Would you be okay if you found out your partner was liking another’s woman’s pictures a month before he asked you to be his girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I feel disrespected because during a conversation with my boyfriend, he mentioned a girl’s name who he said baked his birthday cakes before meeting me. I came across her social media and saw that he had liked a picture of her a month before he asked me to be his girlfriend and we were definitely exclusively dating and being intimate at that point. On top of that, the pictures he liked of that girl before were some explicit pictures in a bikini which I obviously wasn’t around at the time but to think he liked her picture just a month before asking me to be his girlfriend and I didn’t even know about her until a few days ago felt like some sort of betrayal. I want to tell him how I feel about that, I just hate coming across as jealous when that’s not the case, it’s about respect.

[ohsheeT]

You're not acting as if you're jealous you're acting as if you're hurt because you're being betrayed you're being used he's not being real and that's what hurts you you're not jealous you know right from wrong and he's wrong and you know that and that's why you're pissed because you pissed because you have to make a choice now the last thing in the world you wanted to have to do you thought things were great but now you found out who the guy really is and what he's all about and now you either have to say it's okay he won't do it again or you have to say I'm sorry but that's not who I am and that's not what I want in my life and it's time for me to walk away and go find the person that is out there for me that respects me enough to not do the same things that you have done to me you have broke my heart you pissed me off and I have a right to be pissed off because I thought you were somebody different that's why you're angry you're not jealous you have every reason in this world to feel the way that you feel because you gave that person your heart and he walked all over it and probably still is walking all over it you're pissed off because you have to make a choice now you didn't want to grow up this fast you didn't want to be put in this position but better now than tomorrow you know the right thing to do just do it get it done with it'll be one day closer to the real guy that you're supposed to meet don't not settle he will break your heart

[Asker]

Thank you so much for understanding. Because funny enough I gave him the exact same scenario but on the other foot: my guy friend (which isn’t true) but I wanted to see how he would feel if I did that to him and he said he would feel disrespected if it was on the other foot and would rather I be honest instead of finding clues that would hurt his feelings.

[ohsheeT]

You are very smart that is cool yeah I'm surprised that he didn't have more to say I mean that's just so rude disrespectful I'm called for and leading somebody on

[Asker]

Thank you! He apologised lol

[ohsheeT]

To thank me you need to thank yourself for standing up for yourself and telling him at the same time Who You Are and how you want to be treated that's the best part about the whole thing

[Anonymous]

Lol you weren't even in a relationship and you feel disrespected? Perhaps you shouldn't date If you feel like that. Prior to being his girlfriend you have zero hold on him and zero right to even feel like that let alone assert it over him.

If you're so insecure that you can't handle his activities prior to becoming his girlfriend, you simply should not be dating anyone.. Grow up..

[Jadenrae]

If you were dating and sleeping together and all that yeah that’s not cool even if you didn’t have that girlfriend label yet y’all clearly were together and that was disrespectful

[Justaguyagain]

You will definitely come across as jealous. He liked a picture before being your boyfriend and you are acting like he slapped some woman's ass in front of you

[Asker]

Reading is fundamental

[Justaguyagain]

Okay then, what did i missed?

[Nikki1989]

So a typical man then?