Has technology made it harder or easier for you to find love? And why?

[Uptowngirl88]

Harder

Easier

I see no difference in my love life either way

[Cynicaldreamer]

Worse, so much worse!
Now some of us get to be rejected in person AND online!

Yes, online dating offers perks, particularly for those of us that cannot find anyone where we live. But over the years the internet and dating apps take away peoples accountability and common decency towards others.

For example:
-If they don't like you or how you look? You get ghosted or ignored.
-Catfishes! Tons of posers, fakes, and bots trying to manipulate others from behind a fake image.
-Get bored of talking to someone? They disappear and talk to someone else without letting the other person know, leaving you wondering what happened
-Are they really single and looking? Or do they have some hidden life they're not telling you about?

Just to name a few issues. And don't get me started on the hookup culture: why is it hard to find a real relationship nowadays? Not just someone trying to get in your pants, yet they barely know your full name.

Or how even though looks supposedly don't matter as much as personality and intelligence, it's still difficult for someone that's not deemed attractive enough to get a date because people tend to focus on what- images posed online, not the person behind the screen.

Sorry I went on a little tangent there, but as someone that used to primarily rely on online to even get guys to talk to me, I can honestly say dating has gone from bad to worse. Technology is just enabling poor manners and disrespect.

[AndrewMG]

@Cynicaldreamer Oh you pretty much wrote the answer I'm too inarticulate to write lol. I'm more self deprecating than Cynical though, so my answer would of had an additional element of self criticism lol, I'm very much a fan of organic relationships as opposed to social media forced relationships... but on the otherhand I'm 2 months away from attending a new nephews Christening, a result of a relationship my brother and his future wife developed online. So I'm completely confused lol

[Cynicaldreamer]

@AndrewMG LOL! You know what's bad? I could have said SO much more, but due to character limit, I had to paraphrase most of my thoughts.
Don't get me wrong, technology and dating does have some perks, and I'm not completely against it. But the negatives just make me cringe to the point I really don't feel like dealing with it anymore! And since I've been on here and reading some of the horror stories from dating apps: from men and women? I'm really not in a rush to use them again!

[BlueScorpio]

Harder, cause people don't take it seriously. People mostly use it for validation and hookups. It's like texting now a days, most people prefer to text than call cause it's an easier way to walk out of conversation so they just use the "o didn't see your text, i was busy". line. Which is true, that does happen but we also know people use that to stop talking.

[Dongtai]

Probably harder “if you rely on it”. I believe technology has made it easier for society to be less genuine and more fake towards others. It’s also easier for us to idealized eachother instead of seeing one another for who we really are.

I connected with a friend of friends I had met last July via Facebook. We messaged eachother for a couple of weeks before meeting. The version of her that I formed in my mind was better than who she actually was. It was to the point where I felt bad because of how wrong I was about her.

Another example I have of this is my work environment. A lot of coworkers have this habit of talking shit about eachother and then treat eachother like best friends when together. If people act like that with just coworkers I can’t imagine them treating people closer to them much differently including dates.

I’m not sure if it’s always been this way but it’s what I noticed over the Past couple of years I’ve noticed how fake people can be towards eachother in general and how easy it is to misjudge someone you met online.

I think technology has helped us become less genuine as human beings

[Hermes-Paris]

Mostly harder. With so many options out there and people who are really not interested in meeting someone for anything more than a doink it makes finding a mate quite difficult. But technology has advantages in that it is easier to filter through people you have nothing in common with. Back in the pre-app days women were a bit more trusting and it seemed easier to find someone. Today it's all about how many people you can doink before you kick the bucket. So why would a woman be trusting when 50 guys a day want to send them D pics. But there are some better sites that filter out these people. They cost more but are worth the few dollars a month. Personally they did not work for me because it seemed it was more about finding someone with a loaded investment portfolio rather than finding someone cool and fun.

[OlderAndWiser]

For me, internet sites make it easier to find potential dates. But I don't really on texting or emails and I can easily call a woman and have a phone conversation for an hour. So I have developed confidence.

Many younger people over-rely on digital communications and have lost some interpersonal skills compared to preceding generations. They have become slaves to technology and it had made their lives more difficult.

[ButtaGrey]

Actually harder to find love. Hardly anyone takes the time required to get to know a person these days. Phone numbers are exchanged faster than underwear are changed. They’re asking for photos before they know your sign or birthday. Impatient and rude tones because they feel they can find another with the touch of a screen or press of a button.

Few take the time to express to one another by writing letters or mailing cards, they rather email and text. Which speaks volumes to what they think your worth is.
Instant, friends, instant nudes, instant sex... Instant baby daddies and on to
the next.

[SjE78]

in some ways easier, in other ways it has made it more difficult, but the difficulty is down to the introduction of scammers and catfishes whereby a lot of people drawn in begin to lose trust on more and more people because of those catfishes and scammers and their actions to mislead to get what THEY want not what they claim is a mutual goal to find someone who wants to settle down etc

[Snakeyes7]

I feel like the movements that rose because of the massive amount of communication we have today is scaring people into not getting into relationships. People all over the internet are saying that one gender is violent and the other is manipulative or always want sex blah blah blah.

[MrTuxedo]

Made no difference to me personally, I never use internet to find myself a date. The only difference that I can see is that most girls and guys now expect to find their dates online, so they barely even try to do so in real life.

[MCheetah]

Hypergamy: Most women only go for one type of guy (the "Chad"). Most men are open to a variety of different types of women. Online dating and apps have been a Godsend for the 9/10 and 10/10 looking men, but have f*cked over everyone else...

[beetie]

Probably harder, if arranged was still a thing its be much easier 😆

[StephenCF]

Easier because I found my soulmate only through technology 🤳🏻👫❤️

[celin98]

@StephenCF my soulmate, my love❤❤❤👫🏻my everything

[Prof_Don]

Easier overall.

But harder in person, because social skills have greatly diminished.

[venomhbk1313]

I'm sure it's made it harder to find the one because a lot of sites have fake profiles and that makes it harder to trust

[jessy00]

both.. Thanks to technology, we can encounter a lot of scams and real love

[LivingOnTop]

Easier to hookup, yes. Easier to find love?, questionable.

[Anonymous]

one thing that hasn't changed and i doubt it will, is guys, men, still being expected to contact or reach out to a girl first on online dating/social media sites.

[OpenNudist]

I personally think that it has made things easier mainly because of instant communication

[Turboperformance34]

Harder because we can’t find true love

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I'm with or without tech bad with girls

[Fuentes]

I dont. use it to date