Why are my ex’s friends asking me questions about my dating life?

[Anonymous]

Ex’s friend: (randomly) Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: *tries to dodge question and change topic*
Ex’s friend: *goes back to topic of my love life* So does that mean you have a girlfriend?
Me: Yes.
Ex’s friend: How long have you been together?
Me: We’ve been talking since October
Ex’s friend: *continues to ask a lot of questions about my girlfriend and tries to find her on IG to see what she looks like*

What the hell is the point? I never talk or ask about my ex around mutual friends and I don’t concern myself with who she’s seeing or having sexual with. I’ve blocked my ex on IG and her phone number and quite honestly, I’m tempted to do the same with her friends. Why are her friends concerned about my dating life?

Updates

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Backstory: My ex and I used to work together. We dated until I found out that she had a long-term boyfriend. I ended things with her and she decided to flaunt her long-term boyfriend in my face. I blocked her number and social media and stopped talking to her. My ex’s friend decided to confront me about why I’m not talking to her and how my ex is butt hurt that I’m not talking to her. My ex keep trying to get my attention at work despite me ignoring her.

[akihon]

There is a very easy way to stop this, it's being done to find out how you are.

It's very likely that she isn't happy as she is and thinks that if she were with you she'd be happier, sadly for you that means she will probably go back to cheating on her boyfriend or she will be with you for a while and then start cheating on you.

Now to deal with the friend then, you state the following

I don't care about her, I won't talk about those things with you because I know that you will go back and tell her, you are as bad as she is, knowing she was cheating on her boyfriend and then had the Gaul to claim that I was wrong. If you're going to carry on asking then you will need to stop talking to me altogether.

Let me make this clear to the two of you, under no circumstances would there ever be a chance on this earth where the two of us would get back together, I have zero respect for her and zero trust, she is a slut as far as I'm concerned nothi more than a walking fleshlight and not the kind of person I'd ever consider for a relationship. The only difference between her and a prostitute is that they have the decency to agree a payment.

Now you can go back and tell her that if you want but if you ever ask those questions again just know that you and will immediately stop talking.

[Drumlin2001]

Why would you get into a a conversation with ex's friend. Just tell them to mind there own business (i assume you're not friends with this person).
Seems your wants to have her cake and eat it. Just keep putting distance between you and move on with your life

[jess54]

they’re all acting as messengers for your ex. she’s asked them to ask you all this so she knows more about your personal relationship life etc etc. that’s toxic. she needs to move on and give you space, especially if you’re happy with your newer girl. there’s evidently still part of you she’s hung up about though

[DestinyElizabeth04]

Women do this all the time sadly. I am willing to bet she is asking you these questions so she can run back and feed your ex all the new info. My advice to you would be to block of all of her friends as well because it will continue until you put an end to it. Best of luck!

[Asker]

I guess I’m just wondering why my ex wants to know this information?

[DestinyElizabeth04]

Probably because you left her. When women get dumped, they instantly start thinking they were dumped because you found someone better. So she probably wants to know who your girlfriend is and what she looks like so that she can judge for herself whether you upgraded or downgraded. Just be careful. I know a lot of women who become extremely jealous and territorial over someone and deliberately cause problems. If she is that type of person and she does find out who your girlfriend is, she will probably message her and start shit. My boyfriends ex-boyfriend did this to me because she had a weird territorial obsession with him. He never even slept with her. But she was literally obsessed and she found my number, my facebook, and where I lived. She would send texts and facebook messages and even left my boyfriend a note in our mailbox trying to get us to split up. I was smart enough to do my research before jumping to conclusions but let me tell you what, if I had been naive or easily manipulated (which sadly a lot of people are) I would have instantly thought he was cheating on me and believed everything she said and she would have won. Hopefully this isn't the case with you but be on high alert just in case!

[DestinyElizabeth04]

Boyfriends ex-friend** whoops lol

[anniisa]

I would get so annoyed at something like this.

They obviously want to know what's going on so they can report back to your ex. I would suggest blocking her friends too and not acknowledging them again.

[Asker]

But why would my ex want to know this information?

[anniisa]

She might still have feelings or she's just being nosy. A lot of people just like to be nosy and gossip without any real reason.

[spartan55]

If you were a woman, and they were guys, I would say they were hitting on you for sure. However, since these are girls I would bet they are trying to get info and/or being nosey.
Why do you feel obligated to entertain those busybodies anyway? Tell them to mind someone else's business. If they won't give it up? Start giving smart ass, borderline hostile unrelated answers, followed by: why do you ask?

