Which gender tends to overthink about being cheated on, women/girls or guys/men?

[Anonymous]

As a guy, I can't speak on behalf of all males out there but I fear being cheated by women and girls. Women and girls get approached and courted way more, women and girls are viewed as the more "innocent" and beautiful species created by God. Nowadays it seems like women are after status, wealth and "security", but that does not buy happiness. In this social media age it just seems like grabbing attention, going on to the next guy and the next guy. I'm honestly very shocked that 20 years ago, hands down, men and guys were viewed as "players" and "cheaters". Fast forward 20 years later and women are in that convo as well.

The reason why I say this is because I know tons of girls who are divorced, who chase careers but are essentially miserable. What needs to change for both genders to be appreciative and respectful to the opposite gender? Let me note that it's perfectly okay to divorce or break up with someone if the person is mentally or physically abusive or you have grown apart spiritually or mentally (ie: life goals). But if one person truly cares about you and the opposite person just goes out and cheats then I can't respect that person.

[Summeroflove]

Unfortunately the thing is for men it many times is impulse and opportunity STILL WRONG! Women can also be impulsive and men can have aforethought as well.

Many times when women cheat they have planned it out who they are going to sleep with and how they are going to cover their tracks. A woman may slowly sort of offer hints and subtle innuendos to sort of subliminally plant the idea into a man’s head she’s wanting to bed. But many are going to be careful of being too overt in case it doesn’t work out.

Most women have a plan and being cheated on typically cuts deeper because it’s let’s say the quality verses quantity of affairs. It still cuts deeply if someone cheated just because they could but it adds a level of pain if someone’s planned it out and is having a emotional affair in addition to a sexual one.

I think girls maybe project themselves however on men. At times they may be correct and someone is allowed to feel hurt when being betrayed. But maybe they look deeper then it really is. Maybe he cheated because the opportunity presented itself. Men may downplay cheating or they make take it very persoanlly. When in reality a cheater will cheat no matter what.

Narcissists male or female will never take accountability. Whatever reason they cheated or if they make excuses as well as make it your fault for what they have done. Just know it wouldn’t matter theh would have cheated anyways

[Anonymous]

It comes down to individuals, probably because of bad experiences, and not a boy / girl split.

[Asker]

I understand that but I have personally listened to feminists argue, "worry about your careers first and foremost, don't have kids, you don't need men". When it comes to marriage and kids, sure, everyone has the right to choose what they want. But many people out there are influenced by movements and what the media portrays and cannot think for themselves.

[Asker]

I think by having that mentality, girls will jump from one guy to the next.

[Avicenna]

definitely girls