "real" breakup anyway. Longer than that then I think a "goodbye" is in order.

retlaw0311 · Answer

Ghosting would more than likely hurt the other person but it also kind of helps them because it would reflect what a spineless weasel of a person they were with. Ghosting is for cowards and selfish people.

Evan_aa · Answer

I would love to get the to say goodbye.. but realistically I don’t think I’m that important enough to anyone for them to care if I ghosted them or not. I’m the friend that people forget about or replace.😔

TheDreamer21 · Answer

I don't like being ghosted, so I think no one would want to be treated like that. I would go with the goodbye. It leaves out the need for answers, and you may or may not feel guilty. I think it's a win win for both parties.

SirRexington · Answer

I might be considered a rude person but thats because I'm so outspoken and rarely hold back my feelings.

Ghosting is a cheap way out to not confront the person. Its pathetic and far ruder than anything I could say.

CarrieLee · Answer

Ghosting because no matter the facts, evidence or ur feelings... its a b. s. road. I just don't answer my messages and find some one else to distract me... nothing lasts forever

EleanorRigby · Answer

I prefer ghosting because it's easy way out. But no one likes being ghosted so I always say my goodbyes because it's fair thing to do.

Passinggas · Answer

I tried goodbye but they become stalkers. Ghosting is disappearing for good reason. If my ex-s would have ghosted me, that would have been my choice rather than continuous harassment.

jeemm · Answer

Saying goodbye doesn't work for most people. They just keep spamming you messages so you have to ghost them.

lightbulb27 · Answer

i prefer saying goodbye, but honestly, I generally ghost... and disappear. :( I don't like that... I gotta change...

Tommy2017 · Answer

Ghosting all the way.
And before I ghost you I would make sure every issue or misunderstanding between us have been resolved and we are super good and okay with each, then boom just like that and with no prewarning I ghost you.

luvstoned4him · Answer

saying goodbye. I like clean cuts and I like to just be straight up with people

5yrup · Answer

when removing someone from my life i usually just block so i dont have to deal with their reaction

KC1545 · Answer

Goodbye is the right way but ghosting is the easier way

BobbyC65 · Answer

How Can I Help You to Say Goodbye with lyrics Say goodbye. :(

ECityGirl89 · Answer

I say goodbye because ghosting is so immature. I hate when people do it.

serious · Answer

I will of course say goodbye before ending contact.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I prefer  closure .  It's proper to say goodbye.

maxmoody1986 · Answer

Going to say everybody deserves an explanation or at least a reason

pigoat · Answer

I thought saying goodbye is more effective  But i did ghost someone i know and they didn't do shit about it so I don't know

TheFlak38 · Answer

ghosting of course. Say good bye and she might come after you with a false rape accusation. All it takes is a woman's word to get thrown in jail today.

Dsg1193 · Answer

Depending on how it ended will determine. If it was awkward and not cordial, I’ll ghost. But if they were decent people but just no romantic connection I’d be direct.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

The only people more pathetic than "ghosters" are those offended by them. They're shit, you're not, so stop giving them your thoughts. It makes them win.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

there would have to be some serious extenuating circumstances for me to ghost anyone

derek2017 · Answer

AND HIS NAME IS JOHN CENA!!(GET IT? YOU can't SEE ME... BECAUSE IM A GHOST...) NO? OKAY...

kaitylatte · Answer

Saying goodbye. While it seems easy to just ignore someone I prefer a proper goodbye

Username___ · Answer

ghosting is easier sometimes when you don’t feel the need to explain why you’re done talking w them

beebella · Answer

It depends on who the person is and whether they're annoying me or not.

MonicaTessler · Answer

Ghosting people kills me and being ghosted does too :( So I would any day prefer a proper goodbye with apologies if needed.

brkninpcs70 · Answer

After being on the receiving end of being ghosted after being together for 14 years I'd say anyone that does it is a cold hearted souless being from the furthest reaches of hell.

ChadGroyper · Answer

Girls do this all the time and it's very annoying. Good thing is we can always ghost them back and sit down and enjoy the flood of messages popping up soon after.

Nik1hil · Answer

Ghosting is bad.. It's better to have a goodbye.. And make it gentle..

cooldude64 · Answer

I say goodbye, or at least leave them a trail of crumbs saying im not really interested.

ITGirl95 · Answer

Saying goodbye so the other person doesn't have to wonder. Save their time!

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

I'm sure everyone prefers to say goodbye rather than just disappear

igiem · Answer

Saying goodbye  Ghosting is impolite, rude, and makes the recipient feel HORRIBLE. I know from experience

MattCollier · Answer

I typically ghost or freeze the girl to save us both from awkward situations and possible bad reactions when saying bye

Rawrrae · Answer

For me it would depend fully on the situation. In most cases I try to say goodbye as best as I can. But I prefer not to get close enough to bother with ghosting or saying goodbye

ThatGuy133 · Answer

A goodbye for sure. Ghosting is for cowards. Gives people a sense of closure

Clyde_123 · Answer

Saying goodbye is better ghosting is rude and cowardly.

Irishman41 · Answer

Ghosting is for cowards. I wouldn't do that to anyone

JadDaher · Answer

Good bye, cuz ghosting isn't a move anyone would like, its rude

MrMilti · Answer

Dont care, its the same in my opinion. A ghosting for more than two days is a clear and loud "no".

Likes2drive · Answer

I don’t ghost but sometimes I will just let it slowly fade but I usually get ghosted

Bman4907 · Answer

Ghosting people shows that you lack character as a person.

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