Boyfriend broke up with me, I'm 3 months pregnant for his child, he's been nasty and mean to me, he told me he reinstalled tinder?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone, ill get into it. I was with my boyfriend for 2 years, I'm now 3 months pregnant, he wasn't happy from the beginning and kept asking me to get an abortion. I said no, so after a while he said he accepted it and will get on with it. But he wasn't happy, We start fighting a lot, and he became very mean towards me, saying things and making smart comments. He stopped coming out to see me etc. we were still talking over the phone and he start saying I wasn't aloud pick my child's name, I had to give the baby his last name, m it was almost like control. Off course we argued about all that, so last week he ended the relationship, by a text message. He text awful nasty messages to me, saying I ruined his life, told me to f*ck off, and told me best of luck. q and he blocked me on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram. I am so hurt by all this. He is free to leave me, but I just never thought he would hurt me so much. I haven't stopped crying all day. His last message last night he told me he reinstalled tinder, and he's done here. What should I do now? Thanks everyone x

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Thank you to everyone who replied to me. I really appreciate it. Yous are all so right. I just can't help but feel sad and hurt. But I know we are better off without him. I grew up in a toxic fighting home, I don't want that for my baby.
Should I just stay quite? He does have me blocked so I can't get in touch even if I wanted too.
Thanks again ❣

[TruthBringer]

So much narrow mindedness in the comment section. Unbelievable.

I understand both sides actually. Let me guess, he started acting this way AFTER you refused to abort. What did you expect? You're forcing him into parenthood, while he clearly doesn't want to become a father now. He is forced to pay for a kid while he doesn't feel he is ready for it. No wonder why my parents are so scared of me being sexually active and having girlfriends. Because they are scared that I'd end up in a situation like your boyfriend.

This explains why he is mean to you. The way he is being nasty isn't the most strategic thing on his end, and yes it is toxic, it still is UNDERSTANDABLE. This is his way of venting the frustration you are forcing him into. Also, you're thinking only about yourself here. Now your child is forced to be raised in a single parent household (a broken family unit according to psychology). If this man is so toxic, why the F would you still want to have his children? SMDH. I feel bad for your child. It's going to be forced to grow up not knowing the love of a father. I would think VERY carefully about this and perhaps speak to a professional if it's smart to have this child in the current environment. Psychology has proven multiple times that it's crucial for a child to have guidance of both parents. Not just mommy who can "take both roles".

As cruel and emotionally damaging abortions can be, I believe it is wise for you to abort and have a child with a man of higher quality and who is willing to become a daddy. This is not only to your own benefit on the long term (your happiness and chances of in dating since dating single mothers is frowned upon), but also for your children. You are setting yourself AND your child up for a road of pain. Act wisely. Good luck.

[jasco]

damn thats tough that dudes a whole bitch right there but i am sorry that you are gonna be alone during all of that cause i can tell you having the father of your child right next to you during birth, from my eyes seems to be the most greatest feeling in the world so honestly either you find a new boyfriend or u simply raise the kid by yourself

[jasco]

Just move on fam find someone better and be happy

[Asker]

I'll definitely move on from him, try and forget him and be happy. Thank you x

[jasco]

np be safe

[btbc92]

This is the number one reason why premarital sex is a sin. He never loved you, all he cared about is what he can get out of you. It's almost as if he was never taught sexual education. You choose to have sex with a person, you risk getting a person pregnant. It doesn't matter if you're on the pill, it doesn't matter if you use a condom. The risk of getting pregnant is still high irregardless. He just hates the fact that he has you responsible for the choices that he made. You don't deserve to be hurt, and you don't need to be getting an abortion because he don't want to be responsible. That's not a man. That's a coward. And spineless guys like that, shouldn't even be involved. I have more respect for you than I do for him.

[lanadelrey25]

He's a nobody, a loser. He won't amount to anything in life and you can do so much better.

[iambae]

My heart goes out to you. Has anyone spoken with him about it I. e. your father, brother or uncle? Did you talk to your pastor or relationship counselor? What made him all of a sudden do this? I ask because people rarely change overnight.

[TahjMcVay]

Pray about it and focus on taking care of the blessings on its way. Not taking sides but I would give time to cool off. Give him a break don’t call text nothing guarantee he end up reaching out to you. Missing You and then you will the leverage to lay down a few rules. Ijs it was done to me and I been with this woman for 7 years now

[StarryNightx]

You are much better off without him, and so is your child.

[roody]

Your child doesn't need his toxic energy in it's life... you're better off without him.

[KingJared24]

He got you pregnant and he wants you to have an abortion? Just move on... you and your baby doesn’t need that

[GreenGold1992]

wow, the guy sounds like an awful piece of shit, you're better off without him.

[Ivanhunter]

Raise the child on your own. He made his choice