This opinion probably won't win me a lot of support, judging by what others have posted, but personally, I wouldn't worry about it too much unless I was given other reasons to worry.
Some people get used to having online profiles and enjoy online interaction even when they find themselves in real life relationships, whether romantic or otherwise. To me, the more important questions would be: had she given you other reasons not to trust her this early in the relationship? Are you secure enough to give her time, and see if she changes it in her own? Might letting her gradually get more comfortable and secure in the relationship lead to the kind of unquestioning stability you're looking for? Might asking her to explain herself for things she sees as innocent socializing lead to worries that you don't trust her, are sitting on or suffocating her, etc? And perhaps most importantly, are you happy now?
I think it's far too common for people to worry about what might happen in the future.
"Is she going to cheat on me?"
"Is this an early warning sign that ____ might happen some day?"
"What if I give her the benefit of the doubt? Will I feel foolish later?"
In my opinion, these are not productive questions. If you're happy with your new relationship, my advice is to work to cultivate the kind of trust and communication that will make it stronger. If she hasn't given you a tangible reason not to trust her (lying or cheating that you know about with certainty, etc.), my advice is to take her at her word and cultivate trust. If she makes you feel good when you're with her, my advice is to do everything you can to make her feel good, so she'll naturally come to value the bond the two of you are building more than she values a way to meet and talk to strangers via a dating site.
I feel that worrying about things that *might* go wrong often prevents people from enjoying what is. If she takes a while to get extremely serious about a new relationship, is it possible you can accept that it may just be the way she is, and the speed she is comfortable going?
At the end of the day, you need to decide how she makes you feel and take care of yourself. If this pattern hurts you, she might not be right for you. But if she otherwise seems like an ideal partner, it's been my experience that being appreciative rather than possessive leads to good trust and communication, and that being grateful for what is, rather than fearful of what might come to pass, is a better way to cultivate happiness and stability together.
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You can bet your bottom dollar if the situation were reversed she would be freaking out on you right now.
Here's the thing, you've shared your concerns with her and she clearly doesn't give a shit. That alone would make me walk.
1. Once the words "we are officially only dating each other and no one else" are spoken, you are a couple by your own omission. Therefore there should be no place listed where they are single unless they generally forgot to change it (happens) but in your case, you've already mentioned this to her and changed your own status/deleted dating account, and she has made no move to do so and is somehow insulted by what should be an easy fix if she is aware you are a couple...
2. Moving on to why does she need a dating app to find friends?!? People go on dating apps for sex or dating or relationships, not friendship. That's what friendship apps are for.
3. Guy, save yourself here. The fact that you have worked through some very rational steps, and you're already from the jump in a place where you don't think you can trust her for justifiably reasons, and she doesn't seem to be making any real moves to acknowledge you're actually in a relationship, leads me to think you're on your way to getting majorly burned if you don't jump ship soon.
You aren't crazy or overthinking this. My ex did the same thing; went as far as to create another account so he could keep doing it. I let it slide, because he said similar things about it that your ladyfriend did. Leave her immediately. She has no need for the site - just a little hoe.
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I would leave. At least you found out sooner rather than later.
Ask her why? I also would walk away..
The lady I'm seeing now we met on a dating site. After a week she deleted her account and told me.
I asked her why and she said what's the point when she is getting to know me. I also deleted my account and she said I didn't have too.
Hint for all... that was a test to see if I would keep my account active. We both showed each other our account was deleted.
My main reason deleting my account is to focus on her.
Having my account active will only lead to distractions and interfere with getting to know my lady.I call bullshit on that. Even if she's telling the truth and she is only looking for friends. She's gathering backup candidates; that's what she's doing. That's some shady shit, if y'all are actually official now and in a real relationship. If she wants more friends, she can meet them somewhere other than a dating site. Guys don't go on dating sites to make friends.
So again, she could just be legitimately naive and misguided (as a lot of women are.). But she could also be keeping her options open on purpose because she really isn't that into you. Either consciously or subconsciously. But regardless, I think she should stop doing that if she wants to be with you. I think that's a legitimate request for you to make.Get outta there. If you find yourself in a position to have to FORCE someone to do what they should have already done then you will just continue to be in that position over and over again.
She is keeping her options open in case a better guy comes along, better looking, more money etc etc. Your just the best one for now. You need some red pills.Major red flag, those guys she's chatting to aren't "just friends", she's lining up orbiters/backup options.
Ditch her.Looking for friends on a dating site? I don't think so. She wants to keep her options open and see if something better comes along.
It would be okay if she honestly forgot, but how many “friends” does she need to meet? It’s a weird unrealistic answer, she’s obviously not committed to you.
You said it yourself. She's playing you. Leave that bitch!!
For starters you can't "make" her delete the dating app, just move on
Shes’s just playin the field lol she wants 20 backup dudes to choose from
If they are making NEW opposite gender friends then they aren't loyal in a relationship. Just leave.
Dump her. Not only she's trying to cheat (or actually cheating) but she's bullshitting about it.
Dump her. She is just using you till something she considers better comes along.
Trust is built over time, before then you have to trust them on blind faith. If you don't, trust will be dr be built.
Get rid - if she really liked you she wouldn’t be on it at all
you are not crazy, leave her
Doesn't look good dude
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