I'm 27 and still have never had a girlfriend. Should I accept my failure with the opposite sex and move to Tibet to become a Buddhist monk?

[Dudemcdudersen]

I want a girlfriend really bad, but I've just never had any luck with women. And I'm not sure why. I'm not a jerk, I have a sense of humor, and I'm not completely hideous looking. I know being shy doesn't help, but I still try. I'm at the point now where I'm kind of ready to give up on finding a woman, it's just very depressing knowing that I may never find anyone. I wanna be done thinking about it.

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Alrighty, I've decided. Tibet it is. Maybe I'll see you all on the next bardo

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I'm halfway kidding by the way

[Curmudgeon]

Incel Men: What to do about it:

1. Build up your economic value and maintain / improve your physical shape. Don't compete against others--that will just bring you down and make you miserable--just compete against *yourself*. I hope that makes sense.

Believe it or not, by the time you are 30, if you:
--are unmarried without kids,
--with a stable and reasonably well paying job,
--in reasonably decent physical shape,
--with no criminal record, and
--you own a home of your own, even a modest one,

You WILL be desirable, as the women start realizing their partying days are over and they need a real guy as spouse material.

2. Try an older "Cougar" divorcee, who wants to "get her groove back". She might just be the one to break you in. Your initial lack of game in such a situation will be non-threatening, and therefore downright appealing, to an older divorcee. And by interactions of this nature, you will get "game". No, the relationship probably will not last, but it will be mutually beneficial at first. And then, by the time you are the age of the Cougars yourself, you may even be trolling for younger babes! Or you may have already found someone and settled in.

3. Try putting out a personals ad online. You can meet people from the privacy of your home, then call them up, then meet. If it does not work out, no bad repercussions, unlike school or work. Avoid public situations where asking them out leads to humiliation and failure. Avoid noisy dance clubs where you can't actually talk to them. Like me, I am betting you cannot dance without looking foolish, and slam dancing in the mosh pits does not count (am I revealing my age here? So be it).

4. As above, Pour yourself into school / work. Make more money and/or build up skills to make more money. Or if you find an academic interest that excites you, go for it. This is always good.

5. Exercise. You are already doing this, but you say you have no results? Even if utterly non-sporting, it is good just to hike, bike, or lift weights. Don't compete against anyone--that will make you feel worse--just compete against yourself.

6. Look into antidepressant meds. They can really help in some cases.

7. Done enough of the above? Then develop an interest that takes you someplace you haven't been. Ever skied down a mountain? Scuba dived under the water? Took up motorcycle riding? Backpacked or camped out in pretty places? It doesn't have to be anything special or even costly, just anything to change things up.

[Anonymous]

Well your first problem is saying " girlfriend". I get it i've been there dude. But most women by definition are sluts. They develop feelings for the smoothest talking penis in the room. And sometimes it takes a couple hundred penises before she falls in love with one lol. In other words stop trying! Chat women up, buy them drinks, if you don't feel it going anywhere or if you see a better option drop her flat and go talk to that woman. Don't concern yourself with her feelings she's a woman. She'll get over it. After you've plowed a couple dozen women you should be better in touch with what you're looking for. Now you can start making forays into finding a girlfriend. Just don't set it as a goal. And remember woman are flakey. So never get too settled with one.
Good luck my man.

[Kru2020]

I blame dating apps and social media. I had a decent amount of good looking, goal oriented girlfriends 9-12 years ago when i was in high school and college and now it's sooo damn hard to even get the time of day. You're not an ugly dude but girls standards are beyond ridiculous now and they want everything even if they have nothing to offer themselves.

[NearlyNapping]

I doubt if you could give up even if you wanted to. But what you might be able to do is lower the priority. The value of your life should not revolve around whether you have a girlfriend or not. I know it's important, but it's not everything in life. Instead of going to an extreme like becoming a monk, maybe try something in between, where it's still something you would like, but you accept your life without it.

[Anonymous]

Stop fapping to porn, stop watching porn, focus on your purpose, self improve and forget about women. Just socialize, have fun with them without worrying about the outcome. When you do this, your chances of getting one will go up higher than ever.

[TwoToTooTutu2]

No that's beta speak. Let the simp in you move to Tibet, and then you can get a Girlfriend.

[slatyb]

No luck? What have you tried? How many women do you know well enough to get them by name?

[coolhotchacha]

Hahhahahaaa...
What u r saying...
Do marriage, u will enjoy a lot

[Anonymous]

Dont Tibetan monks crush plenty of pussy? Maybe a Christian monk.

[Anonymous]

Don't bother with internet opinions. I had first girlfriend at 19 but never saw her naked. First sex at 28! Imagine that. I got plenty of money and am able to fuck 3 times a day even at this age. Everybody is different.

[Konabeana]

Yes that’s a great plan

[Avicenna]

Relax. Meeting someone can be completely random.

[Anonymous]

the redpill community changed my perspective on this a lot

[Anonymous]

Yeah, pack your bags and leave. 🤣