Am I jealous of my girlfriends cat?

I have been dating a girl for about three months now. She has a cat that has been her pet for nearly 12 years. She told he up front that he was very special to her, but I don't think I realized how special.

I understand he's been a priority and the only constant in her life for 12 years. But I feel like I'm a third wheel when it comes to the cat. The other night she nudged me off of her so the cat could sleep on her. The cat sleeping with her happens a lot and is my biggest irritation. She won't cuddle with me if the cat is on the bed, which he usually is. He cries all night until she let's him up. It feels rejecting to have to roll over so the cat can feel comfortable in the bed with her.

This happens on the couch, relaxing after work. She makes accommodations for the cat, but I am on my own side. We visited her parents this weekend and I ended up in a spare bed so there would be room in hers for the cat. It has me furious that I got shuffled into a different bed for the sake of a cat.

I'm not sure how to talk to her about how I feel. She got offended the last time I tried to bring it up. Does anyone haveany suggestions?
Am I jealous of my girlfriends cat?
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