Yes it's fair. Be ause it will mess it up and the God forbid you already self sabotage it will lead to a self fulfilling prophesy. A person's looks, especially in that contest is no logical reasons to be dating or get into a relationship with a person. You want to befriend a person first, and then see if you're compatible. But don't rush into anything. Because some people they just want to date for the sake of dating.
If he's very good looking and he's into you, then it would be self-sabotaging to turn that down. But people usually choose like-people, so if someone's interested, just go for it. You only live once. People choose people for more than just their external package. There's a lot more to it.
You are making a serious error in assuming that overweight=unattractive. In fact, many guys prefer overweight girls to start with, so you should have no issues finding a nice looking guy.
Um...
... I guess I'm confused. How would you be turning him down at all, in the first place.
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I wouldn’t say I’m ugly but when a guy way more attractive than me hits on me I don’t consider him without mounting evidence he genuinely likes me - it’s okay to be cautious but know not all guys care about looks
There is a reason he picked you. If you fall in love with a guy you find attractive, don`t let insecurity ruin it for you! Chances are you are a lot more beautiful than you think. <3
I used to think this way of myself. Like I’m not worthy. But you know what, whatever comes my way: I should live to the fullest and be happy. That if a good looking guy wants to be in a relationship with me, woohoo I snagged one 🤩😍🥰. Now, I get give birth to beautiful babies 😋.
I wouldn’t care much about other girls wanting him or not. Cauz I being an average looks girl I think he must have seen sthng in me whcih makes him want to have me. Nd ya i would feel insecure sometimes therefore I wouldn’t really consider him as my boyfriend boyfriend !! Would care less about it so dat I don’t get hurt.
As a woman you need to understand YOU R THE PRIZE and you really need to step
Into that because you shouldn’t have to walk around feeling like you’re not good enough to be seen because of your weight. He likes you as he should because you’re more than likely beautiful don’t question that you are and there’s not right or wrong way to be beautiful and there’s not right or wrong way to choose a partner :).
I think something wrong with your self esteem. Just like mines. Just because you don't see yourself attractive doesn't mean others don't. Weight can be changed and so can face with some good blush. But your heart and soul is what stay no matter the time or age or problem. Just be happy and proud of yourself.
No it's not he picked you, wants to date you like he finds you attractive and you have chance at a relationship so why ruin it due to insecurity when you find him attractive too
Its fair. I sometimes feel the same like “let me turn you down until i improve myself.” But at the same time, if he shows interest while we’re “not skinny” then that means he's likely to show even more interest when we’re skinny. So i say date him and enjoy it while it lasts
It’s fair, because you have the right to turn down anyone for pretty much whatever reason. You’re not obligated to date anyone. But it does show that you have low self esteem.
knowing your value is one thing but turning down someone just cause you think they’re too good for you is just stupid and self sabotaging.
If you like him you should just date him; he obviously wants you.
I understand how you are feeling.
Why would you? You sound lucky
It happens.
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