[SezzySwann]

Coz your ex is wanting to know what's going on in your dating life and coz she can't get access to that info herself she's gonna recruit some spies to go in undercover and dig up the dirt to report back to her

[Asker]

I guess I’m wondering why she wants to know so badly?

[SezzySwann]

Probably coz she's wanting to know if your life is better or worse without her in it or she's wanting to know if she's doing better than you or if you're missing her or some weird shit like that. I've had exes of my bestie contact me and try to befriend me to try and find out how she's been doing; had one of my brother's exes try getting to him through me too which was super weird... But yeah, some girls feel like they need that validation I guess but she honestly needs to just move the fuck on, which she will eventually. If any of her friends try asking you for info on your dating life again just tell them it's none of their business or ask them why they suddenly care so much and tell them to bugger off lol

[jalas4612]

she's a mole. No good. Females are notorious for girlpower black-ops and espionage. Very powerful social engineers, females are. Makes me wonder how they're not running out of room to hide all the bodies... take what you will from it. It's been a pleasure.

[Yugen]

Probably just a way to get around the blocks. Not sure but I feel girls feel more at ease with asking their friends to dig up dirt especially if they are attractive. Which helps the guys who don't just throw away their values when they see a set of tits because it seems to throw girls off when we see and call them out on their bs.

[crazy8000]

Ask them the same.
Or just say.
Are you interested in dating me since you ask if I have a girlfriend or are you that pathetic that you ask for "ex name" since you are her friend?

She will most likely get it what she is doing isn't okay.

Personal would I also ditch her because of that untrustworthy and dishonest behavior.
And her friend is most likely the same since majority of female's are as their female friends.

[Flyawaywithme]

They are reporting everything back to your ex who is probably jealous and wants to ruin your new relationship to so she can get back together with you

[ItsTheNephilim]

It's, in a way, your ex who's asking those questions. Her friends are nothing more than a way for her to peep into your life.

[Bananaman177]

Block them all, no good will come from this.

They're her friends that makes them your enemies. Stop humoring them.

[pleasestopthis]

It's very obvious they want to give that information to your ex. Just block them.

[Asker]

I guess I’m wondering why my ex would want this information?

[pleasestopthis]

I won't say she still loves you and wants you back. Sometimes exes are petty and want to know if the new person is better looking, cooler, or with a better resume. By the description it seems to be the latter. Pettiness and immaturity.

[Fjaymo]

Sounds like your ex is anxious to see if you're doing better than she is, I don't know tho, just my guess

[tokyod]

She just misses my 8.5

[captain_voidwalker]

Because they want to let your ex know if you are moving on still stuck on your ex. Women are highly narcissistic so any form of validation they can get no matter how much pain they cause

[OfDeath]

The reason is obvious isn't it? You shouldn't answer anything from a friend of your ex. You never know what they might try to do.

[intro729]

Don't tell them anything about dating, Tell them now you only do one night stand and if they ain't interested tell them to stop asking the same question

[OceanMelon]

They're getting information about your love life, so they can tell your ex.

[jayceerp]

Maybe they're checking if you've really moved on. Maybe not. Don't be bothered by it. You lose if you keep thinking about it

[continentalbreakfast]

Thats kinda just what people talk about.
Its normal conversation.
Its interesting sometines.

[Asker]

Yes, it’s normal... if you’re actually friends and if it is relevant to the conversation.

[Asker]

In this case, she is not my friend and it had nothing to do with he conversation.

[continentalbreakfast]

You said ex friend. She knows you.

[Asker]

I said ex’s friend as in my ex girlfriend’s friend. We are not friends.

[continentalbreakfast]

If you think its so crazy and suspicious why are you even asking. Stay far away from it

[spartan55]

@continentalbreakfast
Normal? What people talk about?
Sure if you are a woman aged 18-30. This is NOT what dudes talk about.

[continentalbreakfast]

Girls don't care about what guys talk about though so thats what you will get in conversation.

[spartan55]

Likewise is true. But guys can include anyone in their conversations. Are you saying girls are incapable of doing that. So girls don't care about what guys talk about, what makes you think guys give a shit about what girls are talking about? Of course that doesn't matter.

[continentalbreakfast]

Lol aggressive, calm it down.

[MackToday]

I would just not hang around these weirdos.

[edgar_lovecraft]

Because they're nosey

[Benjr134]

I simply would say “Does that really matter?”